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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

Single people. Do you struggle with the 2 worlds? Meeting someone in vanilla and having a choice to try get them to swing or to leave swinging? Is it best to only do 1? I recently had to reject a girl I like cause I know she won't swing and I know I'm not ready to stop. It was hard. Does anyone else have these struggles?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

forget vanilla strawberry ripple for me

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By *y Favorite PornstarCouple
over a year ago

Basingstoke


"Single people. Do you struggle with the 2 worlds? Meeting someone in vanilla and having a choice to try get them to swing or to leave swinging? Is it best to only do 1? I recently had to reject a girl I like cause I know she won't swing and I know I'm not ready to stop. It was hard. Does anyone else have these struggles? "

Yes, but as you say if you are a non-monogamous person (as 70% of people are) then trying to live differently to please other people will end in tears. I've had ex's that i really wished would swing but they tried it, didn't like it and from there the decision makes itself.

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"Single people. Do you struggle with the 2 worlds? Meeting someone in vanilla and having a choice to try get them to swing or to leave swinging? Is it best to only do 1? I recently had to reject a girl I like cause I know she won't swing and I know I'm not ready to stop. It was hard. Does anyone else have these struggles?

Yes, but as you say if you are a non-monogamous person (as 70% of people are) then trying to live differently to please other people will end in tears. I've had ex's that i really wished would swing but they tried it, didn't like it and from there the decision makes itself. "

Yep it sucks. I looked at the girl an said to myself if I met her before swinging it would of worked great. But I just can't imagine myself giving up swinging. Not anytime soon. I go clubs weekly and reslly enjoy the social side. So id be given up a social life aswell. But still hurts having to let go of someone. Pushing them away for their own good

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By *urvymamaWoman
over a year ago

Doncaster

I'm single and I'm on here if I do happen to meet someone I will want to swing monogamous relationships aren't for me, so I'm inclined to think that I'm more likely to find that here than a vanilla dating site

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By *ikstupp2Man
over a year ago

london

I made the other decision and stopped swinging for my girl but find it real hard to leave fab behind as it's a long distance thing n I'm a perv that likes to chat filth lol

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By *otgirl32Woman
over a year ago

Ashton Under Lyne


"Single people. Do you struggle with the 2 worlds? Meeting someone in vanilla and having a choice to try get them to swing or to leave swinging? Is it best to only do 1? I recently had to reject a girl I like cause I know she won't swing and I know I'm not ready to stop. It was hard. Does anyone else have these struggles? "

I couldn't ever have a monogamous "conventional" relationship now so I don't do any vanilla dates. My life partner is here on Fab a man who loves his girl to fuck around. Likewise big turn for me to have my man sleep with other girls but have his love for me.

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

Thing is tho. Fab is pretty shit for single guys. Like no offence to girls on here but all the hot girls I meet are from vanilla. If I could find girls like that on fab I would only use fab but I don't. So yh fab has the mentality I want in a girl but looks wise it's the vanilla world that I get my Type.

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By *rs slut n himCouple
over a year ago

dartford

Oh dear perhaps you should stop looking. Just enjoy both worlds for a while

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Thing is tho. Fab is pretty shit for single guys. Like no offence to girls on here but all the hot girls I meet are from vanilla. If I could find girls like that on fab I would only use fab but I don't. So yh fab has the mentality I want in a girl but looks wise it's the vanilla world that I get my Type. "

You said no offence... But basically you've just said that no girl on fab is hot enough for you to date, And that you lower your standards to get sex with a girl on fabs

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"Thing is tho. Fab is pretty shit for single guys. Like no offence to girls on here but all the hot girls I meet are from vanilla. If I could find girls like that on fab I would only use fab but I don't. So yh fab has the mentality I want in a girl but looks wise it's the vanilla world that I get my Type.

You said no offence... But basically you've just said that no girl on fab is hot enough for you to date, And that you lower your standards to get sex with a girl on fabs"

You just made assumptions. On fab the girls I would normally see in vanilla world won't even look at me on here. Cause they have thousands to choose from. So I'm not saying there isn't any on fab. Just not any that seem to look twice at me. I don't lower my standards. It's not all about sex. It's not all about looks. That's why I enjoy clubs and not fab cause u go with the flow and vibe. But yes as a percentage there is so many more available girls in vanilla world who are my type.

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

And yes. 80% of men on fab lower their standards. That's why you have loads of average girls asking for guys with muscles 6 packs and nice hair. Cause in the real world those men woukdnt date the girls their meeting on here. But I'm not one of them

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By *rwolfMan
over a year ago

bristol

Ive never lowered my standards, however there is more to someone than looks.. Personality and who they are is more important to me...after all its nice to be able to talk about things if they are FWB or even potential dating.

Sorry to say but if you judge people soley by how they look it shows what a shallow person you are.

Personally id be happy to sit and talk with most people on the forums because their minds interest me more than a photo

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

For the right person I would be happy to stay in a Vanilla setup ,, though as I am from the adult industry pretty much being vanilla is a done deal to most vanilla people ..

hell even most swingers can't get their head around sex workers /models/cam girls etc lol

For me though a new relationship I would want t o focus on them and them alone outside of work .

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"Ive never lowered my standards, however there is more to someone than looks.. Personality and who they are is more important to me...after all its nice to be able to talk about things if they are FWB or even potential dating.

Sorry to say but if you judge people soley by how they look it shows what a shallow person you are.

Personally id be happy to sit and talk with most people on the forums because their minds interest me more than a photo"

You obviously haven't read all my comments or your trying desperately to appeal to the girls that mite feel for u based on your soft side. 1 verification after a year. I think maybe swinging is the wrong scene for u

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"For the right person I would be happy to stay in a Vanilla setup ,, though as I am from the adult industry pretty much being vanilla is a done deal to most vanilla people ..

hell even most swingers can't get their head around sex workers /models/cam girls etc lol

For me though a new relationship I would want t o focus on them and them alone outside of work . "

What's your adult industry name

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I know I couldnt handle swinging as a couple. I'm honest and open enough to admit that id hate to see someone I have feelings for touch someone else!

I am happy to play the third wheel as a single.

So no for me, I can't mix. Sometimes I think I could, but deep down I know it would affect me so I just won't go there!

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By *orksCouple25Couple
over a year ago

Leeds

Swinging when single can really mess up your life with regards to meeting someone ,falling in love ,getting married and bringing up kids . The reason is it's difficult to give up swinging yet you won't find that 'romance ' leading to a happy future marriage and family in the swinging world .

It can also mess up marriages that were fine before starting swingIng when one wants to pack it in but the other can't because he/she is addicted to it.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I'm on this site but don't consider myself a swinger. I'm here to potentially meet people, learn new things and have sex as and when the opportunity presents.

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By *y Favorite PornstarCouple
over a year ago

Basingstoke


"Ive never lowered my standards, however there is more to someone than looks.. Personality and who they are is more important to me...after all its nice to be able to talk about things if they are FWB or even potential dating.

Sorry to say but if you judge people soley by how they look it shows what a shallow person you are.

Personally id be happy to sit and talk with most people on the forums because their minds interest me more than a photo"

Think someone has watched shallow hal too many times

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I think as a woman, it's easier to meet a guy in a vanilla setting who would be up for swinging than the other way round.

Not that it means it's all plain sailing, jealousy etc could still be an issue, but my experience is that more men are up for giving it a whirl than women

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

its always been a love/hate thing with me

I used to think i could meet someone and swing again with them but recently i dont think i could handle it.

I think over the years i have changed and with me being single on and off a few years has changed me

*Would i swing with someone as a couple as (fwb)= highly doubtful

*Would i swing with a partner if i met someone and was in a secure relationship = doubtful

i dont think i could share again

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

Yh i do question my jealousy if i was with someone. I think if I was swinging with a partner I would swing much less. I have met a beautiful girl in swinging recently and it could be going somewhere. But not off fab. It's at clubs I meet the nice girls. It's just recently I been meeting nice girls in vanilla and as I start to like them I am not with a choice and I just don't see myself stopping swing. Not just sex. I have s big social life in swing to

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