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VAUGE OR DIRECT??

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By *eadonistCouple OP   Couple
over a year ago

Ashton under Lyne

How do.

Very simple one today. .

"That question" (What are you into/looking for etc)

We tend to answer with a list.. . Short and to the point.

But when we ask the same thing back its a vauge overwash of a reply.

"Im into anything, no limits"

"I just like to go with the flow"

"Whatever you like, I'm easy"

We're not asking for a detailed explanation about your entire sexual preferences.. But something better than that!!

Anyone else care to chime in?

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By *eekaBooCpl4UCouple
over a year ago

auckland

Our fluffy beast said he'd definitely go for your bone!

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By *eadonistCouple OP   Couple
over a year ago

Ashton under Lyne

:O ding Dong!!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"How do.

Very simple one today. .

"That question" (What are you into/looking for etc)

We tend to answer with a list.. . Short and to the point.

But when we ask the same thing back its a vauge overwash of a reply.

"Im into anything, no limits"

"I just like to go with the flow"

"Whatever you like, I'm easy"

We're not asking for a detailed explanation about your entire sexual preferences.. But something better than that!!

Anyone else care to chime in? "

I think with some they are just worried to say what they want. If they tell me they are up for anything, I tell them to be careful what they wish for the suggestion of my strap on often makes them more specific

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By *eadonistCouple OP   Couple
over a year ago

Ashton under Lyne

We'd prefer a list... (love lists) and we couldn't say Yey or neigh.

We had a meet a few weeks back and the entire conversation with him was him saying. "yeah, Cool.. Whatever you want"

We like some imput as to what's going on..

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Some folk like to have every detail of a potential meet written out in every detail before hand to check that it is exactly what they want.

But not me. I prefer to meet and see what happens. Peoples ability to write in a porno Catherine Cookson style does not a great fuck make.

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By *eadonistCouple OP   Couple
over a year ago

Ashton under Lyne

But you need a certain amount of compatibility..

(for example: She loves to see me with another guy. Guys kissing is one of the biggest turn ons for her, so if this is the desire for the meet we need to make sure it's on the cards)

We're not expecting a scripted meet, but we've tried the whole meet and see with some disappoiting experiences.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I just go with the flow

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Some folk like to have every detail of a potential meet written out in every detail before hand to check that it is exactly what they want.

But not me. I prefer to meet and see what happens. Peoples ability to write in a porno Catherine Cookson style does not a great fuck make.

"

Totally agree with this, i also find that it lowers any disappointment, nothing worse for me then a guy reeling off a list of what he's going to do to me and in reality I'm lucky if I get a good 10mins out of him lol

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By *eadonistCouple OP   Couple
over a year ago

Ashton under Lyne

Like we said... Not after a play by play... But some direction... (ie: what play bag to get out )

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

It's okay for someone to be into a range of things, but if they can't list a few things that they really like or really don't like, it does appear like they don't know themselves particularly well. Which doesn't bode well for playing with me as I like someone who has a little experience, or, knows what they want to try.

If they say they have no limits, I laugh, because everyone has limits.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Everyone is different and every play is different we have a few definite must haves (kissing, everyone involved for example) and some definate do not's, but most meets we go with the flow, that's what does it for us xx

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

If someone messages me with "what are you looking for?", they will usually get "exactly what I describe on my profile" as a response. Equally, they do run the risk of "my car keys, I know I left the tricksy little buggers around here somewhere" - I'm a contrary Wench at times

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By *ikeC81Man
over a year ago

harrow


"If someone messages me with "what are you looking for?", they will usually get "exactly what I describe on my profile" as a response. Equally, they do run the risk of "my car keys, I know I left the tricksy little buggers around here somewhere" - I'm a contrary Wench at times "

Oooo hh can i find your keys in a bowl

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"If someone messages me with "what are you looking for?", they will usually get "exactly what I describe on my profile" as a response. Equally, they do run the risk of "my car keys, I know I left the tricksy little buggers around here somewhere" - I'm a contrary Wench at times

Oooo hh can i find your keys in a bowl "

Oddly enough, with a nod to retro; that's precisely where FQ and I store our keys at Wench Towers.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"How do.

Very simple one today. .

"That question" (What are you into/looking for etc)

We tend to answer with a list.. . Short and to the point.

But when we ask the same thing back its a vauge overwash of a reply.

"Im into anything, no limits"

"I just like to go with the flow"

"Whatever you like, I'm easy"

We're not asking for a detailed explanation about your entire sexual preferences.. But something better than that!!

Anyone else care to chime in? "

These responses make me nervous. For couples it makes me wonder if they are inexperienced and haven't thought through their limits, with men I think they are just looking for any old hole, rather than someone compatible. I play differently with different people and I can't 'get out the right playbag' if Im not getting a feel for what people like. Plus I'm looking for some character and bite, not someone who's just going to lie there grinning saying 'What are you going to do to me?' . These responses make me drop and move on.

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By *eadonistCouple OP   Couple
over a year ago

Ashton under Lyne


"How do.

Very simple one today. .

"That question" (What are you into/looking for etc)

We tend to answer with a list.. . Short and to the point.

But when we ask the same thing back its a vauge overwash of a reply.

"Im into anything, no limits"

"I just like to go with the flow"

"Whatever you like, I'm easy"

We're not asking for a detailed explanation about your entire sexual preferences.. But something better than that!!

Anyone else care to chime in?

These responses make me nervous. For couples it makes me wonder if they are inexperienced and haven't thought through their limits, with men I think they are just looking for any old hole, rather than someone compatible. I play differently with different people and I can't 'get out the right playbag' if Im not getting a feel for what people like. Plus I'm looking for some character and bite, not someone who's just going to lie there grinning saying 'What are you going to do to me?' . These responses make me drop and move on."

Exactly this...

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By *ieman300Man
over a year ago

Best Greggs in Cheshire East

Its a fine line i think. Talking about what your interested in generally is fine but doing lists to me is boring. I also belive that the kinkier exploits are for longer term agreements. If someone is wanting to do watersports or nipple clamping or whatever on a first meet thats fine but i would exoect to know that from their profile already.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Its a fine line i think. Talking about what your interested in generally is fine but doing lists to me is boring. I also belive that the kinkier exploits are for longer term agreements. If someone is wanting to do watersports or nipple clamping or whatever on a first meet thats fine but i would exoect to know that from their profile already."

But then people would think you ONLY want to meet people also into nipple clamping and watersports, no? (Reviews profile..)

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Quite often they will say what they think you want them to say, in order to secure a meet.

For instance

I had on my profile I did anal, the men messaging said they loved anal

I then stopped doing anal and started saying I don't do anal. The men messaging all started saying they weren't into anal anyway.

So you can't rely on what they say anyway XXX

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By *loswingersCouple
over a year ago

Gloucester

After a while , and after experiencing pretty much all the swinging experiences on offer , we tend to say we are a no limits , go with the flow couple .

We don't go into any details as the meet often ends up contrived to the details of the pre meet likes .

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By *ieman300Man
over a year ago

Best Greggs in Cheshire East


"Its a fine line i think. Talking about what your interested in generally is fine but doing lists to me is boring. I also belive that the kinkier exploits are for longer term agreements. If someone is wanting to do watersports or nipple clamping or whatever on a first meet thats fine but i would exoect to know that from their profile already.

But then people would think you ONLY want to meet people also into nipple clamping and watersports, no? (Reviews profile..)"

Thats a bloody good point.

Minefield init!

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By *ikeC81Man
over a year ago

harrow


"If someone messages me with "what are you looking for?", they will usually get "exactly what I describe on my profile" as a response. Equally, they do run the risk of "my car keys, I know I left the tricksy little buggers around here somewhere" - I'm a contrary Wench at times

Oooo hh can i find your keys in a bowl

Oddly enough, with a nod to retro; that's precisely where FQ and I store our keys at Wench Towers. "

Ooooo that bowl would be fun

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By *rightonsteveMan
over a year ago

Brighton - even Hove!

When people are non commital and vague, it mean they are waiting for you to say what you're into so they can say 'so am I'

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Unless you've got specific kinks bdsm, call me daddy, watersports, etc or you've got specific limits no kissing, no touching, soft swap only, etc there's really no need to know. Everything else is just down to what inspiration takes you on the night

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By *ethnmelvCouple
over a year ago

Cardiff

Generally we prefer direct in a club, vague just keeps you guessing and you end up chatting rather than fooling around - it tends to put us off A bit if we have long chats. We are happy to be social, but go to clubs to have a different form of intercourse...

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By *ethnmelvCouple
over a year ago

Cardiff

Just to avoid doubt though, direct in a club or in messages on here does not mean 'dya wanna fuck'!

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