FabSwingers.com forum: Is anyone actually interested in own couples same room sex ?????

By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

There are many people who list voyuerism as an interest, I'm sure there are many nights when various couples are unable to have sex with another couple so what's worse than spending an evening with us. We really want to find out how it feels and how sensual, sexy and how much it can turn us on.

Our idea of how the evening could go baring in mind we are STILL trying to experience our first time is. We can meet either at our home or at a pub and get to know each other. I love my husband playing with my big tits he adores giving massive amounts of attention too, we think it's a turn on in public, we had a good taste of it in VA but that's obviously much more easy going than the average place. I told him over a year ago that women's breasts really turn me on, which is how our journey to here started so I imagine we would go wild with another couple but absolutely no touching that's not our thing. If we are out then we can see how far we can get away with in public, if at home well, the world is our oyster.

We went to VA last Saturday night and we did have a couple next to us but they wanted to play which doesn't interested us as we are only intensely into each other and although we the literally had the best night out we've ever had, we still want to meet a genuine couple to experience same room own couple sex. We enjoyed what we saw but we have sex very differently taking our time to get each other really excited.

Any advice or takers

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I think you will find that those who do list voyeurism also like to swing too so an evening of no contact is unlikely. You may get a few single fellas that'd watch and wank mind you!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

A club evening is almost certainly your best bet for this type of thing. You'll get watchers there most of the time.

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

We loved the club night we went to. Before the 14th May I wouldn't even change my tshirt in front of my husband but we ended up after a few weeks going to a dogging carpark at lunchtime.

I wasn't feeling brace and not sure whether a bloke was a dogger so we decided I would flash a side boob but accidentally flashed my who boob. I died of embarrassment and dragged my husband on top of me and one thing led to another and we had sex. The man asked to watch but it was too soon for us, so he watched from his car. It was amazing and he told my husband he was a lucky man. We've been watched dogging 4 more times but we want to meet another couple.

We have had interest from people who are genuine but it's a long wait.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

That all sounds fine. As you've discovered a club is a great place to watch and be watched. And clubs are sociable places usually so you will probably make friends. I think it's unlikely you would find a couple on a Fab who would be interested in a private meet where there is no touching whatsoever except own partner.

Mrs

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By *eavenscentitCouple
over a year ago

barnstaple

We would not be interested in this type of play, a club as others have said is probably your best option.

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

I guess we are totally different kind of people, fair play to whatever anyone is into as long as your all having fun.

We have been trying to find a place online suitable for us, we tried adult friend finder but too many single men you can't block but you can here.

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By *inkycouplespainCouple
over a year ago

Malaga Spain but sometimes Manchester and

As the previous poster said going to clubs is your safest option if you want to indulge your exhibitionist urges. Outdoor flashing/fucking maybe fun too but a bit less safe. I think you should take your time and a couple of similar tastes are out there. We are quite happy to watch and be watched. We both know we will have amazing sex and something you are very unlikely to get with another couple. So keep what your doing as its what you both want to do. You dont have to full swap to have fun in this game. So good luck and have fun together.

D&K

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

And, yes.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Think you're best to stick to a club a safer environment for you both if you don't want involvement with another couple , we have met a couple previously with same couple same room & was a horny evening watching & being watched . It's a matter of stipulating your requirements with another couple when messaging /chatting with each other , go at your pace & don't get pushed into something you guys don't want to do . All the best to you both

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By *reenleavesCouple
over a year ago

North Wales

Hello!

You're basically describing almost every club night we've enjoyed for the last 3 years! We love to either play together in a public room or to share a private one with other couples who we've met and click with. We just love being in that environment with other people, listening and watching them play as we do.

It's only been our last club visit that we've actually experienced any soft play at all (which was amazing!).

So yes! We do exist! And we love it!

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By *eerobCouple
over a year ago

solihull

We are a couple exactly the same as you OP. If you are patient there are other couples on here, we've met some great ones and just had no contact same room fun. Much nicer in hotel or home environment for us but have done clubs etc. also. There are a lot who state voyeurism but mean play??? Good luck you will find what you want on here.. But it's a long and frustrating road

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Lots of different opinions on this aren't they.

We find it exciting to be around others who are playing and get a buzz from watching and being watched. We don't necessarily have to be bouncing from person to person to be having a great time

Do what you feel comfortable with is our mantra

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

We are just so new to go from never even changing in front of Geof, what 2 1/2 months ago and he has been dying for me to flash him my tits for years to me flopping them out anytime.

I've allowed men to see my body dogging although I didn't want to acknowledge that they were there. Last Saturday night at the club was something I can't really describe.

I said shall I take my top off and within 10 minutes I walked around in my underwear and not long after that oral sex and sex. Was one of the best nights of my life.

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By *blasiansCouple
over a year ago

Wakefield

"Hi

And, yes.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

We are sure there are couples out there that are into voyerism and will play the way you want to, you are however on a swinging site and fundamentally this is a site for people looking to swing, have sex with others, this is why you will struggle, it's good that you are clear on your profile and clubs will always be your best bet but your style of play is one of the reasons why we rarely go to clubs anymore x

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"We are sure there are couples out there that are into voyerism and will play the way you want to, you are however on a swinging site and fundamentally this is a site for people looking to swing, have sex with others, this is why you will struggle, it's good that you are clear on your profile and clubs will always be your best bet but your style of play is one of the reasons why we rarely go to clubs anymore x"

When we went we saw plenty of couples with extra people involved in the action. We found a quiet part of the club although another couple made conversation with me and asked to play with my breasts. I was impressed with how they took my polite shaky no thanks.

Trouble is that we are new, and I guess we have traveled quite quickly to our end game of how far we want to go. But it's not people like us that are the problem in the clubs, it must be that something is missing from them to attract the couples that you are looking for, there should be room for all. We didn't look or talk to find people like us as we were very much rabbits caught in headlights, but that said our status was that we were going to VA all week and nobody contacted us to meet up.

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By *ornographic ArtsCouple
over a year ago

Glasgow

This is our preferred play style, having tried full same and seperate swapping. Took us a while to come to the conclusion we just enjoy the atmosphere and being around others having sex. As others have said this is easier in clubs as they usually have open rooms.

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By *icecouple561Couple
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over a year ago

East Sussex

Its early days. Just be clear about what you want but be very careful of people who seem pushy, they're likely to say one thing and mean another.

We like to be in an erotically charged atmosphere without necessarily playing with other people, there will be others.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

The point we are making is, we can all see from you profile what you want and your limits and that's all well and good

In a club unless you make it clear to those around you e.g. "We are just here to watch and play on our own" then other people won't know what your limits are and will ask to play or someone will even attempt to touch, so our advice is make it clear to everyone around you and you'll be more relaxed and have a better time, if more people communicated in clubs they would be far more fun x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"A club evening is almost certainly your best bet for this type of thing. You'll get watchers there most of the time. "

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

You would be surprised just how many couples are the same as you....

Not that it matters though because ultimately this about what ever turns you on as a couple.

We all have different limits etc... that's what makes it what it is... how boring if we were all the same...

Focus on yourselves... enjoy your new found confidence.... there is no rush... confidence is very sexy....

Go to clubs, stay at home etc.. it's all good.

Swinging is about what works for you there is no right or wrong... just enjoy it

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

The main reason for us joining the site is voyeurism. After talking to each other many times to find out what we really want to do, we found out that our biggest turn on was being watched.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

A generalisation... but our experience is that clubs tend to be full of people out to have fun with whoever turns up... whilst couples who meet privately off of Fab tend to be looking for people they click with. If you want to be surrounded by people having sex then do the club thing. If you want an erotically charged experience in private with sexy friends then you're going to need to be very patient, just start making as many "open minded" friends as possible and try to make it happen. Unfortunately few people on Fab do this (few meet to make friends even though that's what they're looking for). So we've taken to doing this in the vanilla world.

People only tend to meet others on Fab if there's sex in the offing. But if these same people met a sexy couple in a cafe and were asked if they'd like to watch them have sex they'd be there in a heart beat

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

This is our preferred activity. We love to watch and be watched so we are out there, but do find we are very much in the minority and finding like couples is difficult.

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"The point we are making is, we can all see from you profile what you want and your limits and that's all well and good

But it sounds like we should walk into a play room and announce to all that we are on our own and no touchy lol.

We understand that people will want to be involved it was nice being told I had great breasts and my Geof was complimented on how he was giving me oral sex to which I corrected him said no he's amazing, the couple did however mess up my orgasm that had just started when he started talking to me.

They asked to touch my breasts and I politely said no sorry we are just into each other.

I believe it's against the Club rules for anyone to go ahead and touch either of us without asking first. If we were into having sex with others we would have issues with anyone touching without asking, wouldn't you?

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"This is our preferred activity. We love to watch and be watched so we are out there, but do find we are very much in the minority and finding like couples is difficult."

Exactly I'm like why shouldn't we be here, we've had messages saying basically what are doing here, it's a swingers site for people who want to swing and have sex with others. Where shall we go? We haven't found anywhere else, have you?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"The point we are making is, we can all see from you profile what you want and your limits and that's all well and good

But it sounds like we should walk into a play room and announce to all that we are on our own and no touchy lol.

They asked to touch my breasts and I politely said no sorry we are just into each other.

That's why we find open play areas boring, most people don't make there intentions clear and in group play situations people will try to touch without asking, it's a fact, take it from us with lots of experience it happens, as for your other point at no time did we say you should announce it, just make people aware when talking to them in the social areas (thus not wasting there time) and those that show interest whilst you are playing, you are on a journey take it at your own pace and by the time you realise you'll be sucking other guys cocks and playing with girls

good luck

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By *randMrsPCouple
over a year ago

Nr Salisbury

Exactly what we are looking for. Mad busy at work but tagging this thread to read through later.

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"The point we are making is, we can all see from you profile what you want and your limits and that's all well and good

But it sounds like we should walk into a play room and announce to all that we are on our own and no touchy lol.

They asked to touch my breasts and I politely said no sorry we are just into each other.

good luck"

We didn't see anyone talking in open play areas, we wouldn't be in a group play situation. We didn't talk to anyone in the bar area as we were new and uncomfortable, we didn't understand what goes on. We hope going early this weekend we will get to speak to another couple maybe. But to be honest I myself feel like I just want to be turned on in the bar area on the sofas with my husband. It's hard to explain but get to the turned on tingling upto a point I can't barenit anymore and go to a quiet corner alone with him, and fuck him like never before.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Hi

We joined about 3 weeks ago and seem have encountered many time wasters. We are I think a reasonably good looking couple, well my husband is hot and out of this world at what he does to me, me typical woman with lumps and bumps loltry asking for a couple that can watch you then you watch them we done this with some friends years ago,which was great,

Any advice or takers"

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"But to be honest I myself feel like I just want to be turned on in the bar area on the sofas with my husband. It's hard to explain but get to the turned on tingling upto a point I can't barenit anymore and go to a quiet corner alone with him, and fuck him like never before."

We've found this to be one of the more erotic things to do at a club. In fact it's the main thing we do now. However, at the last club we did this at we went off to a back room to have sex, only for a rabid sex zombie woman to pull me off Mrs without even looking at us (let alone asking). She went down on Mrs and tried going down on me. In the end I had to physically grapple her off us and drag Mrs out of the room.

So having sex with each other in a club isn't always that simple and enjoyable

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By *loswingersCouple
over a year ago

Gloucester

Absolutely agree with you .

The amount of people attending clubs for all manner of reasons other than playing with others is unbelievable .

Although the op is clear about limits , and one can certainly see that their style is what it is , it is hard to see this as swinging .

It's a tough one as to where might the best place to get what they are seeking , and dogging may be the best bet .

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

Absolutely agree with you .

The amount of people attending clubs for all manner of reasons other than playing with others is unbelievable .

Although the op is clear about limits , and one can certainly see that their style is what it is , it is hard to see this as swinging .

It's a tough one as to where might the best place to get what they are seeking , and dogging may be the best bet . "

But why should we go dogging, what do I get out of it as a woman? In my case and experience nothing absolutely zero! Why should I go to some carpark where men get to wank on our car? Our first experience was lovely don't get me wrong but after that, someone came all over our car our children get in, then suddenly drove off like formula one. I spoke to him another time and it didn't feel right his wife didn't know.

We paid our £45 for our time, didn't bother anyone, some got turned on watching us. We have great sex why not. We are not the problem, from what I've read the couples who want to swing simply aren't turning up and handing over their £45. Should clubs start asking if you want to swap at the door, surely variety is the spice of life.

I came on here new and wanting advice not to get my back up and to be told we are the problem with clubs these days. We do not want to touch others or to be touched, do we judge anyone who does want to swap hell no of course not. If you want more people like you at the clubs then start attending them yourselves and the rest will follow!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Absolutely agree with you .

The amount of people attending clubs for all manner of reasons other than playing with others is unbelievable .

Although the op is clear about limits , and one can certainly see that their style is what it is , it is hard to see this as swinging .

It's a tough one as to where might the best place to get what they are seeking , and dogging may be the best bet .

Well it's got quite heated, chill & relax, no one was having a pop at you, some of us were simply stating that the lack of actual swinging in a swingers club is the reason we rarely attend nowadays.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Hi

Any advice or takers"

We enjoy watch only meets with other cples. It can be very erotic

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

Absolutely agree with you .

The amount of people attending clubs for all manner of reasons other than playing with others is unbelievable .

Although the op is clear about limits , and one can certainly see that their style is what it is , it is hard to see this as swinging .

It's a tough one as to where might the best place to get what they are seeking , and dogging may be the best bet .

Well it's got quite heated, chill & relax, no one was having a pop at you, some of us were simply stating that the lack of actual swinging in a swingers club is the reason we rarely attend nowadays."

Sorry I know, but going dogging comment made me angry as I think I already said it wasn't for us. I felt cheap and I know like full swing loads enjoy it, I suffer chronic pain illness, the car is uncomfortable and painful and I suffered for days afterwards, the club I didn't.

My lack of enjoyment from dogging led us here, where we've also had private messages propositioning us, that's ok when we say not our thing but then they can be rude and disrespectful saying well we're on a swinging site so we should be full swinging, erm no we don't sweetie. From this post we had a man wanting my husband to suck his wife's nipples and her to play with his shlong, apparently that's ok because they wouldn't be exchanging fluids. I'm sure a few have met him and been insulted by him and his STD issues

If we could have found a place equivalent to this for what we want we would have gone there to find what we want. We absolutely loved the club and there was a massive amount of threesomes etc going on, it was single women night, we won't go when single men are there. Thing is people know exactly what we want and don't have to entertain us, we've had some lovely chats with down to earth people, many want full swap but respect us.

But there is no need for anyone to make me feel like crap for asking advice, there is more of an issue with clubs than people like us if that's what people are indicating, certain types of people can't just take over a club if the original full swap swingers are still attending surely.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I don't think you have to justify why you go to clubs, why you use this site, or why you don't wish to go dogging. I also don't think it's a big deal politely declining an offer at a club - that happens all the time. Even amongst those who do swing at clubs, they cannot be expected to be interested in every offer they get. As long as you don't lead people on. You are looking for a niche market, and have decided to look for that within the swing scene. And there are plenty of people on Fab who are looking for something relatively rare, ranging from ourselves who are exploring a specific aspect of hotwifing involving dating, to couples who are looking for a single female to join them. These desires can be harder to find and there are not the specialist websites to cater for such interests. So you are not alone. It's also worth noting that the largest demographic using this so-called swingers site, i.e. single men, probably the majority of them are not the slightest bit interested in swinging and are just looking for an easy hook-up. In fact I find it ironic that given swinging is an activity more typically associated with couples, a swingers website is so saturated with single men searching for an easy shag. So I don't think it fair to say that this is a swingers site, therefore this is what's expected. Clubs will be ideal for you to achieve your fantasies.

Mrs

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By *isty286Couple
over a year ago

Dorset

"This is our preferred activity. We love to watch and be watched so we are out there, but do find we are very much in the minority and finding like couples is difficult.

You will always get people who believe that their way is the only way it should be done, this is your game, play it your way, if you get off on a dogging style meet, or carpark fun without any touching, then do it, we have seen lots of comments on the forums about how dirty and disgusting dogging is, mostly made by people who havent even tried it, but have strong opinions about what might happen there, if you are ever near our neck of the woods, come and watch us in a carpark it's our preferred playtime, even better if we get to watch you too, it's your kink, you are in charge of it, the block button is your friend ...lol

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