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How do you get rid of a 'Nice Guy' Vibe

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By *aceBeleren OP   Man
over a year ago

Liverpool

This might be an odd one but how do you stop being seen as nice guy?

Nothing I do seems to rid me of this vibe I seem to have. I don't particularly find myself that nice compared to anyone else but whatever this is is killing off my sex life. No woman I've been interested in in a while has found me anymore than nice, And nice certainly doesn't work on here.

Any advice out there?

Unless there is a nice guy fetish somebody hasn't told me about that is.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Go out and do some dumb crazy shit.

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By *udistnorthantsMan
over a year ago

Desborough

Start a thread on Women's sizes or bareback. .. should do the trick...

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By *inky-MinxWoman
over a year ago

Grantham


"Go out and do some dumb crazy shit."

You forgot ass, dumb ass crazy shit

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By *rightonsteveMan
over a year ago

Brighton - even Hove!

There's nothing wrong with being nice.

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By *inky-MinxWoman
over a year ago

Grantham


"There's nothing wrong with being nice. "

Exactly this

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Shave your head, get your neck tattooed and call women bitches.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

nice guy seem not to work on here

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By *unandbuckCouple
over a year ago

Sheffield

I think the reason might lie elsewhere. Only some women are into bad boys and not so much that a nice bloke would be excluded.

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By *inky-MinxWoman
over a year ago

Grantham

OP if women are telling you you are nice but want nothing it's more likely that it's a lame excuse.

Women love nice men

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Embrace that tag, I like it. With the fact I can't grow a beard and still young, people always say I look too innocent little do they know...

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By *egasus NobMan
over a year ago

Wandsworth

Be yourself and nice guys doesn't mean you should say yes to whatever women say thinking that will get you laid. Simple really lead

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By *inky-MinxWoman
over a year ago

Grantham


"nice guy seem not to work on here "

Nice men do very well on here. Though they also have to be positive, proactive and have a mental connection with people.

Not constantly whine about not getting meets

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

If you find out let me know!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

There is a sure way but it involves kittens, binloners and rivers and i don't think you want to go down that route.

Stay nice, it's the new bad

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By *unandbuckCouple
over a year ago

Sheffield

When you say you want to get rid of the NiceGuy Vibe, are you meaning a toy you bought on LoveHoney

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"There is a sure way but it involves kittens, binloners and rivers and i don't think you want to go down that route.

Stay nice, it's the new bad "

Needs couple of bricks as well.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

It's got nowt to do with you being 'nice'

It'll be something else that puts people off, so I'd think about what that could be.

There are plenty of nice guys that do fantastically well on here.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"There is a sure way but it involves kittens, binloners and rivers and i don't think you want to go down that route.

Stay nice, it's the new bad

Needs couple of bricks as well. "

Forgot about those.

You can tell i've never done this before

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

OP you can't pretend to be something you're not.

Women have a sixth sense trust me and can tell what type a man is really.

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By *iscean MaleMan
over a year ago

Darlaston

What image you want instead of a nice guy?.. Nice guys get far.. nice normal guys get further..

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I like nice guys! I like nice guys with nice faces! A nice bum can help too!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

read your profile - try mr positive and getting on with life in a good way - who might just happen to be nice as well

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By *rightonsteveMan
over a year ago

Brighton - even Hove!


"nice guy seem not to work on here

Nice men do very well on here. Though they also have to be positive, proactive and have a mental connection with people.

Not constantly whine about not getting meets "

Negativity is a real sexual turn off for guys as well as bitches.....oops! A bit of 'slightly bad steve' got through!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Turn a few females down that have connections. You're soon be marked

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By *ungBlackTopMan
over a year ago

salford

cum in her eye next time

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By *icecouple561Couple
Forum Mod
over a year ago

East Sussex

Firstly we need to establish what you mean by "nice guy".

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

If they don't appreciate what makes you the individual that you are, then they are not worthy of your time and energy OP.

There's a fella around here that says something about patience being the key But seriously, don't change you to make them happy

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I got a tattoo in February, I went from nice female to rough female xxx

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

You're going after the wrong women. Women who like bad guys inevitably have some combination of low self esteem and emotional trauma.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Male of the couple. This advice is not infallible, but it helped me be the kind of guy that got laid in my teens and early 20's, which taught me not to fear women or rejection. Take it or leave it, it worked for me.

1. Stop referring to yourself as a nice guy. Women seem to hear this and assume you have no backbone. This isn't your fault, it's the stigma of the "nice guy" label.

2. When you meet new people, you're first impression is you setting the expectation of the rest of the relationship. If you meet a girl you do like, don't try and do nice things and become her friend first, fucking flirt a little. OCCASIONAL compliments are better than constant ones. Don't be too blunt and ask if she wants to see your knob, but picking up on her outfit, hairdo, necklace, shoes suiting her, and being cheeky with a little look if she says something that could be an innuendo works wonders. Again, not every five minutes, just enough to let her know you notice.

3. Be fun. Nobody fancies someone predictible who doesn't know how to have fun. Fun doesn't mean get wasted and dance like a prat, it means enjoy yourself, mention a few interests, see if anyone shares them, engage the GROUP and not just the object of your affection. If the room is hanging on your every word, she's more likely to be too.

4. Learn to understand social queues. If a girl isn't enjoying your slightly flirty advances, and doesn't seem interested in you in general, back off and relax the tone. She may not be into you in that way, which is fine. Move on. Don't waste time on people who aren't immediately attracted to you. If you have to change for her, it's not you she wants.

5. Have a little faith in yourself. Just because one, two or ten girls you've liked don't find you attractive doesn't mean there aren't any that will.

6. Don't sleep with people you're not into because they give you attention. A lot of so called "nice guys" do this, and forget that having some girl following you around and making it obvious they like you and there is history will put other girls off. Not just because it appears you're attached, but because if you weren't able to be honest with her that it's not going to be a relationship, you might not be all that nice.

7. Stop hanging out with girls you've liked for ages who've friendzones you. You'll never look good to someone else if she thinks you're a phone call away from that girl you have an obvious crush on.

8. Stop worrying and being scared. Be a little more direct, approach women first, engage them in conversation and show that you can hold your own. You'll be amazed at how much people like people who can just talk to them. If you can't actually stop being scared inside, just try a few times, that approach anxiety will go away.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Wondering why OP thinks he is a nice guy...and more what's wrong with being a nice guy...

Surly it's better just to be true to who you are rather than trying to create an alter ego just to impress others whether on fab or anywhere else.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Shave your head, get your neck tattooed and call women bitches. "

lol

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Wondering why OP thinks he is a nice guy...and more what's wrong with being a nice guy...

Surly it's better just to be true to who you are rather than trying to create an alter ego just to impress others whether on fab or anywhere else.

"

When a lot people hear "nice guy" they tend to think " whiny guy who think they're entitled to be loved by someone they find desirable, simply because they're nice enough to buy flowers, pay compliments, be treated like a taxi service, and basically be walked over by a desirable girl.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Wondering why OP thinks he is a nice guy...and more what's wrong with being a nice guy...

Surly it's better just to be true to who you are rather than trying to create an alter ego just to impress others whether on fab or anywhere else.

When a lot people hear "nice guy" they tend to think " whiny guy who think they're entitled to be loved by someone they find desirable, simply because they're nice enough to buy flowers, pay compliments, be treated like a taxi service, and basically be walked over by a desirable girl."

eh,,yea that's true,,give me a nice bad guy anytime

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Wondering why OP thinks he is a nice guy...and more what's wrong with being a nice guy...

Surly it's better just to be true to who you are rather than trying to create an alter ego just to impress others whether on fab or anywhere else.

When a lot people hear "nice guy" they tend to think " whiny guy who think they're entitled to be loved by someone they find desirable, simply because they're nice enough to buy flowers, pay compliments, be treated like a taxi service, and basically be walked over by a desirable girl.

eh,,yea that's true,,give me a nice bad guy anytime "

or is it a bad nice guy

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Wondering why OP thinks he is a nice guy...and more what's wrong with being a nice guy...

Surly it's better just to be true to who you are rather than trying to create an alter ego just to impress others whether on fab or anywhere else.

When a lot people hear "nice guy" they tend to think " whiny guy who think they're entitled to be loved by someone they find desirable, simply because they're nice enough to buy flowers, pay compliments, be treated like a taxi service, and basically be walked over by a desirable girl."

Think your confusing nice guy with tosser

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Wondering why OP thinks he is a nice guy...and more what's wrong with being a nice guy...

Surly it's better just to be true to who you are rather than trying to create an alter ego just to impress others whether on fab or anywhere else.

When a lot people hear "nice guy" they tend to think " whiny guy who think they're entitled to be loved by someone they find desirable, simply because they're nice enough to buy flowers, pay compliments, be treated like a taxi service, and basically be walked over by a desirable girl.

Think your confusing nice guy with tosser "

lol

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By *esparate danMan
over a year ago

glasgow

Don't be that guy

But if you do be that guy get a cool user name like mingepillager

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Get yourself down the gym. Stick some testosterone in you and be a asshole

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Don't be that guy

But if you do be that guy get a cool user name like mingepillager"

puts me off straight away

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By *ozartCouple
over a year ago

newbury

Op I've always been a nice guy , always been able to pull girls , always been my self , be your self and be happy !

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Embrace that tag, I like it. With the fact I can't grow a beard and still young, people always say I look too innocent little do they know..."

who wants a tic tac lol minty ones G D innocent hahahahahaha man whore he is

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Embrace that tag, I like it. With the fact I can't grow a beard and still young, people always say I look too innocent little do they know...

who wants a tic tac lol minty ones G D innocent hahahahahaha man whore he is"

Cheers Rasp

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By *teve261970Man
over a year ago

Gateshead


"This might be an odd one but how do you stop being seen as nice guy?

Nothing I do seems to rid me of this vibe I seem to have. I don't particularly find myself that nice compared to anyone else but whatever this is is killing off my sex life. No woman I've been interested in in a while has found me anymore than nice, And nice certainly doesn't work on here.

Any advice out there?

Unless there is a nice guy fetish somebody hasn't told me about that is."

I find being a nice guy works for me, you can introduce a dark side slowly, rather than go in all bad ass and spend a life time trying to make up for it.

Mud sticks

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I'm a "nice" girl,,honest,,i am

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"This might be an odd one but how do you stop being seen as nice guy?

Nothing I do seems to rid me of this vibe I seem to have. I don't particularly find myself that nice compared to anyone else but whatever this is is killing off my sex life. No woman I've been interested in in a while has found me anymore than nice, And nice certainly doesn't work on here.

Any advice out there?

Unless there is a nice guy fetish somebody hasn't told me about that is."

Take her by surprise. Fuck her arse.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I'm a "nice" girl,,honest,,i am "

You're a bitch an ya know it

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

We could all be a little nicer. So definitely don't act differently to shake off the "nice guy" vibe. Knobheads attract knobheads.

Oh and Just had a nosy at your profile OP, amazing weight loss man. Well done!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

The guys I play with are all nice and they seem to do ok on Fab. But there are also nice men who are not sexy, in which case being nice is irrelevant. Sadly I also see guys on a Fab who claim to be nice, but fail to hide their bitterness for not getting any meets, hense suggesting they aren't as nice as they believe. Nice is good, but only when combined with other attractive attributes. So maybe work on sex appeal to compliment your niceness.

Mrs

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By *ieman300Man
over a year ago

Best Greggs in Cheshire East


"This might be an odd one but how do you stop being seen as nice guy?

Nothing I do seems to rid me of this vibe I seem to have. I don't particularly find myself that nice compared to anyone else but whatever this is is killing off my sex life. No woman I've been interested in in a while has found me anymore than nice, And nice certainly doesn't work on here.

Any advice out there?

Unless there is a nice guy fetish somebody hasn't told me about that is."

Put up a meet request asking for married bbw bareback fun. Wont get you any sex but you will lose your nice guy tag

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By *abs..Woman
over a year ago

..

There's nothing wrong with being nice, despite what some people may have you think. Be yourself and what will be, will be.

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By *agneto.Man
over a year ago

Bham

Commit some crimes, go to prison, come out as an ex-con.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Why get rid of it. Embrace it ?

Why be something that you are not

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Do you mean that you go up to women and say "Please Ms can I fuck you?"... And they reply "No you asked me too nicely!".... lol.

Or do you mean you beat about the bust waiting for a woman to go "Yes you can fuck me because I can read your mind, you're gawping at me and loitering around me which indicates you must want sex?!

Have you actually asked anyone for a fuck?... just curious as to how you're actually approaching the matter x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Imo nothing less sexy than a fakeass "nice" guy who's a bitter as they come once you scratch the surface... Their sense of entitlement is unbelievable

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By *lik and PaulCouple
over a year ago

cahoots


"Why get rid of it. Embrace it ?

Why be something that you are not "

Exactly this....if someone isn't nice we don't want to know them, in any walk of life.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Nothing wrong with being nice, some people like me like nice guys.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Each to there own op. You can't be something your not.

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over a year ago

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Embrace that tag, I like it. With the fact I can't grow a beard and still young, people always say I look too innocent little do they know..."

Um.....yes!

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By *unandbuckCouple
over a year ago

Sheffield

Or, start a thread and don't bother replying go any of the posts....

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By *iss.HoneyWoman
over a year ago

...

Nothing at all wrong with being nice.

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By *ilk_TreMan
over a year ago

Wherever the party is!


"Male of the couple. This advice is not infallible, but it helped me be the kind of guy that got laid in my teens and early 20's, which taught me not to fear women or rejection. Take it or leave it, it worked for me.

1. Stop referring to yourself as a nice guy. Women seem to hear this and assume you have no backbone. This isn't your fault, it's the stigma of the "nice guy" label.

2. When you meet new people, you're first impression is you setting the expectation of the rest of the relationship. If you meet a girl you do like, don't try and do nice things and become her friend first, fucking flirt a little. OCCASIONAL compliments are better than constant ones. Don't be too blunt and ask if she wants to see your knob, but picking up on her outfit, hairdo, necklace, shoes suiting her, and being cheeky with a little look if she says something that could be an innuendo works wonders. Again, not every five minutes, just enough to let her know you notice.

3. Be fun. Nobody fancies someone predictible who doesn't know how to have fun. Fun doesn't mean get wasted and dance like a prat, it means enjoy yourself, mention a few interests, see if anyone shares them, engage the GROUP and not just the object of your affection. If the room is hanging on your every word, she's more likely to be too.

4. Learn to understand social queues. If a girl isn't enjoying your slightly flirty advances, and doesn't seem interested in you in general, back off and relax the tone. She may not be into you in that way, which is fine. Move on. Don't waste time on people who aren't immediately attracted to you. If you have to change for her, it's not you she wants.

5. Have a little faith in yourself. Just because one, two or ten girls you've liked don't find you attractive doesn't mean there aren't any that will.

6. Don't sleep with people you're not into because they give you attention. A lot of so called "nice guys" do this, and forget that having some girl following you around and making it obvious they like you and there is history will put other girls off. Not just because it appears you're attached, but because if you weren't able to be honest with her that it's not going to be a relationship, you might not be all that nice.

7. Stop hanging out with girls you've liked for ages who've friendzones you. You'll never look good to someone else if she thinks you're a phone call away from that girl you have an obvious crush on.

8. Stop worrying and being scared. Be a little more direct, approach women first, engage them in conversation and show that you can hold your own. You'll be amazed at how much people like people who can just talk to them. If you can't actually stop being scared inside, just try a few times, that approach anxiety will go away. "

This is actually gold. I was going to post something very close to this.

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By *icentiousCouple
over a year ago

Up on them there hills

There is a time and place to be nice, then there is a time and place to not be.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Hmm try getting a face tattoo!! That always seems to work esp with job interviews

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By *orum TrollWoman
over a year ago

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"There is a time and place to be nice, then there is a time and place to not be. "

this for sure. nothing wrong with nice guys at all, i prefer them.

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