FabSwingers.com forum: Filth factor advice please!

By *aughtybooy OP Man
over a year ago

maidstone

Hi all, I've recently started seeing a gorgeous woman who I would now describe as my new FB. Il cut a long story short but hopefully still get the advice I need.... the more I've been seeing her the more filthy minded she is confessing to be! Pretty much saying she's game for anything! Loves to be tied up, loves gagging on my cock, getting slapped and generally roughed up! She has even suggested that I drag her in my car while she struggles to escape one night as she walks home from work and being totally sub while I have her! Anyway advice needed for this bit... I think I can do anything I want to her and she'll play along! But I'm not sure if I'm gonna be to full on and she might think oh dear this is bit to much! Given what I've said above.. would you be under the same impression as me and just be a total no holds barred abusive dom? Thanks in advance, dan

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

maybe ask if theres anythink she doesent like?

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By *alcon43Woman
over a year ago

Paisley

Only do what you're comfortable with. Stay safe and don't put yourself in a situation that may get you in to trouble.

Some role play can be mistaken for abuse, assault, etc.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

It sounds like she is very open to much more than you imagine, however before you go all total no holes barred abusive Dom you have to discuss her boundaries and have safe words in place. The last thing you want to do is go too far and be on the end of a criminal charge.

Open, honest communication is key. Once you have agreed on limits then fill your boots!

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By *dam1971Man
over a year ago

Bedford

I think she can do better than you

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Umm I'd think you'd need a couple more meets under your belt. People have code words and stuff. I've only done extreme things like that with my ex but we were together years, we'd go down to the canal early hours and he'd jump out on me and attack me in the way you're describing.

Just need to build up trust.

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By *axandbooCouple
over a year ago

Bristol

As its been said, in certain activities you need to have communication, trust and safe words.

If your unsure still, go to a bdsm club in your area and ask questions, learn and explore.

Stay with what you are comfortable doing. But always talk about things both before and after.

Remember just because she is submissive to you, she still has the power to stop it all.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Agree a safe word.

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By *aughtybooy OP Man
over a year ago

maidstone

"maybe ask if theres anythink she doesent like?"

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By *aughtybooy OP Man
over a year ago

maidstone

"Only do what you're comfortable with. Stay safe and don't put yourself in a situation that may get you in to trouble.

Some role play can be mistaken for abuse, assault, etc. "

Thank you, I'll definitely not do anything she seems uncomfortable with.

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By *aughtybooy OP Man
over a year ago

maidstone

"It sounds like she is very open to much more than you imagine, however before you go all total no holes barred abusive Dom you have to discuss her boundaries and have safe words in place. The last thing you want to do is go too far and be on the end of a criminal charge.

Open, honest communication is key. Once you have agreed on limits then fill your boots! "

Thank you, il definitely discuss her limits first

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By *aughtybooy OP Man
over a year ago

maidstone

"I think she can do better than you

Your not very good at thinking.

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By *aughtybooy OP Man
over a year ago

maidstone

"Umm I'd think you'd need a couple more meets under your belt. People have code words and stuff. I've only done extreme things like that with my ex but we were together years, we'd go down to the canal early hours and he'd jump out on me and attack me in the way you're describing.

Just need to build up trust. "

Thank you

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Safe word always.

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By *aughtybooy OP Man
over a year ago

maidstone

"As its been said, in certain activities you need to have communication, trust and safe words.

If your unsure still, go to a bdsm club in your area and ask questions, learn and explore.

Stay with what you are comfortable doing. But always talk about things both before and after.

Remember just because she is submissive to you, she still has the power to stop it all.

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she is gonna be 100% in control the whole time.

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By *aughtybooy OP Man
over a year ago

maidstone

"As its been said, in certain activities you need to have communication, trust and safe words.

If your unsure still, go to a bdsm club in your area and ask questions, learn and explore.

Stay with what you are comfortable doing. But always talk about things both before and after.

Remember just because she is submissive to you, she still has the power to stop it all.

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By *aughtybooy OP Man
over a year ago

maidstone

"Safe word always.

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By *aughtybooy OP Man
over a year ago

maidstone

Update!!! Filth factor was off the chart! Spent a few hours together the other night and we had the most kinky session I've ever experienced. At some points I was thinking... oh my goodness, she's gotta call a time out soon ! But any sign of her not seeing it through never came. She wanted to submit to me and that's exactly what she did! I ain't stopped smiling since.

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By *ill74Man
over a year ago

New forest area

"Only do what you're comfortable with. Stay safe and don't put yourself in a situation that may get you in to trouble.

Some role play can be mistaken for abuse, assault, etc.

Thank you, I'll definitely not do anything she seems uncomfortable with. "

'Seems uncomfortable with'? How about talking and finding out 1st.

If you both open up, it'll be that much better.

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By *aughtybooy OP Man
over a year ago

maidstone

"Only do what you're comfortable with. Stay safe and don't put yourself in a situation that may get you in to trouble.

Some role play can be mistaken for abuse, assault, etc.

Thank you, I'll definitely not do anything she seems uncomfortable with.

'Seems uncomfortable with'? How about talking and finding out 1st.

If you both open up, it'll be that much better."

We did talk and she did try and tell me that what I say goes! I wasn't sure how far I could take it! Now I'm crystal clear on how far I can take it! , as far as I see fit!

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