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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

We find sometimes that males we invite to play with us get a little frustrated that they have to play safe but Dorian gets to go bareback, some have even said if I have to play safe then so does he or vice versa.

What we are wondering is from both perspectives do you find it unfair if the male of the partner goes bare but the invited male has to play safe?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I think it's a fair deal. Safe play for new partners and bare play for long term partners is pretty cool with me

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By *oyeurs DelightCouple
over a year ago

london

We only ever play safe with meets. No condom no play. My man gets me bareback and that's it. We expect the same with couples we meet.

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By *opsy RogersWoman
over a year ago

London

It's not safe, it's only safer.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Even questioning what others do as a couple is odd to me. Why should your long term partner wrap up to please a meet.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I play bareback for Parker (my fwb of 5.5 yrs) but definitely not others. Hopefully hes same with others.

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By *ackDMissMorganCouple
over a year ago

Halifax

The bare is a privilege of a relationship, not an entitltlement.if they are not happy they can go elsewhere

Miss

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Are you asking should I wear a condom with sweet,my partner,just because we make a guy we meet for mfm and insist he wears one?

What a stupid question

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By *bsinthe_boyMan
over a year ago

Luton

I only play unwrapped with my wife, and she only with me. Everyone else including regular partners plays safe(r).

In group situations wifey and I will use protection too so nobody gets the wrong idea.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Lol, can't ever imagine meeting a couple. Demanding the long term partner to put a lid on it, it's just common sense partner gets bare dips. Simples

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By *uxom redCouple
over a year ago

Shrewsbury


"Are you asking should I wear a condom with sweet,my partner,just because we make a guy we meet for mfm and insist he wears one?

What a stupid question "

It's not a stupid question it's a fair one.

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By *eadonistCoupleCouple
over a year ago

Ashton under Lyne

We play safer with others but bare with each other.. . Seems pretty standard these days.

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By *ighland gentlemanMan
over a year ago

Ardgay

It seems very reasonable for meets to wear protection when long term partner can be bare.

I wouldn't expect otherwise.

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By *XHNHWoman
over a year ago

Stokeish...


"I only play unwrapped with my wife, and she only with me. Everyone else including regular partners plays safe(r).

In group situations wifey and I will use protection too so nobody gets the wrong idea."

To be fair, I've done this with my long term partner too, used protection at a club when playing in a group etc, just so there's no ambiguity

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I will only ever let my fun friend go bare with me.If anyone doesn't like my safe only rules then there not for me it's that simple x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Are you asking should I wear a condom with sweet,my partner,just because we make a guy we meet for mfm and insist he wears one?

What a stupid question

It's not a stupid question it's a fair one.

"

What is fair about it?

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

No I'm saying guys says Dorian should play safe just because they have to

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"No I'm saying guys says Dorian should play safe just because they have to"

Then that guy would be no longer be welcome to join us,simple as that.

Anyone that joins us for sex is a guest in our sex lives,he doesn't like it,he can join someone else.

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By *it of fun cplCouple
over a year ago

village between York and Hull


"We only ever play safe with meets. No condom no play. My man gets me bareback and that's it. We expect the same with couples we meet. "

Same with us

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By *ieman300Man
over a year ago

Best Greggs in Cheshire East


"We find sometimes that males we invite to play with us get a little frustrated that they have to play safe but Dorian gets to go bareback, some have even said if I have to play safe then so does he or vice versa.

What we are wondering is from both perspectives do you find it unfair if the male of the partner goes bare but the invited male has to play safe?"

Your rules. They accept or do one. Maybe make this clear beforehand during message swap.

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By *loswingersCouple
over a year ago

Gloucester


"We find sometimes that males we invite to play with us get a little frustrated that they have to play safe but Dorian gets to go bareback, some have even said if I have to play safe then so does he or vice versa.

What we are wondering is from both perspectives do you find it unfair if the male of the partner goes bare but the invited male has to play safe?"

I can only imagine the men you meet who feel this way are totally ignorant , or just plain stupid .

If a guy even suggested it wasn't fair that I get to fuck my wife bare , and he didn't , he'd be out if the door so quick he'd have to put his clothes on on the front lawn !

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"We find sometimes that males we invite to play with us get a little frustrated that they have to play safe but Dorian gets to go bareback, some have even said if I have to play safe then so does he or vice versa.

What we are wondering is from both perspectives do you find it unfair if the male of the partner goes bare but the invited male has to play safe?

Your rules. They accept or do one. Maybe make this clear beforehand during message swap."

We make it abundantly clear but some still whinge. Simple moaners.

~Mia

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By *mojeeCouple
over a year ago

Dunfermline

We wouldn't have it any other way

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By *inchyorksMan
over a year ago

huddersfield


"No I'm saying guys says Dorian should play safe just because they have to"

The guy that is lucky enough to be invited should be respectful to your wishes as a couple, and not be so totally childish and selfish.

Every couple I have met has played in your exact same way, it should be the norm really x

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By *ENDAROOSCouple
over a year ago

South West London / Surrey


"We find sometimes that males we invite to play with us get a little frustrated that they have to play safe but Dorian gets to go bareback, some have even said if I have to play safe then so does he or vice versa.

What we are wondering is from both perspectives do you find it unfair if the male of the partner goes bare but the invited male has to play safe?

Your rules. They accept or do one. Maybe make this clear beforehand during message swap."

It's not something that we've ever thought to mention/ bring up.

But then, no one has ever moaned about Mr B fucking me bare, while they've had to wear condoms.

If someone is meeting a couple, its pretty likely that's how it will be.

Not met any couples where the male hadn't gone bare with his own partner. That's not to say, that some don't wrap up with partners, just we haven't met any.

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By *uxom redCouple
over a year ago

Shrewsbury


"Are you asking should I wear a condom with sweet,my partner,just because we make a guy we meet for mfm and insist he wears one?

What a stupid question

It's not a stupid question it's a fair one.

What is fair about it?

"

The op is asking how we all feel, therefore we give our answers.

Simple really.

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By *lkDomWhtSubBiCpleCouple
over a year ago

Somewhere / Everywhere /Kinksville

In my many years of swinging with a partner I've never heard this

Yes I play bare with partner and safe with any other guys. No one has ever questioned that and if they did, they wouldn't be staying or getting a return visit.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Thats how we play, if another guy joins in he's wearing rubber, hubby isn't (however I'll give oral without).

If we are swapping partners then both guys are covered up, if we play with another lady hubby covers up.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I feel that is fair thing to do. Any new playmates needs a love glove. I expect that for me to wear one with a new lady. Also it gives us something i can only give to her bare.

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By *ieman300Man
over a year ago

Best Greggs in Cheshire East


"We find sometimes that males we invite to play with us get a little frustrated that they have to play safe but Dorian gets to go bareback, some have even said if I have to play safe then so does he or vice versa.

What we are wondering is from both perspectives do you find it unfair if the male of the partner goes bare but the invited male has to play safe?

Your rules. They accept or do one. Maybe make this clear beforehand during message swap.

We make it abundantly clear but some still whinge. Simple moaners.

~Mia"

Tell put up or shut up.

Or put on i guess

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By *olliPineCouple
over a year ago

swingers clubs

Never had this issue come up in our play.

We always ask guys joining us to cover up, same as XY does when he's playing with another female.

If anyone questioned that play would stop immediately.

To be fair, the majority of guys don't need to be asked twice, we discuss this before play starts anyway.

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By *y Favorite PornstarCouple
over a year ago

Basingstoke


"We find sometimes that males we invite to play with us get a little frustrated that they have to play safe but Dorian gets to go bareback, some have even said if I have to play safe then so does he or vice versa.

What we are wondering is from both perspectives do you find it unfair if the male of the partner goes bare but the invited male has to play safe?

I can only imagine the men you meet who feel this way are totally ignorant , or just plain stupid .

If a guy even suggested it wasn't fair that I get to fuck my wife bare , and he didn't , he'd be out if the door so quick he'd have to put his clothes on on the front lawn !

"

That's the polite version of what i wanted to say. If some cock womble tried to tell me to put a condom on then it would be a short meet.

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By *ipswingCouple
over a year ago

portrush


"The bare is a privilege of a relationship, not an entitltlement.if they are not happy they can go elsewhere

Miss"

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"Never had this issue come up in our play.

We always ask guys joining us to cover up, same as XY does when he's playing with another female.

If anyone questioned that play would stop immediately.

To be fair, the majority of guys don't need to be asked twice, we discuss this before play starts anyway.

"

We've had it a few times. We always mention it before play and even before meeting but you get the odd folk that moan about hence the post.

We don't meet the ones that do moan about it.

~Mia

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"Never had this issue come up in our play.

We always ask guys joining us to cover up, same as XY does when he's playing with another female.

If anyone questioned that play would stop immediately.

To be fair, the majority of guys don't need to be asked twice, we discuss this before play starts anyway.

"

We've had it a few times. We always mention it before play and even before meeting but you get the odd folk that moan about hence the post.

We don't meet the ones that do moan about it.

~Mia

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

At the risk of sounding naff.... being invited to share intimacy with a couple in whatever form is a privelage..... and their desires should always be respected. ... although this is easy for me to say as I will only play safe unless in a polly relationship and real trust has been established..... Don't mind at all if they play without!

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