FabSwingers.com mobile

Join us FREE, we're FREE to use

Web's largest swingers site since 2006.

Already registered?
Login here

Back to forum list
Back to Swingers Chat

Aaaaarghhhh!!!

Jump to newest
 

By *yrdwoman OP   Woman
over a year ago

Putting the 'cum' in Eboracum

Why is it, when I am chatting to guys with a _iew to arrange a meet, they ask if I can bring a female friend??

I might be wrong (and quite willing to admit it if others on here think so) but I think it is rude for a guy to ask a woman, after one or two messages, if they can bring a female friend. #1 none of my IRL friends swing #2 how do you know I won't be enough for you and #3 how would you feel if I told you to bring another guy so I can watch him boning you?

So rude!

Reply privatelyReply in forumReply +quote
 

By *ricky_DickyMan
over a year ago

Mirfield

would never dream of asking a lady to bring another female friend along to a meet especially a first meet, rude probably, cheeky most certainly.

Reply privatelyReply in forumReply +quote
 

By *yrdwoman OP   Woman
over a year ago

Putting the 'cum' in Eboracum


"would never dream of asking a lady to bring another female friend along to a meet especially a first meet, rude probably, cheeky most certainly."

Yeah I could be over reacting but it is very cheeky.

Reply privatelyReply in forumReply +quote
 

By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

can I bring me dog then?

Reply privatelyReply in forumReply +quote
 

By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

haha it is rude but god loves a trier :D

Reply privatelyReply in forumReply +quote
 

By *awty_MissDynomiteNo1Woman
over a year ago

No idea, I'm lost. Damn Sat nav!

had this many times before too i wouldnt mind so much if we'd had fun and got to know each other then they asked .

Reply privatelyReply in forumReply +quote
 

By *iewMan
Forum Mod
over a year ago

Angus & Findhorn

But remember his desire to have the ultimate male bragging story.... The FFM.

He was very focused on the sexual pleasure of both females and not just the above.

Reply privatelyReply in forumReply +quote
 

By *urvyhornygirlWoman
over a year ago

hull


"Why is it, when I am chatting to guys with a _iew to arrange a meet, they ask if I can bring a female friend??

I might be wrong (and quite willing to admit it if others on here think so) but I think it is rude for a guy to ask a woman, after one or two messages, if they can bring a female friend. #1 none of my IRL friends swing #2 how do you know I won't be enough for you and #3 how would you feel if I told you to bring another guy so I can watch him boning you?

So rude! "
And so so stupid. They've managed to get to the arrange a meet point n then just throw it all away! Lol X

Reply privatelyReply in forumReply +quote
 

By *yrdwoman OP   Woman
over a year ago

Putting the 'cum' in Eboracum


"had this many times before too i wouldnt mind so much if we'd had fun and got to know each other then they asked ."

Yes, wouldn't mind that, but at least chuck one in me before planning the dessert!

Reply privatelyReply in forumReply +quote
 

By *londieddWoman
over a year ago

fife

I hope you then tell him to get lost as he's blown his chance so many men on here think we are free prostitutes and they just have to pick one they fancy

Reply privatelyReply in forumReply +quote
 

By *yrdwoman OP   Woman
over a year ago

Putting the 'cum' in Eboracum


"I hope you then tell him to get lost as he's blown his chance so many men on here think we are free prostitutes and they just have to pick one they fancy "

It has put me off. If I meet I'll be wondering whether he'd rather be elsewhere.

Reply privatelyReply in forumReply +quote
 

By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

...and it'll be his loss...

Very strange thing to ask... You've got to wonder...

Reply privatelyReply in forumReply +quote
 

By *emima_puddlefuckCouple
over a year ago

hexham


"Why is it, when I am chatting to guys with a _iew to arrange a meet, they ask if I can bring a female friend??

I might be wrong (and quite willing to admit it if others on here think so) but I think it is rude for a guy to ask a woman, after one or two messages, if they can bring a female friend. #1 none of my IRL friends swing #2 how do you know I won't be enough for you and #3 how would you feel if I told you to bring another guy so I can watch him boning you?

So rude! "

Now now you know you are only here to fulfil the fantasies of men...who all know that bi women consider sex with each other as nothing more than foreplay.

Now get back in the kitchen and stop having preferences!

Reply privatelyReply in forumReply +quote
 

By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I hope you then tell him to get lost as he's blown his chance so many men on here think we are free prostitutes and they just have to pick one they fancy

It has put me off. If I meet I'll be wondering whether he'd rather be elsewhere."

You know the answer to that don't meet him

Reply privatelyReply in forumReply +quote
 

By *yrdwoman OP   Woman
over a year ago

Putting the 'cum' in Eboracum


"Why is it, when I am chatting to guys with a _iew to arrange a meet, they ask if I can bring a female friend??

I might be wrong (and quite willing to admit it if others on here think so) but I think it is rude for a guy to ask a woman, after one or two messages, if they can bring a female friend. #1 none of my IRL friends swing #2 how do you know I won't be enough for you and #3 how would you feel if I told you to bring another guy so I can watch him boning you?

So rude!

Now now you know you are only here to fulfil the fantasies of men...who all know that bi women consider sex with each other as nothing more than foreplay.

Now get back in the kitchen and stop having preferences! "

Yes, I should have offered to make him a sandwish straight away!

Reply privatelyReply in forumReply +quote
 

By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I'd be more than happy just having a meet with you.

Reply privatelyReply in forumReply +quote
 

By *he_original_poloWoman
over a year ago

a Primark shoebox in Leicester

I ask bi guys if they fancy another guy joining in all the time.... even in a first message. I enjoy 3somes.... does that make me rude?

Is it really rude to ask someone if they want more than just a 1-2-1 on a swinging site? Is that what swinging has come to.... asking if there is the option for other people to be involved is now rude.... really?

Isn't it better that people are open and honest and ask..... or are only women allowed to do that and men have to pretend the idea of a 3some is the last thing on their mind.

Do you see many men having a hissy on the forum saying "am I not enough for you" when a woman wants a gang-bang..... how fucking rude is she? Wanting a gang-bang and not making each guy feel special on a one to one basis first.

**off to check I am still logged into a swinging site**

Reply privatelyReply in forumReply +quote
 

By *ingmasterMan
over a year ago

nottingham


"I ask bi guys if they fancy another guy joining in all the time.... even in a first message. I enjoy 3somes.... does that make me rude?

Is it really rude to ask someone if they want more than just a 1-2-1 on a swinging site? Is that what swinging has come to.... asking if there is the option for other people to be involved is now rude.... really?

Isn't it better that people are open and honest and ask..... or are only women allowed to do that and men have to pretend the idea of a 3some is the last thing on their mind.

Do you see many men having a hissy on the forum saying "am I not enough for you" when a woman wants a gang-bang..... how fucking rude is she? Wanting a gang-bang and not making each guy feel special on a one to one basis first.

**off to check I am still logged into a swinging site**"

Polo .I salute you . as always .

Reply privatelyReply in forumReply +quote
 

By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I hope you then tell him to get lost as he's blown his chance so many men on here think we are free prostitutes and they just have to pick one they fancy "

I couldn't agree more. A huge number of guys think of Fabs as a chance for a free quick and dirty without having to pay for the privilege. I think I must be fortunate that I have only been asked if the girl can come and play mid meet lol although being asked 'are you sure you're not bi?' mid shag is also a bit off.

Reply privatelyReply in forumReply +quote
 

By *outhlondondudeMan
over a year ago

london

HAHAHAHA! I love this! So funnnnniieeee!

Reply privatelyReply in forumReply +quote
 

By *ountyladMan
over a year ago

chelmsford

Well you know the trouble with guys.....they always want it 3 times....until they've had it once. LOL xx

Reply privatelyReply in forumReply +quote
 

By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Isn't he just stating what he would Like from the meet, which is what we always do so people can choose if the. want to be involved. I had 3 single bi guys over, asked each one prior that they were bi and they were happy with playing with 2 other guys cos that was my fantasy. If they had said no then I wouldn't have invited them round as straight men are not my preference. Fem.

Reply privatelyReply in forumReply +quote
 

By *ricky_DickyMan
over a year ago

Mirfield

If folk are honest an up front about what they want from a meet I don't see a problem. The problem is when after a few messages you are lead to believe one thing and when the other party thinks they got it in the bag decide they want to change the rules or want something extra out of the meet.

Reply privatelyReply in forumReply +quote
 

By *he_original_poloWoman
over a year ago

a Primark shoebox in Leicester


"If folk are honest an up front about what they want from a meet I don't see a problem. The problem is when after a few messages you are lead to believe one thing and when the other party thinks they got it in the bag decide they want to change the rules or want something extra out of the meet."

So you are not allowed to explore what other options might be up for discussion?

Reply privatelyReply in forumReply +quote
 

By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I don't mind the 3some thing happening but at least meet me first and we chat about it lol. It is true that women will say they want 2 men or 3,4,5 men and it isn't thought of as rude. If a man was to say how about we find 4 girlies for me to shag it would be the total opposite reaction. Do women have the upper hand of fab???

Reply privatelyReply in forumReply +quote
 

By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I don't mind the 3some thing happening but at least meet me first and we chat about it lol. It is true that women will say they want 2 men or 3,4,5 men and it isn't thought of as rude. If a man was to say how about we find 4 girlies for me to shag it would be the total opposite reaction. Do women have the upper hand of fab??? "

"upper hand on fab".....can't write today lol. Must be the friday dafty in me

Reply privatelyReply in forumReply +quote
 

By *icboyMan
over a year ago

Glasgow

Certainly single ladies have the upper hand.

Is it too late to put my order in for 4 lovely ladies for some fun.

Reply privatelyReply in forumReply +quote
 

By *ricky_DickyMan
over a year ago

Mirfield


"If folk are honest an up front about what they want from a meet I don't see a problem. The problem is when after a few messages you are lead to believe one thing and when the other party thinks they got it in the bag decide they want to change the rules or want something extra out of the meet.

So you are not allowed to explore what other options might be up for discussion?"

If options are available ie. indicated on a profile or initial message then yes they should be open to be explored or ruled out. I get the impression from the OP that what was asked of her was not an option.

Reply privatelyReply in forumReply +quote
 

By *he_original_poloWoman
over a year ago

a Primark shoebox in Leicester


"If folk are honest an up front about what they want from a meet I don't see a problem. The problem is when after a few messages you are lead to believe one thing and when the other party thinks they got it in the bag decide they want to change the rules or want something extra out of the meet.

So you are not allowed to explore what other options might be up for discussion?

If options are available ie. indicated on a profile or initial message then yes they should be open to be explored or ruled out. I get the impression from the OP that what was asked of her was not an option."

Have you read the opening of the OP's profile?

Reply privatelyReply in forumReply +quote
 

By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"If folk are honest an up front about what they want from a meet I don't see a problem. The problem is when after a few messages you are lead to believe one thing and when the other party thinks they got it in the bag decide they want to change the rules or want something extra out of the meet.

So you are not allowed to explore what other options might be up for discussion?

If options are available ie. indicated on a profile or initial message then yes they should be open to be explored or ruled out. I get the impression from the OP that what was asked of her was not an option.

Have you read the opening of the OP's profile?"

I think the OP, and im guessing here, is saying that after you explore all your interests and wants with somebody, finally get to a point to where you arrange a meet, and thats no mean feet, the person then changes the goal posts. Of course you can ask these things without being rude, but id say its more tactful to do it at the start.

I do take your point though, there does seem to be a hierarchy in swinging where on the top is single females then couples and the grunts are the single males and it seems that everyone but the grunts, can complain about the smallest thing. When really it should be just the nice folk and the assholes.

Reply privatelyReply in forumReply +quote
 

By *he_original_poloWoman
over a year ago

a Primark shoebox in Leicester


" ..... when I am chatting to guys with a _iew to arrange a meet....

..... after one or two messages "

To me that sounds like still being at the exploring options stage.

There are of course times when boundaries of the first meet have been clearly set and agreed when it would not be appropriate to start trying to move the lines.

I don't know about you, but I'm rarely talking about such things in a first or second message.

Reply privatelyReply in forumReply +quote
 

By *unky monkeyMan
over a year ago

in the night garden

I never get what the big attraction is to FFM. If you are a true man, you can't multi-task and therefore can barely manage to poke one bottom, fuck a fanny and tweak a nipple while kissing. Now if I multiplied that by two, firstly I dont have enough appendages and secondly my mind would melt and trickle out of my ear.

I'm all for MMF, a bit of help while battening down the hatches is always good.

Reply privatelyReply in forumReply +quote
 

By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I never get what the big attraction is to FFM. If you are a true man, you can't multi-task and therefore can barely manage to poke one bottom, fuck a fanny and tweak a nipple while kissing. Now if I multiplied that by two, firstly I dont have enough appendages and secondly my mind would melt and trickle out of my ear.

I'm all for MMF, a bit of help while battening down the hatches is always good."

haha yea its usually a case of me looking at them going at it, getting all excited, blowing my load in the first 5 mins and then back to me looking at them again and wishing i was more of a bloke while fumbling around in my jeans for the last viagra

Reply privatelyReply in forumReply +quote
 

By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I ask bi guys if they fancy another guy joining in all the time.... even in a first message. I enjoy 3somes.... does that make me rude?

Is it really rude to ask someone if they want more than just a 1-2-1 on a swinging site? Is that what swinging has come to.... asking if there is the option for other people to be involved is now rude.... really?

Isn't it better that people are open and honest and ask..... or are only women allowed to do that and men have to pretend the idea of a 3some is the last thing on their mind.

Do you see many men having a hissy on the forum saying "am I not enough for you" when a woman wants a gang-bang..... how fucking rude is she? Wanting a gang-bang and not making each guy feel special on a one to one basis first.

**off to check I am still logged into a swinging site**"

Finally some sense from this thread!

Reply privatelyReply in forumReply +quote
 

By *yrdwoman OP   Woman
over a year ago

Putting the 'cum' in Eboracum


"I ask bi guys if they fancy another guy joining in all the time.... even in a first message. I enjoy 3somes.... does that make me rude?

Is it really rude to ask someone if they want more than just a 1-2-1 on a swinging site? Is that what swinging has come to.... asking if there is the option for other people to be involved is now rude.... really?

Isn't it better that people are open and honest and ask..... or are only women allowed to do that and men have to pretend the idea of a 3some is the last thing on their mind.

Do you see many men having a hissy on the forum saying "am I not enough for you" when a woman wants a gang-bang..... how fucking rude is she? Wanting a gang-bang and not making each guy feel special on a one to one basis first.

**off to check I am still logged into a swinging site**"

As I said, I didn't expect all to agree with me and if that works for you, excellent. However, as someone posted after you, when the arrangements have been made and a date about to be set I do not appreciate someone saying 'oh, and can you bring a friend'. Either say it up front, so I know what you're after, or wait til we've actually met then bring it up.

But then I guess, if you think I should feel honoured, then I will gratefully allow him to arrange the meet to please only him. Sorry for ranting on here.

Reply privatelyReply in forumReply +quote
 

By *he_original_poloWoman
over a year ago

a Primark shoebox in Leicester


" As I said, I didn't expect all to agree with me and if that works for you, excellent. However, as someone posted after you, when the arrangements have been made and a date about to be set I do not appreciate someone saying 'oh, and can you bring a friend'. Either say it up front, so I know what you're after, or wait til we've actually met then bring it up.

But then I guess, if you think I should feel honoured, then I will gratefully allow him to arrange the meet to please only him. Sorry for ranting on here."

I don't think anyone should feel honoured about anything.

I agree if the (and have stated so in this thread) there is a point when arrangements have been made and boundaries set, it is probably not appropriate to move the line.

However, as you said, your experience was 'after one or two messages' when you are only chatting with a '_iew to meeting'.... doesn't that count as 'up front'?

Or may be you are right. He should have bit the bullet and gone through with meeting you without mentioning why he thought you would be the right person to contact.... and see if the end justified the means.

Reply privatelyReply in forumReply +quote
 

By *hite SnakeMan
over a year ago

leeds

More important make sure your tent doesnt leak in september (you are coming arent you)

Reply privatelyReply in forumReply +quote
 

By *yrdwoman OP   Woman
over a year ago

Putting the 'cum' in Eboracum


"Or may be you are right. He should have bit the bullet and gone through with meeting you without mentioning why he thought you would be the right person to contact.... and see if the end justified the means. "

I think the problem is more that I would feel that he'd rather be with someone else, so no, I would not be the right person to contact. I am bi, but on my own terms.

Reply privatelyReply in forumReply +quote
 

By *yrdwoman OP   Woman
over a year ago

Putting the 'cum' in Eboracum


"More important make sure your tent doesnt leak in september (you are coming arent you)"

No, I doubt it. Although I enjoyed that weekend very much, I think Youtopia is more for couples than single ladies. But thanks for thinking about me!

Reply privatelyReply in forumReply +quote
 

By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I have stopped chatting to a guy on here as when I mention that I am going to see my friend with benefits, he tries to invite himself along and he also wants mentions meeting me with a female, yet we haven't met socially!

Wanders off singing"another one bites the dust"

Reply privatelyReply in forumReply +quote
 

By *ittlemorespiceCouple
over a year ago

North Cornwall

Haven't really had this happen but have had them flaked out mumbling something about iesh they had brought a mate along.....if that counts (cue evil laugh)

Mistress x

Reply privatelyReply in forumReply +quote
 

By *rs ColourfulCouple
over a year ago

Newton Abbot


"Why is it, when I am chatting to guys with a _iew to arrange a meet, they ask if I can bring a female friend??

I might be wrong (and quite willing to admit it if others on here think so) but I think it is rude for a guy to ask a woman, after one or two messages, if they can bring a female friend. #1 none of my IRL friends swing #2 how do you know I won't be enough for you and #3 how would you feel if I told you to bring another guy so I can watch him boning you?

So rude! "

OMG i would be rich if I had a tenner everytime I was asked the same question... and yes it gets very annoying and very off putting too...

Reply privatelyReply in forumReply +quote
 

By *anther10158Couple
over a year ago

Burgess hill

They are surely NUTS !

Reply privatelyReply in forumReply +quote
 

By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I'd love to meet you _yrdwoman but to far to walk as my cars poorly x

Reply privatelyReply in forumReply +quote
 

By *he_original_poloWoman
over a year ago

a Primark shoebox in Leicester


"

I think the problem is more that I would feel that he'd rather be with someone else...."

I rather suspected that might be the/part of the underlying problem.... not just from your comments but the comments of other women too.

You've gotta take your hat off to couples for managing to get around that one hey.... and guys at gangbangs come to think of it.

Reply privatelyReply in forumReply +quote
 

By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

In certain circumstances it is bit of a cheek.

If I was looking for a gangbang type scenario, I would mention this in the very first message to guys I was approaching. I would not message them asking for meets and then casually drop it into the conversation 3 or 4 messages down the line. If you dont mention it from the off then you are giving false information out to people, as they are assuming its a one on one meet.

I have spoken to guys and been interested in meeting. Then before the meet, tends to be when speaking to my OH, they have asked if they could bring a mate. I respond by telling them that I am not a free for all and not something that they can share with their friends. And I cancel any arrangements. What a fucking liberty!

Reply privatelyReply in forumReply +quote
 

By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

For me the rude part of it is that someone is bringing alone someone else that I am expected to fuck - its not my choice its theres. And that isnt going to happen. Noone chooses or expects me to have sex with their choice of playmates

Reply privatelyReply in forumReply +quote
 
 

By *umpkinMan
over a year ago

near the sounds of the wimborne quarter jack!

Not long after I`d joined here, I was messaged by a local squaddie who had "a dead cert meet with two girls" and "would I like to join him?"

Well I do like to meet people and chat to them before I decide if I`m going to play and besides, these girls were way below my lower age range anyway. But I think the squaddie knew I`d got the measure of him when I told him to "get his own bloody taxi!"

Reply privatelyReply in forumReply +quote
Post new Message to Thread
back to top