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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

Theres a guy Ive seen a few times this year, sex has always been amazing... we hadn't seen each other in a few months and first round was as always amazing and so passionate but second round he was attentive and passionate yet kept going soft during penetration but hardened again during oral or wank then went soft again during penetration... We didn't talk about it and just went to sleep as it was early hours of morning by this point.

I'm wondering is this a sign hes gone off me and he didnt enjoy the penetration or am I over thinking and its normal given it was 3am and we'd been drinking earlier? Hes 10 years younger... any insight into how mens sexual thinking works would help. Thanks...really don't want him to have gone off me

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

From what you've described I'd say you're overthinking sweetie.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I wouldnt get to hung up on it.

He may just have had a bad shift lol

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By *loswingersCouple
over a year ago

Gloucester

Sorry but it sounds like he has .

The initial excitement of a new meet often soon wanes , and familiarity dampens the enthusiasm .

Unless you'd both d*unk too much , I can't think he's as keen as he was before

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By *illy_the_tvTV/TS
over a year ago

hoorn, Netherlands

Your over thinking it. Men can have troubles with erections for any number of reasons

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By *orkie321bWoman
over a year ago

Nottingham

OP most men have had a floppy cock issue at some point in their life, it's normal.

Alcohol can cause major problems - hence the term "brewer's droop."

I seriously doubt there are any issues with him not fancying you as much if everything worked fine in round one.

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

Thank you for your thoughts really helps to hear others points of view...

He was affectionate and cuddled me during the night and he texted me next day so i guess those are both positive signs.

Felt like the unspoken elephant in the room but I guess letting it blow over is the right way to deal with it and not make an issue of it... so yes I can see I have maybe over thought it

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

If he'd gone off you he would have been soft the first time you fucked and wouldn't have got hard via wanking. Don't worry about it.

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By *rightonsteveMan
over a year ago

Brighton - even Hove!

You're overthinking it. It happens. It's not yours or his fault its nature. Do something else....

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Naa its probably just the booze

too much gives us lump dick haha & having shagged already (with drink & fatigue) wldnt be as hard for round 2

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By *rightonsteveMan
over a year ago

Brighton - even Hove!

"Naa its probably just the booze

too much gives us lump dick haha & having shagged already (with drink & fatigue) wldnt be as hard for round 2

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you poor sod! 'Lump dick'

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By *ieman300Man
over a year ago

Best Greggs in Cheshire East

"Theres a guy Ive seen a few times this year, sex has always been amazing... we hadn't seen each other in a few months and first round was as always amazing and so passionate but second round he was attentive and passionate yet kept going soft during penetration but hardened again during oral or wank then went soft again during penetration... We didn't talk about it and just went to sleep as it was early hours of morning by this point.

Was this recently? The heat did for me last week. I don't think he had gone off you based on what you have said.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Naa its probably just the booze

too much gives us lump dick haha & having shagged already (with drink & fatigue) wldnt be as hard for round 2

you poor sod! 'Lump dick'

Hahaha oh God!! limp dick I meant

Damn auto correct

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I don't think so, if we have sex immediately after a session, I struggle to maintain an erection constantly, just need 10 mins to recharge

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Definitely over thinking. Alcohol and being tired, it can happen to anyone. Nothing to do with you guaranteed.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Men aren't fucking machines; sometimes something can affect their erection, that isn't down to not being aroused.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

He may be thinking the same, from what u saying looks like you only received and didn't give back any, so ask yourself did u give him what he wants?

If you gave what he wants then I think you just over thinking. Give few days or weeks and ask for another meet, if you feel he is back peddling then there isn't something correct between you both and move on, may be down the line you may find a guy named 'ranger' and you will be happy ever after...lol

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Christ - give the poor bloke a break!

He's already given you a good session, and has been drinking !

He's probably mortified himself - which is why he's probably not going to offer up any conversation about it!

It won't have anything to do with him suddenly not fancying you. It will just be one of those things - that he'll probably be trying to forget about!

Without sounding like an arse - stop thinking about yourself and start thinking about him! He's could well be thinking 'oh shit - she may not want to see me again if I can't fuck her all night long' etc etc.

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By *BCambsCouple
over a year ago

Biggleswade

Drink, lack of sleep, already came once with you, stress of work, stress of home, stress at not getting hard for you, over excited, because the dick just felt like being a jerk.

These are all reasons that he may not have been rock hard 2nd time round.

If this isn't normal for him then give him a break, he is probably more stressed about it than you!

Don't over think it, cocks have a mind of their own sometimes!

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By *rightonsteveMan
over a year ago

Brighton - even Hove!

"Naa its probably just the booze

too much gives us lump dick haha & having shagged already (with drink & fatigue) wldnt be as hard for round 2

you poor sod! 'Lump dick'

Hahaha oh God!! limp dick I meant

Damn auto correct"

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By *emini ManMan
over a year ago

There and to the left a bit

"Drink, lack of sleep, already came once with you, stress of work, stress of home, stress at not getting hard for you, over excited, because the dick just felt like being a jerk.

These are all reasons that he may not have been rock hard 2nd time round.

If this isn't normal for him then give him a break, he is probably more stressed about it than you!

Don't over think it, cocks have a mind of their own sometimes!"

This is the only answer you need OP

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

If all fails thumb it in

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

All very valid points and all taken on board. Thank you.

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