FabSwingers.com forum: Am I really that bad??

By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

I've messaged a few hot women near me (live in kent but work in oxford) they're all being deleted... I'm not that bad am I?? I only seem to be attracting guys

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By *-4pleasureCouple
over a year ago

Belfast

"I've messaged a few hot women near me (live in kent but work in oxford) they're all being deleted... I'm not that bad am I?? I only seem to be attracting guys"

Dunno chum, but your pics are like something from a Grattans catalogue. Mmeories of fifty pence a week for 104 weeks...........

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I've messaged a few hot women near me (live in kent but work in oxford) they're all being deleted... I'm not that bad am I?? I only seem to be attracting guys

Dunno chum, but your pics are like something from a Grattans catalogue. Mmeories of fifty pence a week for 104 weeks..........."

Awww, come on. We only slate them if they have multiple cock shots

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

What's grattans? Lol, I am an artist so sometimes take photos too

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"I've messaged a few hot women near me (live in kent but work in oxford) they're all being deleted... I'm not that bad am I?? I only seem to be attracting guys

Dunno chum, but your pics are like something from a Grattans catalogue. Mmeories of fifty pence a week for 104 weeks...........

Awww, come on. We only slate them if they have multiple cock shots

I'd rather tease than bare all haha but Amy lady is welcome yo come verify me;)

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I've messaged a few hot women near me (live in kent but work in oxford) they're all being deleted... I'm not that bad am I?? I only seem to be attracting guys

Dunno chum, but your pics are like something from a Grattans catalogue. Mmeories of fifty pence a week for 104 weeks...........

Awww, come on. We only slate them if they have multiple cock shots

I'd rather tease than bare all haha but Amy lady is welcome yo come verify me;)"

Small screen or fat fingers ?

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"I've messaged a few hot women near me (live in kent but work in oxford) they're all being deleted... I'm not that bad am I?? I only seem to be attracting guys

Dunno chum, but your pics are like something from a Grattans catalogue. Mmeories of fifty pence a week for 104 weeks...........

Awww, come on. We only slate them if they have multiple cock shots

I'd rather tease than bare all haha but Amy lady is welcome yo come verify me;)

Small screen or fat fingers ?

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phone screen, sat on m25 crash ahead

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I've messaged a few hot women near me (live in kent but work in oxford) they're all being deleted... I'm not that bad am I?? I only seem to be attracting guys"

I have read your profile and you certainly do not look dumb so remove that comment.

Confidence is sexy remember.,,,,,,,,

I like your pics. It's a refreshing change not seeing a cock pic Tease is good though. Maybe a little flesh on show to get the imagination flowing.........

You are a handsome male X

Don't give up!

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By *ikeC81Man
over a year ago

harrow

I would say get yourself to a club or social

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"I've messaged a few hot women near me (live in kent but work in oxford) they're all being deleted... I'm not that bad am I?? I only seem to be attracting guys

I have read your profile and you certainly do not look dumb so remove that comment.

I have a nice arse, it's just hairy lol

Confidence is sexy remember.,,,,,,,,

I like your pics. It's a refreshing change not seeing a cock pic Tease is good though. Maybe a little flesh on show to get the imagination flowing.........

You are a handsome male X

Don't give up!"

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I've messaged a few hot women near me (live in kent but work in oxford) they're all being deleted... I'm not that bad am I?? I only seem to be attracting guys

Dunno chum, but your pics are like something from a Grattans catalogue. Mmeories of fifty pence a week for 104 weeks..........."

That's cool for the OP then coz catalogue male models are usually hot XXX

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

If you don't want messages from men use Mail filters.

Good luck.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

at least theyre not al cocks...though you do look awfully sad in the first one..

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"If you don't want messages from men use Mail filters.

Good luck.

I message a guy who would be my 2nd if I where to find a mmf. I'm pretty kinky (nymph) so I keep that unblocked to chat to him.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

You are a relatively young age. Many people have children your age on here, which often doesn't sit well with them from a sexual perspective.

Make sure you are mailing people who seek your age group. Advanced search has an option for this 'they must seek my age group too' box.

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"at least theyre not al cocks...though you do look awfully sad in the first one.."

I'm lonely! I live on ashford, kent, but work in oxford, hell of a commute everyday

Plus I don't know how to smile lol

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Just keep plugging OP. It is a little more difficult when someone isn't verified. Possibly it may be in your better interest to get cam verified? Your pics seem fine.

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"I would say get yourself to a club or social

Wish I had time for that dude

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Well I live 5 miles from you and talk to ladies,maybe it's the messages you send?,personally I send a nice polite well worded opener and hope to hear back,be polite and respectful

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"Just keep plugging OP. It is a little more difficult when someone isn't verified. Possibly it may be in your better interest to get cam verified? Your pics seem fine. "

Will have to figure that out how to cam, I can do on my phone can't I? I spend most my time at work, gym or motorway lol

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I can see why you are attractive to guys

You have a balance between boyishness and masculinity

In terms of success, a few things jump out :

Is it the style of your messages ?

Are you picking wisely in who you send them to ?

What sort of meets are you seeking ?

You do realise you are 'competing' in a numbers game where the odds are stacked against you as a single guy ?

Do you use any other methods of engaging ladies on here ? Forums, chat, cam etc

What were / are your expectations of the site and its members ?

There are probably a few more thd things I could throw in too but am sure others will pick up on them later.

Hope your luck improves

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By *rightonsteveMan
over a year ago

Brighton - even Hove!

I'd say try smiling, try some photos with fewer clothes on and keep the photo with one leg missing cos it's funny.

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"Well I live 5 miles from you and talk to ladies,maybe it's the messages you send?,personally I send a nice polite well worded opener and hope to hear back,be polite and respectful "

I do try, ask to chat see if we click then maybe take it from there... but just read or deleted mainly, lot of TS IN oxford keep messaging lol bit I also search Kent as I live in Ashford but mainly in oxford, 8am to 5pm

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By *rightonsteveMan
over a year ago

Brighton - even Hove!

Text wise, the first bit sounds negative and sounds like you don't have confidence in your self or your own sexuality. Just don't say anything about bi or gay men. Also it negates what you say later about trying anything - clearly you won't, so don't say you will. Tighten up on grammar and sentence construction and you'll be well away.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Just keep plugging OP. It is a little more difficult when someone isn't verified. Possibly it may be in your better interest to get cam verified? Your pics seem fine.

Will have to figure that out how to cam, I can do on my phone can't I? I spend most my time at work, gym or motorway lol"

Well let's hope you.can fit the time in to actually meet women then

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"I can see why you are attractive to guys

You have a balance between boyishness and masculinity

In terms of success, a few things jump out :

Is it the style of your messages ?

Are you picking wisely in who you send them to ?

What sort of meets are you seeking ?

You do realise you are 'competing' in a numbers game where the odds are stacked against you as a single guy ?

Do you use any other methods of engaging ladies on here ? Forums, chat, cam etc

What were / are your expectations of the site and its members ?

There are probably a few more thd things I could throw in too but am sure others will pick up on them later.

Hope your luck improves "
I'm actually in a fucked up situation, I'm married, I'm an environment artist (game designer) work for a big game studio in Oxford, just after getting married I 2ws off3r3e a job in sweden, we were gonna divorce so I could go as she wouldn't follow me but by the time that was on track lost the offer

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"If you don't want messages from men use Mail filters.

Good luck.

I message a guy who would be my 2nd if I where to find a mmf. I'm pretty kinky (nymph) so I keep that unblocked to chat to him. "

Mail filters don't block people you've already mailed so you'll still be able to mail your friend.

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"Just keep plugging OP. It is a little more difficult when someone isn't verified. Possibly it may be in your better interest to get cam verified? Your pics seem fine.

Will have to figure that out how to cam, I can do on my phone can't I? I spend most my time at work, gym or motorway lol

Well let's hope you.can fit the time in to actually meet women then

Always time for ladies

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"If you don't want messages from men use Mail filters.

Good luck.

I message a guy who would be my 2nd if I where to find a mmf. I'm pretty kinky (nymph) so I keep that unblocked to chat to him. "

i may be wrong, but i think you can block men, then if you message him specifically it leaves it clear for communication btw you both..also, Ashford??...now the sad face makes sense...you should get a break purely on the back of that i reckon! poor lad!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I've messaged a few hot women near me (live in kent but work in oxford) they're all being deleted... I'm not that bad am I?? I only seem to be attracting guys

Dunno chum, but your pics are like something from a Grattans catalogue. Mmeories of fifty pence a week for 104 weeks..........."

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I can see why you are attractive to guys

You have a balance between boyishness and masculinity

In terms of success, a few things jump out :

Is it the style of your messages ?

Are you picking wisely in who you send them to ?

What sort of meets are you seeking ?

You do realise you are 'competing' in a numbers game where the odds are stacked against you as a single guy ?

Do you use any other methods of engaging ladies on here ? Forums, chat, cam etc

What were / are your expectations of the site and its members ?

There are probably a few more thd things I could throw in too but am sure others will pick up on them later.

Hope your luck improves I'm actually in a fucked up situation, I'm married, I'm an environment artist (game designer) work for a big game studio in Oxford, just after getting married I 2ws off3r3e a job in sweden, we were gonna divorce so I could go as she wouldn't follow me but by the time that was on track lost the offer"

so, you are married? or not married now?

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By *rive_me_crazyWoman
over a year ago

Calne

"I've messaged a few hot women near me (live in kent but work in oxford) they're all being deleted... I'm not that bad am I?? I only seem to be attracting guys

Dunno chum, but your pics are like something from a Grattans catalogue. Mmeories of fifty pence a week for 104 weeks..........."

That made me genuinely chuckle. Don't forget the face of I've smelt something but can't react!

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"If you don't want messages from men use Mail filters.

Good luck.

I message a guy who would be my 2nd if I where to find a mmf. I'm pretty kinky (nymph) so I keep that unblocked to chat to him.

Just me in ashford, I haven't got the heart to

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I would say get yourself to a club or social

Wish I had time for that dude"

If you don't have time to go to a social or club, how will you have time for a meet?

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"I can see why you are attractive to guys

You have a balance between boyishness and masculinity

In terms of success, a few things jump out :

Is it the style of your messages ?

Are you picking wisely in who you send them to ?

What sort of meets are you seeking ?

You do realise you are 'competing' in a numbers game where the odds are stacked against you as a single guy ?

Do you use any other methods of engaging ladies on here ? Forums, chat, cam etc

What were / are your expectations of the site and its members ?

There are probably a few more thd things I could throw in too but am sure others will pick up on them later.

so, you are married? or not married now?"

Married and just sleeping, hence the oxford location :/

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"I would say get yourself to a club or social

Wish I had time for that dude

If you don't have time to go to a social or club, how will you have time for a meet?

Oh I will go to social clubs just not 247 like some people do

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By *icplshropsCouple
over a year ago

Rock

Nice to see a male profile without any cock pics, but yes, you may attract some more interest if you show a little more flesh.

I can see you have a bit of sense of humour. That line about the 'sword crossing' reminds me of the 80s movie with the scene with 2 glowing condoms having a fight in the dark over a woman in bed, like Star Wars!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I've messaged a few hot women near me (live in kent but work in oxford) they're all being deleted... I'm not that bad am I?? I only seem to be attracting guys

Dunno chum, but your pics are like something from a Grattans catalogue. Mmeories of fifty pence a week for 104 weeks..........."

Apart from the first one. Which looks like his mum's just told him he cant go out to play

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"Nice to see a male profile without any cock pics, but yes, you may attract some more interest if you show a little more flesh.

I have a very witty sense of humour and I think I remember that scene! Thanks for all your advice ladies and gents ! I appreciate it

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By *rightonsteveMan
over a year ago

Brighton - even Hove!

Thanks Steve, I can see you've done ok so thanks for the advice.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Nice to see a male profile without any cock pics, but yes, you may attract some more interest if you show a little more flesh.

what was it called?..drove me mad trying to remember a few weeks ago...couldnt even remember who was in it to look it up? marvellous scene!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"Nice to see a male profile without any cock pics, but yes, you may attract some more interest if you show a little more flesh.

what was it called?..drove me mad trying to remember a few weeks ago...couldnt even remember who was in it to look it up? marvellous scene!"

I'm sure it was van wilder or a spoof movie?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I've messaged a few hot women near me (live in kent but work in oxford) they're all being deleted... I'm not that bad am I?? I only seem to be attracting guys

Dunno chum, but your pics are like something from a Grattans catalogue. Mmeories of fifty pence a week for 104 weeks..........."

LOL Haven't thought about Grattan in years, showing my age now haha

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I would say get yourself to a club or social

Wish I had time for that dude

If you don't have time to go to a social or club, how will you have time for a meet?

Oh I will go to social clubs just not 247 like some people do"

No one suggested that you live in one and it's not nice to judge others that do spend more time. You were asked for advice and were given a very good pointer

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By *eliciousladyWoman
over a year ago

Sometimes U.K

"at least theyre not all cocks...though you do look awfully sad in the first one.."

Am thinking that's the 'mean n moody' look?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I've messaged a few hot women near me (live in kent but work in oxford) they're all being deleted... I'm not that bad am I?? I only seem to be attracting guys

Dunno chum, but your pics are like something from a Grattans catalogue. Mmeories of fifty pence a week for 104 weeks...........

Awww, come on. We only slate them if they have multiple cock shots

I'd rather tease than bare all haha but Amy lady is welcome yo come verify me;)

Small screen or fat fingers ?

phone screen, sat on m25 crash ahead

Probably caused by some prick on his phone

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Thanks Steve, I can see you've done ok so thanks for the advice. "

Mine was ignored too. Wanna share that dummy ya spat out

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"I would say get yourself to a club or social

Wish I had time for that dude

If you don't have time to go to a social or club, how will you have time for a meet?

Oh I will go to social clubs just not 247 like some people do

No one suggested that you live in one and it's not nice to judge others that do spend more time. You were asked for advice and were given a very good pointer "

Sorry if I offended you I didn't mean it like that, I meant it more about being socially active

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"at least theyre not all cocks...though you do look awfully sad in the first one..

Am thinking that's the 'mean n moody' look?"

ah yes..maybe youre right...still, its better than a lolling tongue one..those make me feel a bit sick..

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By *eliciousladyWoman
over a year ago

Sometimes U.K

"I'd say try smiling, try some photos with fewer clothes on and keep the photo with one leg missing cos it's funny. "

1 leg missing? I had to go and look

That's funny

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By *rightonsteveMan
over a year ago

Brighton - even Hove!

"I'd say try smiling, try some photos with fewer clothes on and keep the photo with one leg missing cos it's funny.

1 leg missing? I had to go and look

That's funny

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he could send that and say 'I'm hopping for a meet with you'

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By *rightonsteveMan
over a year ago

Brighton - even Hove!

"Thanks Steve, I can see you've done ok so thanks for the advice.

Mine was ignored too. Wanna share that dummy ya spat out

I thought I'd acknowledge myself.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Firstly well done for only messaging a few. Many guys message lots and lots of ladies who don't fit their or the ladies interests.

You may be doing this already but personalised messages work better. Pick out bits on their profile while also adding a bit about you that isn't on your profile.

Stay possible on your profile and in messages. I'm not saying you are but people who are negative don't come across too well.

Remember you won't be everyone's cup of tea. If a message is deleted take that as a no, block and move on.

Patience is the key. There are lots of men on fab so more competition. Good things come to those who wait.

Good luck.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Thanks Steve, I can see you've done ok so thanks for the advice.

Mine was ignored too. Wanna share that dummy ya spat out

I thought I'd acknowledge myself. "

Acknowledgment, acknowledged

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"Thanks Steve, I can see you've done ok so thanks for the advice.

Mine was ignored too. Wanna share that dummy ya spat out

I thought I'd acknowledge myself.

Acknowledgment, acknowledged

Sorry traffic started moving, I did say thank you lol! Thank you though and Steve and everyone else

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By *olden RatioWoman
over a year ago

Buckinghamshire

"Nice to see a male profile without any cock pics, but yes, you may attract some more interest if you show a little more flesh.

what was it called?..drove me mad trying to remember a few weeks ago...couldnt even remember who was in it to look it up? marvellous scene!"

Was that scene in Spaceballs?

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"Nice to see a male profile without any cock pics, but yes, you may attract some more interest if you show a little more flesh.

what was it called?..drove me mad trying to remember a few weeks ago...couldnt even remember who was in it to look it up? marvellous scene!

Was that scene in Spaceballs?"

Sounds vaguely familiar!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I do believe the glowing condom fight scene was in Skin Deep.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Maybe it's your extreme charisma intimidating people OP

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I do believe the glowing condom fight scene was in Skin Deep.

yes! thanks..it was annoying me all over again! it's a very funny scene...

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I do believe the glowing condom fight scene was in Skin Deep.

yes! thanks..it was annoying me all over again! it's a very funny scene..."

Yeah I remembered it from years ago, I've just watched it on YouTube

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

" "I'm actually in a fucked up situation, I'm married,""

Ah. So the truth finally came out. Grow a pair and tell her you're on here then do the decent thing and leave her to get on with her life. It isn't the situation that's fucked up

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I've messaged a few hot women near me (live in kent but work in oxford) they're all being deleted... I'm not that bad am I?? I only seem to be attracting guys"

You just need a veri to get you started!

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By *rightonsteveMan
over a year ago

Brighton - even Hove!

" "I'm actually in a fucked up situation, I'm married,"

Ah. So the truth finally came out. Grow a pair and tell her you're on here then do the decent thing and leave her to get on with her life. It isn't the situation that's fucked up

Please don't spoil the forum thread by making personal comments to the op. Your comment adds nothing to the discussion and displays a lack of etiquette and is a simplistic view of a situation you know nothing about.

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By *randMrsGrey51Couple
over a year ago

Ramsgate

You have a very good profile, it's witty and to the point, I agree with a previous post remove the dumb comment, be confident but not arrogant, us women like that.

The pics are ok but add something to tease us a little, you need a few pics to light the fire in us and tease a little.

Be patient it will happen for you.... but remember this is all about having fun, so don't take it too seriously..

Good luck

Mandy xx

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