FabSwingers.com forum: Soft swing - what does this say to you?

By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

Just been asked what we mean by soft swing if I'm not bi. I thought soft swing just wasn't full swap but looks like the peeps who messaged us interpret as meaning the female's bi. What does soft swing say to you? Just interested - have I got my profile wrong?

Mrs R

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Soft swing means something different for everyone else.for me it means kissing foreplay but no actually peterentated sex.only.with your own partner.

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By *anictechCouple
over a year ago

Glasgow - ish ;-)

Soft swing to us? we never got a DVD in for the night. Each to their own, but soft swing means much frustration and no fun.

Swing is different things to different people, for us it's full swap for you its maybe soft swing and thats cool, what ever stage your at? happy swinging XxX MT

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By *ofakindCouple
over a year ago

Running with Monkeys

"Soft swing means something different for everyone else.for me it means kissing foreplay but no actually peterentated sex.only.with your own partner."

Same here, it doesnt matter whether kissing and foreplay is with the guy or girl... But what about for example if the fem was to make the guy come?

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

That's what I thought - foreplay and penetration with own partner only

Glad I wasn't misinterpreting this...

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I'd do soft swing with a view to a shag, afterwards or later lol..I'm variable lol

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By *ofakindCouple
over a year ago

Running with Monkeys

"That's what I thought - foreplay and penetration with own partner only

Glad I wasn't misinterpreting this... "

I think foreplay can be with anyone but the penetration is with own partner

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"That's what I thought - foreplay and penetration with own partner only

Glad I wasn't misinterpreting this...

I think foreplay can be with anyone but the penetration is with own partner"

Exactually

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By *ooneyCouple
over a year ago

Chester

soft cock lol

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

That's why we also say we're both straight on our profile - so it's clear we don't play bi (just not for us).

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Have done both, and had great fun doing both

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By *anictechCouple
over a year ago

Glasgow - ish ;-)

"Just been asked what we mean by soft swing if I'm not bi. I thought soft swing just wasn't full swap but looks like the peeps who messaged us interpret as meaning the female's bi. What does soft swing say to you? Just interested - have I got my profile wrong?

Mrs R

This is us alone answereing: Soft swing is non swapping of partners for what ever reason.. I (fem) have a had a hard job definging what (soft swap is) if u dont. Swing is what ever you want it to be, there are no rules. Except your own. It has nothing whatsoever to do with being bisexual XxX

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By *ofakindCouple
over a year ago

Running with Monkeys

"Soft swing is non swapping of partners for what ever reason..."

isnt that voyuerism?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

We (as probably most people) have our own version of softswap, its no different to any other form of swinging as all folk have different boundries as to where they feel comfortable.

As to the issue regarding fem-fem involvement, nobody has to subject or to insist that this is "normal" practice. Again this is personal preference and should be respected as such.

We prefer softswap, but thats just us, if potential "play partners" want to know more its up to them (or us) to enquire, as its the only way you`ll begin to understand your compatibility.

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By *ornyHorwichCpl aka HHCCouple
over a year ago

horwich

Soft swing to us is all but penetrative sex with the other couple other half.

People knock soft swing but we have had some of the horniest soft swing meets, better than full swap sometimes, but it's about how much effort you put in and how much imagination you have.

Personally we prefer the ladies to be bi because I am and love it but everyone is different.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Soft swing to us is all but penetrative sex with the other couple other half.

People knock soft swing but we have had some of the horniest soft swing meets, better than full swap sometimes, but it's about how much effort you put in and how much imagination you have.

Personally we prefer the ladies to be bi because I am and love it but everyone is different."

Here here, well put.......

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"... But what about for example if the fem was to make the guy come?"

Thats compulsory in our definition.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

i consider soft swing as oral with others, of any gender, full sex with own partner or if your single no full sex

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By *ofakindCouple
over a year ago

Running with Monkeys

"... But what about for example if the fem was to make the guy come?

Thats compulsory in our definition.

ok i should have said the other fem?

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By *obblybitsCouple
over a year ago

huddersfield

I see soft swing to be everything but intercourse

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"... But what about for example if the fem was to make the guy come?

Thats compulsory in our definition.

ok i should have said the other fem? "

So is that.

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By *ofakindCouple
over a year ago

Running with Monkeys

"... But what about for example if the fem was to make the guy come?

Thats compulsory in our definition.

ok i should have said the other fem?

So is that.

Okay lol were mainly a soft swing couple but have been known to full swap with the right people it depends on how comfortable kimberley feels, i enjoy full swap but she prefers soft so only go at her pace

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"... But what about for example if the fem was to make the guy come?

Thats compulsory in our definition.

ok i should have said the other fem?

So is that.

Thats how it should be, your absolutely right to feel and continue that way, thats mutual respect, I applaud you in your understanding in your relationship.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Soft Swing...

Touchy Feely No Puttie In

methinks

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Soft Swing...

Touchy Feely No Puttie In

methinks

Life can be cruel at times.

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By *amschwingerzCouple
over a year ago

West

In the accepted sense it normally means 'ultimate' saved for own partner...but there are variations depending on how far people are willng to go...we would stop at anything that involved licking or sucking...petting is fine

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By *emima_puddlefuckCouple
over a year ago

hexham

Mrs R

To us it means no penetration, if the fem is straight we arent interested as we can watch other ppl fuck on cam.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Soft swing to us is all but penetrative sex with the other couple other half.

People knock soft swing but we have had some of the horniest soft swing meets, better than full swap sometimes, but it's about how much effort you put in and how much imagination you have.

Personally we prefer the ladies to be bi because I am and love it but everyone is different."

Totally agree with the above, and soft swap can be very, very erotic

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Mrs R

To us it means no penetration, if the fem is straight we arent interested as we can watch other ppl fuck on cam."

i'd still watch but demand fannyjuice splatter...at least i'm not touching hehe

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Agrees... We a soft swap cpl ( the mrs bi ) Love watchin mrs having fun with another fem Kissing touching its such a turn on for me on the plus side after watching 2 ladys plz each othere for hours i get to fuck my misuss all over after

xxx

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By *ENDAROOSCouple
over a year ago

South West London / Surrey

"Soft swing to us is all but penetrative sex with the other couple other half.

People knock soft swing but we have had some of the horniest soft swing meets, better than full swap sometimes, but it's about how much effort you put in and how much imagination you have.

Personally we prefer the ladies to be bi because I am and love it but everyone is different."

Agrees....very well put

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

We soft swapped for a long time. To us it means indulging in touching and oral but only having penetrative sex with your own partner.

we still tend to soft swap in clubs, sometimes we will do more but its not essential to full swap. I never feel frustrated and I steer clear of couples who demand full swap as I don't want to follow a set agenda. I have great sex with my OH and am happy with that, I don't need to have full sex with another guy in order to feel fulfilled.

My OH enjoys seeing me with other guys so full swap tends to happen more with single guys.

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By *amschwingerzCouple
over a year ago

West

I guess its all about limitations and turn on'offs...personal preferences.

I have noted that a lot of people, women, find 'ultimate' too intrusive or too personal..and prefer to keep to their own partners.

Some may look at the health/pregnancy aspect more..

On the two occasions we swapped (albeit soft) intercourse was out of the question as my wife and the husband of the other couple were both fertile..and neither of them liked using dunkies..

So that was that..lines drawn in the sand..job done, no problem either.

Now we are more concerned about the health/STD aspect..and wont even do oral..and given that there are no couples on here who are into just petting etc then that more or less excludes us from any fun/clubs social stuff...but we are fine with that and except it.

I dont think people look down their noses at us or softies on here..but they should think about trying it..even just as alternative for a change..it isnt so bad and can be a turn on..maybe not for the hard core sex only type swingers but it can be enjoyable..honest...x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I sometimes do wonder why couples who are so close and in love and say they enjoy watching each other, dont seem to want to touch each other whilst swinging with another couple and only seem focused on the new person they are with

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

to us soft swap is girl/girl or everything but penertration. to us swinging wether soft or full involves some contact anything else would be like us getting a dvd or web cam .

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

To me soft swap says they have limitations that need discussing prior to a meet.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"To me soft swap says they have limitations that need discussing prior to a meet.

well said

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"To me soft swap says they have limitations that need discussing prior to a meet.

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yes thats the basic of soft swop

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By *anictechCouple
over a year ago

Glasgow - ish ;-)

Mrs R

Swing is what ever you want it to be, soft, full swap? it's always ur call. Make it clear on profile preference, and it will never be a problem with most folks. If it is? its their problem.

Good luck MT XxX

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By *umourCouple
over a year ago

Rushden

Soft swing to us normally means a more sensual time! The other guy isn't just trying to get the rabbit in the burrow! Some of our best times have been soft swap.

Soft swap for us is anything but penetration. We do full swap as well, but we are not desperate enough to demand it of every meet! Someone on here once said that soft swap is like cooking a gourmet meal and putting it straight in the bin! OK, I can see what they are saying although we think that is a horrible thing to say, but obviously I like licking the plate!

(Disclaimer.. This is my (our) opinion and I don’t give an elephants left bollock if you agree or not! If you don’t, ignore!)

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