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By *hampagnebubblies OP   Couple
over a year ago

west midlands

Out of interest, as a couple profile or single girl profile, is there anything that instantly puts you off when a single messages you? For us it's when they make little to no effort when they message us. The other day we had a message that simply said, "Hey, howz you?" And they wonder why we don't bother replying!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Out of interest, as a couple profile or single girl profile, is there anything that instantly puts you off when a single messages you? For us it's when they make little to no effort when they message us. The other day we had a message that simply said, "Hey, howz you?" And they wonder why we don't bother replying!"

How long have you got exactly?

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By *essandpatCouple
over a year ago

chester

When they message you with a cock pic attached, so off putting x

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By *lem-H-FandangoMan
over a year ago

salisbury

No avatar. No photos for a start.

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By *ap d agde coupleCouple
over a year ago

Broadstairs

Why do single men go on this site unless they are very attractive what chance have they got ?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"No avatar. No photos for a start. "
this or it is directed at cali

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By *essandpatCouple
over a year ago

chester


"When they message you with a cock pic attached, so off putting x"

Can I have your number as well are you on WhatsApp or anything got any more pics the list goes on x

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By *he Regina PhalangeWoman
over a year ago

Lanarkshire

Cock pic

Bottle of buckfast in pic

Football top in pic

'Want to meet?'

'What you into?'

'You want my cock?'

In profile:-

Too short

Smokes

Too many piercings

Cannot accommodate

Just off the top of my head, there's probably more!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I think many would be upset if they didn't receive messages at all to criticise.

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By *hampagnebubblies OP   Couple
over a year ago

west midlands


"When they message you with a cock pic attached, so off putting x"

Once you have seen one cock you have seen them all.

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By *ister-mischiefMan
over a year ago

Trafford

so glad i dont send messages and use it for club meets

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

When you click on their profile and there's only cock pics to look at as far as the eye can see... which had the effect of me stopping clicking through to male profiles (after experiencing that too many times during my first week and a half on here)... And then eventually filtering out single men out completely (apart from those I'f already made friends with) after being on here for three weeks only?! Lol

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Not specific to single men.

If anyone messages me who has a shadow avatar, a vulgar sounding user name, I can see it's going to be a hi / how's you / FAF one liner all equals - delete.

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By *olliPineCouple
over a year ago

swingers clubs

No effort is a no brainer as a put off ( from any type of profile)

Not understanding the dynamic of a non-cuck, non-dom, non-bi men scenario we're looking for.

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By *loswingersCouple
over a year ago

Gloucester

No pic , no avatar and this applies to everyone , not just single guys . Other than that nothing puts us off . We love meeting single guys

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

After reading this i think I might as well go UNLOS

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Numerous cock pics, one liner messages and the arrogant assumption we are desperados

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Not specific to single men.

If anyone messages me who has a shadow avatar, a vulgar sounding user name, I can see it's going to be a hi / how's you / FAF one liner all equals - delete."

Exactly this

It is not specific to single men. I apply the same criteria for messages received from anyone. So that means couples and single women too.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"When they message you with a cock pic attached, so off putting x

Once you have seen one cock you have seen them all. "

Personally, you could say the same about female genetalia.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

No effort, arrogance, clearly not read the profile, meet me now, profile with little or no photos, very short guys, too young or too far away...

These are all possible reasons!

Ironically we adore meeting single guys though!!

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By *essandpatCouple
over a year ago

chester


"When they message you with a cock pic attached, so off putting x

Once you have seen one cock you have seen them all.

Personally, you could say the same about female genetalia. "

Yea you could say that but I don't send any pics to anyone x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

When they describe them selves as a heavy cummer. An instant turn off for E. a username that implies the same thing is a no no as well. When they have 18 pics all of their cock. Not against cock pics just not 18 of them. When the message is aimed solely at E, and they forget that we are a couple. The list is endless

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By *illynopantsMan
over a year ago

Paignton

I wish some of you could experience being a single guy on sites such as these. no matter how much effort, time and endless hours of writing messages to not even get a no thank you. Girls and couples on here really have the pick of the crop. for those of us less attractive we have more chance of winning the bloody Euro than even a thanks but no thanks reply. so walk a mile in my shoes before you judge!!!!!

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By *hoenixAdAstraWoman
over a year ago

Hiding in the shadows

I have a very long list, and it's getting longer daily!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I wish some of you could experience being a single guy on sites such as these. no matter how much effort, time and endless hours of writing messages to not even get a no thank you. Girls and couples on here really have the pick of the crop. for those of us less attractive we have more chance of winning the bloody Euro than even a thanks but no thanks reply. so walk a mile in my shoes before you judge!!!!!"

It's not judging. Would have thought it was useful feedback for singles who, undeniably, find it tough!

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By *oxy_minxWoman
over a year ago

Scotland - Aberdeen

When they message with 'wanna meet for fun' and they have a blank profile and no pictures at all, what do they expect me to say? Hell yes come over now as I am soo horny and as long as you have a cock that is all I need!

F*ck off, I have toys for that if needs be

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By *lem-H-FandangoMan
over a year ago

salisbury


"I wish some of you could experience being a single guy on sites such as these. no matter how much effort, time and endless hours of writing messages to not even get a no thank you. Girls and couples on here really have the pick of the crop. for those of us less attractive we have more chance of winning the bloody Euro than even a thanks but no thanks reply. so walk a mile in my shoes before you judge!!!!!"

Having a single profile and a couples profile on here i can tell you that your only half right. Single women can have who they like. Although I'm amazed by the number of guys who would actually travel to meet my wife alone is tiny in comparison to how many expect her to travel to them. But couples i reckon are the same as single guys on here. Nobody wants a guy hanging around, not even another couple.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I've been getting a lot of flaccid penis shots lately. It just hangs over the thigh like a slug.... I think these men must be communicating. Seems like they are saying more to each other though. All I get is a lousy hi

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I wish some of you could experience being a single guy on sites such as these. no matter how much effort, time and endless hours of writing messages to not even get a no thank you. Girls and couples on here really have the pick of the crop. for those of us less attractive we have more chance of winning the bloody Euro than even a thanks but no thanks reply. so walk a mile in my shoes before you judge!!!!!"

Not all single guys find that experience on fab

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"When they message you with a cock pic attached, so off putting x

Once you have seen one cock you have seen them all.

Personally, you could say the same about female genetalia.

Yea you could say that but I don't send any pics to anyone x"

More directed at seen them all comment but you are right, it's not sexy at all to have someone's random bits on display, I don't think. Not unless you know them can you relate to maybe fantasise about etc.

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By *lem-H-FandangoMan
over a year ago

salisbury


"I wish some of you could experience being a single guy on sites such as these. no matter how much effort, time and endless hours of writing messages to not even get a no thank you. Girls and couples on here really have the pick of the crop. for those of us less attractive we have more chance of winning the bloody Euro than even a thanks but no thanks reply. so walk a mile in my shoes before you judge!!!!!

Not all single guys find that experience on fab "

I think alot depends on what sort of preference you have.

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By *loppsyWoman
over a year ago

marlow

Just had this...... 'could meet for coffee and can offer you a good pussy licking and big cock'

Nah you're ok.......

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By *ieman300Man
over a year ago

Best Greggs in Cheshire East


"Why do single men go on this site unless they are very attractive what chance have they got ?"

This kind of comment puts me off anybody.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I wish some of you could experience being a single guy on sites such as these. no matter how much effort, time and endless hours of writing messages to not even get a no thank you. Girls and couples on here really have the pick of the crop. for those of us less attractive we have more chance of winning the bloody Euro than even a thanks but no thanks reply. so walk a mile in my shoes before you judge!!!!!

Not all single guys find that experience on fab

I think alot depends on what sort of preference you have. "

High standards gets you far on here.

Makes me laugh when a couple complain about being left out though. Why not just enjoy each other of you can't find what you can till someone comes along

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By *hampagnebubblies OP   Couple
over a year ago

west midlands

Great replies. Alot of them are exactly the same turn offs we have.

I saw a guys profile the other day and in his caption it said 'some couples are so damn picky when they have no right to be.' I thought the cheek of it! How does he expect to get anywhere with a caption like that?

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By *hell and jWoman
over a year ago

Worksop

When they don't read our pro file xx delete

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I wish some of you could experience being a single guy on sites such as these. no matter how much effort, time and endless hours of writing messages to not even get a no thank you. Girls and couples on here really have the pick of the crop. for those of us less attractive we have more chance of winning the bloody Euro than even a thanks but no thanks reply. so walk a mile in my shoes before you judge!!!!!"

It's either fly or die bud, just like real world if you don't evolve you won't succeed. If something is not working try a new avenue. To do something over and over expecting different results is the definition of insanity.

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By *lem-H-FandangoMan
over a year ago

salisbury


"I wish some of you could experience being a single guy on sites such as these. no matter how much effort, time and endless hours of writing messages to not even get a no thank you. Girls and couples on here really have the pick of the crop. for those of us less attractive we have more chance of winning the bloody Euro than even a thanks but no thanks reply. so walk a mile in my shoes before you judge!!!!!

Not all single guys find that experience on fab

I think alot depends on what sort of preference you have.

High standards gets you far on here.

Makes me laugh when a couple complain about being left out though. Why not just enjoy each other of you can't find what you can till someone comes along "

Who says they don't?

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By *essandpatCouple
over a year ago

chester


"When they message you with a cock pic attached, so off putting x

Once you have seen one cock you have seen them all.

Personally, you could say the same about female genetalia.

Yea you could say that but I don't send any pics to anyone x

More directed at seen them all comment but you are right, it's not sexy at all to have someone's random bits on display, I don't think. Not unless you know them can you relate to maybe fantasise about etc.

"

Yea I like to see a face pic that way I can say yes or no to them, but sometimes I don't even get a face pic, them they say I don't have one one here but do you have WhatsApp kik snap chat, I try to keep fab to fab x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I wish some of you could experience being a single guy on sites such as these. no matter how much effort, time and endless hours of writing messages to not even get a no thank you. Girls and couples on here really have the pick of the crop. for those of us less attractive we have more chance of winning the bloody Euro than even a thanks but no thanks reply. so walk a mile in my shoes before you judge!!!!!

Not all single guys find that experience on fab

I think alot depends on what sort of preference you have.

High standards gets you far on here.

Makes me laugh when a couple complain about being left out though. Why not just enjoy each other of you can't find what you can till someone comes along

Who says they don't? "

Why the moaning then. Even being a male in a couple your not wanted comment. That's just you're experience not every other guy in a couple.

Have a nice day

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I wish some of you could experience being a single guy on sites such as these. no matter how much effort, time and endless hours of writing messages to not even get a no thank you. Girls and couples on here really have the pick of the crop. for those of us less attractive we have more chance of winning the bloody Euro than even a thanks but no thanks reply. so walk a mile in my shoes before you judge!!!!!

It's either fly or die bud, just like real world if you don't evolve you won't succeed. If something is not working try a new avenue. To do something over and over expecting different results is the definition of insanity. "

Loving that analogy. True for all things

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By *lem-H-FandangoMan
over a year ago

salisbury


"I wish some of you could experience being a single guy on sites such as these. no matter how much effort, time and endless hours of writing messages to not even get a no thank you. Girls and couples on here really have the pick of the crop. for those of us less attractive we have more chance of winning the bloody Euro than even a thanks but no thanks reply. so walk a mile in my shoes before you judge!!!!!

Not all single guys find that experience on fab

I think alot depends on what sort of preference you have.

High standards gets you far on here.

Makes me laugh when a couple complain about being left out though. Why not just enjoy each other of you can't find what you can till someone comes along

Who says they don't?

Why the moaning then. Even being a male in a couple your not wanted comment. That's just you're experience not every other guy in a couple.

Have a nice day "

thanks, enjoy the chase

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I wish some of you could experience being a single guy on sites such as these. no matter how much effort, time and endless hours of writing messages to not even get a no thank you. Girls and couples on here really have the pick of the crop. for those of us less attractive we have more chance of winning the bloody Euro than even a thanks but no thanks reply. so walk a mile in my shoes before you judge!!!!!

Not all single guys find that experience on fab

I think alot depends on what sort of preference you have.

High standards gets you far on here.

Makes me laugh when a couple complain about being left out though. Why not just enjoy each other of you can't find what you can till someone comes along

Who says they don't?

Why the moaning then. Even being a male in a couple your not wanted comment. That's just you're experience not every other guy in a couple.

Have a nice day "

We don't moan, because Fab has served us well. But we don't feel we can pick and choose. Very few men are genuinely interested in playing with an MF couple. Lots will say they are just to get sex, but would prefer Mr to sod off. I think Clem is right, couples don't necessarily have it that easy, as the right men are in short supply.

Mrs

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By *ade_of_StarsCouple
over a year ago

Whitburn

Will fill in later

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Out of interest, as a couple profile or single girl profile, is there anything that instantly puts you off when a single messages you? For us it's when they make little to no effort when they message us. The other day we had a message that simply said, "Hey, howz you?" And they wonder why we don't bother replying!"

for me.

Spelling i have text speak (lazy)

Cock photos or photos in the bathroom or clutter around in the photo (use crop button)

bad profiles with (i will update later) or (ask me)

profiles with no mention of a partner (be honest)

and smokers who claim they just gave up! hmmm

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Instant turn offs:

Cock avatars

Gallery of cocks

Cocks sent with messages

Close up penetration

Cumshots

Photos with toilets in the background

Badly written profiles

One line profiles

One line messages

Asking for sex in first message

Men who are not interested in swinging

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I wish some of you could experience being a single guy on sites such as these. no matter how much effort, time and endless hours of writing messages to not even get a no thank you. Girls and couples on here really have the pick of the crop. for those of us less attractive we have more chance of winning the bloody Euro than even a thanks but no thanks reply. so walk a mile in my shoes before you judge!!!!!

Not all single guys find that experience on fab

I think alot depends on what sort of preference you have.

High standards gets you far on here.

Makes me laugh when a couple complain about being left out though. Why not just enjoy each other of you can't find what you can till someone comes along

Who says they don't?

Why the moaning then. Even being a male in a couple your not wanted comment. That's just you're experience not every other guy in a couple.

Have a nice day

We don't moan, because Fab has served us well. But we don't feel we can pick and choose. Very few men are genuinely interested in playing with an MF couple. Lots will say they are just to get sex, but would prefer Mr to sod off. I think Clem is right, couples don't necessarily have it that easy, as the right men are in short supply.

Mrs"

I was referring to the comment about even couples meeting couples still don't want a guy hanging around.

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By *irldnCouple
over a year ago

Brighton


"No effort, arrogance, clearly not read the profile, meet me now, profile with little or no photos, very short guys, too young or too far away...

These are all possible reasons!

Ironically we adore meeting single guys though!!"

Absolutely this. The lack of effort generates exactly the same response from us, ie. We make no effort to reply!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Will fill in later"

LOL ace... Makes me wonder if you actually have a "date" will they be saying that about the sex acts we're gona do together...

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Genuine man's input ...I used to have a single man's profile...

Detailed Tastefull pics...body and face only ...cock pics upon request only...

Since becoming a couple amd now having a couples profile..

I've seen first hand exactly how tactless and stupid men are...

They clearly don't read profiles and send generic msgs and cock pics.. ive got a decent cock of my own i dont wanna see your 1 inch pinch thank you very much!!.everything we state we don't wanna see...

Delete amd blocked..

Our couples profile has clear Instructions for single guys...and out of the hundreds that have contacted us I think only 4 have been worthy of a response and only 1 of those 4 would we consider meeting...

I made the effort as a single man and let my veri's do the talking..

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By *irldnCouple
over a year ago

Brighton


"I wish some of you could experience being a single guy on sites such as these. no matter how much effort, time and endless hours of writing messages to not even get a no thank you. Girls and couples on here really have the pick of the crop. for those of us less attractive we have more chance of winning the bloody Euro than even a thanks but no thanks reply. so walk a mile in my shoes before you judge!!!!!"

I got into swinging as a single guy for a few years before meeting my now wife (in the vanilla world).

Even when I was a single guy I was switched on enough to realise that I needed to make an effort just like I would in a vanilla club/bar if I saw someone I fancied.

Making sure you actually read profiles, composing a decent (and hopefully eloquent) email. Attaching face pics (cock pics optional but size does matter regardless of what ppl say...perhaps send in a future email). Always be polite and remember it is actually an honour to be invited to join a couple for fun (as there is always the potential to disrupt their relationship...so being honest and trustworthy is also a must).

For the few years I was swinging as a single guy I followed those rules and... Met LOADS of great people (with almost all becoming repeat meets) and even made some longer term friends.

That is why I get so exacerbated by most single guys, because I have been in their shoes and it actually isn't THAT hard to make the right moves and effort to guarantee results!!!!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I wish some of you could experience being a single guy on sites such as these. no matter how much effort, time and endless hours of writing messages to not even get a no thank you. Girls and couples on here really have the pick of the crop. for those of us less attractive we have more chance of winning the bloody Euro than even a thanks but no thanks reply. so walk a mile in my shoes before you judge!!!!!

Not all single guys find that experience on fab

I think alot depends on what sort of preference you have.

High standards gets you far on here.

Makes me laugh when a couple complain about being left out though. Why not just enjoy each other of you can't find what you can till someone comes along

Who says they don't?

Why the moaning then. Even being a male in a couple your not wanted comment. That's just you're experience not every other guy in a couple.

Have a nice day

We don't moan, because Fab has served us well. But we don't feel we can pick and choose. Very few men are genuinely interested in playing with an MF couple. Lots will say they are just to get sex, but would prefer Mr to sod off. I think Clem is right, couples don't necessarily have it that easy, as the right men are in short supply.

Mrs

I was referring to the comment about even couples meeting couples still don't want a guy hanging around. "

I didn't know that couples who meet couples don't really want the guy. Maybe that's the case for some.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Not giving their first impression any effort, because if they cant be arsed starting a decent first conversation, how likely is it their not gonna be selfish lovers.

Not addressing us as a couples, and just assuming he's speaking to the female half.

All the dick pics

Over use of pet names that we might save for each other.... We don't like being called babe, or baby.

Absolutely no camera skills, or selfies from potato quality cameras. Again it boils down to effort. We don't expect professional grade photography, but sell yourself a bit.

One veri from a hidden account, yeah we don't trust you at all.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I wish some of you could experience being a single guy on sites such as these. no matter how much effort, time and endless hours of writing messages to not even get a no thank you. Girls and couples on here really have the pick of the crop. for those of us less attractive we have more chance of winning the bloody Euro than even a thanks but no thanks reply. so walk a mile in my shoes before you judge!!!!!

Not all single guys find that experience on fab

I think alot depends on what sort of preference you have.

High standards gets you far on here.

Makes me laugh when a couple complain about being left out though. Why not just enjoy each other of you can't find what you can till someone comes along

Who says they don't?

Why the moaning then. Even being a male in a couple your not wanted comment. That's just you're experience not every other guy in a couple.

Have a nice day

We don't moan, because Fab has served us well. But we don't feel we can pick and choose. Very few men are genuinely interested in playing with an MF couple. Lots will say they are just to get sex, but would prefer Mr to sod off. I think Clem is right, couples don't necessarily have it that easy, as the right men are in short supply.

Mrs

I was referring to the comment about even couples meeting couples still don't want a guy hanging around.

I didn't know that couples who meet couples don't really want the guy. Maybe that's the case for some. "

I've seen many a couples update. Couple wanted but Mr to only watch. From couples.

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By *icecouple561Couple
Forum Mod
over a year ago

East Sussex

In our experience couples make the same mistakes that some single men make. However of the people who message us single men send more interesting, informative and polite messages.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

and Single women can actually be the same as they think they are unstoppable and can be lazy too

IMHO

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By *irldnCouple
over a year ago

Brighton

The other thing many single guys just don't seem to understand is that swinging is a buyers market and the buyers are single females and couples (because one half is female).

Single males really are in such abundance that you need to stand out. Most people want quality rather than quantity so you need to demonstrate better than the next guy why the female or couple should meet you rather than them!

Oh and standing out doesn't mean having a big cock (it helps). It is far more about attitude and making an effort.

Nobody (unless they have some kind of sub thing going on) is going to give it (pussy) away to someone who can't even be bothered to write a decent email!!!!!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I wish some of you could experience being a single guy on sites such as these. no matter how much effort, time and endless hours of writing messages to not even get a no thank you. Girls and couples on here really have the pick of the crop. for those of us less attractive we have more chance of winning the bloody Euro than even a thanks but no thanks reply. so walk a mile in my shoes before you judge!!!!!

Not all single guys find that experience on fab

I think alot depends on what sort of preference you have.

High standards gets you far on here.

Makes me laugh when a couple complain about being left out though. Why not just enjoy each other of you can't find what you can till someone comes along

Who says they don't?

Why the moaning then. Even being a male in a couple your not wanted comment. That's just you're experience not every other guy in a couple.

Have a nice day

We don't moan, because Fab has served us well. But we don't feel we can pick and choose. Very few men are genuinely interested in playing with an MF couple. Lots will say they are just to get sex, but would prefer Mr to sod off. I think Clem is right, couples don't necessarily have it that easy, as the right men are in short supply.

Mrs

I was referring to the comment about even couples meeting couples still don't want a guy hanging around.

I didn't know that couples who meet couples don't really want the guy. Maybe that's the case for some.

I've seen many a couples update. Couple wanted but Mr to only watch. From couples. "

Yeah this attitude exists, but so does the kink. A lot of men can't beat the thought of allowing their woman to sleep with someone else's but a lot of these guys have no problem admitting they'd like two women?

To us it's a selfish want, but there are those couples that this stuff is good for. Cuckold guys might like to be left to the side and only get to watch. What winds me up is when you get a message from someone asking for the Mrs to be involved, but leave you at home, when we clearly both want to play.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I get the same from couples...

I get prolonged messages from couples asking 'what u into'

I end up telling them to fuck off as I know its a male half in most cases just fantasising

and yes...its from verified profiles...and some magically become bisexual afterwards...strange that

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By *irldnCouple
over a year ago

Brighton


"In our experience couples make the same mistakes that some single men make. However of the people who message us single men send more interesting, informative and polite messages."

Yeah that is a good point. It isn't just single guys (though that was OP question) that don't make sufficient effort.

If we decide to contact someone we like the look of we always make the effort to give a good first impression because... Well being honest, because we want to have sex with them in the future and want to maximise the chance of that happening.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Oh god this makes dreary reading, I don't tend to do any of the above but it seems I might as well get off here

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"and Single women can actually be the same as they think they are unstoppable and can be lazy too

IMHO"

A lot of single women are like this, but it's quite funny because whilst they demand manners and respect on their profile, and how you must write a well thought out message, you'd be surprised just how many message with one liners along the lines of "Hi, how's you"

A lot of hypocritical profiles/people on here.

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By *irldnCouple
over a year ago

Brighton


"Oh god this makes dreary reading, I don't tend to do any of the above but it seems I might as well get off here "

Why though? Are you saying you cannot be bothered to make he effort so you may as well leave?

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By *icecouple561Couple
Forum Mod
over a year ago

East Sussex


"Oh god this makes dreary reading, I don't tend to do any of the above but it seems I might as well get off here "

Don't take it to heart. Single guys get a hard time from some but not everyone. Lots of us actually want to meet single men and just concentrate on the good ones

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Lack of efforts, when sending a message, on the profile and when someone ask me a question. When the answer is in my profile

Close up are a big turn off for me also.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Oh god this makes dreary reading, I don't tend to do any of the above but it seems I might as well get off here

Don't take it to heart. Single guys get a hard time from some but not everyone. Lots of us actually want to meet single men and just concentrate on the good ones "
I'm staying lol I consider myself a decent single guy who doesn't harass or annoy people

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Oh god this makes dreary reading, I don't tend to do any of the above but it seems I might as well get off here

Why though? Are you saying you cannot be bothered to make he effort so you may as well leave?"
no not at all, I do find when I actually put some effort in I get meets as my veris prove, I'm not a desperado like some here though

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Oh god this makes dreary reading, I don't tend to do any of the above but it seems I might as well get off here

Don't take it to heart. Single guys get a hard time from some but not everyone. Lots of us actually want to meet single men and just concentrate on the good ones "

This

There seems to be a lot of single guy knocking going on and yet without them this site would probably die on its arse.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Not reading a profile and/or being soley interested in only what they want/need.

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By *ill74Man
over a year ago

New forest area


"Not specific to single men.

If anyone messages me who has a shadow avatar, a vulgar sounding user name, I can see it's going to be a hi / how's you / FAF one liner all equals - delete.

Exactly this

It is not specific to single men. I apply the same criteria for messages received from anyone. So that means couples and single women too. "

Phew! At least some people realise it's not All single males that are arrogant and cocky etc. Some single women and couples are exactly the same.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

A message from someone who is miles away just doesn't get opened, its obvious that they haven't bothered to read our profile.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I'm a single guy and I have cock pictures on my profile but they are set to private. I'm always respectful and polite and I read profiles before messaging. I'm able to accomodate as well but because I work permanent night it's assumed I'm a cheating hubby which is not the case.i do not have much success on her so assume I'm either classed as ugly or not to everyone's liking.....pity really as I am the genuine guy on here that could be a lot of fun for some..

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Oh god this makes dreary reading, I don't tend to do any of the above but it seems I might as well get off here "

It's not just some single males. Some couples and single women are guilty of this too . If you dont do any of the above, please stay . The good messages are the ones that are sought after haha.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"and Single women can actually be the same as they think they are unstoppable and can be lazy too

IMHO

A lot of single women are like this, but it's quite funny because whilst they demand manners and respect on their profile, and how you must write a well thought out message, you'd be surprised just how many message with one liners along the lines of "Hi, how's you"

A lot of hypocritical profiles/people on here.

"

never changes eh!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I wish some of you could experience being a single guy on sites such as these. no matter how much effort, time and endless hours of writing messages to not even get a no thank you. Girls and couples on here really have the pick of the crop. for those of us less attractive we have more chance of winning the bloody Euro than even a thanks but no thanks reply. so walk a mile in my shoes before you judge!!!!!

It's either fly or die bud, just like real world if you don't evolve you won't succeed. If something is not working try a new avenue. To do something over and over expecting different results is the definition of insanity.

Loving that analogy. True for all things "

Amongst some of the weird shit and bolox I do occasionally make some sense.

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By *essandpatCouple
over a year ago

chester

When they ask to meet but you can't as hubby is out they ask why I have kids and won't drop everything for you, and would I be interested in a 3sum when we meet will your hubby be there, they don't read the profile really annoying x

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By *ames1763Man
over a year ago

Aberdeen

I don't agree , some ladies are always running the single guys down all the time, try doing the chasing and see how easy it is, I can understand why the single guys don't put in any efforts and I don't blame them , most of the ladies just waste their time even when they put in the effort. We are talking about matured ladies here and still this kind of time wasting occurs, some of the ladies are just looking for attention and nothing more(fair game).

Personally I don't put in any stress beyond what am willing to do and that is how it is going to be.

Ladies who complain, don't you think the single guys are tired of all the endless efforts and socials without results. I am very straight to the point, my messages are short, my conversations in the clubs are short, if the lady am talking to is not ready to come on board , am very ready to walk to next lady and that's me, as far as am concerned the lady missed me , I didn't miss her, this is my attitude.

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By *reakShow90Man
over a year ago

Manchester/halifax


"Cock pic

Bottle of buckfast in pic

Football top in pic

'Want to meet?'

'What you into?'

'You want my cock?'

In profile:-

Too short

Smokes

Too many piercings

Cannot accommodate

Just off the top of my head, there's probably more!

"

Well thats me fucked then short smoke and piercings lol

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By *reakShow90Man
over a year ago

Manchester/halifax


"Why do single men go on this site unless they are very attractive what chance have they got ?"

Sorry but iam no brad Pitt and I do ok lol

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By *ophieslutTV/TS
over a year ago

Central

When the messages are largely about them.

When they don't really answer questions or reply with a question.

It's clear they've not read or are ignoring the profile

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

the lack of boobs and femininity put me off the majority of single men.

And the presence of boobs puts me off others lol

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By *ill74Man
over a year ago

New forest area

Just a thought.

With all this single guy bashing. Is it any wonder that SOME single males don't put any effort in.

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By *over me with CumCouple
over a year ago

Near Spalding.


"Out of interest, as a couple profile or single girl profile, is there anything that instantly puts you off when a single messages you? For us it's when they make little to no effort when they message us. The other day we had a message that simply said, "Hey, howz you?" And they wonder why we don't bother replying!"

You were lucky as you had a question mark at the end, haven't seen one of them in a message from a single guy for ages.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Most guys use this site for one reason ITS FREE.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Same things that put me off women and couples.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

3.5 billion women on the planet and these guys are single,,,,,that many women can't all be wrong.

(I realise that could easily be turned around against me but still,,,,I thought it was funny,,ish).

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Oh god this makes dreary reading, I don't tend to do any of the above but it seems I might as well get off here

Don't take it to heart. Single guys get a hard time from some but not everyone. Lots of us actually want to meet single men and just concentrate on the good ones

This

There seems to be a lot of single guy knocking going on and yet without them this site would probably die on its arse. "

fancy a shag....I should have added a no thanks previously lol...

BUT I fucking hate single guy bashing...in my experiance as a single and a guy...I've found idiots all over.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Most guys use this site for one reason ITS FREE. "

as you describe on your profile

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

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By *ill74Man
over a year ago

New forest area


"Most guys use this site for one reason ITS FREE. "

So you must be a single guy then?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"3.5 billion women on the planet and these guys are single,,,,,that many women can't all be wrong.

(I realise that could easily be turned around against me but still,,,,I thought it was funny,,ish). "

But seriously though,,,,just had some really nice messages from single guys,there are some gems out there if you're prepared to be patient.

X

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

You can never have enough slamming single men posts. Love these.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

It's the boring repetitive speals they all try there luck with.

The cock pics.

The biggest turn off for me is there sheer desperation as there messages wreak of it as there's so many of them on here they try to up the level of there thirst for a quick fuck and go.

It's depressing to watch there ways and I do feel sorry for them as there trying to compete with the thousands of other single guys that have flooded this site but occasionally you do come across the rare nice one.

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By *iggles and BeardyCouple
over a year ago

Bristol

When they complain that clubs cost them more..

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By *lem-H-FandangoMan
over a year ago

salisbury


"I wish some of you could experience being a single guy on sites such as these. no matter how much effort, time and endless hours of writing messages to not even get a no thank you. Girls and couples on here really have the pick of the crop. for those of us less attractive we have more chance of winning the bloody Euro than even a thanks but no thanks reply. so walk a mile in my shoes before you judge!!!!!

Not all single guys find that experience on fab

I think alot depends on what sort of preference you have.

High standards gets you far on here.

Makes me laugh when a couple complain about being left out though. Why not just enjoy each other of you can't find what you can till someone comes along

Who says they don't?

Why the moaning then. Even being a male in a couple your not wanted comment. That's just you're experience not every other guy in a couple.

Have a nice day

We don't moan, because Fab has served us well. But we don't feel we can pick and choose. Very few men are genuinely interested in playing with an MF couple. Lots will say they are just to get sex, but would prefer Mr to sod off. I think Clem is right, couples don't necessarily have it that easy, as the right men are in short supply.

Mrs

I was referring to the comment about even couples meeting couples still don't want a guy hanging around.

I didn't know that couples who meet couples don't really want the guy. Maybe that's the case for some.

I've seen many a couples update. Couple wanted but Mr to only watch. From couples. "

Exactly this. Some couples approach other couples, when they really want an ffm...or the husband does....

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By *loswingersCouple
over a year ago

Gloucester


"Oh god this makes dreary reading, I don't tend to do any of the above but it seems I might as well get off here

Don't take it to heart. Single guys get a hard time from some but not everyone. Lots of us actually want to meet single men and just concentrate on the good ones

This

There seems to be a lot of single guy knocking going on and yet without them this site would probably die on its arse.

fancy a shag....I should have added a no thanks previously lol...

BUT I fucking hate single guy bashing...in my experiance as a single and a guy...I've found idiots all over."

Very true ... we never bash single guys , we love them

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

As said before, no issue with being rejected. Rejection is a human right and something we must all learn to experience in order to evolve.

My issue is the timewasting. The claiming you;re up for a meet only to no show and not even attempt to give an explanation as to why. That seems to happen a lot on here too but everyone wants to pretend as if it doesnt.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

The only issues I have are with the instashag ones who cannot handle a polite no.

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By *loswingersCouple
over a year ago

Gloucester

In defence of single guys , we meet lots of great guys and the general consensus is that they are treated pretty badly by many couples and single women . They are asked to jump through so many hoops , and very little respect is given to them . They are often treated as an extra cock , and it's any wonder they get pissed off .

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"and Single women can actually be the same as they think they are unstoppable and can be lazy too

IMHO

A lot of single women are like this, but it's quite funny because whilst they demand manners and respect on their profile, and how you must write a well thought out message, you'd be surprised just how many message with one liners along the lines of "Hi, how's you"

A lot of hypocritical profiles/people on here.

"

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Why do single men go on this site unless they are very attractive what chance have they got ?"

Not every guy is a Tom Cruise lookalike but obviously you may even turn your nose up at him !

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By *ucyfur77Woman
over a year ago

Pleasuretown

Constructive criticism is Not single men bashing.

I've tried to help newbies find their feet which I don't have to do but we need more good guys on here

Maybe start your own thread about women instead of complaining all the time ?

Own your experience on here 'cos no-one else can do that for you !

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"You can never have enough slamming single men posts. Love these. "

Great filter though eh

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Out of interest, as a couple profile or single girl profile, is there anything that instantly puts you off when a single messages you? For us it's when they make little to no effort when they message us. The other day we had a message that simply said, "Hey, howz you?" And they wonder why we don't bother replying!"

What do you say in the first mails that you send to people?

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By *iss_tressWoman
over a year ago

London


"I think many would be upset if they didn't receive messages at all to criticise."

I was thinking the same thing!

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over a year ago

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"In defence of single guys , we meet lots of great guys and the general consensus is that they are treated pretty badly by many couples and single women . They are asked to jump through so many hoops , and very little respect is given to them . They are often treated as an extra cock , and it's any wonder they get pissed off ."

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Out of interest, as a couple profile or single girl profile, is there anything that instantly puts you off when a single messages you? For us it's when they make little to no effort when they message us. The other day we had a message that simply said, "Hey, howz you?" And they wonder why we don't bother replying!

What do you say in the first mails that you send to people?"

lol excellent point

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By *unforus1965Couple
over a year ago

MIDLANDS


"The only issues I have are with the instashag ones who cannot handle a polite no.

"

Lots and lots of them about.

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By *heaspieswingerMan
over a year ago

Peak District


"Out of interest, as a couple profile or single girl profile, is there anything that instantly puts you off when a single messages you? For us it's when they make little to no effort when they message us. The other day we had a message that simply said, "Hey, howz you?" And they wonder why we don't bother replying!"

So. Many. Things.

1: Lazy message - "Hi."

2: Nothing but cock shots in profile.

3: Sending unsolicited cock shots.

4: Hasn't read our profile.

5: Number 4 + a message saying he has read our profile.

6: No information on his profile.

7: Ignoring our no's (see number 4)

8: Constantly apologising for 'essays' when messaging (especially when it's only one bloody paragraph!)

9: No profiles photos.

10: Guys who do all of the above simultaneously. Yes, it's happened!

Think that just about covers everything.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Overly cocky folk.

Rude and ignorant folk.

Folk that ignore the fact that we are a couple and direct messages at me.

Folk who don't read the profile.

Too long a list to go on.

~Mia

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By *heaspieswingerMan
over a year ago

Peak District


"Out of interest, as a couple profile or single girl profile, is there anything that instantly puts you off when a single messages you? For us it's when they make little to no effort when they message us. The other day we had a message that simply said, "Hey, howz you?" And they wonder why we don't bother replying!

How long have you got exactly?"

6" last time we checked

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

No face pic with the first message.

Other people in the pics, fine in couples profiles but I want to see what I am getting and only that.

Smokers

Angry or moaning profiles

People who message you, chat to them, they then disappear for a while and then expect you to remember who they are and get arsey when you ask to see a pic again.

Some guys send a pic with each message or at least when they reappear which is very helpful.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I've got a sausage already so not interested in other man's sausages

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

We have blocked single guys and not after meeting them but doesn't stop them from putting there Kik and mobile no on the updates. Surely that shouldn't be allowed. They definitely lack respect doubt you would get single women trying these stunts. It has definitely been a experience seeing how single guys behave in clubs and social events no wonder vast majority struggle on fab ( male here)

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"We have blocked single guys and not after meeting them but doesn't stop them from putting there Kik and mobile no on the updates. Surely that shouldn't be allowed. They definitely lack respect doubt you would get single women trying these stunts. It has definitely been a experience seeing how single guys behave in clubs and social events no wonder vast majority struggle on fab ( male here) "

Why shouldn't they put their mobile or kik on their profile? I don't understand how that affects you if you have them blocked.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Well not allowed to put those details on forum so why allowed on updates

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By *r_InnocentMan
over a year ago

Rushden

Cock pics showing either a can of red Bull next to it or a TV remote control.... Why? Men... Don't do it. Or messages that just say Hi...

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Cock pics showing either a can of red Bull next to it or a TV remote control.... Why? Men... Don't do it. Or messages that just say Hi... "

Hi...

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Out of interest, as a couple profile or single girl profile, is there anything that instantly puts you off when a single messages you? For us it's when they make little to no effort when they message us. The other day we had a message that simply said, "Hey, howz you?" And they wonder why we don't bother

replying!"

No pictures, no write up and stalking

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By *uteness69Woman
over a year ago

Walthamstow

arrogance

lack of humour

low I.Q.

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By *ewrocksWoman
over a year ago

button moon


"I wish some of you could experience being a single guy on sites such as these. no matter how much effort, time and endless hours of writing messages to not even get a no thank you. Girls and couples on here really have the pick of the crop. for those of us less attractive we have more chance of winning the bloody Euro than even a thanks but no thanks reply. so walk a mile in my shoes before you judge!!!!!"

Why are so many guys hung up on getting a rejection message?! No reply IS thanks but no thanks!!!

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By *ewrocksWoman
over a year ago

button moon

I can't stand the ott cringy messages like'wow you're stunning'

They can see my eyes and my cleavage.

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By *essandpatCouple
over a year ago

chester

Asking what are you wearing x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I think it's personal preference we can't judge all the same its an attraction thing surely.? I'm rather very ugly or just don't come across well

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By *he Happy ManMan
over a year ago

Merseyside


"Out of interest, as a couple profile or single girl profile, is there anything that instantly puts you off when a single messages you? For us it's when they make little to no effort when they message us. The other day we had a message that simply said, "Hey, howz you?" And they wonder why we don't bother replying!

How long have you got exactly?"

Lol

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By *he-Dirty-DuoMan
over a year ago

Boston

When they don't even bother to acknowledge that it's a couples profile annoys me

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I wish some of you could experience being a single guy on sites such as these. no matter how much effort, time and endless hours of writing messages to not even get a no thank you. Girls and couples on here really have the pick of the crop. for those of us less attractive we have more chance of winning the bloody Euro than even a thanks but no thanks reply. so walk a mile in my shoes before you judge!!!!!"

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By *r_InnocentMan
over a year ago

Rushden

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Out of interest, as a couple profile or single girl profile, is there anything that instantly puts you off when a single messages you? For us it's when they make little to no effort when they message us. The other day we had a message that simply said, "Hey, howz you?" And they wonder why we don't bother replying!"

We love meeting single guys however there are some unwritten rules for us:

"Great tits, wanna fuck" erm delete

Only ever directing all correspondence to me (MrsK) again delete

No pic only a shadow avatar, yep delete

Or silly pointless message like, what's up? How's you? Wonna meet now? I wonna stick my cock in all your holes

It's really very simple, of you have pics that aren't just dic pics and you can string more than the usual bullshit sentence together I will generally reply!

Even if it just a thank you for fanning my pic. I think some couple and single girls can be very up themselves when it comes to single guy...we're all human no need to be rude

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

* fabbing not fanning haha

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Why do single men go on this site unless they are very attractive what chance have they got ?"

Same chance as everyone else: male, female, couples... whoever.

The aesthetically challenged among us, make up for it, with personality and humour.

The hardest part, is getting people to notice it.

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By *easor14Man
over a year ago

Chester

I just find it so stupid the amount of guys don't put in any effort more so the ones that fell out the ugly tree so much for that givin you a good personality. Do they not get there's a lot more couples and women an they can be picky.

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By *eedsmale36Man
over a year ago

Leeds


"In defence of single guys , we meet lots of great guys and the general consensus is that they are treated pretty badly by many couples and single women . They are asked to jump through so many hoops , and very little respect is given to them . They are often treated as an extra cock , and it's any wonder they get pissed off ."

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Out of interest, as a couple profile or single girl profile, is there anything that instantly puts you off when a single messages you? For us it's when they make little to no effort when they message us. The other day we had a message that simply said, "Hey, howz you?" And they wonder why we don't bother replying!

for me.

Spelling i have text speak (lazy)

Cock photos or photos in the bathroom or clutter around in the photo (use crop button)

bad profiles with (i will update later) or (ask me)

profiles with no mention of a partner (be honest)

and smokers who claim they just gave up! hmmm

"

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By * and M lookingCouple
over a year ago

Worcester

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By * and M lookingCouple
over a year ago

Worcester

Think it's more their perception of what swinging is.

It's not just send a message and fetch shag as most singles seem to think.

Ask yourself this before you message.

Could or would I be able to pull this person or couple if I met them in a bar?

If not then reality check

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I wish some of you could experience being a single guy on sites such as these. no matter how much effort, time and endless hours of writing messages to not even get a no thank you. Girls and couples on here really have the pick of the crop. for those of us less attractive we have more chance of winning the bloody Euro than even a thanks but no thanks reply. so walk a mile in my shoes before you judge!!!!!"

If I walk a mile in your shoes......then I will be a mile away....and you will have no shoes! How would that Help?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I agree with some points. In my opinion it doesn't really matter either way. If you spend lots of time typing an in depth message or a one liner. If someone is interested in your profile and look, they with reply.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Ok so I'm a single guy, firstly are you saying I've got no chance? and secondly if you were me what would you do to make sure you didn't put women off?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"In defence of single guys , we meet lots of great guys and the general consensus is that they are treated pretty badly by many couples and single women . They are asked to jump through so many hoops , and very little respect is given to them . They are often treated as an extra cock , and it's any wonder they get pissed off .

"

Very true point I've experienced this, Lied to and used.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Out of interest, as a couple profile or single girl profile, is there anything that instantly puts you off when a single messages you? For us it's when they make little to no effort when they message us. The other day we had a message that simply said, "Hey, howz you?" And they wonder why we don't bother replying!"

Attitude.

One liner messages.

Inability to read our profile.

Reading our profile and then making a request that's explained on our profile.

Desperate to meet.

Messaging a million times.

Poor grammar.

Failing to grasp or simply ignoring our replies.

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By *ames1763Man
over a year ago

Aberdeen

[Removed by poster at 30/07/17 10:10:29]

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By *ames1763Man
over a year ago

Aberdeen


"3.5 billion women on the planet and these guys are single,,,,,that many women can't all be wrong.

(I realise that could easily be turned around against me but still,,,,I thought it was funny,,ish). "

Right here from this statement and other statements from ladies and guys, I see there is a lot of misunderstanding of the single guys category, yes some single guys are in the category because they are single and want a lady, I am in the single guys category because I enjoy the category and I get a kick from catching the ladies, I like the chase and the idea is to have as many ladies as possible, some ladies like the gang bang category, some like being a hotwife, some guys just like to watch, some ladies like the dvp, some ladies just like the idea of being a slut in the lifestyle, these are the categories they enjoy. I get my kick from the single guys category and despite the many relationships I might have, the ladies have to accept that am still a single guy and that is how I play, even when I go to the club with my girlfriend, am still a single guy and this is where I get my kick and fun from.

Therefore, the idea of 3.5 billion women are on the planet and these guys are still single is a vanilla mentality and a very wrong way to think, I like the category and am not changing it for any reason, any lady coming on board with me has to accept that within the lifestyle I remain a single guy, catching the ladies is where I get my kick from. Same as the ladies and other guys get their kick from the other categories.

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By *rincess peachWoman
over a year ago

shits creek

Anyone that blatantly sees me as an object rather than a person.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Instant turn offs:

Cock avatars

Gallery of cocks

Cocks sent with messages

Close up penetration

Cumshots

Photos with toilets in the background

Badly written profiles

One line profiles

One line messages

Asking for sex in first message

Men who are not interested in swinging

"

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I wish some of you could experience being a single guy on sites such as these. no matter how much effort, time and endless hours of writing messages to not even get a no thank you. Girls and couples on here really have the pick of the crop. for those of us less attractive we have more chance of winning the bloody Euro than even a thanks but no thanks reply. so walk a mile in my shoes before you judge!!!!!

If I walk a mile in your shoes......then I will be a mile away....and you will have no shoes! How would that Help?"

Facetious!... My kind of humour I love it lol x

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By * and M lookingCouple
over a year ago

Worcester


"I agree with some points. In my opinion it doesn't really matter either way. If you spend lots of time typing an in depth message or a one liner. If someone is interested in your profile and look, they with reply. "

It's just a shame that we get that far, look at the profile and then say no thanks.

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By *ames1763Man
over a year ago

Aberdeen

Plus when it comes to putting in effort as a single guy, we believe that if you are able to get results with little or no effort then the hotter you are on our scale.

Our ultimate prize of Boss Player of the year within our crew ,will always go to the single guy within our crew who can walk into a club party and get chosen by different ladies with his mouth closed consistently, getting different ladies to want you and choose you consistently without saying a word, if you can do this then definitely you are a Boss Player.

That's why we don't spend more than 3 minutes at most talking to the ladies or couples at parties.

We see it like this, if you can walk into a swingers club party and in no more than 3 minutes of talk or just using your presence get different ladies to like you and be comfortable with you and they all choose to play with you then there is no deal you cannot close or overcome in the vanilla world irrespective of business sector because you have mastered how to get people to accept what you are saying in a short period of time and choose to give you what you want .

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Why do single men go on this site unless they are very attractive what chance have they got ?"

Not every one is shallow some people will meet a person based on there personality and the ability to hold a conversation

Short message

Wanna fuck

Repeated meets posted and status looking for a meet then and there

There miles away

Are all flags for me

I like some one who can hold a conversation who wants to meet regularly and put some effort to get to know me not just looking for a fuck and go

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By *aeBabeWoman
over a year ago

London

When a guy doesn't read my profile and asks to meet straight away as they are at a "loose end", charming.

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