FabSwingers.com forum: Do winks work

By *estpussylickerenfield OP Man
over a year ago

enfield

I sent out loads but no luck lol

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By *illy_the_tvTV/TS
over a year ago

hoorn, Netherlands

"I sent out loads but no luck lol"

They do for some and not for others, personally If someone winks at me and I wink back then that's an invitation for them to message me if they like

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

no they do not work

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I send some out occationaly and when there's a Wink post in the form for fun but from what I gather some do respond but I think most don't other looking at them, I might be wrong though?

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By *he Secret Tea PartyCouple
over a year ago

London

In general, men send them and like them. Women get them and don't like them

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By *hat The CuckCouple
over a year ago

South London

"I sent out loads but no luck lol"

For us it doesn't as messages keeps us pretty busy so very rarely go through winks as there's hundreds of them every week.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

They don't work for me because I never look at them

The only time I know when someone's looked at my profile is when I check out there profile and it says on there profile that they winked at me 4 months ago

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Send messages instead. If you like the look of someone, tell them.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Didn't work for us tonight. Winked a hot guy, he winked back but then nothing more.

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By *orkie321bWoman
over a year ago

Nottingham

I rarely look at winks. If someone wants to get my attention they need to send me a message.

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By *eerobCouple
over a year ago

solihull

Works for us, usually our first contact.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

We often wink. We always check our winks. If we send a wink and get one back we will follow it up with a message. Simples x

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By *amdenfunMan
over a year ago

London

"Didn't work for us tonight. Winked a hot guy, he winked back but then nothing more."

Why didn't you email when he winked back? I think that's how it's supposed to work. Anyway, it's still tonight. No rush. He may also have other things on.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I occasionally send a wink, I do occasionally look at who's winked at me..

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By *entleman55Man
over a year ago

S’th West Mc/r

I think winks are great !!

Work well for me xx

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By *alandNitaCouple
over a year ago

Scunthorpe

If someone winks at us, we will look at them... If they're of interest then we will respond.

So from our point of view, yes winks can work. BUT! A message is always better and WE will always respond to a message.

Cal

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Never worked on me, so don't imagine they would work for me.

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By *opsy RogersWoman
over a year ago

London

"They don't work for me because I never look at them

The only time I know when someone's looked at my profile is when I check out there profile and it says on there profile that they winked at me 4 months ago"

Yep, me too.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Didn't work for us tonight. Winked a hot guy, he winked back but then nothing more.

Why didn't you email when he winked back? I think that's how it's supposed to work. Anyway, it's still tonight. No rush. He may also have other things on. "

Well, we messaged him first after we spotted him browsing our profile and also winked. He read and deleted it, but then winked back. So perhaps the idea behind winking is confusing for some.

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By *unforus1965Couple
over a year ago

MIDLANDS

"I sent out loads but no luck lol"

Personally we don't like winks.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

It's confusing. If I'm winked at, then What? Wink back then nothing? Message ? Just send a message.

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By *udistcpl1Couple
over a year ago

Wirral

We don't like them because they seem pointless and lazy. They are in a similar category to messages that say 'Hi how are you?'

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

They have different meanings. We receive them but never get a message to explain why it was sent.

Crystal ball job.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

All the winks I receive I just wink back if I'm interested, down to them if they would like to follow up with a message.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

They're not lazy. Its the online way of letting people know that you're checking them out.

In the real world if a subtle check-out is reciprocated, or met with a smile, then you would go over and talk. Or in our Fab case, message.

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By *udistcpl1Couple
over a year ago

Wirral

But we think they are lazy.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Is smiling at someone in a club or pub lazy? Should you just go up and talk straight away?

Why attribute a negative conotation to something that is perfectly acceptable? It may not be how you guys like to operate but it's not lazy - just different.

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By *udistcpl1Couple
over a year ago

Wirral

You guys are obviously free to operate how you want too. Just saying that we consider it as very lazy. The question has been asked and we are giving an opinion.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Must admit i pay little attention to mine

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

We use them for couples to say hello initially. Then if we get a wink back we message. And vice versa.

However we prefer messages from single guys to introduce themselves. We put this on the profile, so if a guy winks at us,he hasn't read our profile so is generally ignored! If can't be bothered to read about us we wouldn't meet.

As everything on this site, each to their own. If winking isn't working, try messaging.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I like to wink when I see somebody I like has viewed my profile, it's a nice acknowledgment if nothing else

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I wink if someone catches my eye. Boys can't message me so if they wink back I'll message

If I receive a wink I'll check the profile and wink back if I'm interested x

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By *iSubSlutWoman
over a year ago

Bedford

I would look at messages first, so if I have a lot then the winks get forgotten.

If I've not got anything to read I'll check out my winks, but its not a priority.

BSS

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By *amdenfunMan
over a year ago

London

"They're not lazy. Its the online way of letting people know that you're checking them out.

In the real world if a subtle check-out is reciprocated, or met with a smile, then you would go over and talk. Or in our Fab case, message. "

Exactly. It's like the real world (a little). Many of our connections begin with winks, in both directions.

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By *amdenfunMan
over a year ago

London

"Didn't work for us tonight. Winked a hot guy, he winked back but then nothing more.

Why didn't you email when he winked back? I think that's how it's supposed to work. Anyway, it's still tonight. No rush. He may also have other things on.

Well, we messaged him first after we spotted him browsing our profile and also winked. He read and deleted it, but then winked back. So perhaps the idea behind winking is confusing for some.

Yes, I think you're right.

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By *irestorm 500Couple
over a year ago

coventry

People wink at us we wink back and then nothing ..or we send a message thanking them for the wink and message gets deleted and nothing more that way either si definetly doesnt work for us x Storm x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I never check mine.

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By *ertsguy2000Man
over a year ago

hertford

I think they can work.

And personally I like to send a wink as a gentle 'hello, I like your profile'.

I just wish they worked a little bit more

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

mass delete once a week without looking works for us and mrs does same on single profile.

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By *rightonCheekyMan
over a year ago

Brighton

I thinks winks were designed to be a bit like a forerunner to tinder swipe right. See a profile you like send a wink and if they wink back you know there is some mutual interest and that's the prompt to send a message, thus wasting nobodies time.

The flaw with that is that many are inundated with messages, many of which are unwanted, so there's no time or inclination to check winks as well.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"They don't work for me because I never look at them

The only time I know when someone's looked at my profile is when I check out there profile and it says on there profile that they winked at me 4 months ago

Yep, me too."

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

No but I enjoy giving them anyway

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"No but I enjoy giving them anyway

Is that wanks or winks

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By *eavenscentitCouple
over a year ago

barnstaple

I don't look at whose winked Ms

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Didn't work for us tonight. Winked a hot guy, he winked back but then nothing more.

Why didn't you email when he winked back? I think that's how it's supposed to work. Anyway, it's still tonight. No rush. He may also have other things on. "

I thought that was how it worked too. You get a wink, so wink back, then nothing!

Also get a wink then wink back and send a message, then nothing back, it's very confusing!

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By *shpred1Man
over a year ago

Romford

Anyone I've ever winked at has met me for sex. I find sending a message saying, 'Let us fuck.' works everytime too.

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By *ast_jjMan
over a year ago

Dublin and London

"I sent out loads but no luck lol

They do for some and not for others, personally If someone winks at me and I wink back then that's an invitation for them to message me if they like "
That's how I see them working too..

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

It's a shame women don't check them. I have written some really nice and personalised messages just to see them never read. At least a wink is a quick way to show interest.

It must be hard with the amount of messages and winks some people must get

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

They do work.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Shows I have 565 winks that haven't been looked out ...

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

We see them as an expression of interest and if reciprocated a nice ice breaker whether they are received or sent.

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By *rryTMan
over a year ago

Nottingham

Yes definitely

I like them

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By *hoenixAdAstraWoman
over a year ago

Hiding in the shadows

Sometimes they work.

I check mine every couple days, if I see someone I like I'll wink back, or send a message thanks for the wink - upto to them whether they then respond

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By *opsy RogersWoman
over a year ago

London

"Shows I have 565 winks that haven't been looked out ..."

I've just had a look and gad that was tedious. Checking profiles to see if I want to message them showed that it's an exercise in laziness for most of the winkers as not one on the first page meets my preferences that are on my profile and in fact most are so far away from it, it's obvious all they've done is looked at a pic and winked. Lazy lazy lazy.

I've been here many years and that's the first and last time I'll be doing it.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Shows I have 565 winks that haven't been looked out ...

I've been here many years and that's the first and last time I'll be doing it."

I've not even looked at whose winked at me ..no point ...its only something more I have to be doing .....

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"We see them as an expression of interest and if reciprocated a nice ice breaker whether they are received or sent."

That's how we treat them. Works for/with some and not others.

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By *opsy RogersWoman
over a year ago

London

"Shows I have 565 winks that haven't been looked out ...

I've been here many years and that's the first and last time I'll be doing it.

I've not even looked at whose winked at me ..no point ...its only something more I have to be doing ....."

Yep! Once only and I'm never doing it again. I'll carry on searching myself and messaging.

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By *xtrafun4youMan
over a year ago

Dunstable

They have done for me once lol.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Very rarely but then a wink isn't the greatest showing of effort. Messages are always best

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By *inkySlinkyCouple
over a year ago

Leeds

I never look at winks.

Sally

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By *ORDERMANMan
over a year ago

wrexham

Excuse my ignorance here

When you receive mail, you get a small envelope top left corner, under your home bar.

Are you not supposed to get a wink signal there if you receive a wink.

Appears have to go to wink section to see if a wink received.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I never look at winks. So it doesn't work for me. It may for others though

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

On the rare occasion I get a wink, I wink back and will sometimes send a simple message thanking the person for the wink.

As it doesn't happen that often, it is easy to manage!

I would imagine that it is a different story for the ladies

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

In my experience so far...sending a decent message works better than just a wink!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Winks are fine, we prefer a message, but if someone winks, who you think is hot, and we would not have messaged , then it can open up dialog.

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By *lceeWoman
over a year ago

Leeds

Never check them...if I get dozens of messages an hour, I'm not going to look at all the winks! Same with friend requests.

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By *hil988Man
over a year ago

lichfield

They just seem to irritate people so I don't bother anymore

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By *onguepleaser123Man
over a year ago

Coventry

lazy way to try and get a reply if your intrested I think you need to show u are and message

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By *shpred1Man
over a year ago

Romford

"Excuse my ignorance here

When you receive mail, you get a small envelope top left corner, under your home bar.

Are you not supposed to get a wink signal there if you receive a wink.

Appears have to go to wink section to see if a wink received."

I'm glad you said this because I just checked and had a load of winks I wouldn't have known about. I never look at them because it never says I have any!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I don't even bother looking at winks.If there to idol to introduce thereselfs in a message then there going to be to idiol and one track minded to show passion for anything else.

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By *eady and Willing 9Man
over a year ago

Wherever the party is @

Mine have the desired effect but I do state in my profile that I like to send them as an ice breaker. Guess it depends who you send them to

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

In the beginning, if I got a wink I would send a message back, which in the majority of cases was never replied to. So now I just ignore them when they come in. I treat them in the same way as an unprovoked friend request.

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By *uxom redCouple
over a year ago

Shrewsbury

"We often wink. We always check our winks. If we send a wink and get one back we will follow it up with a message. Simples x

This

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