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"You can't....she is either into it or she isn't. The usual advice is show her your profile on here and see what she thinks." None of us were born into it! It's a sub-culture that someone at some time introduced us to and we took to it. | |||
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"Any advice from experienced swingers. I want to broach the abject with my wife but she is very conservative! " Starting a conversation about monogamy is a good starting point. But marrying a conservative wife wasn't really the best strategy if you wanted to be a swinger. | |||
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"What do you mean conservative? Why do you want to get her involved? So she can fuck lots of men?" Yes basically. That turns me on | |||
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"Any advice from experienced swingers. I want to broach the abject with my wife but she is very conservative! " i am really tempted to give you the flippant answer of "you could always show her your profile, and she can see what fun you have been having without her....." but seriously... if you were looking to have fun as a couple would it been wise to have done this together from the start after all, its a bit late to be having a honest conversation about this, unless it starts "i am been doing this without you and now i want you to join me"..... | |||
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"Any advice from experienced swingers. I want to broach the abject with my wife but she is very conservative! i am really tempted to give you the flippant answer of "you could always show her your profile, and she can see what fun you have been having without her....." but seriously... if you were looking to have fun as a couple would it been wise to have done this together from the start after all, its a bit late to be having a honest conversation about this, unless it starts "i am been doing this without you and now i want you to join me"..... " It's never too late. | |||
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"Any advice from experienced swingers. I want to broach the abject with my wife but she is very conservative! i am really tempted to give you the flippant answer of "you could always show her your profile, and she can see what fun you have been having without her....." but seriously... if you were looking to have fun as a couple would it been wise to have done this together from the start after all, its a bit late to be having a honest conversation about this, unless it starts "i am been doing this without you and now i want you to join me"..... It's never too late." It really is though. Some people are naturally monogamous and would be disgusted at the idea of sharing their partner or being shared. | |||
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"Any advice from experienced swingers. I want to broach the abject with my wife but she is very conservative! " As other posters have said, your can't get her 'interested' unless she already has that interest already. Will she watch porn? If you haven't broached the subject already, you could sit down with her and watch porn showing threesomes, etc. and see how she reacts, and ask her had she ever thought about? You'll soon see if she's into it or not. But don't try to false her, as swing partners will soon tell. | |||
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"Any advice from experienced swingers. I want to broach the abject with my wife but she is very conservative! i am really tempted to give you the flippant answer of "you could always show her your profile, and she can see what fun you have been having without her....." but seriously... if you were looking to have fun as a couple would it been wise to have done this together from the start after all, its a bit late to be having a honest conversation about this, unless it starts "i am been doing this without you and now i want you to join me"..... It's never too late. It really is though. Some people are naturally monogamous and would be disgusted at the idea of sharing their partner or being shared. " I meant it's never too late to talk. If she won't swing, he still has the option of swinging alone. | |||
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"Any advice from experienced swingers. I want to broach the abject with my wife but she is very conservative! i am really tempted to give you the flippant answer of "you could always show her your profile, and she can see what fun you have been having without her....." but seriously... if you were looking to have fun as a couple would it been wise to have done this together from the start after all, its a bit late to be having a honest conversation about this, unless it starts "i am been doing this without you and now i want you to join me"..... It's never too late. It really is though. Some people are naturally monogamous and would be disgusted at the idea of sharing their partner or being shared. I meant it's never too late to talk. If she won't swing, he still has the option of swinging alone." Gotcha! I'm always bemused how many people wait until they get married to have a conversation about whether they want to be monogamous or not! | |||
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"Any advice from experienced swingers. I want to broach the abject with my wife but she is very conservative! i am really tempted to give you the flippant answer of "you could always show her your profile, and she can see what fun you have been having without her....." but seriously... if you were looking to have fun as a couple would it been wise to have done this together from the start after all, its a bit late to be having a honest conversation about this, unless it starts "i am been doing this without you and now i want you to join me"..... It's never too late. It really is though. Some people are naturally monogamous and would be disgusted at the idea of sharing their partner or being shared. I meant it's never too late to talk. If she won't swing, he still has the option of swinging alone. Gotcha! I'm always bemused how many people wait until they get married to have a conversation about whether they want to be monogamous or not! " People and relationships change over time though, and their wants and needs. | |||
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"Any advice from experienced swingers. I want to broach the abject with my wife but she is very conservative! i am really tempted to give you the flippant answer of "you could always show her your profile, and she can see what fun you have been having without her....." but seriously... if you were looking to have fun as a couple would it been wise to have done this together from the start after all, its a bit late to be having a honest conversation about this, unless it starts "i am been doing this without you and now i want you to join me"..... It's never too late. It really is though. Some people are naturally monogamous and would be disgusted at the idea of sharing their partner or being shared. I meant it's never too late to talk. If she won't swing, he still has the option of swinging alone. Gotcha! I'm always bemused how many people wait until they get married to have a conversation about whether they want to be monogamous or not! People and relationships change over time though, and their wants and needs." Perhaps. I believe people are either monoganous or not by nature, i don't believe it changes. I think a lot of men are scared to have difficult conversations in the early days of a relationship to establish whether the other person is on the same page as them. | |||
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"Any advice from experienced swingers. I want to broach the abject with my wife but she is very conservative! i am really tempted to give you the flippant answer of "you could always show her your profile, and she can see what fun you have been having without her....." but seriously... if you were looking to have fun as a couple would it been wise to have done this together from the start after all, its a bit late to be having a honest conversation about this, unless it starts "i am been doing this without you and now i want you to join me"..... It's never too late. It really is though. Some people are naturally monogamous and would be disgusted at the idea of sharing their partner or being shared. I meant it's never too late to talk. If she won't swing, he still has the option of swinging alone. Gotcha! I'm always bemused how many people wait until they get married to have a conversation about whether they want to be monogamous or not! People and relationships change over time though, and their wants and needs. Perhaps. I believe people are either monoganous or not by nature, i don't believe it changes. I think a lot of men are scared to have difficult conversations in the early days of a relationship to establish whether the other person is on the same page as them. " Circumstances can make people change their views on monogamy. Things happen in life and people do change, I've experienced it first hand. | |||
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"Any advice from experienced swingers. I want to broach the abject with my wife but she is very conservative! i am really tempted to give you the flippant answer of "you could always show her your profile, and she can see what fun you have been having without her....." but seriously... if you were looking to have fun as a couple would it been wise to have done this together from the start after all, its a bit late to be having a honest conversation about this, unless it starts "i am been doing this without you and now i want you to join me"..... It's never too late. It really is though. Some people are naturally monogamous and would be disgusted at the idea of sharing their partner or being shared. I meant it's never too late to talk. If she won't swing, he still has the option of swinging alone. Gotcha! I'm always bemused how many people wait until they get married to have a conversation about whether they want to be monogamous or not! People and relationships change over time though, and their wants and needs. Perhaps. I believe people are either monoganous or not by nature, i don't believe it changes. I think a lot of men are scared to have difficult conversations in the early days of a relationship to establish whether the other person is on the same page as them. Circumstances can make people change their views on monogamy. Things happen in life and people do change, I've experienced it first hand." People change and relationships change. I married her because I love her. I have a solo profile on here and have met one person but I am uneasy about it. I am more turned on about sharing her with other men than about me fucking loads of women. She is 14 years younger than me and she is hot. I want to see he being the centre of attention. Being pl assured by several men. | |||
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"Any advice from experienced swingers. I want to broach the abject with my wife but she is very conservative! i am really tempted to give you the flippant answer of "you could always show her your profile, and she can see what fun you have been having without her....." but seriously... if you were looking to have fun as a couple would it been wise to have done this together from the start after all, its a bit late to be having a honest conversation about this, unless it starts "i am been doing this without you and now i want you to join me"..... It's never too late. It really is though. Some people are naturally monogamous and would be disgusted at the idea of sharing their partner or being shared. I meant it's never too late to talk. If she won't swing, he still has the option of swinging alone. Gotcha! I'm always bemused how many people wait until they get married to have a conversation about whether they want to be monogamous or not! People and relationships change over time though, and their wants and needs. Perhaps. I believe people are either monoganous or not by nature, i don't believe it changes. I think a lot of men are scared to have difficult conversations in the early days of a relationship to establish whether the other person is on the same page as them. Circumstances can make people change their views on monogamy. Things happen in life and people do change, I've experienced it first hand. People change and relationships change. I married her because I love her. I have a solo profile on here and have met one person but I am uneasy about it. I am more turned on about sharing her with other men than about me fucking loads of women. She is 14 years younger than me and she is hot. I want to see he being the centre of attention. Being pl assured by several men. " Ah yes love, that well defined word that everyone understands in the same way. I think all the advice you need is one this thread already but you've already said she's very conservative so chances seem slim, but good luck all the same | |||
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"Any advice from experienced swingers. I want to broach the abject with my wife but she is very conservative! i am really tempted to give you the flippant answer of "you could always show her your profile, and she can see what fun you have been having without her....." but seriously... if you were looking to have fun as a couple would it been wise to have done this together from the start after all, its a bit late to be having a honest conversation about this, unless it starts "i am been doing this without you and now i want you to join me"..... It's never too late." Maybe. However OP on here actively on his own is creating no go areas for the future, if getting his wife involved is really something he'd like. I mean, he's going to either have to have a lot of balls to confess all, and she's going to have to be very forgiving. If he was lucky enough to get her interested and he didn't tell all, there's at least one club he's going to have to avoid 
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"Any advice from experienced swingers. I want to broach the abject with my wife but she is very conservative! i am really tempted to give you the flippant answer of "you could always show her your profile, and she can see what fun you have been having without her....." but seriously... if you were looking to have fun as a couple would it been wise to have done this together from the start after all, its a bit late to be having a honest conversation about this, unless it starts "i am been doing this without you and now i want you to join me"..... It's never too late. Maybe. However OP on here actively on his own is creating no go areas for the future, if getting his wife involved is really something he'd like. I mean, he's going to either have to have a lot of balls to confess all, and she's going to have to be very forgiving. If he was lucky enough to get her interested and he didn't tell all, there's at least one club he's going to have to avoid
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"Any advice from experienced swingers. I want to broach the abject with my wife but she is very conservative! i am really tempted to give you the flippant answer of "you could always show her your profile, and she can see what fun you have been having without her....." but seriously... if you were looking to have fun as a couple would it been wise to have done this together from the start after all, its a bit late to be having a honest conversation about this, unless it starts "i am been doing this without you and now i want you to join me"..... It's never too late. It really is though. Some people are naturally monogamous and would be disgusted at the idea of sharing their partner or being shared. I meant it's never too late to talk. If she won't swing, he still has the option of swinging alone. Gotcha! I'm always bemused how many people wait until they get married to have a conversation about whether they want to be monogamous or not! People and relationships change over time though, and their wants and needs. Perhaps. I believe people are either monoganous or not by nature, i don't believe it changes. I think a lot of men are scared to have difficult conversations in the early days of a relationship to establish whether the other person is on the same page as them. Circumstances can make people change their views on monogamy. Things happen in life and people do change, I've experienced it first hand." You sound like a really reasonable person, who understands that not every situation is the same and people have their reasons for doing things. I applaud that and wish there were more like you. | |||
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"What do you mean conservative? Why do you want to get her involved? So she can fuck lots of men? Yes basically. That turns me on " Talk to her. Good advice in this thread. Women that enjoy sex are often thought of as sluts. She may have wild fantasies but daren't tell you in case you think less of her. Or she might just enjoy simple sex in the dark. Nothing wrong with whatever she's into as long as she's happy. | |||
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"Any advice from experienced swingers. I want to broach the abject with my wife but she is very conservative! i am really tempted to give you the flippant answer of "you could always show her your profile, and she can see what fun you have been having without her....." but seriously... if you were looking to have fun as a couple would it been wise to have done this together from the start after all, its a bit late to be having a honest conversation about this, unless it starts "i am been doing this without you and now i want you to join me"..... It's never too late. It really is though. Some people are naturally monogamous and would be disgusted at the idea of sharing their partner or being shared. I meant it's never too late to talk. If she won't swing, he still has the option of swinging alone. Gotcha! I'm always bemused how many people wait until they get married to have a conversation about whether they want to be monogamous or not! People and relationships change over time though, and their wants and needs. Perhaps. I believe people are either monoganous or not by nature, i don't believe it changes. I think a lot of men are scared to have difficult conversations in the early days of a relationship to establish whether the other person is on the same page as them. Circumstances can make people change their views on monogamy. Things happen in life and people do change, I've experienced it first hand. You sound like a really reasonable person, who understands that not every situation is the same and people have their reasons for doing things. I applaud that and wish there were more like you." Thank you. I'm just open minded and know life is never ever black and white  | |||
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"Any advice from experienced swingers. I want to broach the abject with my wife but she is very conservative! i am really tempted to give you the flippant answer of "you could always show her your profile, and she can see what fun you have been having without her....." but seriously... if you were looking to have fun as a couple would it been wise to have done this together from the start after all, its a bit late to be having a honest conversation about this, unless it starts "i am been doing this without you and now i want you to join me"..... It's never too late. It really is though. Some people are naturally monogamous and would be disgusted at the idea of sharing their partner or being shared. I meant it's never too late to talk. If she won't swing, he still has the option of swinging alone. Gotcha! I'm always bemused how many people wait until they get married to have a conversation about whether they want to be monogamous or not! People and relationships change over time though, and their wants and needs. Perhaps. I believe people are either monoganous or not by nature, i don't believe it changes. I think a lot of men are scared to have difficult conversations in the early days of a relationship to establish whether the other person is on the same page as them. Circumstances can make people change their views on monogamy. Things happen in life and people do change, I've experienced it first hand. You sound like a really reasonable person, who understands that not every situation is the same and people have their reasons for doing things. I applaud that and wish there were more like you. Thank you. I'm just open minded and know life is never ever black and white "You're welcome | |||
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"Any advice from experienced swingers. I want to broach the abject with my wife but she is very conservative! i am really tempted to give you the flippant answer of "you could always show her your profile, and she can see what fun you have been having without her....." but seriously... if you were looking to have fun as a couple would it been wise to have done this together from the start after all, its a bit late to be having a honest conversation about this, unless it starts "i am been doing this without you and now i want you to join me"..... It's never too late. It really is though. Some people are naturally monogamous and would be disgusted at the idea of sharing their partner or being shared. I meant it's never too late to talk. If she won't swing, he still has the option of swinging alone. Gotcha! I'm always bemused how many people wait until they get married to have a conversation about whether they want to be monogamous or not! People and relationships change over time though, and their wants and needs. Perhaps. I believe people are either monoganous or not by nature, i don't believe it changes. I think a lot of men are scared to have difficult conversations in the early days of a relationship to establish whether the other person is on the same page as them. Circumstances can make people change their views on monogamy. Things happen in life and people do change, I've experienced it first hand. You sound like a really reasonable person, who understands that not every situation is the same and people have their reasons for doing things. I applaud that and wish there were more like you. Thank you. I'm just open minded and know life is never ever black and white "I don't disagree that life isn't black and white, It's just that some problems don't have solutions. The only answer is actually "don't get yourself into that situation". "I want to swing but my wife doesn't" is one such problem. Which may or may not be the OPs situation but certainly there are plenty such threads on here about it. | |||
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"Any advice from experienced swingers. I want to broach the abject with my wife but she is very conservative! i am really tempted to give you the flippant answer of "you could always show her your profile, and she can see what fun you have been having without her....." but seriously... if you were looking to have fun as a couple would it been wise to have done this together from the start after all, its a bit late to be having a honest conversation about this, unless it starts "i am been doing this without you and now i want you to join me"..... It's never too late. It really is though. Some people are naturally monogamous and would be disgusted at the idea of sharing their partner or being shared. I meant it's never too late to talk. If she won't swing, he still has the option of swinging alone. Gotcha! I'm always bemused how many people wait until they get married to have a conversation about whether they want to be monogamous or not! People and relationships change over time though, and their wants and needs. Perhaps. I believe people are either monoganous or not by nature, i don't believe it changes. I think a lot of men are scared to have difficult conversations in the early days of a relationship to establish whether the other person is on the same page as them. Circumstances can make people change their views on monogamy. Things happen in life and people do change, I've experienced it first hand. You sound like a really reasonable person, who understands that not every situation is the same and people have their reasons for doing things. I applaud that and wish there were more like you. Thank you. I'm just open minded and know life is never ever black and white
I don't disagree that life isn't black and white, It's just that some problems don't have solutions. The only answer is actually "don't get yourself into that situation". "I want to swing but my wife doesn't" is one such problem. Which may or may not be the OPs situation but certainly there are plenty such threads on here about it. "Like Ive previously said, people change and situations change. Maybe he is now in a situation that he wasn't in at the beginning of the relationship. It does happen. | |||
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"Any advice from experienced swingers. I want to broach the abject with my wife but she is very conservative! i am really tempted to give you the flippant answer of "you could always show her your profile, and she can see what fun you have been having without her....." but seriously... if you were looking to have fun as a couple would it been wise to have done this together from the start after all, its a bit late to be having a honest conversation about this, unless it starts "i am been doing this without you and now i want you to join me"..... It's never too late. It really is though. Some people are naturally monogamous and would be disgusted at the idea of sharing their partner or being shared. I meant it's never too late to talk. If she won't swing, he still has the option of swinging alone. Gotcha! I'm always bemused how many people wait until they get married to have a conversation about whether they want to be monogamous or not! People and relationships change over time though, and their wants and needs. Perhaps. I believe people are either monoganous or not by nature, i don't believe it changes. I think a lot of men are scared to have difficult conversations in the early days of a relationship to establish whether the other person is on the same page as them. Circumstances can make people change their views on monogamy. Things happen in life and people do change, I've experienced it first hand. You sound like a really reasonable person, who understands that not every situation is the same and people have their reasons for doing things. I applaud that and wish there were more like you. Thank you. I'm just open minded and know life is never ever black and white "I wish I could chat with you, but all men blocked. Oh well haha. | |||
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"Just need some encoraging word, Take her to park and show her how easy it is to swing, tell her even a 3 year old can do it." This made me chuckle | |||
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"Should have asked her all this shit before marrying. Some people think its dirty, disgusting to sleep around so casually. They may have a point, we call each other dirty sluts all the time. lol I just bring it up bluntly, would you be into a gangbang or group sex? Either way, if she isnt into it, try and respect that and try not bring a disease home to her." I wasn't interested at that time. | |||
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"Any advice from experienced swingers. I want to broach the abject with my wife but she is very conservative! i am really tempted to give you the flippant answer of "you could always show her your profile, and she can see what fun you have been having without her....." but seriously... if you were looking to have fun as a couple would it been wise to have done this together from the start after all, its a bit late to be having a honest conversation about this, unless it starts "i am been doing this without you and now i want you to join me"..... It's never too late. It really is though. Some people are naturally monogamous and would be disgusted at the idea of sharing their partner or being shared. I meant it's never too late to talk. If she won't swing, he still has the option of swinging alone. Gotcha! I'm always bemused how many people wait until they get married to have a conversation about whether they want to be monogamous or not! People and relationships change over time though, and their wants and needs. Perhaps. I believe people are either monoganous or not by nature, i don't believe it changes. I think a lot of men are scared to have difficult conversations in the early days of a relationship to establish whether the other person is on the same page as them. Circumstances can make people change their views on monogamy. Things happen in life and people do change, I've experienced it first hand. You sound like a really reasonable person, who understands that not every situation is the same and people have their reasons for doing things. I applaud that and wish there were more like you. Thank you. I'm just open minded and know life is never ever black and white
I don't disagree that life isn't black and white, It's just that some problems don't have solutions. The only answer is actually "don't get yourself into that situation". "I want to swing but my wife doesn't" is one such problem. Which may or may not be the OPs situation but certainly there are plenty such threads on here about it.
Like Ive previously said, people change and situations change. Maybe he is now in a situation that he wasn't in at the beginning of the relationship. It does happen."I'm not disagreeing with you! Simply pointing out that there may not be a mutually beneficial solution for the OP and his wife. | |||
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"Any advice from experienced swingers. I want to broach the abject with my wife but she is very conservative! i am really tempted to give you the flippant answer of "you could always show her your profile, and she can see what fun you have been having without her....." but seriously... if you were looking to have fun as a couple would it been wise to have done this together from the start after all, its a bit late to be having a honest conversation about this, unless it starts "i am been doing this without you and now i want you to join me"..... It's never too late. It really is though. Some people are naturally monogamous and would be disgusted at the idea of sharing their partner or being shared. I meant it's never too late to talk. If she won't swing, he still has the option of swinging alone. Gotcha! I'm always bemused how many people wait until they get married to have a conversation about whether they want to be monogamous or not! People and relationships change over time though, and their wants and needs. Perhaps. I believe people are either monoganous or not by nature, i don't believe it changes. I think a lot of men are scared to have difficult conversations in the early days of a relationship to establish whether the other person is on the same page as them. Circumstances can make people change their views on monogamy. Things happen in life and people do change, I've experienced it first hand. People change and relationships change. I married her because I love her. I have a solo profile on here and have met one person but I am uneasy about it. I am more turned on about sharing her with other men than about me fucking loads of women. She is 14 years younger than me and she is hot. I want to see he being the centre of attention. Being pl assured by several men. " Before you talk to her think about thos from her point of view. You're saying you want this, that you will enjoy sharing her, that you will enjoy seeing her pleasured by other men. What about what she wants? What if she agrees but says she doesn't want to see you with women, or she wants to do it but wants to meet men alone or in separate rooms? In other words what if she doesn't want what you want but tries to persuade you in to it? | |||
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"Any advice from experienced swingers. I want to broach the abject with my wife but she is very conservative! i am really tempted to give you the flippant answer of "you could always show her your profile, and she can see what fun you have been having without her....." but seriously... if you were looking to have fun as a couple would it been wise to have done this together from the start after all, its a bit late to be having a honest conversation about this, unless it starts "i am been doing this without you and now i want you to join me"..... It's never too late. It really is though. Some people are naturally monogamous and would be disgusted at the idea of sharing their partner or being shared. I meant it's never too late to talk. If she won't swing, he still has the option of swinging alone. Gotcha! I'm always bemused how many people wait until they get married to have a conversation about whether they want to be monogamous or not! People and relationships change over time though, and their wants and needs. Perhaps. I believe people are either monoganous or not by nature, i don't believe it changes. I think a lot of men are scared to have difficult conversations in the early days of a relationship to establish whether the other person is on the same page as them. Circumstances can make people change their views on monogamy. Things happen in life and people do change, I've experienced it first hand. People change and relationships change. I married her because I love her. I have a solo profile on here and have met one person but I am uneasy about it. I am more turned on about sharing her with other men than about me fucking loads of women. She is 14 years younger than me and she is hot. I want to see he being the centre of attention. Being pl assured by several men. Before you talk to her think about thos from her point of view. You're saying you want this, that you will enjoy sharing her, that you will enjoy seeing her pleasured by other men. What about what she wants? What if she agrees but says she doesn't want to see you with women, or she wants to do it but wants to meet men alone or in separate rooms? In other words what if she doesn't want what you want but tries to persuade you in to it?" That's an interesting perspective. Thank you! Very constructive | |||
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"Any advice from experienced swingers. I want to broach the abject with my wife but she is very conservative! " Tell her you're on here. Show her your profile. | |||
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"You can't "get your partner interested." I think all you can really do is raise the issue and see if she likes it. I didn't know much about this stuff. But I did read romance novels and watch porn and lots of that was threesomes and groups stuff. Marc asked me one day why I like that so much, why it turns me on more than 2 person porn. We talked it over. Then we decided we'd try a club together and see how we both felt about it all. And we went from there. If you bring it up and she isn't interested then "getting her into it" wouldn't be fair to her or your relationship. " 
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"You can't....she is either into it or she isn't. The usual advice is show her your profile on here and see what she thinks." Yes him and thousands of other attached guys on here lol. | |||
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"Any advice from experienced swingers. I want to broach the abject with my wife but she is very conservative! i am really tempted to give you the flippant answer of "you could always show her your profile, and she can see what fun you have been having without her....." but seriously... if you were looking to have fun as a couple would it been wise to have done this together from the start after all, its a bit late to be having a honest conversation about this, unless it starts "i am been doing this without you and now i want you to join me"..... It's never too late. It really is though. Some people are naturally monogamous and would be disgusted at the idea of sharing their partner or being shared. I meant it's never too late to talk. If she won't swing, he still has the option of swinging alone. Gotcha! I'm always bemused how many people wait until they get married to have a conversation about whether they want to be monogamous or not! People and relationships change over time though, and their wants and needs. Perhaps. I believe people are either monoganous or not by nature, i don't believe it changes. I think a lot of men are scared to have difficult conversations in the early days of a relationship to establish whether the other person is on the same page as them. Circumstances can make people change their views on monogamy. Things happen in life and people do change, I've experienced it first hand. People change and relationships change. I married her because I love her. I have a solo profile on here and have met one person but I am uneasy about it. I am more turned on about sharing her with other men than about me fucking loads of women. She is 14 years younger than me and she is hot. I want to see he being the centre of attention. Being pl assured by several men. " If you truly loved this woman you wouldn't be meeting other women off a swingers site without her knowing, dude that's cheating. | |||
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"Any advice from experienced swingers. I want to broach the abject with my wife but she is very conservative! i am really tempted to give you the flippant answer of "you could always show her your profile, and she can see what fun you have been having without her....." but seriously... if you were looking to have fun as a couple would it been wise to have done this together from the start after all, its a bit late to be having a honest conversation about this, unless it starts "i am been doing this without you and now i want you to join me"..... It's never too late. It really is though. Some people are naturally monogamous and would be disgusted at the idea of sharing their partner or being shared. I meant it's never too late to talk. If she won't swing, he still has the option of swinging alone. Gotcha! I'm always bemused how many people wait until they get married to have a conversation about whether they want to be monogamous or not! People and relationships change over time though, and their wants and needs. Perhaps. I believe people are either monoganous or not by nature, i don't believe it changes. I think a lot of men are scared to have difficult conversations in the early days of a relationship to establish whether the other person is on the same page as them. Circumstances can make people change their views on monogamy. Things happen in life and people do change, I've experienced it first hand. People change and relationships change. I married her because I love her. I have a solo profile on here and have met one person but I am uneasy about it. I am more turned on about sharing her with other men than about me fucking loads of women. She is 14 years younger than me and she is hot. I want to see he being the centre of attention. Being pl assured by several men. If you truly loved this woman you wouldn't be meeting other women off a swingers site without her knowing, dude that's cheating." | |||
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