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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

A single guy we know left fab because he said couples were being rude. Couples can be rude not just to single guys. We tent to look for single guys only now and again. We don't rule them out. It depends on how they message us. Is it the idiot single guys that tarnish the reputation of all the rest of the single guys.

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By *rzambiqueMan
over a year ago

Edmonton


"A single guy we know left fab because he said couples were being rude. Couples can be rude not just to single guys. We tent to look for single guys only now and again. We don't rule them out. It depends on how they message us. Is it the idiot single guys that tarnish the reputation of all the rest of the single guys. "

A big yes. You have a lot of single guys here who don't know how to approach singles and couples alike. And that does tarnish single guys...

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"A single guy we know left fab because he said couples were being rude. Couples can be rude not just to single guys. We tent to look for single guys only now and again. We don't rule them out. It depends on how they message us. Is it the idiot single guys that tarnish the reputation of all the rest of the single guys. "

I have had a lot of couples be rude to me too, so it's not just single men who get this treatment. Whilst there are a lot of genuine nice couples on Fab where both parties want to meet, there are a lot of fake couples, ones where it more the man's idea, couples with a jealous female and couples who want a sex toy. XXX

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By *ordonBennettMan
over a year ago

dover


"A single guy we know left fab because he said couples were being rude. Couples can be rude not just to single guys. We tent to look for single guys only now and again. We don't rule them out. It depends on how they message us. Is it the idiot single guys that tarnish the reputation of all the rest of the single guys.

A big yes. You have a lot of single guys here who don't know how to approach singles and couples alike. And that does tarnish single guys..."

The conduct of other guys has no bearing on my progress on the site.

I search.

I find.

I message.

I meet.

Tarnished reputation doesn't come into it.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

The way some guys conduct themselves makes no difference in our approach to guys. Yeah there's some arseholes but there's plenty of good guys and it's easy enough to ignore the arseholes. Concentrate on the positives and disregard the negatives

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"The way some guys conduct themselves makes no difference in our approach to guys. Yeah there's some arseholes but there's plenty of good guys and it's easy enough to ignore the arseholes. Concentrate on the positives and disregard the negatives "

Exactly this. In fact I'd say the idiots make the good guys stand out more. Most people on here are intelligent enough to know not all men are the same.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

We take everyone as we find them, the rude people on here simply make it easier for the good ones to stand out. I think this idea that some ruin it for others is a bit of an excuse.

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By *teveanddebsCouple
over a year ago

Norwich

In our experience:

True single male swingers are invariably polite, friendly, non-pushy and the type of person you are happy to be around in a social situation.

The rude, pushy ones tend to be either:

Not truly single which is why they are pushy. They have limited time to get their rocks off and have to hurry to get home to wifey on time.

or

Not swingers i.e. just guys out to get laid. Any hole's a goal

It's a great filter

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By *radleywigginsMan
over a year ago

northwest

I seriously doubt anyone sets out to behave badly.

I think it's the frustration caused by the attitude of the couples/single women that tips them over the edge.

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By *rwolfMan
over a year ago

bristol

from personal experience with this site there can be rudeness across the board, its taking things on here with a teflon coating as you cannot judge all by the actions of one

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By *ertcamembertMan
over a year ago

Reading area


"from personal experience with this site there can be rudeness across the board, its taking things on here with a teflon coating as you cannot judge all by the actions of one "
Well said Mr Wolf

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I seriously doubt anyone sets out to behave badly.

I think it's the frustration caused by the attitude of the couples/single women that tips them over the edge."

Quite possibly but there is never an excuse to be rude or abusive as some can be. It can be, as I've experienced, nothing to do with attitude, I've had abuse back from polite no thanks messages. I've not given them any attitude and have politely responded to their message even though they were not what I was looking for and completely ignored my profile. I know this is rare and does not represent the majority of men on here.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"A single guy we know left fab because he said couples were being rude. Couples can be rude not just to single guys. We tent to look for single guys only now and again. We don't rule them out. It depends on how they message us. Is it the idiot single guys that tarnish the reputation of all the rest of the single guys.

A big yes. You have a lot of single guys here who don't know how to approach singles and couples alike. And that does tarnish single guys...

The conduct of other guys has no bearing on my progress on the site.

I search.

I find.

I message.

I meet.

Tarnished reputation doesn't come into it."

Veni, vidi, vici?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Yes, lots of single guys get a bad reputation because of a few abusive idiots!

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

We find as long people aren't blunt and too pushy and treat us as a couple it's ok

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I find a well thought out and written message to couples on here will get a polite "no thank you" or a delete, but never had anyone be particularly rude.

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By *emini ManMan
over a year ago

There and to the left a bit

To be honest I think there are a lot of single guys that wrongly see blaming the behaviour of others as a reason for their own lack of 'success' rather than looking at their own failings - be that poor profiles, a gallery of cock pics or too high expectations.

There are rude people across all the various genres on here, just as there are in the real world - so to say your Fab experience has been 'tarnished' by the actions of others in the same category as you is an easy cop out in my view.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

your single mate left because of couples, i would think its couple who tarnish the reputation of genuine couples

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"To be honest I think there are a lot of single guys that wrongly see blaming the behaviour of others as a reason for their own lack of 'success' rather than looking at their own failings - be that poor profiles, a gallery of cock pics or too high expectations.

There are rude people across all the various genres on here, just as there are in the real world - so to say your Fab experience has been 'tarnished' by the actions of others in the same category as you is an easy cop out in my view."

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By *ieman300Man
over a year ago

Best Greggs in Cheshire East


"To be honest I think there are a lot of single guys that wrongly see blaming the behaviour of others as a reason for their own lack of 'success' rather than looking at their own failings - be that poor profiles, a gallery of cock pics or too high expectations.

There are rude people across all the various genres on here, just as there are in the real world - so to say your Fab experience has been 'tarnished' by the actions of others in the same category as you is an easy cop out in my view."

I generally agree with what your saying here. However what do you mean by too high expectations in this context?

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By *eovilcouple76Couple
over a year ago

yeovil

We deal with single guys all the time, we don't get much hassle off them, some are not our type, and some get brushed off because of the message, but if we chat I treat them like I want them to treat us,, it seems to work for us, only had one bad reply to a NO THANKS, in over 2 years,

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Good and bad in everything in life fabs categories are no different.

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

Maybe we all need to be a bit nicer to everyone

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Maybe we all need to be a bit nicer to everyone "

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"To be honest I think there are a lot of single guys that wrongly see blaming the behaviour of others as a reason for their own lack of 'success' rather than looking at their own failings - be that poor profiles, a gallery of cock pics or too high expectations.

There are rude people across all the various genres on here, just as there are in the real world - so to say your Fab experience has been 'tarnished' by the actions of others in the same category as you is an easy cop out in my view.

I generally agree with what your saying here. However what do you mean by too high expectations in this context?"

I can't speak for Gemini but I doubt he's suggesting people lower their standards. I think too many people come on here thinking they'll have their first meet within days and that it will be easy. For single guys thats not generally true.

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By * kiss like morphineMan
over a year ago

The gravelly bit next to the shed

Always

Its come to a point where i just sit and watch everyone ruin it for others and see if theres still any humanity left after.

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By *emini ManMan
over a year ago

There and to the left a bit


"To be honest I think there are a lot of single guys that wrongly see blaming the behaviour of others as a reason for their own lack of 'success' rather than looking at their own failings - be that poor profiles, a gallery of cock pics or too high expectations.

There are rude people across all the various genres on here, just as there are in the real world - so to say your Fab experience has been 'tarnished' by the actions of others in the same category as you is an easy cop out in my view.

I generally agree with what your saying here. However what do you mean by too high expectations in this context?

I can't speak for Gemini but I doubt he's suggesting people lower their standards. I think too many people come on here thinking they'll have their first meet within days and that it will be easy. For single guys thats not generally true. "

You did speak for me as that's exactly what I meant

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By *inkyLondonpairCouple
over a year ago

London


"To be honest I think there are a lot of single guys that wrongly see blaming the behaviour of others as a reason for their own lack of 'success' rather than looking at their own failings - be that poor profiles, a gallery of cock pics or too high expectations.

There are rude people across all the various genres on here, just as there are in the real world - so to say your Fab experience has been 'tarnished' by the actions of others in the same category as you is an easy cop out in my view.

I generally agree with what your saying here. However what do you mean by too high expectations in this context?

I can't speak for Gemini but I doubt he's suggesting people lower their standards. I think too many people come on here thinking they'll have their first meet within days and that it will be easy. For single guys thats not generally true. "

This lowering standards idea is a funny one when it comes to men. To be brutally honest most men's standards are so flexible as to be almost non existent. I know that in about 90% of cases if a random woman between the ages of 18and 60 said she wanted to have sex with me I would gladly take her up on the offer.

I strongly suspect 90% of men feel the same

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By *teveanddebsCouple
over a year ago

Norwich


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This lowering standards idea is a funny one when it comes to men. To be brutally honest most men's standards are so flexible as to be almost non existent. I know that in about 90% of cases if a random woman between the ages of 18and 60 said she wanted to have sex with me I would gladly take her up on the offer.

I strongly suspect 90% of men feel the same "

Guys can have self respect too

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By *inkyLondonpairCouple
over a year ago

London


"

This lowering standards idea is a funny one when it comes to men. To be brutally honest most men's standards are so flexible as to be almost non existent. I know that in about 90% of cases if a random woman between the ages of 18and 60 said she wanted to have sex with me I would gladly take her up on the offer.

I strongly suspect 90% of men feel the same

Guys can have self respect too

"

I am not sure where self respect comes into it. If you want to have sex with someone and she wants to have sex with you, what's non self respecting about having sex with her?

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By *ieman300Man
over a year ago

Best Greggs in Cheshire East


"To be honest I think there are a lot of single guys that wrongly see blaming the behaviour of others as a reason for their own lack of 'success' rather than looking at their own failings - be that poor profiles, a gallery of cock pics or too high expectations.

There are rude people across all the various genres on here, just as there are in the real world - so to say your Fab experience has been 'tarnished' by the actions of others in the same category as you is an easy cop out in my view.

I generally agree with what your saying here. However what do you mean by too high expectations in this context?

I can't speak for Gemini but I doubt he's suggesting people lower their standards. I think too many people come on here thinking they'll have their first meet within days and that it will be easy. For single guys thats not generally true. "

Yeah of course. I did get the wrong end of the stick there.

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By *ieman300Man
over a year ago

Best Greggs in Cheshire East


"To be honest I think there are a lot of single guys that wrongly see blaming the behaviour of others as a reason for their own lack of 'success' rather than looking at their own failings - be that poor profiles, a gallery of cock pics or too high expectations.

There are rude people across all the various genres on here, just as there are in the real world - so to say your Fab experience has been 'tarnished' by the actions of others in the same category as you is an easy cop out in my view.

I generally agree with what your saying here. However what do you mean by too high expectations in this context?

I can't speak for Gemini but I doubt he's suggesting people lower their standards. I think too many people come on here thinking they'll have their first meet within days and that it will be easy. For single guys thats not generally true.

You did speak for me as that's exactly what I meant "

My bad buddy. I did misunderstand you.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"A single guy we know left fab because he said couples were being rude. Couples can be rude not just to single guys. We tent to look for single guys only now and again. We don't rule them out. It depends on how they message us. Is it the idiot single guys that tarnish the reputation of all the rest of the single guys. "

So glad you put this up as I've put up similar threads and got slated as a single guy. A few bad apples spoiling it which is not cool.

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