FabSwingers.com forum: Unwanted messages!

By *inky-Minx OP Woman
over a year ago

Grantham

Perhaps I'm not feeling the love tonight, I mean it's not like me to rant but....

Commenting on a thread is a comment. It is NOT an open invitation to start bugging us with messages we do not want

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

So true! Well said

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By *inky-Minx OP Woman
over a year ago

Grantham

Thank you

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I someone send a message from thread if it a comment on something I said. Maybe I should stop

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By *inky-Minx OP Woman
over a year ago

Grantham

And then they think you've got something to chat about.

I did complain to one tonight and he got angry and blocked me.

Gotta like them at all

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By *laymates7Woman
over a year ago

Isle of Wight

"Perhaps I'm not feeling the love tonight, I mean it's not like me to rant but....

Commenting on a thread is a comment. It is NOT an open invitation to start bugging us with messages we do not want

the dreaded full spread of yellow awaits after making a comment .

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By *inky-Minx OP Woman
over a year ago

Grantham

"I someone send a message from thread if it a comment on something I said. Maybe I should stop

I prefer the person to comment on the thread. Unless they are the perfect man and match my profile 100% and it's how we got to notice each other.

It may just be me of course

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By *inky-Minx OP Woman
over a year ago

Grantham

"Perhaps I'm not feeling the love tonight, I mean it's not like me to rant but....

Commenting on a thread is a comment. It is NOT an open invitation to start bugging us with messages we do not want

the dreaded full spread of yellow awaits after making a comment ."

It's not just me then

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Perhaps I'm not feeling the love tonight, I mean it's not like me to rant but....

Commenting on a thread is a comment. It is NOT an open invitation to start bugging us with messages we do not want

It's becoming more and more common, with lame segues to try and wangle a meet

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By *ady LickWoman
over a year ago

Northampton Somewhere

"I someone send a message from thread if it a comment on something I said. Maybe I should stop

I prefer the person to comment on the thread. Unless they are the perfect man and match my profile 100% and it's how we got to notice each other.

It may just be me of course

No it's not you, I prefer that to. If someone messages me because of a thread I'll still look at his profile, see he's miles away, roll my eyes, send a short reply or delete and then just delete!!!

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By *inky-Minx OP Woman
over a year ago

Grantham

The introduction threads can be the worst

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By *hubaysiWoman
over a year ago

Leeds

"The introduction threads can be the worst

The introduction or as I call them the 'me me me attention seeking' threads really are the worst.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I don't mind that so much....

but when We've looked at someone's profile and they see we've looked...

.... there's a reason we didn't wink or message you... so why message us?

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By *inky-Minx OP Woman
over a year ago

Grantham

"I don't mind that so much....

but when We've looked at someone's profile and they see we've looked...

.... there's a reason we didn't wink or message you... so why message us?"

Yes that would bug me too

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By *hubaysiWoman
over a year ago

Leeds

"I don't mind that so much....

but when We've looked at someone's profile and they see we've looked...

.... there's a reason we didn't wink or message you... so why message us?"

They take it as you're interested - now that's confusing and how the male brain works

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I don't mind that so much....

but when We've looked at someone's profile and they see we've looked...

.... there's a reason we didn't wink or message you... so why message us?"

See i always take that as not interested, unless someone looks on a regular basis. Recently I've had someone send a friend request and still not reply to message lol

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By *inky-Minx OP Woman
over a year ago

Grantham

"I don't mind that so much....

but when We've looked at someone's profile and they see we've looked...

.... there's a reason we didn't wink or message you... so why message us?

See i always take that as not interested, unless someone looks on a regular basis. Recently I've had someone send a friend request and still not reply to message lol"

That'll be a man looking to see if he can see your willy

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By *uxom redCouple
over a year ago

Shrewsbury

I often send a pm if it's something I don't want others to view on a thread.

Sorry if that offends

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I don't mind that so much....

but when We've looked at someone's profile and they see we've looked...

.... there's a reason we didn't wink or message you... so why message us?

See i always take that as not interested, unless someone looks on a regular basis. Recently I've had someone send a friend request and still not reply to message lol

That'll be a man looking to see if he can see your willy

Could be right, it was a couple with an apparently straight male though. Slightly confusing!

Also sorry for accidently doing the annoying thing you created this thread for lol

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By *itvclaireTV/TS
over a year ago

Birmingham

"Perhaps I'm not feeling the love tonight, I mean it's not like me to rant but....

Commenting on a thread is a comment. It is NOT an open invitation to start bugging us with messages we do not want

Can't say I've ever had that happen, but I've had loads because I've looked at a profile. Should activate stealth mode really.

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By *hunderstruckMan
over a year ago

Northampton

I've had messages after posting a comment and had no problems with it

Just people trying they're luck

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By *hoenixAdAstraWoman
over a year ago

Hiding in the shadows

Apart from 'game' threads, I've only ever contacted someone directly after a post, and that was another female.

I just wanted to tell her I thought her post was brilliant & she'd handled a situation perfectly.

But I've been on the receiving end of far too many unwelcome messages. That bore no relation to the thread I'd posted in

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By *crumdiddlyumptiousMan
over a year ago

I don't send messages that often but 90% of the messages I send are relating to something they have said in threads or status related

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

This really gets on my nerves. If I comment on a hairy man thread saying nice thread I suddenly get loads of messages with pics! Did i ask for them no!

It shouldn't be allowed unless they have asked for it

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Simple solution

Posting on threads will bring additional attention, goes with the territory, if you don't want single guys messaging you about threads, simply block single guys from messaging you, why complain when a solution is available? X

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By *hunderstruckMan
over a year ago

Northampton

"Simple solution

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By *ucyfur77Woman
over a year ago

Pleasuretown

"Simple solution

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Perhaps I'm not feeling the love tonight, I mean it's not like me to rant but....

Commenting on a thread is a comment. It is NOT an open invitation to start bugging us with messages we do not want

the dreaded full spread of yellow awaits after making a comment .

It's not just me then

Definitely not just you. I wish they would just reply in the thread. It seems to be getting more prolific lately too

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By *HaRiFMan
over a year ago

Beyond the shadows.

"Perhaps I'm not feeling the love tonight, I mean it's not like me to rant but....

Commenting on a thread is a comment. It is NOT an open invitation to start bugging us with messages we do not want

I do this sometimes but only because I don't want to hog the thread or send it in a related but slightly different direction.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

It happens to us men too. I get a few messages from forum users, obviously on account of me being a thoroughly nice guy

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I do it occasionally if I,m banned from the forum and its an advice seeking thread XXX

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I hear your OP, and have just messaged you.

To be honest, the majority of my unsolicited messages from women come from forum posts, the forum seems to be a way ladies decide that they like the humour of s guy and would like to know more. I'm sure the sheer volume of messages based on your forum posts is greater as a lady, but surely there could be some gold amongst them?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I've had messages after posting a comment and had no problems with it

Just people trying they're luck

It's hardly the end of the world. If people don't want mail just use mail filters.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I someone send a message from thread if it a comment on something I said. Maybe I should stop

I prefer the person to comment on the thread. Unless they are the perfect man and match my profile 100% and it's how we got to notice each other.

It may just be me of course

No it's not you, I prefer that to. If someone messages me because of a thread I'll still look at his profile, see he's miles away, roll my eyes, send a short reply or delete and then just delete!!!"

I've had nothing but friendly messages as a result of posts I've made. Even if they're miles away, I appreciate the positivity

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"This really gets on my nerves. If I comment on a hairy man thread saying nice thread I suddenly get loads of messages with pics! Did i ask for them no!

It shouldn't be allowed unless they have asked for it "

What shouldn't be allowed? People mailing? Block them all. It's simple.

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By *sGivesWoodWoman
over a year ago

ST. AUSTELL, CORNWALL

"Apart from 'game' threads, I've only ever contacted someone directly after a post, and that was another female.

I just wanted to tell her I thought her post was brilliant & she'd handled a situation perfectly.

But I've been on the receiving end of far too many unwelcome messages. That bore no relation to the thread I'd posted in"
it does seem to be getting worse, I've had to post a message on a thread asking not to be PM'd and please post on thread

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over a year ago

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