FabSwingers.com forum: Men getting annoyed with other meets

By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

Hi guys we have been on here for few months now and have been chatting with some great people but we have found something weird

Is it normal for men we have been chatting to get annoyed when you have a meet with someone else?

We have never said we are exclusive with these people but they have acted weird after.

This has happened a few times now

Is it normal?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Jealousy is perfectly normal, and would promote that sort of reaction.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Had it loads

And whenjoy I was part of a couple wed have messages like "I thought we got on? Why did you meet *** last night? I was free! "

Ppfft sense of entitlement ?!

Crazy

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Same happens with the women its not just a man thing.

I learnt to keep quite who i have a while back now for a easy life.

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By *gnitemybodyWoman
over a year ago

Onestepoutofthedoor

Yes it certainly can be,they talk about women being like that on here,but men are no different.

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By *orum TrollWoman
over a year ago

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i had one guy message all my meets and slag me off coz i met someone other than him.

some men are just weird and best to be avoided and blocked.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Hi guys we have been on here for few months now and have been chatting with some great people but we have found something weird

Is it normal for men we have been chatting to get annoyed when you have a meet with someone else?

We have never said we are exclusive with these people but they have acted weird after.

This has happened a few times now

Is it normal?"

BLOCK! BLOCK! BLOCK!

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By *teveanddebsCouple
over a year ago

Norwich

We'd say it was a warning sign.

A bit like having "I am a bunny boiler" tattooed on their forehead

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Strange, territory marking behaviour.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I had it recently with a female with whom I'd chatted and had some phone fun.

She commented I was on here too much and felt second best, we hadn't got around to meeting yet!

I had no issue with her having meets, why would I?

Very odd some people.....

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By *orkie321bWoman
over a year ago

Nottingham

Its not limited to people of any particular gender. Jealousy and possessive behaviour is rather unpleasant and not what you would expect to find amongst swingers.

Any signs of jealousy would bring a swift block from me.

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By *rBBMrsLDCouple
over a year ago

Seaford

We have had this happen to us also OP

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

As a single guy if we have spoken then you are never allowed to speak or meet another. You must wait around until I have finished messaging others and be my back up option.

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By *hat The CuckCouple
over a year ago

Croydon Area

"Had it loads

And whenjoy I was part of a couple wed have messages like "I thought we got on? Why did you meet *** last night? I was free! "

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Had exactly this a number of times also.

We don't mind meeting people a few times but we do like exploring with new people also.

A lot of guys probably get jealous as they can't easily find a meet as say a couple or female.

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By *orthyorkypairCouple
over a year ago

North Yorkshire

"Hi guys we have been on here for few months now and have been chatting with some great people but we have found something weird

Is it normal for men we have been chatting to get annoyed when you have a meet with someone else?

We have never said we are exclusive with these people but they have acted weird after.

This has happened a few times now

Is it normal?"

no its not normal and to be honest such guys do not really belong on a swingers site, annoyance is same a jealousy really and they both have no place in swinging

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By *onnie And Clyde9070Couple
over a year ago

Leeds

"Hi guys we have been on here for few months now and have been chatting with some great people but we have found something weird

Is it normal for men we have been chatting to get annoyed when you have a meet with someone else?

We have never said we are exclusive with these people but they have acted weird after.

This has happened a few times now

Is it normal?"

I think it's called a dented ego. It's the same as when you politely declined an offer from a male and get a torrent of personal abuse and blocked in return.

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By *reamweaversCouple
over a year ago

Manchester

We have had this happen too. He was not happy at all and told us so. We always thought the whole point of swinging was sharing, trust, openness, and being non-exclusive

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I would say normal to be disappointed, but not annoyed. Maybe frustrated if they felt things were going well and just out of nowhere you met up with someone else.

I think the problem is most people assume everyone is only talking to one person at a time instead of multiple people.

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By *arry247Couple
over a year ago

Wakefield

"Hi guys we have been on here for few months now and have been chatting with some great people but we have found something weird

Is it normal for men we have been chatting to get annoyed when you have a meet with someone else?

We have never said we are exclusive with these people but they have acted weird after.

This has happened a few times now

Is it normal?"

Yes it is relatively common these days as many do not understand what swinging is, they see it as an extension of dating.

It is becoming more and more frequent as people imagine there has to be an attraction or the need to fancy someone before fucking them.

Swinging used to be NSA

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

It's not normal and you should just block them.

I had it recently with a meet and she then started commenting on my online activity, making targeting comments about not meeting other even though we had never agreed to be exclusive (after one meet) and telling me I should only be wanking for pleasure when she wasn't around. Aren't we on a swingers site. Ha ha.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I guess it hurts some guys egos

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By *rightonsteveMan
over a year ago

Brighton - even Hove!

"Hi guys we have been on here for few months now and have been chatting with some great people but we have found something weird

Is it normal for men we have been chatting to get annoyed when you have a meet with someone else?

We have never said we are exclusive with these people but they have acted weird after.

This has happened a few times now

Is it normal?"

Sounds odd. I'd expect people I have sex with to also have sex with other people otherwise I'd think there was something wrong with them.

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By *ackDMissMorganCouple
over a year ago

Halifax

It shouldnt be what happens on a swinging site,but sadly some people men,women and couples suffer jealousy or are entitled.

Miss

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By *ancs MinxWoman
over a year ago

Burnley

"Yes it certainly can be,they talk about women being like that on here,but men are no different."

Exactly this.

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By *ethnmelvCouple
over a year ago

Cardiff

"Jealousy is perfectly normal, and would promote that sort of reaction."

This isn't a dating site, so jealousy should not be regarded as normal here

This is not normal and people who react like this should be blocked and if abusive reported - simples

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By *he Queen of TartsWoman
Forum Mod
over a year ago

My Own Little World

Unfortunately.

I had a guy get mouthy because I went to a club on couples night and didn't tell him. I pointed out it was for couples but he was in full rant. Wouldn't mind but I never made any plans to meet him anyway.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

It's happened to me several times from men I,'ve met, saying they were free and i hadn't asking them. I,'ve had one meet message an earlier meet too.

I have to admit I,'ve done it to my FWB, we split up when he got GF but we are back meeting and I don't do it anymore.

XXX

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Hi guys we have been on here for few months now and have been chatting with some great people but we have found something weird

Is it normal for men we have been chatting to get annoyed when you have a meet with someone else?

We have never said we are exclusive with these people but they have acted weird after.

This has happened a few times now

Is it normal?"

nice arse

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Occasionally yes people get narked if i met someone else

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Hi guys we have been on here for few months now and have been chatting with some great people but we have found something weird

Is it normal for men we have been chatting to get annoyed when you have a meet with someone else?

We have never said we are exclusive with these people but they have acted weird after.

This has happened a few times now

Is it normal?"

Some people have time on there hands lol

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"As a single guy if we have spoken then you are never allowed to speak or meet another. You must wait around until I have finished messaging others and be my back up option.

Loool hahaha

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By *evaquitCouple
over a year ago

Catthorpe

Happened a few times. Any whiff of that and we stop all communication. We respect others right to swing how they see fit, unrestricted, we expect the same.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Unfortunately.

Can I ask why you even took the time to point out the fact!?

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By *unandbuckCouple
over a year ago

Sheffield

Don't meet them again.

They have joined a swingers site. They need to understand how it works, or find a 1:1 partner if they don't like it.

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"Hi guys we have been on here for few months now and have been chatting with some great people but we have found something weird

Is it normal for men we have been chatting to get annoyed when you have a meet with someone else?

We have never said we are exclusive with these people but they have acted weird after.

This has happened a few times now

Is it normal?

nice arse"

Thanks lol

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

He was not happy when we got our new verification today and started sending Mrs A messages on kik.

I told her to just to ignore him

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Entitlement and double standards spring to mind....

Straight to the block folder

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Yeah had this happen to me from a few ladies. I don't get it, if I wanted a girlfriend I'd have had one!

Opted out of the whole veri scene in order to avoid it, just a secret squirrel now!

As in I'm secret, not in that I'm hung like a squirrel. More of a mouse.....

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

It seems surprisingly common, it's Fab not e-harmony! In any case, it's their problem not yours. Block and move on

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Depends how much i like them. I don't mind folk meeting other folk, just don't give me the gory details and don't make out like i'm special.

Some folk go into blow by blow accounts of their sexual antics with others. I'm not interested. From the moment i meet you till the moment i leave you, your cock is mine.

*insert evil cackle and Fatal Attraction background music*

Although i'm not really here to swing. I'm here to find a guy who'll give me Cock on the regular without the complications that a love relationship can bring. If that makes me

a nightmare then so be it.

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By *ungBlackTopMan
over a year ago

salford

No difference between male/female/ts/non binary, all have a jealous streak especially if you click sexually. doesn't mean it's a "relationship". Personally if I click sexually (vice versa) with someone then I don't see the harm in meeting frequently for sex. Others even if it was good would rather experience sex with lots of different people (until they have a shit shag and then try and come back to me)which is usually the people that are cheating on someone else hahaha then I tell them to fuck off. Different people do different things. It's only a game show.

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

I could understand if we had said we were going to be exculsive but we have never said we would be

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Just people not being able to control the green eyed monster. I would say quite a few might get a little bit of it, they just act on it right way and realise it's a swinging site and not a dating site. Unless a discussion has been had where both agree to be exclusive I wouldn't expect anyone I meet to then only meet me.

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