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By *iSTARess OP   Woman
over a year ago

London

I know it's not rant day but....

I've had two sub guys arrange a date in as many days only both to bail out. I don't engage in any play chat beforehand, just getting to know you stuff but when it comes down to meeting, they wuss out.

I've been a dominatrix for 17 years so understand the fear. Society tells them that they are to be alpha, macho,'the man'. Deviations from the supposed ideal is to be lesser than. I've huge respect for anyone who faces their unconventional sexuality but so many sit behind screens, furiously wanking at being dominated but can't get over their precious ego.

Funny enough, clients are easier and more honest than subs in my private life. Fantasists aplenty.

So sub men, if you approach a Domme, don't waste her time. If you aren't ready for reality, go and read, not porn, read about BDSM. Work out who you are and remember it's not about you and your wants. Never is.

Right, I'm off out to a club to whip an arse or three

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By *kexpat81Man
over a year ago

Aldgate

Obviously don't know what they are missing out.

I was very surprised how much I enjoyed my session with a female Dom.

Knowing you had the physical power to dominate at any time, but you don't, no touching, etc. Apologies, but the only words I can think to describe the session was mind fucking in a very good way.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Damn that must be annoying, especially if you were looking forward to it!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Oh to be a Londoner

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Sub guy here. Shame no dommes in Leeds

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By *istressZoeTV/TS
over a year ago

cheshire


"Sub guy here. Shame no dommes in Leeds"

You are looking at the wrong site x

Lots of Leeds dimmed on the famous fe site

And exquisite ones all over the N/W

Have you not been to a munch ?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

If it's not about their wants too then no wonder they disappear.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Sub guy here. Shame no dommes in Leeds

You are looking at the wrong site x

Lots of Leeds dimmed on the famous fe site

And exquisite ones all over the N/W

No what's one of them

Have you not been to a munch ?"

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By *iSTARess OP   Woman
over a year ago

London


"If it's not about their wants too then no wonder they disappear. "

Where did I say it's not about their wants too? One told me he couldn't handle the reality, other blocked me on day of arranged meet.

Given up with subs on here, will stick to bonking.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"If it's not about their wants too then no wonder they disappear.

Where did I say it's not about their wants too? One told me he couldn't handle the reality, other blocked me on day of arranged meet.

Given up with subs on here, will stick to bonking. "

It was in your OP. It's not about them and their wants you said.

I don't think many men on here know what sub is. They think it's some woman teasing them and making them cum while they lay there and do sod all. I don't think you're missing out.

I have faith you're going to find someone. Weird feeling and I hope it's right.

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By *iSTARess OP   Woman
over a year ago

London


"If it's not about their wants too then no wonder they disappear.

Where did I say it's not about their wants too? One told me he couldn't handle the reality, other blocked me on day of arranged meet.

Given up with subs on here, will stick to bonking.

It was in your OP. It's not about them and their wants you said.

I don't think many men on here know what sub is. They think it's some woman teasing them and making them cum while they lay there and do sod all. I don't think you're missing out.

I have faith you're going to find someone. Weird feeling and I hope it's right. "

Ha! So I did True though.

I'm a pro for fulfilling fantasies but yes, in my private life, I'm not a kinky vending machine.

Thanks

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"If it's not about their wants too then no wonder they disappear.

Where did I say it's not about their wants too? One told me he couldn't handle the reality, other blocked me on day of arranged meet.

Given up with subs on here, will stick to bonking.

It was in your OP. It's not about them and their wants you said.

I don't think many men on here know what sub is. They think it's some woman teasing them and making them cum while they lay there and do sod all. I don't think you're missing out.

I have faith you're going to find someone. Weird feeling and I hope it's right.

Ha! So I did True though.

I'm a pro for fulfilling fantasies but yes, in my private life, I'm not a kinky vending machine.

Thanks "

Kinky vending machine would be an amazing business name.

Get on First Dates. They're brilliant at matching people. Although there was a Domme (not sure the exact term she used) the other week and the man who met her was much as you describe!

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By *igboy10essexMan
over a year ago

Upminster


"If it's not about their wants too then no wonder they disappear.

Where did I say it's not about their wants too? One told me he couldn't handle the reality, other blocked me on day of arranged meet.

Given up with subs on here, will stick to bonking. "

I'd like the opportunity to restore your faith &be a willing sub

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Me too Lol

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By *oredShitlessxxxCouple
over a year ago

luton


"I know it's not rant day but....

I've had two sub guys arrange a date in as many days only both to bail out. I don't engage in any play chat beforehand, just getting to know you stuff but when it comes down to meeting, they wuss out.

I've been a dominatrix for 17 years so understand the fear. Society tells them that they are to be alpha, macho,'the man'. Deviations from the supposed ideal is to be lesser than. I've huge respect for anyone who faces their unconventional sexuality but so many sit behind screens, furiously wanking at being dominated but can't get over their precious ego.

Funny enough, clients are easier and more honest than subs in my private life. Fantasists aplenty.

So sub men, if you approach a Domme, don't waste her time. If you aren't ready for reality, go and read, not porn, read about BDSM. Work out who you are and remember it's not about you and your wants. Never is.

Right, I'm off out to a club to whip an arse or three "

Fet Life is surely the better site for what you want? We have directed a lot of subs/slaves there darling x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"If it's not about their wants too then no wonder they disappear.

Where did I say it's not about their wants too? One told me he couldn't handle the reality, other blocked me on day of arranged meet.

Sub here that would always meet, just a little out of London.

Given up with subs on here, will stick to bonking. "

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By *bsinthe_boyMan
over a year ago

Luton

It's the more vanilla guys who do this too. My female partners and friends are frequently let down. Typically on the day of an arranged meet the guy cuts off all contact and blocks or goes UNLOS.

As a guy with a sub side, I find that locating a Domme who does not intend to charge for her services is really quite the challenge - please note I am not suggesting this includes the OP.

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