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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

Why oh why do a minority of guys take time to chat to me, sometimes all evening, they compliment you, offer you their number their private photos etc. Then they send a friend request ..without asking. I choose not to accept as I have known them all but 2mins and then they go offline. I do not hear anything from them for days or weeks sometimes.

Yes, they wish to view my private pics.. but is that the only reason?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I think you know the answer already.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

^^^^^^^^^^^^^

Wot he said

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I think you know the answer already. "

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

No other reason?

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

I guess they do anything to get to view them and also to meet women from this site.

How sad lol

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By *thwalescplCouple
over a year ago

brecon


"No other reason?"

Nope.

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

Good job I only have about 6 friends on my list and they are guys I have know for years.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Good job I only have about 6 friends on my list and they are guys I have know for years. "

Best keep it that way. Saves the pic collectors

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By *orkie321bWoman
over a year ago

Nottingham

Many just want to look at your friends only pics.

As a general rule I don't add anyone as a friend unless we have met in person. I do add them if they ask first and we are planning to meet but if they don't ask and just send a friend request I ignore it.

One thing I have noticed is I get fewer unsolicited friend requests when my face pictures are on public display.

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"Many just want to look at your friends only pics.

As a general rule I don't add anyone as a friend unless we have met in person. I do add them if they ask first and we are planning to meet but if they don't ask and just send a friend request I ignore it.

One thing I have noticed is I get fewer unsolicited friend requests when my face pictures are on public display. "

How strange. I wouldnt show my face, I like to be discreet but wish I could and I might also find less unsolicited friend requests are sent.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Why oh why do a minority of guys take time to chat to me, sometimes all evening, they compliment you, offer you their number their private photos etc. Then they send a friend request ..without asking. I choose not to accept as I have known them all but 2mins and then they go offline. I do not hear anything from them for days or weeks sometimes.

Yes, they wish to view my private pics.. but is that the only reason?

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I don't accept friends requests unless it's someone I might possibly meet at some point or someone I chatting to regularly. Mostly they want to look at pics as you say, and also want to make themselves look good by having lots of friends XXX

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"Why oh why do a minority of guys take time to chat to me, sometimes all evening, they compliment you, offer you their number their private photos etc. Then they send a friend request ..without asking. I choose not to accept as I have known them all but 2mins and then they go offline. I do not hear anything from them for days or weeks sometimes.

Yes, they wish to view my private pics.. but is that the only reason?

I don't accept friends requests unless it's someone I might possibly meet at some point or someone I chatting to regularly. Mostly they want to look at pics as you say, and also want to make themselves look good by having lots of friends XXX"

This is what i do now... have done for months.

If a guy is really interested, he will meet me.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I don't accept friend requests unless I have met them already. Some guys get stroppy about it but that instantly tells me they are not guys I would want to meet. X

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Put all your friend pics private then accept the request

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Not really a massive dilemma..

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"Put all your friend pics private then accept the request "

Haha .. ive done that before and you may as well be strangers once you have accepted them.

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"Not really a massive dilemma..

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Its not your dilemma is it?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Everyone uses the friend request feature in different ways, cannot see any problem with if you are chatting with somebody for a few hours they send a friend request, they've spent time engaging with you and maybe want to add you as a friend so when they do reacquaint themselves with you at a later date you remember them, what's wrong with that? If you are on there friends list you are easier to find a vice versa x

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By *essandpatCouple
over a year ago

chester

Yea iv had a few that just send me friends invite out of the blue I don't except, other that I have been chatting to for a while friends invite I accept but then they ask do I have any more, you get what you get and no more x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Use experience and the vibe you feel...its simple really

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I've removed all my friend pics as I got loads of requests from people I've never spoken to. I just leave them there as they cannot send another for 30 days unless you delete it. I only have people I've met or plan to meet as friends.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I tell people I'm only friends with people I have met or people I talk to from the forums.

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"Everyone uses the friend request feature in different ways, cannot see any problem with if you are chatting with somebody for a few hours they send a friend request, they've spent time engaging with you and maybe want to add you as a friend so when they do reacquaint themselves with you at a later date you remember them, what's wrong with that? If you are on there friends list you are easier to find a vice versa x"

Its because they are only after the view of your private pics. The reason I say that is because when i do not accept their request and state why, thats the last i hear from them.

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By *ieman300Man
over a year ago

Best Greggs in Cheshire East


"I tell people I'm only friends with people I have met or people I talk to from the forums. "

Seems reasonable to me.

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