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Tantra - what is it exactly?

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By *y Favorite Pornstar OP   Couple
over a year ago

Basingstoke

So i was giving a normal / swedish massage with a girl and she said "do you do tantra?". I said that i didn't really know what it was and she told me "well it's more like gentle stroking than massage".

That made sense and sounded interesting so i tried researching it later. But when i read about people's experience of 'tantra taster sessions' then it was all new age hippy stuff - people making monkey noises, asking "what is your pelvis saying to you?" and dancing in circles.

Which is correct? I'm very interested in the former and not in the least interested in the latter. Can anyone educate me on why there are such different accounts of what tantra is?

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By *juk72Man
over a year ago

Reading

There are lots of different views on tantra.

For me it is about harnessing sexual energy and connecting more with myself (loving) and others.

Tantric massage is only one part of it, where the massage us used to build and move the energy, (this is the bit where you have probably seen / heard the monkey noises, but that's not all it is) where genitals maybe included (but the focus is not to bring to climax)

If you want a gentle stroking massage (those are great to give and receive too) then to me that sounds more like just a sensual massage without the energetic/connective focus.

Happy to answer any questions via pm too.

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By *BCambsCouple
over a year ago

Biggleswade

We would love to know more about Tantra and perhaps have another couple teach us how to do it.

Could be very arousing..

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By *ittleAcornMan
over a year ago

visiting the beach

Is it when my granddaughter threw herself on the floor screaming, because she didn't want to wear that dress?

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By *y Favorite Pornstar OP   Couple
over a year ago

Basingstoke


"There are lots of different views on tantra.

For me it is about harnessing sexual energy and connecting more with myself (loving) and others.

Tantric massage is only one part of it, where the massage us used to build and move the energy, (this is the bit where you have probably seen / heard the monkey noises, but that's not all it is) where genitals maybe included (but the focus is not to bring to climax)

If you want a gentle stroking massage (those are great to give and receive too) then to me that sounds more like just a sensual massage without the energetic/connective focus.

Happy to answer any questions via pm too."

Sounds like a good answer. I think a stroking massage has it's place but would be a bit unsatisfying if that's all it was. Yoni massage is an interesting concept but does sound like a glorified term for finger banging a girl.

If anyone made a fucking monkey noise in the bedroom then one of us would soon be leaving!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

It depends what your pelvis is saying to you

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By *y Favorite Pornstar OP   Couple
over a year ago

Basingstoke


"It depends what your pelvis is saying to you "

It's saying monkey noises don't turn me on

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"So i was giving a normal / swedish massage with a girl and she said "do you do tantra?". I said that i didn't really know what it was and she told me "well it's more like gentle stroking than massage".

That made sense and sounded interesting so i tried researching it later. But when i read about people's experience of 'tantra taster sessions' then it was all new age hippy stuff - people making monkey noises, asking "what is your pelvis saying to you?" and dancing in circles.

Which is correct? I'm very interested in the former and not in the least interested in the latter. Can anyone educate me on why there are such different accounts of what tantra is? "

You will not get a sensible answer on here, buy a book on it!

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By *roovytwoCouple
over a year ago

burnley


"There are lots of different views on tantra.

For me it is about harnessing sexual energy and connecting more with myself (loving) and others.

Tantric massage is only one part of it, where the massage us used to build and move the energy, (this is the bit where you have probably seen / heard the monkey noises, but that's not all it is) where genitals maybe included (but the focus is not to bring to climax)

If you want a gentle stroking massage (those are great to give and receive too) then to me that sounds more like just a sensual massage without the energetic/connective focus.

Happy to answer any questions via pm too."

Excellent answer to the OP. We tend to combine a traditional massage with slow sensual periods and gentle stroking so building up the physical and mental sensations and combining sensual and erotic massage techniques ....we both always massage massage four handed then all are involved....not to everyone 's taste but it works for us.....and never had any complaints

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By *y Favorite Pornstar OP   Couple
over a year ago

Basingstoke


"There are lots of different views on tantra.

For me it is about harnessing sexual energy and connecting more with myself (loving) and others.

Tantric massage is only one part of it, where the massage us used to build and move the energy, (this is the bit where you have probably seen / heard the monkey noises, but that's not all it is) where genitals maybe included (but the focus is not to bring to climax)

If you want a gentle stroking massage (those are great to give and receive too) then to me that sounds more like just a sensual massage without the energetic/connective focus.

Happy to answer any questions via pm too.

Excellent answer to the OP. We tend to combine a traditional massage with slow sensual periods and gentle stroking so building up the physical and mental sensations and combining sensual and erotic massage techniques ....we both always massage massage four handed then all are involved....not to everyone 's taste but it works for us.....and never had any complaints "

Yeah that's much more appealing! I've massaged my wifes pussy just by massaging over it but not in it and she found that very arousing

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By *y Favorite Pornstar OP   Couple
over a year ago

Basingstoke

We've booked a 3 hour private lesson with a tutor on Saturday. He's assured us there will be no monkey noises or "cult shit" as he described it.

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By *roovytwoCouple
over a year ago

burnley


"We've booked a 3 hour private lesson with a tutor on Saturday. He's assured us there will be no monkey noises or "cult shit" as he described it. "

Sounds great....keep us posted on how you both get on.

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By *y Favorite Pornstar OP   Couple
over a year ago

Basingstoke


"We've booked a 3 hour private lesson with a tutor on Saturday. He's assured us there will be no monkey noises or "cult shit" as he described it.

Sounds great....keep us posted on how you both get on. "

Will do, it's the yoni (pussy) massage i really want to learn

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"So i was giving a normal / swedish massage with a girl and she said "do you do tantra?". I said that i didn't really know what it was and she told me "well it's more like gentle stroking than massage".

That made sense and sounded interesting so i tried researching it later. But when i read about people's experience of 'tantra taster sessions' then it was all new age hippy stuff - people making monkey noises, asking "what is your pelvis saying to you?" and dancing in circles.

Which is correct? I'm very interested in the former and not in the least interested in the latter. Can anyone educate me on why there are such different accounts of what tantra is? "

I'm only a beginner but I'm working on dry orgasms, it's interesting. If you want to know more about Tantra I know a lady on here who is clued up and I'm sure would be happy to chat to you about it, she opened my eyes to it.

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By *y Favorite Pornstar OP   Couple
over a year ago

Basingstoke


"So i was giving a normal / swedish massage with a girl and she said "do you do tantra?". I said that i didn't really know what it was and she told me "well it's more like gentle stroking than massage".

That made sense and sounded interesting so i tried researching it later. But when i read about people's experience of 'tantra taster sessions' then it was all new age hippy stuff - people making monkey noises, asking "what is your pelvis saying to you?" and dancing in circles.

Which is correct? I'm very interested in the former and not in the least interested in the latter. Can anyone educate me on why there are such different accounts of what tantra is?

I'm only a beginner but I'm working on dry orgasms, it's interesting. If you want to know more about Tantra I know a lady on here who is clued up and I'm sure would be happy to chat to you about it, she opened my eyes to it."

Dry orgasms?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"It depends what your pelvis is saying to you

It's saying monkey noises don't turn me on "

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By *oping for funMan
over a year ago

Newport - Shropshire

Google Tantric massage and then Yoni and Lingham massages and all will be revealed

Enjoy

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"So i was giving a normal / swedish massage with a girl and she said "do you do tantra?". I said that i didn't really know what it was and she told me "well it's more like gentle stroking than massage".

That made sense and sounded interesting so i tried researching it later. But when i read about people's experience of 'tantra taster sessions' then it was all new age hippy stuff - people making monkey noises, asking "what is your pelvis saying to you?" and dancing in circles.

Which is correct? I'm very interested in the former and not in the least interested in the latter. Can anyone educate me on why there are such different accounts of what tantra is?

I'm only a beginner but I'm working on dry orgasms, it's interesting. If you want to know more about Tantra I know a lady on here who is clued up and I'm sure would be happy to chat to you about it, she opened my eyes to it.

Dry orgasms? "

Yep, I have complete control over ejaculation. If I decide not to then I can just stop it. It enables me to go for hours if I want to, the dry orgasm part is the next stage which I'm working on. When I get to the point of orgasm where I would normally control it and stop myself the idea is to let myself orgasm but without ejaculating. The male orgasm and ejaculation are not linked, is possible to have one without the other it's just a case of training yourself. The dry orgasm is supposed to be very intense and can last for half an hour! That's why I'm practicing

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


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Yep, I have complete control over ejaculation. If I decide not to then I can just stop it. It enables me to go for hours if I want to, the dry orgasm part is the next stage which I'm working on. When I get to the point of orgasm where I would normally control it and stop myself the idea is to let myself orgasm but without ejaculating. The male orgasm and ejaculation are not linked, is possible to have one without the other it's just a case of training yourself. The dry orgasm is supposed to be very intense and can last for half an hour! That's why I'm practicing "

Presumably you've built up that control through tantric methods? How long has it taken to get to that stage?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


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Yep, I have complete control over ejaculation. If I decide not to then I can just stop it. It enables me to go for hours if I want to, the dry orgasm part is the next stage which I'm working on. When I get to the point of orgasm where I would normally control it and stop myself the idea is to let myself orgasm but without ejaculating. The male orgasm and ejaculation are not linked, is possible to have one without the other it's just a case of training yourself. The dry orgasm is supposed to be very intense and can last for half an hour! That's why I'm practicing

Presumably you've built up that control through tantric methods? How long has it taken to get to that stage? "

Years tbh, but I had no idea it was anything to do with Tantra. Only more recently a meet from fab opened my eyes to Tantra and made me realise I had been practising a Tantric technique. It's something I learned on my own, lots of years masterbating too much

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By *iSubSlutWoman
over a year ago

Bedford

hmm... sounds like something I need to investigate....

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"hmm... sounds like something I need to investigate...."

Can I investigate with you x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Tantra is more than one tantrum, I reckon.....

If so, I can be bloody tantric, every once in a while.

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By *he Happy ManMan
over a year ago

Merseyside


"So i was giving a normal / swedish massage with a girl and she said "do you do tantra?". I said that i didn't really know what it was and she told me "well it's more like gentle stroking than massage".

That made sense and sounded interesting so i tried researching it later. But when i read about people's experience of 'tantra taster sessions' then it was all new age hippy stuff - people making monkey noises, asking "what is your pelvis saying to you?" and dancing in circles.

Which is correct? I'm very interested in the former and not in the least interested in the latter. Can anyone educate me on why there are such different accounts of what tantra is? "

Tantra is not all hippy stuff. Tantra is very erotic. You learn to have sex for a long time and to prolong your orgasms, have multiple orgasms, etc.

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By *arrasicMan
over a year ago

birmingham


"There are lots of different views on tantra.

For me it is about harnessing sexual energy and connecting more with myself (loving) and others.

Tantric massage is only one part of it, where the massage us used to build and move the energy, (this is the bit where you have probably seen / heard the monkey noises, but that's not all it is) where genitals maybe included (but the focus is not to bring to climax)

If you want a gentle stroking massage (those are great to give and receive too) then to me that sounds more like just a sensual massage without the energetic/connective focus.

Happy to answer any questions via pm too.

Excellent answer to the OP. We tend to combine a traditional massage with slow sensual periods and gentle stroking so building up the physical and mental sensations and combining sensual and erotic massage techniques ....we both always massage massage four handed then all are involved....not to everyone 's taste but it works for us.....and never had any complaints "

Well eather one always end up getting wanked exept tantra costs double

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By *y Favorite Pornstar OP   Couple
over a year ago

Basingstoke


"So i was giving a normal / swedish massage with a girl and she said "do you do tantra?". I said that i didn't really know what it was and she told me "well it's more like gentle stroking than massage".

That made sense and sounded interesting so i tried researching it later. But when i read about people's experience of 'tantra taster sessions' then it was all new age hippy stuff - people making monkey noises, asking "what is your pelvis saying to you?" and dancing in circles.

Which is correct? I'm very interested in the former and not in the least interested in the latter. Can anyone educate me on why there are such different accounts of what tantra is?

Tantra is not all hippy stuff. Tantra is very erotic. You learn to have sex for a long time and to prolong your orgasms, have multiple orgasms, etc.

"

That doesn't half sound like hippy stuff though. I can already have sex for as long as i want, multiple or prolonged orgasms for a man sounds... counter to biology.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

The word tantra is from Indian language and it can mean trick, mesmerising, technique etc.. Someone made up the term tantric sex. I think it is nothing but slow fore play.

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By *y Favorite Pornstar OP   Couple
over a year ago

Basingstoke


"The word tantra is from Indian language and it can mean trick, mesmerising, technique etc.. Someone made up the term tantric sex. I think it is nothing but slow fore play."

'Slow foreplay' actually sounds much more appealing than an 8 hour orgasm or what not.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"The word tantra is from Indian language and it can mean trick, mesmerising, technique etc.. Someone made up the term tantric sex. I think it is nothing but slow fore play.

'Slow foreplay' actually sounds much more appealing than an 8 hour orgasm or what not. "

So you need some training from me, you do know that you can't self train this stuff ! ..

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By *y Favorite Pornstar OP   Couple
over a year ago

Basingstoke

Ok so 3 hour session with a professional done, enjoyed it and had a good tutor.

The reason i couldn't understand what it was before is that there is already a word for it: foreplay. Admittedly it's very high-end foreplay, but it's not a massage in any real sense of the word. "Yoni Massage" is a polite way of saying "fingering a woman", it turns out there are really only so many ways to drive a train into a tunnel, tantra just tells you to do it slower.

Was it good? - yes

Did we both learn something? - yes

Is it especially unique? - no.

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By *ouble_CreamCouple
over a year ago

cheltenham

Tantra isn't just foreplay or even just sex! Tantra is a meditation technique, a way of life that can also be used to enhance your sex life. It's a very western view to hear tantra and assume sex. There's a lot more to it than that. Its about using the energy in the body. I've just come back from a week long tantra festival in sweden and it wasn't a sex party! It's a way of seeing the world and enhancing all connections in your life. With yourself and with others both sexually and non sexually.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Tantric sex is alot about breath control. Breathing in each others breath. Touching each other's heart. Being one as much as possible. Creating an ambience. It depends how far you want to take it and jow involved you want it to be. There are some great self help clips on you tube.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Tantric sex is alot about breath control. Breathing in each others breath. Touching each other's heart. Being one as much as possible. Creating an ambience. It depends how far you want to take it and jow involved you want it to be. There are some great self help clips on you tube."

Could you show me some of it?

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