FabSwingers.com forum: Men's view of FWB

By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

Interested to know if any men want this? I personally find I enjoy sex more when I know the person for a while, I can let go more and feel safe to explore.

Struggling to find someone locally. Am I wasting me time?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

It isn't for me

I have met some people numerous times sexually, but I would never claim to be their friend in the true sense of the word

It's nice to be comfortable but I like the random variety of sexual meets where it's like unwrapping a gift and not knowing what's inside.

That said, people I have met socially and bonded with I do regard as friends, even though we may only meet up very occasionally.

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By *orum TrollWoman
over a year ago

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"It isn't for me

I have met some people numerous times sexually, but I would never claim to be their friend in the true sense of the word"

this is basically all i've met on here. they just make feel like i'm a service and i don't meet them any more. it's all i expect of guys on here as well. i often hope for more but this hasn't happened yet, i am taking my time trying to get to know guys and get a feel that they are more interested in me as a hole to fuck when they feel like doing that.

i have had an actual fwb before i joined fab though, he got to know me and my some of my friends and family too as he was a friend. i consider him a really nice guy in the true sense of it as well.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

To be honest a FWB is what I was hoping to find on here. I don't have the time or interest for a full time relationship but equally I am not interested on hitting on anyone with a pulse.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I do have an FWB, or at least I think I still have. It's turbulent though, we were friends and he met my kids, stayed overnight and we went out to dinner. But he says it's just sex. XXX

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I have down fwb a few times and it can work well but its not for everyone. Sometimes one of the people can want more than the other but ive had some good experiences with it over the years along with a few not so good lol

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Most men on here want to fuck everyone - and most women want a couple of regulars ...

Disclaimer..... this is just my opinion

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Interested to know if any men want this? I personally find I enjoy sex more when I know the person for a while, I can let go more and feel safe to explore.

Struggling to find someone locally. Am I wasting me time?"

I am actually looking to find a FWB's also but my work commitments tend to mean I'm not available as often as a person would like.

I like you think the sex gets better the more you meet someone.

I'm sure there's the right person out there for everyone it's just a case of finding them. Xx

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

We'd both love to have friends with benefits... So thumbs up from us

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"It isn't for me

I have met some people numerous times sexually, but I would never claim to be their friend in the true sense of the word

i have had an actual fwb before i joined fab though, he got to know me and my some of my friends and family too as he was a friend. i consider him a really nice guy in the true sense of it as well."

Hey

I'm sorry the guys you have met on the site have made you feel that way

No one should be made to feel that way

Meets and the lead up to them should be an honest and mutually enjoyable exchange

The feeling of being desired is a heady one and it should work both ways.

Members do, however, seek differing experiences from the site - not one will work for everyone.

So, like you say, making it work for you is key and if a FWB approach is what you prefer then you just have to find the guy with a similar mindset.

I'd say the biggest obstacle is the sheer number of guys that come with the expectation that the ladies here just like cock, rather than actually being interested enough to get to know those they meet.

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"Most men on here want to fuck everyone - and most women want a couple of regulars ...

Disclaimer..... this is just my opinion

Yes I'm finding this Minnie x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

This is exactly what I am looking to find!

Preferably someone who is intelligent and professional who can hold a decent conversation. Someone who also enjoys the occasional dinner out, or wintery walk.

I'm not interesting in shagging the whole of this website, just one quality lady who we can enjoy each other's company with NSA.

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"I have down fwb a few times and it can work well but its not for everyone. Sometimes one of the people can want more than the other but ive had some good experiences with it over the years along with a few not so good lol"

Good to know it's possible not a needle in a haystack

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Most men on here want to fuck everyone - and most women want a couple of regulars ...

Disclaimer..... this is just my opinion

Yes I'm finding this Minnie x"

I'd love a couple of regulars. Far more erotic to get to know each other a bit imo

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"This is exactly what I am looking to find!

Preferably someone who is intelligent and professional who can hold a decent conversation. Someone who also enjoys the occasional dinner out, or wintery walk.

I'm not interesting in shagging the whole of this website, just one quality lady who we can enjoy each other's company with NSA.

Where's Poole?! Lol

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I'd like that. But most women wanna fuck anyone they like while they expect you to only fuck them

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"Most men on here want to fuck everyone - and most women want a couple of regulars ...

Disclaimer..... this is just my opinion

Yes I'm finding this Minnie x

I'd love a couple of regulars. Far more erotic to get to know each other a bit imo

Mr "

Looks like Mrs may be in luck with chysouple!

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By *orum TrollWoman
over a year ago

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"It isn't for me

I have met some people numerous times sexually, but I would never claim to be their friend in the true sense of the word

i have had an actual fwb before i joined fab though, he got to know me and my some of my friends and family too as he was a friend. i consider him a really nice guy in the true sense of it as well.

Hey

I'm sorry the guys you have met on the site have made you feel that way

No one should be made to feel that way

Meets and the lead up to them should be an honest and mutually enjoyable exchange

The feeling of being desired is a heady one and it should work both ways.

Members do, however, seek differing experiences from the site - not one will work for everyone.

So, like you say, making it work for you is key and if a FWB approach is what you prefer then you just have to find the guy with a similar mindset.

yes, totally agree with both the what people are seeking and what most men are looking for.

i don't feel bad about it as i stopped meeting them once i realised they were never going to be anything deeper than wanting convenient and irregular sex that didn't fit in with my needs.

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"I'd like that. But most women wanna fuck anyone they like while they expect you to only fuck them

Really?! I find it the other way around

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"Interested to know if any men want this? I personally find I enjoy sex more when I know the person for a while, I can let go more and feel safe to explore.

Struggling to find someone locally. Am I wasting me time?

I am actually looking to find a FWB's also but my work commitments tend to mean I'm not available as often as a person would like.

I like you think the sex gets better the more you meet someone.

I'm sure there's the right person out there for everyone it's just a case of finding them. Xx"

Hope so xx

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I'd like that. But most women wanna fuck anyone they like while they expect you to only fuck them

Really?! I find it the other way around "

That's definitely my experience.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I have had fwb and there are guys that do want a bit more than just sex.. surprisingly.

Maybe guys do have a different view of it and think a FWB just means having a chat before and after.

For women, its more like being a friend and doing other things, whether this is a few drinks out, watching a film or having a meal together.

Not all guys wants to fuck lots of different women but if they do .. thats up to them.

I, like some other women who have commented can be a real tigress when am I am relaxed and really love to please. Cant do this is I dont know them well.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I'd like that. But most women wanna fuck anyone they like while they expect you to only fuck them

I would never expect that. Thats very selfish.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I'd like that. But most women wanna fuck anyone they like while they expect you to only fuck them

I would never expect that. Thats very selfish."

You're one of a kind then. Nice to know they exist

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"I have had fwb and there are guys that do want a bit more than just sex.. surprisingly.

Maybe guys do have a different view of it and think a FWB just means having a chat before and after.

For women, its more like being a friend and doing other things, whether this is a few drinks out, watching a film or having a meal together.

Not all guys wants to fuck lots of different women but if they do .. thats up to them.

I, like some other women who have commented can be a real tigress when am I am relaxed and really love to please. Cant do this is I dont know them well.

Exactly this x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I gave up searching for a FWB a long time ago. I now just attend clubs and parties and meet people there regularly. I have found a fabulous group of friends who I socialise with as well as play. Good luck in your search

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By *hilledPCMan
over a year ago

Grantham

And right there is the difference, denied by many, between a FWB and a FB.

I've had both in the past - and a FWB is by far the better experience.

I've been lucky enough to find a couple of FWBs in Fab in the past although I acknowledge that's not really what Fab is about.

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By *andsonjohnMan
over a year ago

in the eye of the storm

"Interested to know if any men want this? I personally find I enjoy sex more when I know the person for a while, I can let go more and feel safe to explore.

Struggling to find someone locally. Am I wasting me time?"

no your not wasting your time .

I understand what you mean by struggling to let go although I would explain my own feelings as it I'm always restrained unless there's a genuine connection like I'm in a straight jacket unable to switch off and just do .

once I'm connected to someone and I know there not only with me for my skill at what I do I can then let go play fully as I wish to

by that statement I mean play safe in the knowledge they are there as much as for me as they are for what I can do if that makes sense .

you will find someone never give up trust me connections can be made if you just let them happen instead of trying to make them happen ,

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I've done it with a couple and it worked well but when I met a woman on here it went badly wrong. She got way more attached than I did and ended up a bit stalkerish and she contacted friend and work colleges outside the site and told them about my profile on here because I wasn't in love with her.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Interested to know if any men want this? I personally find I enjoy sex more when I know the person for a while, I can let go more and feel safe to explore.

Struggling to find someone locally. Am I wasting me time?

I am actually looking to find a FWB's also but my work commitments tend to mean I'm not available as often as a person would like.

I like you think the sex gets better the more you meet someone.

I'm sure there's the right person out there for everyone it's just a case of finding them. Xx

Hope so xx"

You will I'm sure of that xx

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Most men on here want to fuck everyone - and most women want a couple of regulars ...

Disclaimer..... this is just my opinion

Yes I'm finding this Minnie x

I'd love a couple of regulars. Far more erotic to get to know each other a bit imo

Looks like Mrs may be in luck with chysouple! "

Mrs may be in luck at the bus stop. She's not the problem. It's finding a woman who is open to being friends with an attached man, who is looking for friendship rather than a relationship, and where there's mutual attraction.

Mrs is being very good. She's waiting until I'm sorted before she steps out the door and picks someone from the queue. She may be waiting a long time lol

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I see profiles of men saying they want more, a reg person to get to know; a fwb therefore you would think it possible.

However in my experience over the last two years most don't, they want a shag and then off they go regardless of what they tell you.

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By *orum TrollWoman
over a year ago

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"I see profiles of men saying they want more, a reg person to get to know; a fwb therefore you would think it possible.

However in my experience over the last two years most don't, they want a shag and then off they go regardless of what they tell you. "

this. i've even seen some post in the forums they want that and know from experience they are the ones who only get in touch when they want a fuck and for nothing else.

sometimes i feel like calling them out on it. they just know how to talk the shit and nothing else.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Would love and FWB, not just to fuck but to also take out for a meal and drinks, or the cinema or whatever we both had an urge to do. I also think to have the benefits you must also have a friendship and not just treat the other person as your own personal fuck toy for your pleasure whenever you want a fuck.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"It isn't for me

I have met some people numerous times sexually, but I would never claim to be their friend in the true sense of the word

i have had an actual fwb before i joined fab though, he got to know me and my some of my friends and family too as he was a friend. i consider him a really nice guy in the true sense of it as well.

Hey

I'm sorry the guys you have met on the site have made you feel that way

No one should be made to feel that way

Meets and the lead up to them should be an honest and mutually enjoyable exchange

The feeling of being desired is a heady one and it should work both ways.

Members do, however, seek differing experiences from the site - not one will work for everyone.

So, like you say, making it work for you is key and if a FWB approach is what you prefer then you just have to find the guy with a similar mindset.

In particular to your last sentence.

Although nothing wrong with them wanting that, just a shame those types outnumber the FWB types.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Would love and FWB, not just to fuck but to also take out for a meal and drinks, or the cinema or whatever we both had an urge to do. I also think to have the benefits you must also have a friendship and not just treat the other person as your own personal fuck toy for your pleasure whenever you want a fuck. "

That's how things started with the woman I mentioned. I wasn't using her for sex. We did stuff other than fuck, films, dinner, running together etc. She just got too clingy. I wouldn't do that again with a single woman.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I would ideally like a fwb many guys on here would.

It's not just the guys who say one thing and do another not it that exclusive to fab or the internet.

Sometimes it works out sometimes it doesn't but if you stick to what you want then like most things in life one day you will find it.

Until then it's fun looking..

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By *ertsguy2000Man
over a year ago

hertford

Would love a FWB from here, to gain that trust and to become close but with the understanding of where each other's boundaries lie would be ideal.

I keep hoping, but slowly losing the will

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

That's what I want . I have only met one new person since opening my account cos random fucks just ain't doing it for me

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Everyone is a stranger until you meet them for the first time. You may both be looking for fwb but for some reason one or both of you might just not feel the connection you're looking for when you meet. It can be instant or it can build over time.

You can't just take 2 people looking for fwb and put them together. There has to be a friends bit. Keep looking.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

its okay if you can stay friends and not fall in love. It's hard for women not to fall in love with me.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Interested to know if any men want this? I personally find I enjoy sex more when I know the person for a while, I can let go more and feel safe to explore.

Struggling to find someone locally. Am I wasting me time?"

I am actively seeking this at the moment but struggling to truly find anyone who is interested

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Most men on here want to fuck everyone - and most women want a couple of regulars ...

Disclaimer..... this is just my opinion

Yes I'm finding this Minnie x"

Yes ladies it's exactly this !

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"its okay if you can stay friends and not fall in love. It's hard for women not to fall in love with me."

Its not that difficult for most women. Some guys have fallen for me so i dont think its just women who can fall for a guy. Its not surprising when you are so intimate with someone for a long time but you just cant get involved emotionally .. unless it gets to a point where both of you want to.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"its okay if you can stay friends and not fall in love. It's hard for women not to fall in love with me.

See, I think that is why many guys do hold back

And maybe women too

That fear that getting to know someone will lead to an entanglement that becomes difficult to escape

So, they keep a bit back or reduce or sever contact to prevent putting them and the other person in that position.

If they see the other party 'falling' for them, they run a mile - often leaving skid marks !

I do think it is a delicate line to tread and I don't think it is for everyone - not just as a concept, but also as something they are emotionally capable of pulling off.

Some people you meet are just too loveable.

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

So interesting. I guess keep looking then. Thank you xx

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"its okay if you can stay friends and not fall in love. It's hard for women not to fall in love with me.

See, I think that is why many guys do hold back

And maybe women too

That fear that getting to know someone will lead to an entanglement that becomes difficult to escape

So, they keep a bit back or reduce or sever contact to prevent putting them and the other person in that position.

If they see the other party 'falling' for them, they run a mile - often leaving skid marks !

I do think it is a delicate line to tread and I don't think it is for everyone - not just as a concept, but also as something they are emotionally capable of pulling off.

Some people you meet are just too loveable."

To be fair getting constantly told you shouldn't fall in love because you're on a swingers site not a dating site has something to do with it.

I've had plenty of messages from guys telling me I should be on a dating site because I won't fuck them. Forums also relating to same thing. So you can't blame us for not being able to allow our feelings to develop.

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By *iSubSlutWoman
over a year ago

Bedford

I have some wonderful swinging friends, and we enjoy sexy and earth moving benefits from time to time.

I don't go out looking for FWB, I socialise and enjoy peoples company, as well as the play, sometimes a friendship develops afterwards.

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

I don't want one offs so I'd rather make it clear. I do socialise too and fingers crossed like you say it will happen. Was more a case of am I completely wasting my time

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I don't want one offs so I'd rather make it clear. I do socialise too and fingers crossed like you say it will happen. Was more a case of am I completely wasting my time "

No definitely not wasting your time xx

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I don't want one offs so I'd rather make it clear. I do socialise too and fingers crossed like you say it will happen. Was more a case of am I completely wasting my time "

It will happen when you least expect it

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I joined this site hoping to find a new fwb. I ended up finding a few of my friends on here with my old profile too. Ive had a little less luck on my second trip here but i remain optimistic.... mostly lol

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By *pider-WomanWoman
over a year ago

Exeter, Bristol, Plymouth, Truro

"Interested to know if any men want this? I personally find I enjoy sex more when I know the person for a while, I can let go more and feel safe to explore.

Struggling to find someone locally. Am I wasting me time?

I am actively seeking this at the moment but struggling to truly find anyone who is interested

Me too so how can it be so hard to find

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I guess I've been pretty lucky having a FWB in the cities I regularly visit and at home. We consider the other friends- we talk, maybe catch dinner and then have an awesome time later. Each of us has our own life; we just enjoy hanging out.

I think the key is sticking to what works for you.

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By *an_WoodMan
over a year ago

Stafford

Glad I have and am making friends in the clubs I visit. Not sure fwb is or isn't ideal but a swinging partner would be heaven

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By *izza1380Man
over a year ago

wingate

I would love to meet someone i can call a fwb one night stands are ok but i prefer to return get to no somone sex gets better the better you no someone just havent found that lady yet

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Interested to know if any men want this? I personally find I enjoy sex more when I know the person for a while, I can let go more and feel safe to explore.

Struggling to find someone locally. Am I wasting me time?"

Bloody good question that I seem unable to find the answer to!

Who knew regular free sex would be so hard to find! x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Interested to know if any men want this? I personally find I enjoy sex more when I know the person for a while, I can let go more and feel safe to explore.

Struggling to find someone locally. Am I wasting me time?

Bloody good question that I seem unable to find the answer to!

Who knew regular free sex would be so hard to find! x"

Just move closer to me

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Interested to know if any men want this? I personally find I enjoy sex more when I know the person for a while, I can let go more and feel safe to explore.

Struggling to find someone locally. Am I wasting me time?

Bloody good question that I seem unable to find the answer to!

Who knew regular free sex would be so hard to find! x

Just move closer to me

Or you to me

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Im still yet to meet a woman on here who ACTUALLY means it when they say thats what they want.

Either that or someone i can see more regularly then once every 3 months

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By *elloIntrigueMan
over a year ago

North West UK

"Interested to know if any men want this? I personally find I enjoy sex more when I know the person for a while, I can let go more and feel safe to explore.

Struggling to find someone locally. Am I wasting me time?"

A FWB would certainly be my preference at present.

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By *ieman300Man
over a year ago

Best Greggs in Cheshire East

A true fwb is a friend first then the benefits come later. I think looking for an fwb is not how it works. They are a fb or just a regular jump. Thats how i see it anyways.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I would prefer to be friends with someone and then see if the fun follows, without jeopardising the friendship

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

It is the best arrangement you can have, but does take an open mind, confidence and respect if you're not exclusive. From experience, a long term Fwb is not always possible, one will develop feelings but rarely does that tend to be a mutual thing so someone always gets hurt

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By *oping for funMan
over a year ago

Newport - Shropshire

"Interested to know if any men want this? I personally find I enjoy sex more when I know the person for a while, I can let go more and feel safe to explore.

Struggling to find someone locally. Am I wasting me time?"

I can only speak personally, so here goes. Unless there is some "attraction" not physically then at times sex is no more rewarding that a DIY handjob.

If you can get some attraction or chemistry going, then its more rewarding for everyone ... well me at least x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Maybe it's an fb that I want then, the more time you spend with someone the more likely you will become friends.

But, I don't want them to meet my friends or family, or go out out with them

A fuck buddy who I get on well with, gets my sense of humour and doesn't play games...

Who am I kidding lol x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

For me it's FWB as I don't have all the time in the world for a relationship and to be honest any relationship i have in the future will be open. So why a FWB, if we've reached that far then obviously there's something about you that I like, we get on well, can hold a great convo, where ok with being who we are around each other, so of course we can go to dinner or the park etc, catch a movie when time allows but the labels and expectations of your my other half ain't there, that free's me up to get my work done without feeling like I'm neglecting my other half......

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By *oping for funMan
over a year ago

Newport - Shropshire

"Maybe it's an fb that I want then, the more time you spend with someone the more likely you will become friends.

But, I don't want them to meet my friends or family, or go out out with them

A fuck buddy who I get on well with, gets my sense of humour and doesn't play games...

Who am I kidding lol x"

Well Miss ... I wold suggest that sounds perfect for most guys and exactly what i would love to find

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Maybe it's an fb that I want then, the more time you spend with someone the more likely you will become friends.

But, I don't want them to meet my friends or family, or go out out with them

A fuck buddy who I get on well with, gets my sense of humour and doesn't play games...

Who am I kidding lol x

Well Miss ... I wold suggest that sounds perfect for most guys and exactly what i would love to find

Well it seems to be my unicorn! x

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By *oping for funMan
over a year ago

Newport - Shropshire

"Maybe it's an fb that I want then, the more time you spend with someone the more likely you will become friends.

But, I don't want them to meet my friends or family, or go out out with them

A fuck buddy who I get on well with, gets my sense of humour and doesn't play games...

Who am I kidding lol x

Well Miss ... I wold suggest that sounds perfect for most guys and exactly what i would love to find

Well it seems to be my unicorn! x"

oh dear, poor you - make me an offer I cant refuse then x

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over a year ago

"Maybe it's an fb that I want then, the more time you spend with someone the more likely you will become friends.

But, I don't want them to meet my friends or family, or go out out with them

A fuck buddy who I get on well with, gets my sense of humour and doesn't play games...

Who am I kidding lol x

Well Miss ... I wold suggest that sounds perfect for most guys and exactly what i would love to find

Well it seems to be my unicorn! x

oh dear, poor you - make me an offer I cant refuse then x"

Not poor me, I'm not short of fucks!

Show me a face pic and we'll take it from there x

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By *oping for funMan
over a year ago

Newport - Shropshire

"Maybe it's an fb that I want then, the more time you spend with someone the more likely you will become friends.

But, I don't want them to meet my friends or family, or go out out with them

A fuck buddy who I get on well with, gets my sense of humour and doesn't play games...

Who am I kidding lol x

Well Miss ... I wold suggest that sounds perfect for most guys and exactly what i would love to find

Well it seems to be my unicorn! x

oh dear, poor you - make me an offer I cant refuse then x

Not poor me, I'm not short of fucks!

Show me a face pic and we'll take it from there x"

message me then and i can x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

A lot of people have the wrong idea or views on people with a Fwb.They think it's just a sleezy f*ck buddie.

My situation is way more than that.I really like him and trust him.we both work long hours so we don't have time for a full relationship.We knew each other from before fab so that bond and trust was already there.

We both are really sexually attracted to each other and when we do meet we don't stop laughing and having a good time.There is love there and we know each other's likes and dislikes so there no akwardness.We live localish to each other so we are there for each other at a instant for anything.

So why would anyone think that's a bad thing?

We are both to busy for a relationship but we still have all the good things that a relitionship brings.

I could never meet a stranger off here and have the trust or be able to experiment fully or the love and even the cuddles like I do with him.

To me a Fwb is more than just sex it's a soul mate for fun and trust and someone that's there through all your sexuall and emotional needs x

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"A lot of people have the wrong idea or views on people with a Fwb.They think it's just a sleezy f*ck buddie.

So why would anyone think that's a bad thing?

We are both to busy for a relationship but we still have all the good things that a relitionship brings.

I could never meet a stranger off here and have the trust or be able to experiment fully or the love and even the cuddles like I do with him.

To me a Fwb is more than just sex it's a soul mate for fun and trust and someone that's there through all your sexuall and emotional needs x "

There are aspects of that I love

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over a year ago

"It isn't for me

I have met some people numerous times sexually, but I would never claim to be their friend in the true sense of the word

i have had an actual fwb before i joined fab though, he got to know me and my some of my friends and family too as he was a friend. i consider him a really nice guy in the true sense of it as well."

Agree with the above..Hence the reason I mainly do socials now

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I'd like a fwb but a female one

Lau

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over a year ago

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Everyone is a stranger until you meet them for the first time. You may both be looking for fwb but for some reason one or both of you might just not feel the connection you're looking for when you meet. It can be instant or it can build over time.

You can't just take 2 people looking for fwb and put them together. There has to be a friends bit. Keep looking.

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exactly. It takes time and most guys don't want to invest any time getting to know you.

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By *iSTARessWoman
over a year ago

London

It is possible. I spent yesterday afternoon eating doughnuts and wandering around Soho with my FWB. Hung out with a friend of mine for a few hours, had a play, he left a few hours ago.

Could do with a couple more like him (yes I'm greedy) but in general, appears that few want the same (especially in London)

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By *oping for funMan
over a year ago

Newport - Shropshire

"It is possible. I spent yesterday afternoon eating doughnuts and wandering around Soho with my FWB. Hung out with a friend of mine for a few hours, had a play, he left a few hours ago.

Could do with a couple more like him (yes I'm greedy) but in general, appears that few want the same (especially in London) "

it sounds perfect to me..

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over a year ago

You can't just take 2 people looking for fwb and put them together. There has to be a friends bit. Keep looking.

exactly. It takes time and most guys don't want to invest any time getting to know you. "

This is why we suggested a forum for swinging relationships (see our thread in the suggestions forum). It would be a great place to start bubbling up friendships with people looking for more intimate friendships with other swingers i.e fwb, polyamorous, and dating. Give it a vote if you want to see it happen

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By *entle giraffeMan
over a year ago

Minehead

We are out there and from my experience finding it equally tricky to find the right fwb. I believe that being patient could be key

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"We are out there and from my experience finding it equally tricky to find the right fwb. I believe that being patient could be key

Thank you, I've never been great at that haha

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By *elloIntrigueMan
over a year ago

North West UK

I'm still out here in the wilds of the North West... haha

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Interested to know if any men want this? I personally find I enjoy sex more when I know the person for a while, I can let go more and feel safe to explore.

Struggling to find someone locally. Am I wasting me time?"

I find that sex with fwb is always better as you learn whato the other person really loves

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over a year ago

I eventually found a fwb for fairly regular fun. Although we aren't exclusive I haven't felt much need for other meets as she's giving me all I need at the moment.

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By *he Happy ManMan
over a year ago

Merseyside

"Interested to know if any men want this? I personally find I enjoy sex more when I know the person for a while, I can let go more and feel safe to explore.

Struggling to find someone locally. Am I wasting me time?"

No you are not wasting your time.

I have had 2 long term relationships/FWB on fab. One is current.

You are right. With a regular FWB the sex just gets better and better.

Don't lose hope that you will meet the right guy.

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By *he Happy ManMan
over a year ago

Merseyside

"It isn't for me

I have met some people numerous times sexually, but I would never claim to be their friend in the true sense of the word

i have had an actual fwb before i joined fab though, he got to know me and my some of my friends and family too as he was a friend. i consider him a really nice guy in the true sense of it as well.

Hey

I'm sorry the guys you have met on the site have made you feel that way

No one should be made to feel that way

Meets and the lead up to them should be an honest and mutually enjoyable exchange

The feeling of being desired is a heady one and it should work both ways.

Members do, however, seek differing experiences from the site - not one will work for everyone.

So, like you say, making it work for you is key and if a FWB approach is what you prefer then you just have to find the guy with a similar mindset.

yes, totally agree with both the what people are seeking and what most men are looking for.

i don't feel bad about it as i stopped meeting them once i realised they were never going to be anything deeper than wanting convenient and irregular sex that didn't fit in with my needs. "

Good on you. Don't put with nonsense from any guy.

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By *he Happy ManMan
over a year ago

Merseyside

"I see profiles of men saying they want more, a reg person to get to know; a fwb therefore you would think it possible.

However in my experience over the last two years most don't, they want a shag and then off they go regardless of what they tell you.

this. i've even seen some post in the forums they want that and know from experience they are the ones who only get in touch when they want a fuck and for nothing else.

sometimes i feel like calling them out on it. they just know how to talk the shit and nothing else."

My profile is honest.

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By *he Happy ManMan
over a year ago

Merseyside

"Interested to know if any men want this? I personally find I enjoy sex more when I know the person for a while, I can let go more and feel safe to explore.

Struggling to find someone locally. Am I wasting me time?"

Spend time getting to know potential meets. by time I man 4 - 12 weeks. See if they wil put the effort in getting to know you. If they don't want to spend time getting to know you before meeting you can be sure they are just looking for a quick fuck.

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By *laytimenowMan
over a year ago

Essex

Always interested in a FWB but has to be someone

A you're into as well as somebody who shares similar interests.

Even then its not easy

Plenty who fit both categories that ordinarily id be happy to hook up with , but its finding the right timings to hook up.

A weekend afternoon is very difficult for me

Perfect time for me is after midnight till probably 5

Shame there is fuck all to do at that time of night

( regular passtimes)

Other than shagging .

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Had a few FWB and still friends and good mates with most of them, some wanted more and did understand the 'with benefits'..sex is for fun and enjoying ourselves...love and sex are miles away from each other

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over a year ago

"I eventually found a fwb for fairly regular fun. Although we aren't exclusive I haven't felt much need for other meets as she's giving me all I need at the moment. "

Lucky

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By *orum TrollWoman
over a year ago

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"It isn't for me

I have met some people numerous times sexually, but I would never claim to be their friend in the true sense of the word

i have had an actual fwb before i joined fab though, he got to know me and my some of my friends and family too as he was a friend. i consider him a really nice guy in the true sense of it as well.

Hey

I'm sorry the guys you have met on the site have made you feel that way

No one should be made to feel that way

Meets and the lead up to them should be an honest and mutually enjoyable exchange

The feeling of being desired is a heady one and it should work both ways.

Members do, however, seek differing experiences from the site - not one will work for everyone.

So, like you say, making it work for you is key and if a FWB approach is what you prefer then you just have to find the guy with a similar mindset.

yes, totally agree with both the what people are seeking and what most men are looking for.

i don't feel bad about it as i stopped meeting them once i realised they were never going to be anything deeper than wanting convenient and irregular sex that didn't fit in with my needs.

Good on you. Don't put with nonsense from any guy. "

thanks, i got sick of it ages ago and stopped last year.

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By *andemanMan
over a year ago

bedforshire

I currently have a FWB and loving it. Trustworthy so i can relax in the real world with her in public. Great sex able to explore new things and build on the things we like.

But both free to play with others at no real risk of hurt.

I have had a number of FWB sometimes as many as 3 at the same time.

Much better than spending your time on nothing but random fucks. Dont get me wrong it can be fun to go to a club and face the challange for the cute one in the corner. But then you never see them again once its over.

If the scene has one truely golden element it is the chance to meet new friends and sleep with them.

Play should be fun and adult play should never make you feel like a piece of meat. Ot happens to us guys to we just dont admit it often.

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over a year ago

Didnt start out looking for it , but have been in a relationship with my fwb for 3 1/2 yrs now , and like you say its better when you know the person for a while,

We both know what makes the other tick and for us we are not just fwb's we are one,

So no Betsy your not wasting your time,

Will chat more about it if you like at August bbw

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By *upcake68Woman
over a year ago

Ely

As with anything else to do with the swinging world everyone has different ideas & concepts of what a "FWB" actually is & what they want from that coupling.

Initially I was looking for an FWB for occasional fun with the bonus of getting to know what that person liked, wanted, which buttons to press & how (Which for me doesn't happen with one offs)

I actually stopped "looking" as I felt I wasn't getting anywhere & when I least expected it I got to chatting with a lovely guy, 3.5 years later we are still seeing each other, our relationship is not what most would consider as being FWB status but as pointed out at the start of my post, everyone has different conceptions of what the FWB status entails. But just to add, it wasn't what I set out to look for but wouldn't change it for the world.

Good luck in your search Betsy!

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