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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

Not sure, would anyone else feel annoyed aboout this. Was meant to meet this person on the Friday...never showed up and never answered any of my messages.

Today I see a veri the couple received from another person...is it wrong for me to feel a little peeved?

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By * kiss like morphineMan
over a year ago

The gravelly bit next to the shed

"Not sure, would anyone else feel annoyed aboout this. Was meant to meet this person on the Friday...never showed up and never answered any of my messages.

Today I see a veri the couple received from another person...is it wrong for me to feel a little peeved?"

Its a kick in the balls for sure but block and or move on.

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By *he Hobbit And MeCouple
over a year ago

southampton

Yes a big kick in the balls and a feeling of rejection but this maybe something you will have to get used to being a single guy? never mind use the block button

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

In the world of fab it seems perfectly acceptable to do this to guys. They are most likely expecting you to feel grateful that they nearly met you.

Block, move on.

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"Yes a big kick in the balls and a feeling of rejection but this maybe something you will have to get used to being a single guy? never mind use the block button"

Rejection is cool, its cancelling without explanation thats annoying

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

If you need cheering up feel free to message me

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

That's annoying but onwards and upwards. If someone makes me waste my makeup by not turning up, then it's an insta block or never meeting them

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By *ungBlackTopMan
over a year ago

salford

It's not rejection mate more like they were intimidated by you, one point you, nil point them. You're the winner here you would've only been disappointed.

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By *layfullsamMan
over a year ago

Solihull

"Not sure, would anyone else feel annoyed aboout this. Was meant to meet this person on the Friday...never showed up and never answered any of my messages.

Today I see a veri the couple received from another person...is it wrong for me to feel a little peeved?"

It's not wrong but don't let it eat you up or they've got you twice

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Not sure, would anyone else feel annoyed aboout this. Was meant to meet this person on the Friday...never showed up and never answered any of my messages.

Today I see a veri the couple received from another person...is it wrong for me to feel a little peeved?"

No I would feel peeved if this happened to me. Block and move on. XXX

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

had this a few weeks ago - not bothered as they did cancel and give a reason - but the reason given contradicted who they met - not fallen out or got huffy- just wish they had said got a meet already planned closer to home - think they double booked in case one cancelled - who knows

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

That's harsh.

I'd at least be honest about it, just shows they're not worth your time OP

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Block and forget.

It's an unfortunate phenomenon.. Kid in a sweet shop mentality.

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By *ikeC81Man
over a year ago

harrow

I would be peeved but block and move on

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

It's called hedging your bets she probably had a few guys she had arranged to meet this guy was possibly nearer to what she was looking for than you and available so she went for it,i get it a lot come game time they bail and u then see they got a veri from another fabber it's a game you just got to read the rules better fella and think if it was you n her shoes and a choice between sex closer to your proximity or further a field which would u choose

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I had it happen to me when we first joined and before our profile was verified. He went with a verified profile, which is fair enough. He asked for a meet once we'd been verified, I said, "no thank you!"

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By *gnitemybodyWoman
over a year ago

Onestepoutofthedoor

Not it's not wrong to feel peeved,but that's people for you I suppose

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

But u read lots of threads where people will say it's upto the individual if they meet u or not just accept it and move on

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

It's rude, plain and simple.

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By *nglishRose123Woman
over a year ago

Swindon

I would be very annoyed it I was treated like this. I always try my best to treat others as I would want to be treated and there is no excuse for being rude a simple no thanks we've changed our minds would be sufficient.

On the positive side looking at your profile- Wow. I'm sure there are plenty of others who would be more than happy to spend time with you. Good luck OK.

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"But u read lots of threads where people will say it's upto the individual if they meet u or not just accept it and move on"

You dont make plans with someone you're not going to meet. If you're happy being disrespected like that then fine but dont make out as if thats something that should be normalised.

Jesus, some of u guys will put up with being treated like circus animals just for some sex.

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By *essandpatCouple
over a year ago

chester

"Not sure, would anyone else feel annoyed aboout this. Was meant to meet this person on the Friday...never showed up and never answered any of my messages.

Today I see a veri the couple received from another person...is it wrong for me to feel a little peeved?"

Yes I get where your coming from, I have had this done to me to x jess x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I had a meet with someone who wasn't for me and I said my cheerio after 30min. Later at night I met someone I really gelled with who left a Verification. The first guy saw it and gave me total abuse in a long.message. obviously I blocked,but he couldn't take rejection. It does happen

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"But u read lots of threads where people will say it's upto the individual if they meet u or not just accept it and move on

You dont make plans with someone you're not going to meet. If you're happy being disrespected like that then fine but dont make out as if thats something that should be normalised.

Jesus, some of u guys will put up with being treated like circus animals just for some sex. "
no u just pissed at min what I'm saying people change their minds accept it shitty as it is maybe u said something that sent alarm bells ringing who knows it's hard to convey what you mean sometimes over a keyboard and can be misinterpreted just like what i posted above

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"But u read lots of threads where people will say it's upto the individual if they meet u or not just accept it and move on

You dont make plans with someone you're not going to meet. If you're happy being disrespected like that then fine but dont make out as if thats something that should be normalised.

Jesus, some of u guys will put up with being treated like circus animals just for some sex. no u just pissed at min what I'm saying people change their minds accept it shitty as it is maybe u said something that sent alarm bells ringing who knows it's hard to convey what you mean sometimes over a keyboard and can be misinterpreted just like what i posted above"

OK. If I said something that sent alarm bells ringing...why not just cancel?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I had a meet with someone who wasn't for me and I said my cheerio after 30min. Later at night I met someone I really gelled with who left a Verification. The first guy saw it and gave me total abuse in a long.message. obviously I blocked,but he couldn't take rejection. It does happen"

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"But u read lots of threads where people will say it's upto the individual if they meet u or not just accept it and move on

You dont make plans with someone you're not going to meet. If you're happy being disrespected like that then fine but dont make out as if thats something that should be normalised.

OK. If I said something that sent alarm bells ringing...why not just cancel?"
mate who knows but answer me this when you delete a message without answering or vice versa do u need to explain why or ask why

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Thankfully it's never happened to us but yes we'd be peeved right off.

If you have it in messages report, block and think of it as a lucky escape.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

At least op you didn't get to your meet and then find out it wasn't happening I've has that happen turn up waited an hr and no call or message it was a shitter so now I do lots of communication and arrange to chat before I set off

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"But u read lots of threads where people will say it's upto the individual if they meet u or not just accept it and move on

You dont make plans with someone you're not going to meet. If you're happy being disrespected like that then fine but dont make out as if thats something that should be normalised.

OK. If I said something that sent alarm bells ringing...why not just cancel?mate who knows but answer me this when you delete a message without answering or vice versa do u need to explain why or ask why "

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Thankfully it's never happened to us but yes we'd be peeved right off.

If you have it in messages report, block and think of it as a lucky escape. "

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"But u read lots of threads where people will say it's upto the individual if they meet u or not just accept it and move on

You dont make plans with someone you're not going to meet. If you're happy being disrespected like that then fine but dont make out as if thats something that should be normalised.

But thats not what happened? I said we arranged to meet up and then they just no showed and didnt answer my messages asking where they were. How is that the same as not replying to a message from someone you're not interested in?"
just saying everyone got the right to say no or change mind and they don't need to explain why shit as it is ,most decent people will give an explanation but there's people here that don't give a shit it's just a game to them and u just need to accept it

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over a year ago

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"But u read lots of threads where people will say it's upto the individual if they meet u or not just accept it and move on

You dont make plans with someone you're not going to meet. If you're happy being disrespected like that then fine but dont make out as if thats something that should be normalised.

But thats not what happened? I said we arranged to meet up and then they just no showed and didnt answer my messages asking where they were. How is that the same as not replying to a message from someone you're not interested in?just saying everyone got the right to say no or change mind and they don't need to explain why shit as it is ,most decent people will give an explanation but there's people here that don't give a shit it's just a game to them and u just need to accept it "

tbh thats true

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Not sure, would anyone else feel annoyed aboout this. Was meant to meet this person on the Friday...never showed up and never answered any of my messages.

Today I see a veri the couple received from another person...is it wrong for me to feel a little peeved?"

I'd be very annoyed and would report and block them.

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over a year ago

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"Not sure, would anyone else feel annoyed aboout this. Was meant to meet this person on the Friday...never showed up and never answered any of my messages.

Today I see a veri the couple received from another person...is it wrong for me to feel a little peeved?

I'd be very annoyed and would report and block them. "

I notice that a lot of these comments are coming from the women here.

I understand Fab does not have a gender ratio that favors the men, but it seems like we guys have absolutely no real desire to be respected on here. It might be a bad precedent.

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By *evaquitCouple
over a year ago

Catthorpe

"It's rude, plain and simple."

Have to agree.

We were invited to a meet, people who'd we'd wanted to meet for quite a while but already had a meet arranged, so declined and explained why. Gained much respect from them and did meet sometime later. It isn't that difficult really to keep to agreements but some folk are selfish with a 'me me' attitude. Shame.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"But u read lots of threads where people will say it's upto the individual if they meet u or not just accept it and move on

You dont make plans with someone you're not going to meet. If you're happy being disrespected like that then fine but dont make out as if thats something that should be normalised.

But thats not what happened? I said we arranged to meet up and then they just no showed and didnt answer my messages asking where they were. How is that the same as not replying to a message from someone you're not interested in?just saying everyone got the right to say no or change mind and they don't need to explain why shit as it is ,most decent people will give an explanation but there's people here that don't give a shit it's just a game to them and u just need to accept it

tbh thats true

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op plenty of hot women here I bet one of them on this thread would be happy to redress the hurt your feeling so hang in there and see what happens

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Mentioned this elsewhere. I arranged a meet with new member. Day of meet a veri pops up on her profile from a meet that morning. Okay we all done more than one meet on some days. Part of the fun. That's cool, but looked at his profile, of his 2 veris, one was from the woman I was gonna meet- bb meet spunk everywhere, the second was another recent one from a travelling seed bank that takes multiple collections daily. All bare. With hundreds of veris.

Kinda tainted by association and ruined a pretty housewife for me lol. Downside of veris. And that one you thought was only a regular NSA thing, does not like seeing new veris on your profile. They a blessing and a curse

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"But u read lots of threads where people will say it's upto the individual if they meet u or not just accept it and move on

You dont make plans with someone you're not going to meet. If you're happy being disrespected like that then fine but dont make out as if thats something that should be normalised.

But thats not what happened? I said we arranged to meet up and then they just no showed and didnt answer my messages asking where they were. How is that the same as not replying to a message from someone you're not interested in?just saying everyone got the right to say no or change mind and they don't need to explain why shit as it is ,most decent people will give an explanation but there's people here that don't give a shit it's just a game to them and u just need to accept it

tbh thats true

op plenty of hot women here I bet one of them on this thread would be happy to redress the hurt your feeling so hang in there and see what happens "

This is my issue, you say that as if I should be jumping for joy or something. I find this mentality pathetic. My annoyance for having my time wasted wont suddenly be removed because I can rush and stick my cock in any other thing that moves.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Op get over it I'm trying to gee u up but your insisting on being as our yank friends say a dufus if u can't take positive feed back then don't open your gob simple as for me I have no issue getting meets and I don't fuck anything that moves as you imply but I do get my knock backs and letdowns but I put on my big boy pants and move on not whale about it on fab forums

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By *ady LickWoman
over a year ago

Northampton Somewhere

The decent thing would be to give at least a couple of days notice if they might have to cancel.

I've been stood up twice before and I was absolutely fuming, it takes time to get ready etc.

Was it for a social or a play meet OP? Not that it matters but it would worse if you'd had a social already.....

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"Op get over it I'm trying to gee u up but your insisting on being as our yank friends say a dufus if u can't take positive feed back then don't open your gob simple as for me I have no issue getting meets and I don't fuck anything that moves as you imply but I do get my knock backs and letdowns but I put on my big boy pants and move on not whale about it on fab forums"

Get lost. This is an open forum, if you dont like the thread dont enter it. You can run off and chase tail like the desperate clown u are.

As said, so many men on here are like u. Desperate low lifes just begging to stick their dick in whatever will say hello to them. Not everyone is as unappealing and lacking in options as u are.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Op get over it I'm trying to gee u up but your insisting on being as our yank friends say a dufus if u can't take positive feed back then don't open your gob simple as for me I haeve no issue getting meets and I don't fuck anything that moves as you imply but I do get my knock backs and letdowns but I put on my big boy pants and move on not whale about it on fab forums"

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By *eading28Man
over a year ago

Reading

I get the feeling I am often people's 'plan B', so near and yet so far lol. All the people moaning about deleted unread messages, or no replies, well at least you don't have the hassle of turning up somewhere to find out they are timewasters!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Not sure, would anyone else feel annoyed aboout this. Was meant to meet this person on the Friday...never showed up and never answered any of my messages.

Today I see a veri the couple received from another person...is it wrong for me to feel a little peeved?"

How could they! Mind boggles!!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Get lost. This is an open forum, if you dont like the thread dont enter it. You can run off and chase tail like the desperate clown u are.

As said, so many men on here are like u. Desperate low lifes just begging to stick their dick in whatever will say hello to them. Not everyone is as unappealing and lacking in options as u are."

and now you're beginning to sound like your prospective meet is the one that dodged a bullet..everyone's been stood up at some point. Grow up.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Report them! That is intolerable to waste someone's time like that. Me, I don't care if you have to cancel the last minute, just let me know if we've agreed to meet. Of course you should feel peeved. They've disrespected you and wasted your time. Make them pay! I hope you have all the evidence that you planned a meet and they stopped responding after standing you up.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I'd be a little pissed off but then i got pissed off with myself for cancelling a meet this weekend for work that ended up not materialising.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Wow can't believe someone cancelled on you. You look delicious!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

A no show like that sucks, you can report them. Without a doubt fair to be miffed. However playing devils advocate a little was the veri definitely in relation to the same evening? Sometimes people take time to write them but manage to make it sound like it was current.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Anybody else had trouble understanding this???

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Bored now op so keep bleeting I'm of to meet my sexy friend hope u get over it but if u don't I won't lose any sleep, peace

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Not sure, would anyone else feel annoyed aboout this. Was meant to meet this person on the Friday...never showed up and never answered any of my messages.

Today I see a veri the couple received from another person...is it wrong for me to feel a little peeved?"

Sounds like you were a plan B not a nice feeling at all,I've had it a few times myself. Chin up,block,don't waste your time on folk like that and next time you'll be someone's plan A

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Report them! That is intolerable to waste someone's time like that. Me, I don't care if you have to cancel the last minute, just let me know if we've agreed to meet. Of course you should feel peeved. They've disrespected you and wasted your time. Make them pay! I hope you have all the evidence that you planned a meet and they stopped responding after standing you up. "

Report them? To who? Admin? And what exactly do admin do about no shows? What are they expected to do? Rap the naughty ones on the knuckles? Give them lines? Tell their parents? When i hear people say " report them" it makes me think of being in school.

We have all been stood up. All been treated badly. It happens. Its life.

There are some total wankers out there. That wont change. You just gotta suck it up. Or go join your local embroidery circle

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By *icassolifelikeMan
over a year ago

Luton

One door closes, another will open.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

We have all been stood up. All been treated badly. It happens. Its life.

There are some total wankers out there. That wont change. You just gotta suck it up. Or go join your local embroidery circle"

Yep swinging maybe meant to be fun but if your thin skinned it'll destroy you. Getting angry and reporting people for perceived transgressions makes me think your sick of this game. There's no cast iron contract, and i believe in sex people can say no at any time. Would you get so worked up if they got to your bedroom and changed their minds. With you, when is it too late & no longer acceptable to say no?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Not sure, would anyone else feel annoyed aboout this. Was meant to meet this person on the Friday...never showed up and never answered any of my messages.

Today I see a veri the couple received from another person...is it wrong for me to feel a little peeved?"

This happened to me once with a couple. They initiated contact with me. We texted and spoke ahead of time for weeks.

I did get a text 5 min before we were to meet saying the wife's mother died. The next day there was a new verification from the night before.

I assumed they blocked me because I can't see their profile. I just laughed about it and moved on.

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"Bored now op so keep bleeting I'm of to meet my sexy friend hope u get over it but if u don't I won't lose any sleep, peace"

eugh

thats the second time you have bragged about having a meet. I would hate to be so unappealing, I felt to need to advertise the fact that someone wanted to have sex with me

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Bored now op so keep bleeting I'm of to meet my sexy friend hope u get over it but if u don't I won't lose any sleep, peace

eugh

thats the second time you have bragged about having a meet. I would hate to be so unappealing, I felt to need to advertise the fact that someone wanted to have sex with me"

You are absolutely within your rights to feel aggrieved...they no showed, Just the kind of "timewaster" you see endless complaints about. Why you should just have to suck it up when the white knights clip clop all over any couples or single females who complain about the exact same thing. Then to rub salt into the wound by evidence that you were second best...I'd be massively pissed off...no second chance for them, ever.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I would feel exactly the same O.P if they changed their minds they should of just told you! To not turn up is so rude....I would be so annoyed if this happened to me xx

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

We had something similar once - we had plans to meet a single guy. On the night of the meet he messaged us saying he couldn't make it because his grandfather died. Next day he had a verification from a good looking single woman talking about how their meet last night was so great.

Basically, something better came along and he ditched us. Do you have a right to feel annoyed? Of course. Although I will say that nothing much annoys me on here anymore.... I've learned to deal with the status quo, sadly.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I wouldn't let you down op

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By *uteness69Woman
over a year ago

Walthamstow

Get lost. This is an open forum, if you dont like the thread dont enter it. You can run off and chase tail like the desperate clown u are.

As said, so many men on here are like u. Desperate low lifes just begging to stick their dick in whatever will say hello to them. Not everyone is as unappealing and lacking in options as u are."

Did you really need to reply in such a manner?

It doesn't put you in the most favourable light.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

It's extremely rude not to let someone know if you can't make it to a meeting. Its extremely disrespectful to their poor old grandad to lie about him dying.

And as fat as I'm concerned, it's extremely important to only arrange to meet somewhere I would have been going anyway.Being stood up or let down is a pain but always have a plan B.

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By *rightonsteveMan
over a year ago

Brighton - even Hove!

"Not sure, would anyone else feel annoyed aboout this. Was meant to meet this person on the Friday...never showed up and never answered any of my messages.

Today I see a veri the couple received from another person...is it wrong for me to feel a little peeved?"

Yes.....and no. NSA sex means just that - you got bumped for a better deal. Annoying but what can you do? Nothing....it might be your turn another day so don't sweat it.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Not sure, would anyone else feel annoyed aboout this. Was meant to meet this person on the Friday...never showed up and never answered any of my messages.

Today I see a veri the couple received from another person...is it wrong for me to feel a little peeved?"

Not wrong at all. I've had that happen twice by two very well verified ladies. No reason give and waited about 30 mins with messages ignored. Then blocked me only to find out they each met someone else. I found out for one of them there was another guy she'd said she'd meet too. For some it seems it's a case of having a backup and c options if A doesn't show.

As someone said though you probably better not meeting that type even if you were the A option too as if that's what they're like in showing little respect for others... It probably be a one way meet - all for them.

There are plenty of respectful people to meet and it be more enjoyable.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

It's not nice but people don't always consider other people feelings. Move on from them and go and have better fun with someone else.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Not sure, would anyone else feel annoyed aboout this. Was meant to meet this person on the Friday...never showed up and never answered any of my messages.

Today I see a veri the couple received from another person...is it wrong for me to feel a little peeved?

Yes.....and no. NSA sex means just that - you got bumped for a better deal. Annoying but what can you do? Nothing....it might be your turn another day so don't sweat it. "

NSA doesn't mean a complete lack of respect, manners and decency.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I have also recently been stood up without explanation and like yourself wouldn't mind being cancelled on for whatever reason but the time wasted is infuriating !! They should at least give the chance for you to arrange other plans !

You have every right to be pissed! I was !!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Yeah seeing a veri on the same day as a cancelled meet is a bit naff!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Not sure, would anyone else feel annoyed aboout this. Was meant to meet this person on the Friday...never showed up and never answered any of my messages.

Today I see a veri the couple received from another person...is it wrong for me to feel a little peeved?

Yes.....and no. NSA sex means just that - you got bumped for a better deal. Annoying but what can you do? Nothing....it might be your turn another day so don't sweat it.

NSA doesn't mean a complete lack of respect, manners and decency."

Lack of respect is an inner quality of a person...irrespective of whatever they are doing. It's how they view themselves in relation to others around. Usually a very selfish quality and lack of understanding of what others do are who they are.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Get lost. This is an open forum, if you dont like the thread dont enter it. You can run off and chase tail like the desperate clown u are.

As said, so many men on here are like u. Desperate low lifes just begging to stick their dick in whatever will say hello to them. Not everyone is as unappealing and lacking in options as u are."

Wow! With that attitude I think the no-show dodged a bullet!

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By *uteness69Woman
over a year ago

Walthamstow

"Yeah seeing a veri on the same day as a cancelled meet is a bit naff!"

No shit!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Get lost. This is an open forum, if you dont like the thread dont enter it. You can run off and chase tail like the desperate clown u are.

As said, so many men on here are like u. Desperate low lifes just begging to stick their dick in whatever will say hello to them. Not everyone is as unappealing and lacking in options as u are.

Wow! With that attitude I think the no-show dodged a bullet!

For sure

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

We have all been stood up. All been treated badly. It happens. Its life.

There are some total wankers out there. That wont change. You just gotta suck it up. Or go join your local embroidery circle"

Admin delete profiles of people who get too many complaints of no shows. If you check the list of categories in the "report" section you'll see "arranged to meet and didn't show up".

It costs people money and time. You don't just suck that up if a member is doing that to people. Cancel your meet like an adult or have your account deleted.

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over a year ago

We have all been stood up. All been treated badly. It happens. Its life.

There are some total wankers out there. That wont change. You just gotta suck it up. Or go join your local embroidery circle

Admin delete profiles of people who get too many complaints of no shows. If you check the list of categories in the "report" section you'll see "arranged to meet and didn't show up".

It costs people money and time. You don't just suck that up if a member is doing that to people. Cancel your meet like an adult or have your account deleted. "

There could be genuine reason why someone's a no show ............ if admin does delete people for no shows how do they determine the genuine no show because they've had an emergency with one of their children or been called into work and the timewasters who are prolific no shows ???

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By *urvymamaWoman
over a year ago

Doncaster

We have all been stood up. All been treated badly. It happens. Its life.

There are some total wankers out there. That wont change. You just gotta suck it up. Or go join your local embroidery circle

Admin delete profiles of people who get too many complaints of no shows. If you check the list of categories in the "report" section you'll see "arranged to meet and didn't show up".

It costs people money and time. You don't just suck that up if a member is doing that to people. Cancel your meet like an adult or have your account deleted.

Or the reports for "no shows" that people have done maliciously in revenge because something didn't go their way, admin would then just automatically delete their account after a fake/BS report like that, as there would be no way to really prove it either way, hardly seems a fair system

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over a year ago

We have all been stood up. All been treated badly. It happens. Its life.

There are some total wankers out there. That wont change. You just gotta suck it up. Or go join your local embroidery circle

Admin delete profiles of people who get too many complaints of no shows. If you check the list of categories in the "report" section you'll see "arranged to meet and didn't show up".

It costs people money and time. You don't just suck that up if a member is doing that to people. Cancel your meet like an adult or have your account deleted.

Me personally, I would only report if the no-show did all or most of the following;

Communicated right up until my arrival

Is seen online

Stopped responding to messages but is reading them

Deletes messages

Blocks you

Or, in the case of the OP, has verifications from meeting someone else.

If most of these are present it is splitting baits to think they aren't a timewaster. People with genuine excuses don't do any of this.

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By *urvymamaWoman
over a year ago

Doncaster

We have all been stood up. All been treated badly. It happens. Its life.

There are some total wankers out there. That wont change. You just gotta suck it up. Or go join your local embroidery circle

Admin delete profiles of people who get too many complaints of no shows. If you check the list of categories in the "report" section you'll see "arranged to meet and didn't show up".

It costs people money and time. You don't just suck that up if a member is doing that to people. Cancel your meet like an adult or have your account deleted.

Me personally, I would only report if the no-show did all or most of the following;

Communicated right up until my arrival

Is seen online

Stopped responding to messages but is reading them

Deletes messages

Blocks you

Or, in the case of the OP, has verifications from meeting someone else.

If most of these are present it is splitting baits to think they aren't a timewaster. People with genuine excuses don't do any of this. "

All on your list there aren't reportable offences and just a waste of admins time reporting, the only thing that can be reported is the actual no show, events leading up to it and after it are irrelevant

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

We have all been stood up. All been treated badly. It happens. Its life.

There are some total wankers out there. That wont change. You just gotta suck it up. Or go join your local embroidery circle

Admin delete profiles of people who get too many complaints of no shows. If you check the list of categories in the "report" section you'll see "arranged to meet and didn't show up".

It costs people money and time. You don't just suck that up if a member is doing that to people. Cancel your meet like an adult or have your account deleted.

Me personally, I would only report if the no-show did all or most of the following;

Communicated right up until my arrival

Is seen online

Stopped responding to messages but is reading them

Deletes messages

Blocks you

Or, in the case of the OP, has verifications from meeting someone else.

If most of these are present it is splitting baits to think they aren't a timewaster. People with genuine excuses don't do any of this.

I never said those are the things I report. I said I'll report a no show of its accompanied by those things which prove they did not have a genuine excuse. If you let go of your combativeness and your grudge against me from a completely separate thread you'll see what I actually said. Read it again.

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By *urvymamaWoman
over a year ago

Doncaster

We have all been stood up. All been treated badly. It happens. Its life.

There are some total wankers out there. That wont change. You just gotta suck it up. Or go join your local embroidery circle

Admin delete profiles of people who get too many complaints of no shows. If you check the list of categories in the "report" section you'll see "arranged to meet and didn't show up".

It costs people money and time. You don't just suck that up if a member is doing that to people. Cancel your meet like an adult or have your account deleted.

Me personally, I would only report if the no-show did all or most of the following;

Communicated right up until my arrival

Is seen online

Stopped responding to messages but is reading them

Deletes messages

Blocks you

Or, in the case of the OP, has verifications from meeting someone else.

If most of these are present it is splitting baits to think they aren't a timewaster. People with genuine excuses don't do any of this.

This is separate post so let's leave other ones out of it please

And those things still aren't reportable in relations to the no show the only message that is is the one where they've agreed to meet then haven't shown up.

I for one would prefer them being online and corresponding with me before a meet id find it reassuring not sure why you'd see it as a bad thing?

There's no rule on fab against reading and ignoring messages or just deleting them if there was there would likely be no women left on the site

And as for getting a veri from someone else, well they clearly aren't always a time waster they just decided to waste tours on that particular occasion for whatever reason. There could be a good explainination for getting a different veri for example,

I once arranged a meet with a guy that would be travelling 5hours to meet me, but I had to cancel as I got a call to say the eldest twin was in hospital with an head wound after falling At school, I went through to the hospital and it was all resolved within a few hours (quicker than expected). Now this still meant there was no point in him now making the journey as it would take too long for the limited time we would have then had to meet, but I was free so met someone more local instead, I did explain that to him to save any hard feelings, but the point is, it was a valid explanation for why I cancelled him and met someone else instead, there's always a bigger picture to consider

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

We have all been stood up. All been treated badly. It happens. Its life.

There are some total wankers out there. That wont change. You just gotta suck it up. Or go join your local embroidery circle

Admin delete profiles of people who get too many complaints of no shows. If you check the list of categories in the "report" section you'll see "arranged to meet and didn't show up".

It costs people money and time. You don't just suck that up if a member is doing that to people. Cancel your meet like an adult or have your account deleted.

Me personally, I would only report if the no-show did all or most of the following;

Communicated right up until my arrival

Is seen online

Stopped responding to messages but is reading them

Deletes messages

Blocks you

Or, in the case of the OP, has verifications from meeting someone else.

If most of these are present it is splitting baits to think they aren't a timewaster. People with genuine excuses don't do any of this.

This is separate post so let's leave other ones out of it please

And those things still aren't reportable in relations to the no show the only message that is is the one where they've agreed to meet then haven't shown up.

I for one would prefer them being online and corresponding with me before a meet id find it reassuring not sure why you'd see it as a bad thing?

There's no rule on fab against reading and ignoring messages or just deleting them if there was there would likely be no women left on the site

We're not talking about cancellations. Everyone cancels! We're specifically taking about people who DON'T cancel and they don't tell you or explain anything. Surely you understand the difference between the two. No one is saying we can't cancel, change our minds, have emergencies etc. What I'm saying is that if you don't show up to a scheduled meet, don't say that you aren't coming, then that is called time-wasting and there are certain things that prove that you do not have a valid excuse for not getting in touch to cancel so the other person doesn't waste their time, money, efforts. Those things that prove you're a timewaster is if you suddenly stop responding to emails or you're deleting emails or you've blocked the person or you're seen online but just ignoring them..... This proves that you are NOT having an emergency, otherwise you would cancel and let the person know you had to cancel. It's common sense really.

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By *urvymamaWoman
over a year ago

Doncaster

We have all been stood up. All been treated badly. It happens. Its life.

There are some total wankers out there. That wont change. You just gotta suck it up. Or go join your local embroidery circle

Admin delete profiles of people who get too many complaints of no shows. If you check the list of categories in the "report" section you'll see "arranged to meet and didn't show up".

It costs people money and time. You don't just suck that up if a member is doing that to people. Cancel your meet like an adult or have your account deleted.

Me personally, I would only report if the no-show did all or most of the following;

Communicated right up until my arrival

Is seen online

Stopped responding to messages but is reading them

Deletes messages

Blocks you

Or, in the case of the OP, has verifications from meeting someone else.

If most of these are present it is splitting baits to think they aren't a timewaster. People with genuine excuses don't do any of this.

This is separate post so let's leave other ones out of it please

And those things still aren't reportable in relations to the no show the only message that is is the one where they've agreed to meet then haven't shown up.

I for one would prefer them being online and corresponding with me before a meet id find it reassuring not sure why you'd see it as a bad thing?

There's no rule on fab against reading and ignoring messages or just deleting them if there was there would likely be no women left on the site

But they've met someone else yea it's a dick move not to tell you but they clearly aren't total time wasters as they do meet, they've just wasted your time on that occasion

I don't know how people are a

Daft enough to fall for the BS personally I've never have an issue

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By *urvymamaWoman
over a year ago

Doncaster

We have all been stood up. All been treated badly. It happens. Its life.

There are some total wankers out there. That wont change. You just gotta suck it up. Or go join your local embroidery circle

Admin delete profiles of people who get too many complaints of no shows. If you check the list of categories in the "report" section you'll see "arranged to meet and didn't show up".

It costs people money and time. You don't just suck that up if a member is doing that to people. Cancel your meet like an adult or have your account deleted.

Me personally, I would only report if the no-show did all or most of the following;

Communicated right up until my arrival

Is seen online

Stopped responding to messages but is reading them

Deletes messages

Blocks you

Or, in the case of the OP, has verifications from meeting someone else.

If most of these are present it is splitting baits to think they aren't a timewaster. People with genuine excuses don't do any of this.

This is separate post so let's leave other ones out of it please

And those things still aren't reportable in relations to the no show the only message that is is the one where they've agreed to meet then haven't shown up.

I for one would prefer them being online and corresponding with me before a meet id find it reassuring not sure why you'd see it as a bad thing?

There's no rule on fab against reading and ignoring messages or just deleting them if there was there would likely be no women left on the site

And in the example I used what if I was that worried about my child that I never gave my meet a second a thought until after it was all over and knew she was ok so forgot to message the guy before he'd set off as he wasn't the priority, these things do happen and by the time I get chance to log on to message he sees I'm online assumes I was a no good time waster and blocks me before I have chance to message to explain that can also happen too

The point I'm making is there's always a bigger picture to consider too many people jump to conclusion that suit them in those situations

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over a year ago

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over a year ago

Totally sympathise OP. If we were stood up, we'd be spitting fire. Thankfully never happened. Short notice cancellations are bad enough. But it's not something we would ever do, so can't relate to it when others do it. With regards to the veri - well that just adds a little more fuel to the fire.

Mrs

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"But they've met someone else"
Yes, at the time they arranged to meet you.
"yea it's a dick move not to tell you"
YES! It certainly is!
"but they clearly aren't total time wasters as they do meet"
You're always a total timewaster of whoever's time you're wasting. They meet other people at the time they're scheduled to meet you. They are totally wasting your time. That's the very definition of a timewaster. It really doesn't matter who's time they're NOT wasting.
"they've just wasted your time on that occasion"
DITTO! Applause!
"I don't know how people are

daft enough to fall for the BS personally"
Victims of timewasters are not daft. We don't blame or shame victims. That's not fair. You don't fall for being stood up like you don't fall for being assaulted or robbed. The BS is the act of not showing up, there's no thought-crime police service yet. It could happen to anyone, even/especially those who think their fortune is due to their superior intelligence
"I've never have an issue"

In glad for you, and I hope it never happens to you.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

The point I'm making is there's always a bigger picture to consider too many people jump to conclusion that suit them in those situations "

My GAAD! What aren't you getting about a person being online, reading or deleting your emails without responding, blocking you, getting verifications from someone else when they were supposed to meet you? I'm done! You win!

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By *icoleAndLisaTransCouple (FF)
over a year ago

Ellesmere Port

"Not sure, would anyone else feel annoyed aboout this. Was meant to meet this person on the Friday...never showed up and never answered any of my messages.

Today I see a veri the couple received from another person...is it wrong for me to feel a little peeved?"

Sounds like they got a better offer and couldn't be arsed letting you down. It happens a lot, I suspect.

My ex used to play an interesting game on here. Her and a friend (separate profiles) would end up chatting to the same guy. If one arranged a meet, they'd tell the other, who would then offer to meet at the same time. If he binned the first one off for the other, they'd both block him and he'd get neither.

The situation highlights the fact that having verifications (because you sometimes meet) doesn't mean you're not a time waster. I had quite a protracted argument with a guy once, him insisting he wasn't a time waster, when he'd let me down for no good reason (wasting my time) twice.

Unless they cancel with a good couple of hours notice, they don't get a second chance these days.

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By *icoleAndLisaTransCouple (FF)
over a year ago

Ellesmere Port

"The situation highlights the fact that having verifications (because you sometimes meet) doesn't mean you're not a time waster. I had quite a protracted argument with a guy once, him insisting he wasn't a time waster, when he'd let me down for no good reason (wasting my time) twice."

Forgot to mention... his argument was "I'm not a time waster. I have verifications that prove I'm not." Mine was "You've wasted my time twice now. Yes, you literally are someone who wastes people's time."

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

We have all been stood up. All been treated badly. It happens. Its life.

There are some total wankers out there. That wont change. You just gotta suck it up. Or go join your local embroidery circle

Admin delete profiles of people who get too many complaints of no shows. If you check the list of categories in the "report" section you'll see "arranged to meet and didn't show up".

It costs people money and time. You don't just suck that up if a member is doing that to people. Cancel your meet like an adult or have your account deleted. "

Do they? Based on what evidence? One persons word against anothers? How many 'timewaster' accounts have admin deleted this month? I'd love to see figures

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I would be well pissed off if this happened to me.

If they haven't already blocked you (because that's the kind of shite move people like that do) I'd message them and ask them where they were.

If you're already blocked, counter block & report as a no show.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Totally agree. There's a man in our past who we regard as a timewaster and a dreamer. But we still met him 5 times. Just because someone wastes your time doesn't mean you don't meet ever.

Mrs

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

We have all been stood up. All been treated badly. It happens. Its life.

There are some total wankers out there. That wont change. You just gotta suck it up. Or go join your local embroidery circle

Admin delete profiles of people who get too many complaints of no shows. If you check the list of categories in the "report" section you'll see "arranged to meet and didn't show up".

It costs people money and time. You don't just suck that up if a member is doing that to people. Cancel your meet like an adult or have your account deleted.

Do they? Based on what evidence? One persons word against anothers? How many 'timewaster' accounts have admin deleted this month? I'd love to see figures"

They won't delete on one persons say so I'd imagine if they were to get a lot of complaints about the same person they would look into it, it's on their interest to keep the site as fake free as possible.

And as an FYI....I've never been stood up / badly treated on here and think it's totally unacceptable.

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By *ibullMan
over a year ago

swingingcuckville

"Not sure, would anyone else feel annoyed aboout this. Was meant to meet this person on the Friday...never showed up and never answered any of my messages.

Today I see a veri the couple received from another person...is it wrong for me to feel a little peeved?

Yes.....and no. NSA sex means just that - you got bumped for a better deal. Annoying but what can you do? Nothing....it might be your turn another day so don't sweat it.

NSA doesn't mean a complete lack of respect, manners and decency."

This is so true

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

When I read responses in threads like this that says something like "People have a right to change their mind and not tell you. They can block you and offer no reason if they want, it's their choice. They don't have to turn up just because they said they would. You should be more careful choosing who you meet. Suck it up and move on."

I block the writer of such messages because they epitomise and support the attitude of the gutless rude timewasting keyboard wankers. That is just my choice of course, but it helps me in some way avoid some inconsiderate timewasters.

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By *axandbooCouple
over a year ago

Bristol

For us its just plain rudeness not to cancel and then to add insult to injury they arrange another meet.

For us its an instant block and we do report for timewasting.

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By * kiss like morphineMan
over a year ago

The gravelly bit next to the shed

"When I read responses in threads like this that says something like "People have a right to change their mind and not tell you. They can block you and offer no reason if they want, it's their choice. They don't have to turn up just because they said they would. You should be more careful choosing who you meet. Suck it up and move on."

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

The expression used on these forums 'people have the right to change their mind' doesn't sit comfortably with me either, and I hope anybody who is that fickle and that indecisive about what they want stays well away from us. We've had doubts before after arranging meets, but we see it through for at least a quick social, because we won't mess people about. If we had a serious emergency we would send a quick text to explain and apologise, and at the very least would be sending our apologies as soon as possibly with assurances that we'll reschedule and make it up to them. It's easy to tell the difference between real excuses and bullshit excuses. If it's genuine then people will behave more respectfully.

Mrs

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By *ibullMan
over a year ago

swingingcuckville

It's common decency to notify someone if your not able to meet up due to an emergency or whatever the reason. There is no excuse for being rude by not having the decency or courtesy to explain or give notice of a cancellation either before or in certain circumstances (emergencies)even after. The OP has stated a particular experience that I have also had to endure but it didn't put me off meeting plenty of others..

. Sadly, this site is now notorius for the wrong reasons and spoiling it for those of us that are genuine and just want to get on with the swinging lifestyle. Just my tuppence worth folks.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Mrs"

The right to change your mind expression doesn't sit well with us either, it's a cop out, it's used frequently by couples & single females when they get a better offer, if single men do it they are chastised for there actions and rightly so, but so should everyone.

Changing your mind, explaining and contacting your meet well in advance is fair enough, but you are still a timewaster x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"If you need cheering up feel free to message me

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I would but im block lusty lol

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

As you didn't know them, forget it..

Some people just don't give a shit, it's annoying but what can you do..

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By *eady and Willing 9Man
over a year ago

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"Not sure, would anyone else feel annoyed aboout this. Was meant to meet this person on the Friday...never showed up and never answered any of my messages.

Today I see a veri the couple received from another person...is it wrong for me to feel a little peeved?"

That's very disrespectful in my opinion. If they didn't want to meet then just say. We're all ment to be adults but because people are hiding behind a device they think they don't have to. They wouldn't act like that face to face. It's never happened to me but if it did I wouldn't block them. I'd just not do anything and let them see all the fun I'm having

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