FabSwingers.com forum: Swinging make or break

By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

What are people's thoughts on the idea that as a rule of thumb, swinging will make a strong marriage or relationship stronger and will likely break a weak relationship...

By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I would support that statement if by strong marriage you imply implicit trust, loyalty and integrity, and by weak, you mean the lack of the fore mentioned. I speak from my own experience, as my marriage was lacking everything in the above department as my (ex) husband went into it with an agenda, I wasn't privy to and whilst I went into swinging with the view of making us stronger, bringing us closer, he went into it with a view that it's an open playing field for him to whore around. So...... needless to say, he had to go.... I've met M here, neither of us was looking for love, but the moment we met, the chemistry was mind blowing, even before it got physical. Now, our relationship (almost 3 years now) has all the above qualities, I'd consider as strong in a relationship (yes, I am thankful for him every day!!), and I would trust him implicitly and I know that it would make us even stronger, if we played solo as it would allow us to embrace our relationship as trustworthy lovers.....

That is my view only, others may see this differently....

By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Have to agree with the poster above. I trust Hinge implicitly, as does she with me, and every time we have fun whether it be with a couple or single male, it brings us even closer. If that trust wasn't there it would be a recipe for disaster

By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"What are people's thoughts on the idea that as a rule of thumb, swinging will make a strong marriage or relationship stronger and will likely break a weak relationship... "

I don't think it's swinging that breaks a weak relationship. It's the selfishness that comes when someone who doesn't really love their partner gets let into the candy store of swinging and wanders off into it without any regard for their partner's feelings... that's what breaks weak relationships.

Couples who genuinely love each other don't go down that self centred road. If one of them wants to take a break they usually both take a break. If one of them doesn't want to play then usually neither of them play.

So imo... it's not swinging... it's how you swing

By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

We were close to splitting up due to mr looking elsewhere so a friend suggested trying swinging, they said what have you got to lose so mrs suggested it to mr. The friend took us to chams since that night we haven't looked back and our relationship and marriage is as strong as it used to be before mr was looking for other women.