FabSwingers.com forum: Is this a 'thing'?

By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

'Sorry, I'm reconsidering meeting you, as you've met someone else whilst we were planning our meet'.

Paraphrased, by the way.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

No,a thing is a noun.

That sounds more like a withdrawal.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"'Sorry, I'm reconsidering meeting you, as you've met someone else whilst we were planning our meet'.

Paraphrased, by the way."

= LOL... we're on a funking swingers site?!...

People are hilarious on this site

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"No,a thing is a noun.

That sounds more like a withdrawal."

You know what I mean....

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By *ust PeachyWoman
over a year ago

Prestonish

"'Sorry, I'm reconsidering meeting you, as you've met someone else whilst we were planning our meet'.

Paraphrased, by the way."

I've come across women who have this 'rule'! Personally I find it odd - but there are many on this site who think they can dictate who others should/shouldn't meet! I think they forget it's a swinging site!

Personally I only get naffed off if a guy has clearly had a long meet the day before meeting me - and is so knackered he can barely perform at all - let alone give it his best shot!

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By *SAchickWoman
over a year ago

Hillside desolate

Yes it happens, I've had similar messages from men

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I think for some new starts it can be very daunting and they kind of want you all to themselves for their first experience. They've probably been fantasising about you for a while and you've been a big part of their recent sex life etc and are taken aback to realise you arnt as invested in that one planned meet like they are.

Everyone wants to feel special

Unless of course they arnt new on the scene in which case I've no clue wtf their problem is. x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I believe we are all entitled to our own individual boundaries. You just happen to have found someone else's.

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"Yes it happens, I've had similar messages from men "

From men too?! Crikey.

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By *gnitemybodyWoman
over a year ago

Onestepoutofthedoor

Well to be honest there was this one guy that I'd arranged to meet on the Sunday,all day Saturday we'd been messaging back and forth pretty intensely.

All of a sudden he said I'm on my way,slightly confused I said I thought we were meeting tomorrow. Yes he said we are,but I'm on my way in a taxi to meet this other woman at her's,she'd messaged asking if he wanted to go around.

I was a bit put out,yes I know I shouldn't be but I was. Anyways told him to enjoy himself.

An hour later he messaged me again saying he'd binned her after going around there,how true that was I'll never know and started talking about our meet the following day.

Kinda went off the idea

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

You don't need people like that in your life. Good riddance.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Well to be honest there was this one guy that I'd arranged to meet on the Sunday,all day Saturday we'd been messaging back and forth pretty intensely.

I was a bit put out,yes I know I shouldn't be but I was. Anyways told him to enjoy himself.

An hour later he messaged me again saying he'd binned her after going around there,how true that was I'll never know and started talking about our meet the following day.

Kinda went off the idea

I would have wanted all the sordid details.

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By *gnitemybodyWoman
over a year ago

Onestepoutofthedoor

"Well to be honest there was this one guy that I'd arranged to meet on the Sunday,all day Saturday we'd been messaging back and forth pretty intensely.

I was a bit put out,yes I know I shouldn't be but I was. Anyways told him to enjoy himself.

An hour later he messaged me again saying he'd binned her after going around there,how true that was I'll never know and started talking about our meet the following day.

Kinda went off the idea

I would have wanted all the sordid details. "

Nar not me,I wanted to make my own sordid details.

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By *aughty-MittsCouple
over a year ago

Newport

Some people find it hard to control their green eye monster haha.

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"You don't need people like that in your life. Good riddance. "

Indeed

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Yes it happens, I've had similar messages from men

From men too?! Crikey."

I can imagine some men being reeallly weird about it all.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I got blocked by someone I'd been intending to meet for a long time after I displayed a veri from someone else.

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By *gnitemybodyWoman
over a year ago

Onestepoutofthedoor

Then there was this one time someone travelled a distance to meet me,however...he wasn't just making the journey for me I found out later. I was a mere pit stop on his way back

I didn't feel great about that either

That was a few year's ago now though,I learned to care a little less...or did I probably not?!

Hence why my profile is hidden a lot trying to find my forever man,preferably bisexual so we can lot's of Bi mmf's

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I believe we are all entitled to our own individual boundaries. You just happen to have found someone else's. "

This... and there's plenty more people to meet if that person's boundaries don't match yours.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

The only way I would have an issue is where we had arranged to meet, then it was postponed or cancelled because the other party decided to meet someone else instead at the same time. Its usually accompanied by a lie!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Then there was this one time someone travelled a distance to meet me,however...he wasn't just making the journey for me I found out later. I was a mere pit stop on his way back

I didn't feel great about that either

That was a few year's ago now though,I learned to care a little less...or did I probably not?!

Hence why my profile is hidden a lot trying to find my forever man,preferably bisexual so we can lot's of Bi mmf's

* sticks hand in the air* hi...

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By *olliPineCouple
over a year ago

swingers clubs

Yeah, one of our first meets off this site took a right hissy fit because we had a meet a couple of weeks after he joined us.

Had to politely remind him that this is a swinging site and not a 'looking for a long term monogamous relationship' site.

Also if XX isn't going to be 'forsaking all others' (which I'm pretty sure she promised to) for XY, than she certainly won't be doing so for a guy from the Internet.

Shame really, as he was a good meet.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"'Sorry, I'm reconsidering meeting you, as you've met someone else whilst we were planning our meet'.

Paraphrased, by the way."

so you are quoting from a private message?

as far as I am aware that's not allowed on here

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

no problem with it

in fact even better when she's been filled up before meeting me

don't see what the fuss is about.

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"'Sorry, I'm reconsidering meeting you, as you've met someone else whilst we were planning our meet'.

Paraphrased, by the way.

so you are quoting from a private message?

as far as I am aware that's not allowed on here

I am paraphrasing.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"'Sorry, I'm reconsidering meeting you, as you've met someone else whilst we were planning our meet'.

Paraphrased, by the way."

Depends on when you were both planning to meet. If I'd arranged to meet a guy tomorrow and he displayed a veri from a play meet today, ours would be off. Everyone on here has different standards and rules of engagement, it doesn't make it 'wrong'.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

As a site that people use to either swing or find NSA sex, exclusivity probably should not be assumed or expected. In fact it's probably safer to assume the contrary. I would be extremely hacked off if a man went all hissy on me because I'm not exclusive to him. Any man looking for an exclusive arrangement on a swingers site, I would expect them to state that early in communications, then we all know where we stand. I wouldn't agree to it though, but at least I wouldn't waste mine and his time.

Mrs

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I've had a meet tell me he won't verify me as he's in the process of persuading another female to meet him, and he's frightened to "out her off"

Really?!?

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By *risky_MareWoman
over a year ago

...Up on the Downs

"'Sorry, I'm reconsidering meeting you, as you've met someone else whilst we were planning our meet'.

Paraphrased, by the way.

Personally I only get naffed off if a guy has clearly had a long meet the day before meeting me - and is so knackered he can barely perform at all - let alone give it his best shot!

Yes, I like my men fresh and gagging for it lol!!

I have had trouble in the past with jealous women expecting fwb's to stop meeting me once they fixed a date!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I got blocked by someone I'd been intending to meet for a long time after I displayed a veri from someone else.

This literally happened to me last week after displaying a veri.

Like the op, I an paraphrasing a little. "not sure I like the idea that you do the same things with someone else that I wanted, I'd prefer to meet someone that has my interests at heart. Hope you both gave fun"...

Then I was blocked

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By *y Favorite PornstarCouple
over a year ago

Basingstoke

"no problem with it

in fact even better when she's been filled up before meeting me

don't see what the fuss is about."

Yeah totally confused by the negativity. Far better to meet someone that a trusted friend has road tested.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"'Sorry, I'm reconsidering meeting you, as you've met someone else whilst we were planning our meet'.

Paraphrased, by the way."

It's jealousy mostly, the downside of the verification system. I met a man for coffee whilst arranging a meet with another man, the one I,m arranging to meet hasn't mentioned the verification though.

XXX

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Unfortunately shit happens. Some people like messing others around. Just have to put it down to the nature of the beast.

Time to SUMO. Shut Up Move On.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"no problem with it

in fact even better when she's been filled up before meeting me

don't see what the fuss is about.

Yeah totally confused by the negativity. Far better to meet someone that a trusted friend has road tested. "

Oh totally. We're far more likely to meet people if friends have met them too.

Mrs

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I would be annoyed if my time was infringed upon by someone else or they weren't up to full performance due to someone else. But if they are giving me their undivided attention and unrestricted time, then who cares who they shagged yesterday or might shag tomorrow. As long as it doesn't affect my time.

Mrs

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By *ot40sCouple
over a year ago

birmingham

"'Sorry, I'm reconsidering meeting you, as you've met someone else whilst we were planning our meet'.

Paraphrased, by the way.

= LOL... we're on a funking swingers site?!...

People are hilarious on this site

They certainly fucking are !!!

Hiding again sexy minx ?

Anna x

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By *y Favorite PornstarCouple
over a year ago

Basingstoke

"no problem with it

in fact even better when she's been filled up before meeting me

don't see what the fuss is about.

Yeah totally confused by the negativity. Far better to meet someone that a trusted friend has road tested.

Oh totally. We're far more likely to meet people if friends have met them too.

Mrs"

It's like the swingers version of try before you buy

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"No,a thing is a noun.

That sounds more like a withdrawal.

You know what I mean....

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she either took a liking to you and you have hurt her now, but I'd like to know how did she know you met someone else? Did you tell her or something

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"'Sorry, I'm reconsidering meeting you, as you've met someone else whilst we were planning our meet'.

Paraphrased, by the way."
I would rather have this problem you got here mate than mine!! I can't even get a meet to get turned down lmfao ??

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"The only way I would have an issue is where we had arranged to meet, then it was postponed or cancelled because the other party decided to meet someone else instead at the same time. Its usually accompanied by a lie

Yes this would annoy us if someone moved a pre-arranged meet then got a veri on the same day it was arranged.

Did have one guy who bumped us for a 30 year old female model profile? We found out through veris - 'she' had watched him on webcam and verified. Guy came back to us as the profile was a fake. He then wanted to meet us again - sweet

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Everything in life is about sex. Except sex, which is about power"

-Oscar Wilde

In truth, even expecting anything resembling "no strings attached" sex is a fools errand. Sex ALWAYS has strings attached...even more so today.

Fab is a site which seems to be as much about power plays and narcissism as it is about actually fucking. Many people (of both genders) are really only using swinging as a means of dictating the behaviors of others...in truth, half of the enjoyment of sex is about that anyway for many.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I like it if someone gets uppity about me meeting someone else. Means we really aren't compatible and will lead to issues if we were to meet-especially on a regular basis. I don't have time for jealousy or some sense of owing them something special.

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By *all-Eddies QosCouple
over a year ago

wirral

I got kicked off at, abused and threatened with social services because I was 'online' too much...

He'd only know cos he was always online

He was a shit meet anyway. Nearly broke my bits doing his 'dom' thing. Idiot made me bleed

*I leave it logged in cos cbfa typing in passwords

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I got kicked off at, abused and threatened with social services because I was 'online' too much...

He'd only know cos he was always online

He was a shit meet anyway. Nearly broke my bits doing his 'dom' thing. Idiot made me bleed

*I leave it logged in cos cbfa typing in passwords"

Sounds a right charmer...

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By *im_66Woman
over a year ago

Bradford

It depends on the discussions beforehand, I think. If someone is struggling to find a compatible time to meet, then they met someone else I'd be pissed off.

I also think that if you're discussing a long term thing it's only polite to let them know you're seeing someone else.

If it's clearly a quickie or one off then yes, the nsa is apparent.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Yeah it's definitely a thing, if I had my way all men I was interested in would come to me untouched!

I try not to think about who has gone before me.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"'Sorry, I'm reconsidering meeting you, as you've met someone else whilst we were planning our meet'.

Paraphrased, by the way.

Personally I only get naffed off if a guy has clearly had a long meet the day before meeting me - and is so knackered he can barely perform at all - let alone give it his best shot!

As long as he doesn't get it in your eyes or hair??

Fuzz

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Pot kettles

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Some people like the idea of swinging but struggle with the concept when it comes down to it.. I bet it's more common than you'd think

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I've had "I would meet you again but you've meet too many guys since we last spoke so no thank you"

Barring in mind "since we last spoke" was a month previous LMAO

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By *xtrafun4youMan
over a year ago

Dunstable

"'Sorry, I'm reconsidering meeting you, as you've met someone else whilst we were planning our meet'.

Paraphrased, by the way.

= LOL... we're on a funking swingers site?!...

People are hilarious on this site

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By *icoleAndLisaTransTV/TS
over a year ago

Ellesmere Port

"'Sorry, I'm reconsidering meeting you, as you've met someone else whilst we were planning our meet'.

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"I got cold feet, but I don't want to apologise for it. So I'm going to make it your fault instead."

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I have had trouble in the past with jealous women expecting fwb's to stop meeting me once they fixed a date!

I have had similar situations happen to me in the past a few times, but not "trouble" just meant all communication ended.

I hate deception, lies, childish games/tricksters.

I refuse to be controlled even if it means not getting in with the crowd. Nor can I give second chances no matter how good or popular they are.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"'Sorry, I'm reconsidering meeting you, as you've met someone else whilst we were planning our meet'.

Paraphrased, by the way.

= LOL... we're on a funking swingers site?!...

People are hilarious on this site

They certainly fucking are !!!

Hiding again sexy minx ?

Anna x"

... Hey Anna x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Yes it happens, I've had similar messages from men

From men too?! Crikey."

Men can be extremely territorial. Once had a regular meet screaming at me, because he wanted to be exclusive and I wanted to carry on meeting others.

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