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Politely saying no to a second fumble

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

Never easy

Met couples before and it's just not ... well you know

Played and it's been not great

Often just let it drift ... and they disappear

We have culled before and had no issue

Had two or 3 ask why and I ( male ) will politely but honestly say we wish them well in future but not for us

If I message now I just block afterwards

Feels harsh but draws a line

We have had messages and said after social or play not again but it's never bothered us

People do take it way to seriously..

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By *aughtySxTV/TS
over a year ago

Wigan Bolton North West

I think it would be rude to ignore someone asking for a second meet without an explanation

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

Never said we did

Often they never ask .. so it's fine

Others if they ask I say why ...

Not arrogant at all but if it ain't gonna happen ...

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

we would do the same it wouldn't be nice to string people along and leave them hanging.

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By *ieman300Man
over a year ago

Best Greggs in Cheshire East


"I think it would be rude to ignore someone asking for a second meet without an explanation "

What if the explanation was they were crap?

Minefield.

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By *loswingersCouple
over a year ago

Gloucester

We simply say that the excitement and buzz is rarely achieved in the same way with second meets . Our preference is to meet people just the once .

This always works and no one is left feeling awkward .

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By *onnie And Clyde9070Couple
over a year ago

Leeds

We would never feel obligated to meet someone again just because We'd had a previous meet with them. By the same token the other party shouldn't assume it's a sure thing that we'll meet them again.

Personal choice regarding who you meet and how many times should always be respected by all parties. Presumptuousnes should never come into it.

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By *orum TrollWoman
over a year ago

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"I think it would be rude to ignore someone asking for a second meet without an explanation

What if the explanation was they were crap?

Minefield."

exactly.

i don't think you need to explain why, saying no is enough and is polite coz you let them know where they stand.

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"We would never feel obligated to meet someone again just because We'd had a previous meet with them. By the same token the other party shouldn't assume it's a sure thing that we'll meet them again.

Personal choice regarding who you meet and how many times should always be respected by all parties. Presumptuousnes should never come into it."

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"We simply say that the excitement and buzz is rarely achieved in the same way with second meets . Our preference is to meet people just the once .

This always works and no one is left feeling awkward ."

I see this as a case of hitchcock's bomb. If you met for a social you could meet for another more naughty social or some soft play. If you met for some soft play you can meet up for different types of soft play or a full swap. If you meet for a full swap it's kind of the end of the road... the bomb has gone off and all the erotic tension is gone. The only way to pursue it further is to meet separately or maybe be even naughtier and cheat. I'm not advocating that... merely explaining that beyond the crescendo to a full swap there's little crescendo left unless you want to start really going against the rules... and this, I suspect, is why swingers do this

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"We simply say that the excitement and buzz is rarely achieved in the same way with second meets . Our preference is to meet people just the once .

This always works and no one is left feeling awkward .

I see this as a case of hitchcock's bomb. If you met for a social you could meet for another more naughty social or some soft play. If you met for some soft play you can meet up for different types of soft play or a full swap. If you meet for a full swap it's kind of the end of the road... the bomb has gone off and all the erotic tension is gone. The only way to pursue it further is to meet separately or maybe be even naughtier and cheat. I'm not advocating that... merely explaining that beyond the crescendo to a full swap there's little crescendo left unless you want to start really going against the rules... and this, I suspect, is why swingers do this "

This is why our ideal meet would involve about 10 socials, 3 soft plays, a full swap, and then maybe 1 or 2 separate plays, a few more socials, and then friendship for a period until some kind of erotic scenario developed again

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By *imetoexplore69Couple
over a year ago

Aberdeen


"We simply say that the excitement and buzz is rarely achieved in the same way with second meets . Our preference is to meet people just the once .

This always works and no one is left feeling awkward ."
haha yea that's actually the best way to go about it.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"We simply say that the excitement and buzz is rarely achieved in the same way with second meets . Our preference is to meet people just the once .

This always works and no one is left feeling awkward ."

I'm nicking that, thanks!

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By *loswingersCouple
over a year ago

Gloucester


"We simply say that the excitement and buzz is rarely achieved in the same way with second meets . Our preference is to meet people just the once .

This always works and no one is left feeling awkward .

I see this as a case of hitchcock's bomb. If you met for a social you could meet for another more naughty social or some soft play. If you met for some soft play you can meet up for different types of soft play or a full swap. If you meet for a full swap it's kind of the end of the road... the bomb has gone off and all the erotic tension is gone. The only way to pursue it further is to meet separately or maybe be even naughtier and cheat. I'm not advocating that... merely explaining that beyond the crescendo to a full swap there's little crescendo left unless you want to start really going against the rules... and this, I suspect, is why swingers do this

This is why our ideal meet would involve about 10 socials, 3 soft plays, a full swap, and then maybe 1 or 2 separate plays, a few more socials, and then friendship for a period until some kind of erotic scenario developed again "

By which time we will have met and had the erotic and sexually charged meet with 16 more new people

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