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By * times sexy OP   Couple
over a year ago

Staffs

whats the worst case of bullying at work have you heard of??? have a bf who has been bullied as a woman myself i thought i was awful

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By * times sexy OP   Couple
over a year ago

Staffs

thats bf best friend

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Always find the worst bullying is the ones who only bully the weaker team members,have that at work just now but finding it hard to deal with as she wouldnt dare bully me so reporting her is difficult as its all hearsay and the team members shes bullying wont say much.

I was accused of bullying once, when I asked a colleague to pick up towels she had put on the floor (I was in charge and linen on the floor is an infection risk). Being called into the managers office wasnt nice but when all the other team members said I hadnt spoken down to her in anyway it was nice to be vindicated.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

i was bullied by a team leader and her side kick at 1 place of work to the point i was off sick for 6 weeks and took an overdose of anti depressants not a nice place to be and even now just thinking about it still upsets me

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By * times sexy OP   Couple
over a year ago

Staffs

its good to hear that you werent a bully and the truth came out

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By *isub69Man
over a year ago

Epsom

Bullying at work is a very tricky thing to deal with. There was a case at work where the bully was also being bullied by other members of the team. It was really difficult having to be nutral.

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By * times sexy OP   Couple
over a year ago

Staffs

so how did that get resolved

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By *unky monkeyMan
over a year ago

in the night garden

I am a terrible bully at work.

I make them all hot drinks and get their order wrong on purpose. Then I watch as they squirm and drink shit hot drinks without complaining. That's right!

Usually I just bully by the internal team email system so everyone can keep up to date with my current bullying.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"whats the worst case of bullying at work have you heard of??? have a bf who has been bullied as a woman myself i thought i was awful"

Not sure that this can technically classed as bullying; but once had a senior female manager who was Asian tell her colleagues: "You white people are so lazy!". Wrong. As it would be the other way around too.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Bullying can be very hard to prove, especially where the manager or supervisor is being accused of bullying.

Some people just don't want to be told what to do, can't do what they're asked to do, and are in some instances, quite incompetant.

I used to work with a guy, who claimed that our boss bullied us. We always worked together, clocked on and off together, but I never had reason to say we were being bullied.

Some people just can't accept being asked or told to do something.

While I don't condone any form of bullying, some people need to lighten up a bit

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By *isub69Man
over a year ago

Epsom

The person who was doing the bullying got the chop when cut backs had to be made. Otherwise I think it would have got very messy and probably three or four people would have lost their jobs. I didn't feel sorry for her but I did feel like others were taking matters into their own hands a little too much.

The problem is that two wrongs don't make a right and I was trying to tell people this and point out that stepping in to help someone out was one thing, making the bullie's working day a misery was another.

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By * times sexy OP   Couple
over a year ago

Staffs

Im really worried about my friend as she seems to be going into her shell more and more

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I was bullied at work once, to be honest there is no easy resolve... as other peeps have said it is being able to prove what is going on, employment law is there for a reason maybe tell your friend to read up on that, the first thing to do is to try to get someone else to witness the bullying. If your friend can't get another colleague to witness the bullying then ask to speak to the person who is doing the bullying with a third party involved as a witness and try to resolve the issues.

If the bullying carries on to put in a letter of grievance to the HR dept if there is one if not hand it into the person in question that way if it gets to a point that you friend has to go further ie: walking out/constructive dismissal you can take the company/person to an employment tribunal which means your friend will get a payout if he/she can prove that they tried everything to get a resolve on the problems that are going on before walking out/looking for other work.

Hope this helps as I say employment law is there for a reason maybe even get your friend to speak to someone ie: employment law specialist to get some free advise.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

In all seriousness, bullying at work is a terrible thing and your employer has a duty to protect you from any bullying or discrimination (I'm an employer and although I find employment law can be restrictive, it is in place for a reason.

If you feel you're being bullied:

1: Keep a detailed record of instances, times dates and actions.

2: If possible, speak to a neutral party, outside of work preferably. To try and get an objective, less emotional point of view. After all it could be your interpretation thats skewed or you could be totally justified in feeling bullied.

3: Check your contract of employment, there will be an escalation process in there and grievance procedure.

4: Raise your concerns with your line manager, personnel representative (unless it's them doing the bullying) or union rep if you have one.

(again, document the times and dates that you've raised any grievance)

Depending on the size of your employer and how far you can take it up the chain of command you need to do everything to protect yourself.

If your employer takes action then hopefully the bullying will stop, if not, then they are leaving themselves wide open to be taken to tribunal.

Don't keep it to yourself, talk to someone about it.

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By *isub69Man
over a year ago

Epsom

Daytime you are spot on with how to deal with it.

To the OP, hopefully you can pass on some of this info to your friend and see if they can take things from there.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I had it and can tell you now, the way a bully succeeds is by getting the upper hand and knowing it...

I found that by challenging said bully , it soon stopped.

I was told by said bully one day ..."go get me this" and i had already found out that it wasnt in my remit etc at work...so turned round and said,"fuck off and get it yourself"

They blustered and tried to theaten me with the boss and i said go ahead, just as soon as you have fucked off and got such and such...

It worked

dont let the bastards grind ya down and stand your ground

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Never been bullied, and have never been accused of being a bully either.

Won't stand for any of it.

I believe I give out some sort of aura that indicates I am not someone that would take anything lying down.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"In all seriousness, bullying at work is a terrible thing and your employer has a duty to protect you from any bullying or discrimination (I'm an employer and although I find employment law can be restrictive, it is in place for a reason.

If you feel you're being bullied:

1: Keep a detailed record of instances, times dates and actions.

2: If possible, speak to a neutral party, outside of work preferably. To try and get an objective, less emotional point of view. After all it could be your interpretation thats skewed or you could be totally justified in feeling bullied.

3: Check your contract of employment, there will be an escalation process in there and grievance procedure.

4: Raise your concerns with your line manager, personnel representative (unless it's them doing the bullying) or union rep if you have one.

(again, document the times and dates that you've raised any grievance)

Depending on the size of your employer and how far you can take it up the chain of command you need to do everything to protect yourself.

If your employer takes action then hopefully the bullying will stop, if not, then they are leaving themselves wide open to be taken to tribunal.

Don't keep it to yourself, talk to someone about it."

Absolutely spot on advice, I work as an HR Manager and although I don't do as much case-work as I used to there are some basics to follow as laid out above.

Also, it has been my experience that bullies work when no one else is around which makes it hard to prove as it is normally a case of one person's word against another so the more detail you can provide the better. Often, others don't want to get involved but once one person has spoken up then the dam can often burst but it will be a painful experience regardless. The employers may also have an employee confidential helpline depending on the size of the company which can be a useful point of contact.

If you want any particular advice let me know and I maybe able to help and given my job, I have a good network of lawyers if it comes to it!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

You need to open a grievance against whoever is bullying you!!! I worked with an Asian woman and she commonly used the term you lot while referring to White people!!!! I grasses her for being racist!!!!! LoL

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I suffered sexual harrassment when I first started work. At first I thought maybe I was imagining it, didnt think respected solicitors of 45 would do that to a girl of 18, and he was just being friendly, lol like touching my ass friendly when I bent over. I put up with it for a long time, until I flipped and I shouted at him in front of the whole office. I reported him to the senior partner in the law firm I was working in, he was suspended that afternoon and I eventually won my case for sexual harrassment. I left straight after though, couldnt stand the shame even though it was proven he was at fault.

Ive never let anyone bully me since

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

there are rules and regulation that all employers and unions have to abide bye, allways note down what was said and done bye who times dates witnesses, your team leader is the first person to deal with it , if it continues he has to take it to his or her line manager, ,keep it going you might loose some freinds but you will get respect as everyone will here and know, but maybe they are the scared ones to say, if your just new to the job under i think 3 to 6 months its going to be tuff shit look up acas, and google bullying at work, there is a controlled set of steps that your employer and you have to take to get the corect responce, if your bullier is your boss your fucked, get the gun out stick it up his nostrils and tell him politly to stop,

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

report them to the boss

wont tolerate bullies

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By *iamondsmiles.Woman
over a year ago

little house on the praire

when i was pregnant i worked at the hospital in the pathology lab. One of my duties was to collect specimens from one ward. It was on the upper level and there was a really long corrider and only one ward open. At the end was the barbers little room that opened outwards so you couldnt see the other side of it. I went same time everyday.

After a week i was just coming out the lift and thought the barber had got his cock out, but thought i imagined it, the next day the same. Come the third day it was obvious he was wanking. I went straight to my boss and reported him, without hesitation they marched him of the premises and suspended him. It went through a really long tribunal as it was my word against his, but as he had been marched of the premises he admitted it to someone in authority. The guy had been at the hospital over 30 years, by the quick response to my complaint i think he had harrassed other women but there had been no proof.

The police where involved and wanted me to go to court but i would of been heavily pregnant when the case came up.

He was an old man due to retire and lost everything. I wasnt upset in the least but so damned angry that he would not only do that to a woman but a pregnant woman

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

if yeh act quickly it can be dealt with quickly.

Why hold it back, I no some can take it in and some can't.

the sooner the better its dealt with

it be solved

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By *ENGUYMan
over a year ago

Hull

I went through this last year at my work, but it was my bosses who were the agitators.

I won't go into the finer details, but suffice to say, I closely "monitored" every second I was in at work.

Every infringement, no matter how minor, was blown up out of all proportion, following which, I'd be put on "Disciplinary Notice". My Union appointed a permanent advisor, and the Union Shop Stewards within the Factory itself were asked to keep an eye on me (I worked for one of the contracted companies who worked for the Client)

My Union said it was the worst case of corporate bullying they'd seen in decades. Job redundancies were announced in January; surprise, surprise, I was one of the few selected after an "alleged" rigorous and open selection process, details of which have never been made public.

Now I'm out of there, my health is better. Crazy thing is, my ex-boss found me on Facebook the other day, and asked if I could be his "friend". I hope the response he got clearly showed him what I thought of that!

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By *in4sumMan
over a year ago

sheffield

I was bullied by several all through my school years, making my life hell. As an adult, one of the smarter ones from my village met me to apologise for his actions and ask forgiveness for being a bastard. I regained respect for him but don't stay in touch.

I work at a supervisory level in civil engineering/construction. I'm proud to say that bullying of any form is not tolerated by anyone i work with, and we would notice it.

I'm also proud to have quietly whispered, and seen most of a site befriend a young lad and cold-shoulder the tormentor.

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By *icboyMan
over a year ago

Glasgow

Bullying is a bigger problem than we think, we have to adopt no tolerance to any kind of bullying.

I have always meet bullies with my own form of dealing with it.

Look them in the eye, always, and never let them get the last word or upperhand.

They soon move off looking for easier prey.

If it is in the work place do the same but this time do it every time you see this kind of behavior happening the bully soon gets the message and WILL stop.

This is my experience, remember a bully is rweally a coward hiding inside waiting to get out, it is our duty to help the coward get out.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Most of the cases I dealt with regarding bullying was against military wives. Having domineering husbands, they took out their frustrations against their subordinates.

Other cases were ethnic minorities accusing their white managers of bullying. Sad thing was 99% of cases I dealt with could have been resolved if Personnel backed up the manager as they were making a reasonable management request but fear of being called "racist" allowed matters to escalate.

I've had staff try to accuse me of bullying and harassment because I expected them to do their job. Watching football on Youtube whilst chatting to your mate on your mobile about it and being told to hang up and switch off wasn't seen as bullying in my employer's view!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Following on from my post to this thread earlier on.

If anyone reading this is suffering any sort of bullying or harassment at work or anywhere else. I'm happy to offer any advice or just listen, I'm not qualified in any way, but have the benefit of management and running my own businesses of varying sizes for the past 25 years and have dealt with a lot of situations.

This is being offered with no sexual overtones at all and is for purely altruistic reasons.

Sometimes it's just good to talk and get an unemotional viewpoint or "woods for trees" opinion

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

and of course get it on your chest helps also, speaking among like minded adults who had suffered abuse

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