FabSwingers.com forum: Tips for meeting first timers

By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

Hi I met a couple last week and it was there first time ,all went well on the night apart from them having ground rules that I knew nothing about .

As I don't have ESP can anyone give me some sound advise so i don't cause tention between new couples?

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By *iewMan
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over a year ago

Angus & Findhorn

ask them....

No golden rules just ask them

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By *emima_puddlefuckCouple
over a year ago

hexham

"ask them....

No golden rules just ask them"

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

I didn't realise till two day after that it was an offence to kiss the lady when we got back to there flat , then I'm called sneeky and blocked , I'm just not wanting this sort of thing to happen again as I really liked them and sneeky just isn't me .

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Hi I met a couple last week and it was there first time ,all went well on the night apart from them having ground rules that I knew nothing about .

As I don't have ESP can anyone give me some sound advise so i don't cause tention between new couples?"

Them not thinking to fill you in on their ground rules was their oversight and you did nothing wrong.

I donlt entirely agree with the advice that you should be adking, while it can't hurt, the onus, in my opinion is for them to tell you.

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By *iewMan
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over a year ago

Angus & Findhorn

it is also upto them to communicate their boundaries

best to chat thro and then have a night of fun

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By *in4sumMan
over a year ago

sheffield

"ask them....

No golden rules just ask them"

Very simple and polite, "do you have any playing rules".

It also shows consideration for each others boundaries and good manners to ask.

At the appropriate point lol

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

As a couple we always make sure that anyone we are planning on playing with know how we play before we get to the meet for play stage.

I also mention it on lead up to playmeets as last thing we want is someone thinking they are getting one thing..and ending up getting another.

Kissing is something that is very hit and miss.. some women will want it, others wont.. I am on the fence.. I like a little if its a regular meet but not once we are at the stage of having sex.. ie only for foreplay.. but this is made clear.

We talk to people lots but mostly because we want some pretty high demands from our playmates.. and we want to make sure they are happy before they come and play.

SO just as already been said talk to people.

Cali x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Is it possible that the male half of the couple wasn't as ready to swing as he thought he might be?

i.e. they didn't tell you it was a ground rule because they didn't know themselves?

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"Is it possible that the male half of the couple wasn't as ready to swing as he thought he might be?

i.e. they didn't tell you it was a ground rule because they didn't know themselves?"

I think this is hitting the nail on the head !! I think she was more ready than him oh well onwards and upwards I've learned it good to talk thanks everyone . Xx

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

like others have said, really its down to communication, and they should have told you what their no no's are.. i don't think you where being sneaky if they hadn't told you about the no kissing rule..

we always tell others what we do and don't like,and then it up to them if they want to meet us.

carry on having fun like you do and just ask in the lead up emails what they do and don't do

j xx

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