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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

Having seen someone for the first time and they have actually said "we will def do this again" why is it so hard to make arrangements to do so?

It was so easy the first time (made an impression) but the second time is harder?

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By *iewMan
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over a year ago

Angus & Findhorn

maybe they think you are hassling them, leave it upto them to arrange it with you...

they are not exclusive to you or you to them

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By *emima_puddlefuckCouple
over a year ago

hexham

Perhaps they were just being polite?

If u think they were serious, remember its the school hols and people have lives outside swinging.Be patient.

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"maybe they think you are hassling them, leave it upto them to arrange it with you...

they are not exclusive to you or you to them"

That is what i have been doing but how long do you leave it as if to say well lets knock it on the head then?

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By *b430Man
over a year ago

Tayside

It's possibly the same as when you meet people while abroad on holiday and you say to them "next time you're in my area back home look me up", I suspect not everyone actually means it and are saying it to be polite.

Just one possibility though.

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By *iewMan
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over a year ago

Angus & Findhorn


"maybe they think you are hassling them, leave it upto them to arrange it with you...

they are not exclusive to you or you to them

That is what i have been doing but how long do you leave it as if to say well lets knock it on the head then?"

as Jemima says, it is peak summer holiday time and they may have childcare commitments.

leave and see where it goes after the holidays

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

Yeah thats what i was thinking with school hols etc.

But if they have no kids and they are txting you daily?

Being polite is nice but to say "no thanx" would be even nicer?

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By (user no longer on site)
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over a year ago

If they are interested they will contact you,I would leave the ball in their court if you've been trying to arrange something and can't

You don't want to appear desparate,if I felt anyone was hassling me then I would be put off them straight away

People have lives outside of swinging and other playmates they may want to see too so its not always easy to arrange dates as quickly as you would like

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By *iewMan
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over a year ago

Angus & Findhorn

she may have other cock on her mind and good on her.

if she wants yours, she will be in touch.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

They may actually just have busy lives, they may be able to meet when you arent its all about coming to compromise. Theres no hurry just put it to the side and you both might find time again later in the year.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

i always find it harder to meet in school hols, my days are no longer free and because my nippers off school her dad has her different times and days than when she is at school, cause you dont have to worry about staying up late and being home on school nights etc so it does make arranging meets a little harder

it could just be something as simple as that

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By *ittlemorespiceCouple
over a year ago

North Cornwall

I think you need to relax and not put time limits on it. Texting daily prob not a good idea either. forcus your attentions elsewhere and if you meet again its a bonus. We like to have repeat meets but not too close together. Maybe they are not wanting to get too close.

Remember you are doing this for fun!

Mistress x

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By *yrdwomanWoman
over a year ago

Putting the 'cum' in Eboracum

People meet others more than once?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"People meet others more than once? "

Second times to apologise for the first.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I had someone on my friends list who messaged me to say they'd been on my friends list for 2 months and we hadn't met, yet I'd had verifications from others, so if I was free to see others then when is it their time - I blocked them without a response. I don't do needy people.

There is no entitlement here. They may never meet you again or it may be in a years time. If it was a woman, what makes you think she should stick to you when she has the whole site at her fingertips. As you do.

Forget it and start messaging others. If you don't like the texts or you are only texting because you think that earns you a shag and she isn't complying, then ignore the texts.

Do not hassle people, move on and message others

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By *ornyHorwichCpl aka HHCCouple
over a year ago

horwich

We like social meet first so sometimes even harder. Would love to meet some of the ones we have met socially to take things further but there is not enough TIME!!!!!!! sometimes. Life just gets in the bloody way

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