FabSwingers.com forum: MMF problem

By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

I'm in an interesting situation with an MMF relationship where the F of the couple now really wants discreet 121 sex with me without her partner knowing. Has anyone else come across this? She and I really hit it off sexually, and I'm reluctant to walk away. At the same time, her partner is a really nice guy. Things have suddenly become very awkward.

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By *he Happy ManMan
over a year ago

Merseyside

"I'm in an interesting situation with an MMF relationship where the F of the couple now really wants discreet 121 sex with me without her partner knowing. Has anyone else come across this? She and I really hit it off sexually, and I'm reluctant to walk away. At the same time, her partner is a really nice guy. Things have suddenly become very awkward."

Don't do it.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

That would be a no brainier for me. Walk away and break all contact. But I think you already know that's the best thing to do

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By *ustaceSmithMan
over a year ago

Woodbridge

Likewise. Morally this isn't even debatable. Do the right thing.

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By *udistnorthantsMan
over a year ago

Desborough

Walk away and consign her to your Wank Bank

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By *sGivesWoodWoman
over a year ago

ST. AUSTELL, CORNWALL

All of the above advice OP

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Personally I wouldn't want to involve myself in other peoples drama

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By *orders-cplCouple
over a year ago

middx cpl

Don't cross the line its not worth it do you think the sex will be any better on your own with her it will be less good

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By *radleywigginsMan
over a year ago

northwest

Consider using extra protection..

Stab proof vest perhaps

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Don't do it.....it's totally wrong and breaks bonds of trust. If you want to have 1-2-1 with her then fine but isn't she discusses with her partner and if he says it ok it's happy days but don't go behind his back.

It might be him testing you btw....

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

Many thanks. I'm terminating the relationship, largely because the guy is a really nice guy and also because he was key in arranging the MMF relationship. It would be untrustworthy to continue now. Thanks again for all the help.

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By *y Favorite PornstarCouple
over a year ago

Basingstoke

Is a polyamorous relationship a possibility? If it was then it wouldn't be unusual for the female to rotate between you, no pun intended

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Show him her mails where she's asked to meet without him knowing and say how hot it is.

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By *lem-H-FandangoMan
over a year ago

salisbury

Show the guy some respect and walk away.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"That would be a no brainier for me. Walk away and break all contact. But I think you already know that's the best thing to do "

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By *landfordfabbersCouple
over a year ago

Blandford ish

To me that's crossing the line from swinging to cheating! I think like everyone has said move on, it's a shame I know but that's the way it goes

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By *igblackdomTV/TS
over a year ago

West Midlands

Hope it's not the couple in your verification, Bill won't be happy!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Hope it's not the couple in your verification, Bill won't be happy!

I did wonder the same thing!!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I wouldn't need to think it over. I'd be gone.

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By *eedsmale36Man
over a year ago

Leeds

Fuck all the do gooders, fuck her senseless in their marital bed whilst he is at work and take his last can out the fridge on your way out !

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"To me that's crossing the line from swinging to cheating! I think like everyone has said move on, it's a shame I know but that's the way it goes"

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Hope it's not the couple in your verification, Bill won't be happy!

Couldn't help but think the same lol

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"Hope it's not the couple in your verification, Bill won't be happy!

Couldn't help but think the same lol

No, it isn't

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

Hope it's not the couple in your verification, Bill won't be happy!

No, it isn't .....

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Fuck all the do gooders, fuck her senseless in their marital bed whilst he is at work and take his last can out the fridge on your way out !"

Haha! Brilliant. If she wants to cheat that's her business, I say enjoy your can on the way out too. It would lessen my opinion of her though. If she gets found out it serves her right.

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By *D835Man
over a year ago

London

I've been in an identical senario as well with a couple. What I did: walked away and never went back.

That's the best action I'll recommend you take.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Walk away this is a marriage break up situation you don't want to be in over your head

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

We would say the same as most here drop them.and don't do it...if you get known as a relationship breaker then your swinging days would probably be numbered no couples would trust you or know you....

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By *r.ringMan
over a year ago

totton

Yea yea lots of walk advice but how many people have had a similar situation?? Not many I would think. I get lots of unhelpful comments about my home situation. But until you live in a mans shoes you can't fully comment. So here is my thoughts. You say he is a nice guy. He will proberbly know she likes you more than just a swing person. As most people aren't that blind. I think you should just ask him if he would be ok with a 121 meet?? Possibly try and find a time when he can't be there due to work or something ??? That would make it easier for him to justify in his own mind. It's close to impossible to find good people to meet on here or any other site. It would be a shame to just walk. If the guy says no then you can go from there. She might be on the point of leaving him anyway. It would be sad to throw away a good friendship.

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"We would say the same as most here drop them.and don't do it...if you get known as a relationship breaker then your swinging days would probably be numbered no couples would trust you or know you...."

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Hi Jan, I've already talked with her and said that 121 with her without his approval is a no. She wants us to continue the MMF relationship as before, meets always as a threesome. So, its a desire that came up ... and rightly has come to nothing. On the plus side, the three of us as a threesome are very strong. She and I are polyamorous, but not in the context of this MMF. Complicated, but not insurmountable. Its turned out ok. Thanks for helping out. Cheers, Mike

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By *ittenbutnotshyCouple
over a year ago

North Manchester

Don't go there that would be the ultimate betrayal of trust!

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By *oger ThatMan
over a year ago

essex

If that guy is good enough to share his wife, you owe him the respect...No way do it!

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By *ap d agde coupleCouple
over a year ago

Broadstairs

No way should you meet her alone

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"Yea yea lots of walk advice but how many people have had a similar situation?? Not many I would think. I get lots of unhelpful comments about my home situation. But until you live in a mans shoes you can't fully comment. So here is my thoughts. You say he is a nice guy. He will proberbly know she likes you more than just a swing person. As most people aren't that blind. I think you should just ask him if he would be ok with a 121 meet?? Possibly try and find a time when he can't be there due to work or something ??? That would make it easier for him to justify in his own mind. It's close to impossible to find good people to meet on here or any other site. It would be a shame to just walk. If the guy says no then you can go from there. She might be on the point of leaving him anyway. It would be sad to throw away a good friendship. "

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Interesting thought. It hadn't occurred to me because it was his wife who initiated the 121 interest on her part with me directly. On the other hand, yes ... I'd love to have her 121. Her interest mirrors my intensity for her. I'll give it a shot and just ask the question " would it be ok with you if your wife and I met 121" not replacing our MMF relationship but additional to it. He and I do get on very well socially and to be honest in our MMF meets he never participates sexually, just likes to watch and often leaves us alone anyway. Mmmm .... I'll give your advice some real consideration. Thanks, mate.

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

Is a polyamorous relationship a possibility? If it was then it wouldn't be unusual for the female to rotate between you, no pun intended"

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She and I are polyamorous, but he doesn't know that she is polyamorous, so the situation is very complicated. MMF is terrific, but she's very keen on 121 as well (in addition to continuing MMF). A potentially very fraught situation. During sex he watches and she gets very carried away and is liable to cry out the wrong thing. Mmmm... too much flirting on her part before, during and after sex. Its getting obvious now.

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By *icoleAndLisaTransCouple (FF)
over a year ago

Ellesmere Port

She needs to talk it through with him. If he agrees to her doing it but not telling him when, you can bang as often as you like without him knowing, and still have a clear conscience. Maybe she can offer him a similar arrangement with someone else.

It's still dangerous territory. You need to be sure that she isn't forming an inappropriate emotional connection to you. You don't want her turning up at your front door with a suitcase.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Things have suddenly become very awkward."
get her banged lad.

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

Quick update for everyone on my MMF situation. Had a chat with her husband this morning asking whether he'd be ok with her and I having 121 meets. I was amazed at his reaction. He's all for it. Said that he'd known that she was getting really keen on me and it just added to his pleasure. He still wants the three of us to continue our MMF meets, but has no objections at all to hot-wifing her with me when she wants 121 meets. I couldn't believe it ... every single guy's dream. Just two conditions. No-one else .... just her and me. And, our 121 meets to be in their bedroom only and video'd for him. She's over the moon ... and I'm resigned to many many hours of video recording

. Turned out ok for the three of us !!!!!

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By *r.ringMan
over a year ago

totton

I'm really pleased for you. I didn't say earlier as I didn't want to confuse things further. But I have a fuck buddy. I see her quit often she has a boyfriend that is cool with us having fun. Just as long as he knows im there. He has a very low sex drive and is happy she is getting what he can't give her. We have played as a mmf and it's not uncommon for him to get in from work when I'm there in the throws of fun. It was odd to start with but great for all in the end. The key here is to talk I think. I'm really pleased for you.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Consider using extra protection..

Stab proof vest perhaps "

Amazing response! Well done Sir!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Mmm, is he aware that she had asked to meet you without his knowledge?

Her having an affair he doesn't know about is betrayal but her having an affair with someone he has happily invited into their bedroom is a much worse betrayal.

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By *inkySlinkyCouple
over a year ago

Leeds

How will you cope with being polyamorous and not allowed to meet anyone but her?

Sally

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