FabSwingers.com forum: Hard to find single females

By *erbys Finest OP Couple
over a year ago

Oakwood - Derby

Why is it so hard to find a single female who wants to meet with a couple or is it just us.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Why is it so hard to find a single female who wants to meet with a couple or is it just us. "

It could be your area?

Having lived in few places up down the country and seen the scene from that place..some places I notice are better than others for some things. If u take some areas of Scotland or south west are like but a handful of swingers on the site.

Maybe you need to increase your distance from them or perhaps do a hotel meet or whatever outside of your area

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By *sGivesWoodWoman
over a year ago

ST. AUSTELL, CORNWALL

I'd like to meet more couples but finding it hard to actually find genuine ones in the first place, most I chat to seem to just male half

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I hear alot of guys meeting couples but I think its just less likely for a woman to go and meet a couple. Not sure why. Maybe safety or perhaps the female only wants to meet guys.

For a guy its simple, not drama, no clingyness and you can see why they like meeting couples.

Im not bi but I still wouldnt meet a couple as I wouldnt want to play with the woman or have her watch me with her fella.

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By *erbys Finest OP Couple
over a year ago

Oakwood - Derby

We've tried looking at a hundred mile radius and very rarely find many willing to meet with us

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By *eavenscentitCouple
over a year ago

barnstaple

Would you as a female meet another couple alone ? I wouldn't unless I got to know them, mainly due to safety reasons.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

They're the most wanted group on this site and probably the least represented.

Added to that, if you're a single lady, it's so difficult to find a couple where there is the proper genuine threeway attraction and chemistry, and in my experience, the male halves of some couples can get very sneaky and sleazy, with the assumption that just because you're on a swingers site, you'll be fine with him being a cheat and wanting to meet him on his own.

Nowadays I don't even look to meet couples, though I have met a couple of lovely ones in a social manner.

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By *orkie321bWoman
over a year ago

Nottingham

There are fewer single females looking to meet couples than any other demographic on fab so as a consequence you have to try much harder to attract them to you.

If single ladies are your desired meet then you need to tailor your profile towards them, at the moment it looks like you are trying to appeal to everyone.

A few pointers I can offer is many single ladies don't like close up pictures of genitals or action pics. Bondage pics will also put off anyone who isn't particularly interested in Bdsm. A good mix of pictures of you both, together and separate, is a good idea. Smiley face pics and tasteful body shots are good.

How do you see play between you both and a lady who joins you? Will you meet socially first? Will you have a phone chat before a meet? There are probably hundreds of different questions single ladies would want to ask, you could try addressing a few things in your profile text. It will give the lady more information about you to start with.

You could also try going to an organised social or a club. A lot of single ladies go to clubs because they feel much safer than meeting strangers off the internet.

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By *orksCouple25Couple
over a year ago

Leeds

"I'd like to meet more couples but finding it hard to actually find genuine ones in the first place, most I chat to seem to just male half"

A good rule to eliminate this scenario at a very early stage is to ask on Fab for the couples phone number ( if you have several recent verifications showing you are genuine they know you aren't one of the many fake single female profiles ) and ask them what time the lady will be available to speak to you .Tell them you will ring at that time with your number withheld . If the man answers and claims female half is 'out shopping' asleep in bed ' etc . You can then hang up and block on Fab .

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

We've been on the site a while but we've not had any success like people have said there has to be a connection between all of you which can be hard, the safety of the female they are definitely not going to just turn up at a address like a single guy would. You would have to at least have a few social meetings first maybe over a meal as well.

I we've said we've not got there but hold on to a little hope in the future.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Single females are harder to get to commit to a meet and easily distracted but a bit of patience goes a long way, we've met and meet some lovely single ladies, don't get hung up on it that you are struggling and don't let it become your objective, we always feel in a MFMF meet there is plenty of FFM play anyway x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Patience is the key lol

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Why is it so hard to find a single female who wants to meet with a couple or is it just us. "
nope hardest meet to organise

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Why is it so hard to find a single female who wants to meet with a couple or is it just us. "

from the point of view of a single female who wants to meet a couple its nigh on impossible, if you ask me!

first of all there needs to be attraction on all sides, we all have to get along and all be singing from the same hymn sheet, if you get my drift?

and therein lies the problem ....

so now you know

good luck

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By *erminxWoman
over a year ago

Quinton

Agreed, as an actual bi (yes it says straight on my profile, read on I'll explain) single female it's bloody hard

I love a play with a couple but as everyone points out, it needs to be equal, I'm not putting on a "show" for the guy and I'm also not a play thing for one while the other is put out, I've encountered too much drama with couples falling into those categories to now take the risk

It's really hard to find a couple on here you do click with in amongst all the others, so I stick to clubs and single guys

I do miss it though

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I don't want to play with couples as a single female (1) because as much as I love playing with other females I always need cock and one between 2 girls means I'm not likely to get enough! But am fine with fem on fem only lol (2) I rarely find couples where I find both attractive...plus I find she is often in my age range and he is way over and it is often him messaging only which is cheeky... although I do play mff with my fwb but I enjoy playing with her and seeing him with her too...we would want everyone to leave satisfied, I would be more than happy for them to continue if I had had enough (which was my problem when I did play with a couple)....although I have rarely had enough lol....oh....and have had messages where they quite clearly have not read my profile...and they get deleted unread the same as everyone elses that don't read it too

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By *omesWoman
over a year ago

Surrey

"Why is it so hard to find a single female who wants to meet with a couple or is it just us. "

I have had a lot of trouble from couples on here either being fakes, starkers or just generally way over stepping the mark pimping me out to their friends. Now I wouldn't even open a message from couples.

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By *erbys Finest OP Couple
over a year ago

Oakwood - Derby

Thanks for all the replies we will try editing our profile as suggested

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By *ornyspiceCouple
over a year ago

Norwich

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By *ornyspiceCouple
over a year ago

Norwich

"I'd like to meet more couples but finding it hard to actually find genuine ones in the first place, most I chat to seem to just male half"

Love to meet up with you, but your so far away

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Amazing how much negative reaction from single ladies towards couples on this thread, mostly saying "I'd love to meet them but....." a lot of the comments are pretty generic too. Yes there are couples out there that display or fit in to the issues you've raised, however there are many that are not and just like we attempt to swerve the wrong single ladies by gut feeling, chatting, we immediately switch off from a single lady if they haven't read our profile for example and all this "I'd love to meet then but..." crowd can do the same.....

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By *erbys Finest OP Couple
over a year ago

Oakwood - Derby

Thanks and vice Verda but yes Norwich is quite far from derby

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I find them all the time your just not trying hard enough ha

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I am a single female and I have met quite a few couples.

This takes fime as I need to build up a certain level of trust with them, ensure there is a mental attraction three ways and that we all want to play equally.

So it does happen, single females do meet. I guess you just need to keep talking, sending messages and wait for the right one to come along

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I am a single female and I have met quite a few couples.

This takes fime as I need to build up a certain level of trust with them, ensure there is a mental attraction three ways and that we all want to play equally.

So it does happen, single females do meet. I guess you just need to keep talking, sending messages and wait for the right one to come along "
awwww you sound lovely

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Amazing how much negative reaction from single ladies towards couples on this thread, mostly saying "I'd love to meet them but....." a lot of the comments are pretty generic too. Yes there are couples out there that display or fit in to the issues you've raised, however there are many that are not and just like we attempt to swerve the wrong single ladies by gut feeling, chatting, we immediately switch off from a single lady if they haven't read our profile for example and all this "I'd love to meet then but..." crowd can do the same.....

Well said!

...also I love your profiles opening paragraph, very funny

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By *osmosgirlWoman
over a year ago

Wetherby

I love meeting couples. There is something about their dynamic that I enjoy and admire. I also like being the centre of attention while in their company.

I find that the female half tends to be easier to chat to and establish a connection with, on here, unless the male is very articulate and able to hold my attention, which is rare.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I am a single female and I have met quite a few couples.

This takes fime as I need to build up a certain level of trust with them, ensure there is a mental attraction three ways and that we all want to play equally.

So it does happen, single females do meet. I guess you just need to keep talking, sending messages and wait for the right one to come along "

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