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By *obblybits OP   Couple
over a year ago

huddersfield

hello all.

I was watching the sex education program today and I also had a look at there website.

they talk of swinging although do not say this word I was wondering how you all feel for our children to be educated about group sex and the swapping of partners?

I am completely on the fence with this I think its not too bad them knowing but I have to say I would not want my children knowing this world at 13-16 yrs. I see couples all round not being able to cope with swinging and swapping of partners but for children to think its normal and ok I worry that before a relationship has even got started it could end just as fast by trying to introduce the swinging life in to such young couples.

how do you feel about it.

michelle

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Ill probably get shot down for this, but I am a massiv beliver in that we giv kid's, too much sex education, too early, Im 22, I lost my virginity at 13, and I had my 1st wank at 11-12ish, but I didnt even know about any of this untill school told me in year 6-(last year of primary) If they never told me, I would of probably would of gone a few more year's. Also teenage pregnancy was not a issue years ago, beacause 13-14 year olds didnt know so much, now they do so they do it earlier. most of my mates lost it at about 14-15, and I remember one kid was a virgin at 16, and was stupid enough to admit it, and got absolutley destroyed. to much to young I rekon, howevr might be to late to change it now.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Ill probably get shot down for this, but I am a massiv beliver in that we giv kid's, too much sex education, too early, Im 22, I lost my virginity at 13, and I had my 1st wank at 11-12ish, but I didnt even know about any of this untill school told me in year 6-(last year of primary) If they never told me, I would of probably would of gone a few more year's. Also teenage pregnancy was not a issue years ago, beacause 13-14 year olds didnt know so much, now they do so they do it earlier. most of my mates lost it at about 14-15, and I remember one kid was a virgin at 16, and was stupid enough to admit it, and got absolutley destroyed. to much to young I rekon, howevr might be to late to change it now."

Teenage pregnancy was certainly an issue years ago. I am 45, and in my last year at school 14 girls got pregnant out of approx. 100. We weren't taught sex education until early teens, but we still knew about it.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Ill probably get shot down for this, but I am a massiv beliver in that we giv kid's, too much sex education, too early, Im 22, I lost my virginity at 13, and I had my 1st wank at 11-12ish, but I didnt even know about any of this untill school told me in year 6-(last year of primary) If they never told me, I would of probably would of gone a few more year's. Also teenage pregnancy was not a issue years ago, beacause 13-14 year olds didnt know so much, now they do so they do it earlier. most of my mates lost it at about 14-15, and I remember one kid was a virgin at 16, and was stupid enough to admit it, and got absolutley destroyed. to much to young I rekon, howevr might be to late to change it now.

Teenage pregnancy was certainly an issue years ago. I am 45, and in my last year at school 14 girls got pregnant out of approx. 100. We weren't taught sex education until early teens, but we still knew about it."

o right,well you wer there so i take your word for it. I just assumend, beacause they always say how its on the rise, and has risen every year for the last 10 years, and stuff like that. and that were the worst in europe, and numbers of teenage pregnancies have never been higher.

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By *obblybits OP   Couple
over a year ago

huddersfield

I am not much older than you and we didn't have a very good knowledge of sex ed from our education but believe me we all new about it and new our own minds. I am not sure wether or not it was our upbringing or were we came from but most of our peers were sexually active or at least sexually aware. I believe in sex education but I am just not sure that swinging should be involved at 13 -16.

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By * starr -Woman
over a year ago

Burton on Trent.

i wouldnt want kids that young knowing about it.dont they have enough to deal with?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I think its great and really refreshing no subject is a taboo. Although at the start children were embarrassed. It also gets them talking with their parents which is a good thing.

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By *emima_puddlefuckCouple
over a year ago

hexham


"hello all.

I was watching the sex education program today and I also had a look at there website.

they talk of swinging although do not say this word I was wondering how you all feel for our children to be educated about group sex and the swapping of partners?

I am completely on the fence with this I think its not too bad them knowing but I have to say I would not want my children knowing this world at 13-16 yrs. I see couples all round not being able to cope with swinging and swapping of partners but for children to think its normal and ok I worry that before a relationship has even got started it could end just as fast by trying to introduce the swinging life in to such young couples.

how do you feel about it.

michelle "

Who does knowing equate with trying ?

There is a strange belief that knowledge is good until it applies to children.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Ye i agree, we wear all sexually aware, but from things like eurotrash, lol, we knew about sex, but we also knew we shouldnt do it, but once the teachers told us it was a natural, good thing, and that boys rub them selves for pleasure, and that, well thats when we all thought..."right i want sex NOW!!!" so my point is, we was aware of sex, but would never dream of doing it, but once we were told, every1 lost there virginty very quickly....and you say wear you were bought up might of had somthing to do with it, well im onabout one of the biggest council estates in birmingham here, so as you can imagine it wernt as if we didnt no the score, cause we did. thats y there was baerly a virgin amongst us after 14. im just sayin sex education made sex OK for us to do, when before it was naughty, and we shouldnt do it.

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By *emima_puddlefuckCouple
over a year ago

hexham

i like ginger cake too

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"hello all.

I was watching the sex education program today and I also had a look at there website.

they talk of swinging although do not say this word I was wondering how you all feel for our children to be educated about group sex and the swapping of partners?

I am completely on the fence with this I think its not too bad them knowing but I have to say I would not want my children knowing this world at 13-16 yrs. I see couples all round not being able to cope with swinging and swapping of partners but for children to think its normal and ok I worry that before a relationship has even got started it could end just as fast by trying to introduce the swinging life in to such young couples.

how do you feel about it.

michelle

Who does knowing equate with trying ?

There is a strange belief that knowledge is good until it applies to children."

I would not approve of it being taught at all in schools. I have 3 teenage children & would expect the promotion of a 1 to 1 male/female monogamous relationship.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Ye i agree, we wear all sexually aware, but from things like eurotrash, lol, we knew about sex, but we also knew we shouldnt do it, but once the teachers told us it was a natural, good thing, and that boys rub them selves for pleasure, and that, well thats when we all thought..."right i want sex NOW!!!" so my point is, we was aware of sex, but would never dream of doing it, but once we were told, every1 lost there virginty very quickly....and you say wear you were bought up might of had somthing to do with it, well im onabout one of the biggest council estates in birmingham here, so as you can imagine it wernt as if we didnt no the score, cause we did. thats y there was baerly a virgin amongst us after 14. im just sayin sex education made sex OK for us to do, when before it was naughty, and we shouldnt do it."

You might also find Simon, a lot of your mates were talking crap, due to peer pressure.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Ye i agree, we wear all sexually aware, but from things like eurotrash, lol, we knew about sex, but we also knew we shouldnt do it, but once the teachers told us it was a natural, good thing, and that boys rub them selves for pleasure, and that, well thats when we all thought..."right i want sex NOW!!!" so my point is, we was aware of sex, but would never dream of doing it, but once we were told, every1 lost there virginty very quickly....and you say wear you were bought up might of had somthing to do with it, well im onabout one of the biggest council estates in birmingham here, so as you can imagine it wernt as if we didnt no the score, cause we did. thats y there was baerly a virgin amongst us after 14. im just sayin sex education made sex OK for us to do, when before it was naughty, and we shouldnt do it.

You might also find Simon, a lot of your mates were talking crap, due to peer pressure."

ye absolutley, but alot is deffinetly true, as you witness it at partys, or when we wer down the park gettin smashed, lol, and things like girls admitting it, there ones who lied always got found out, beacause nobody would belive you got there ride, enless there was hard evidence, we witnesed it, or the girl admited it as well. ha ha. but no doubt there was people telling lies but you could spot them a mile off

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I think that they teach them to much and in all fairness do not think it is up to schools to teach it..

My son now ten had his first lesson when aged 8.... I did have the option to remove him from it.. but then risked him learning it in kid style from his peers...

Kids are sexually aware way to early.. I knew that sex was about but didnt have a clue as to the logistics of it.. and certainly had no interest in finding out at 14.. or 15 to be fair..

If I had been left to my own ways.. I would have happily have waited till late teens early 20s...

I am shocked at how sexual kids are.. and I think that kids are taught to early... and its not needed...

However, there are lots of other influences.. and even kids programmes I want have sexual inuendo.. there was a time the kids wouldnt get the hidden jokes ( like in toy story with woody and bo peep) but the innocence of the children seems to be going to early.

Let children have their childhood.. sex is for grown ups..and childhood is getting cut short.

Cali x

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By *he_original_poloWoman
over a year ago

a Primark shoebox in Leicester

The big question is..... would you rather your kids have sensible discussion with teachers about sexual matters or do you want their sex education to be dominated by the porn they download and share in the playground on their mobile phones?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

ye i see what your saying, if the teachers dnt teach it, then kids r just gonna watch porn, with the internet and all that available now, so I suppose they got no choice,

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

The sex education tackles all taboo subjects such as disabilities and sex. But also teaching the parents to be more aware of what there children are up to showing them what they are looking at on the internet. And it opens communication with the children and the parents which can only be a good thing. If the children have all the correct balanced information towards sex, stds etc then they can make informed decisions instead of going into sex blind.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"The sex education tackles all taboo subjects such as disabilities and sex. But also teaching the parents to be more aware of what there children are up to showing them what they are looking at on the internet. And it opens communication with the children and the parents which can only be a good thing. If the children have all the correct balanced information towards sex, stds etc then they can make informed decisions instead of going into sex blind."

If my mom could see what i looked at on the iternet, i dont think we would be speaking lol. I dont think most kid's like to talk to there parents about sex, rightly or wrongly, i certainly didnt, me and my dad talk about fit girl's, and we might say in conversation, "I shagged this bird" and stuff like that, but we dont go into to many details, like ohhh dad her fanny was perfectly symetrical ha ha. i just could not bring myself to speak to my mom and dad about sex when i was younger, and i think many would feel the same

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Oh and I think they should have school visits to the std clinics. My daughter she is 13 in her year there is at least 4 I know of who are pregnant and they walk about showing their bumps as if its a statement even more in the year above its just wrong.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

My kids dont have mobile phones capable of downloading porn.

I would rather the teachers left it to the parents..

What does an 8 year old need to know about sex for... ????

And add to that my 5 year old had a basic sex education class.. yes okay it was about where babies come from...but...

I actually think that porn doesnt really have a lot to be blamed for.. as they have to be looking for it.. and therefore have knowledge..

Take one look at the top 40 video chat.. and you will see lots of sexualisation..

I just think that it should be something left to parents... And I think if they do insist on teaching it that they should have a parents night before... and tell the parents exactly what they are teaching..

I know for one my son has gone on about it since he did it..and after seeing what they showed them.. and the mention of somethings.. his friends went and looked online..

Something my kids can not do... As every pc in my house except mine (which children can not use) has levels of protection.. and I can see at any given moment not only what they are doing.. but what they have been on.. I also have the wifi on a control.. So I can deny the whole house wifi access when I wish..

oh and any attempts to view anything I see as not suitable flags up on my pc..

Yes it may seem extreme but I also have two girls that there friends are all going out doing stuff and my two arent really interested.. They dont want to give something precious away... and they come to me with any query... so it must be working.

I btw back on topic would not be happy with them explaining to under 16s about group thing.. but Katie perrys latest song had my 13 year old what a menage a trois was....

Then there was I kissed a girl... again questions..

My ways arent fool proof.. my 10 year olds mate was doing a showing of a porn preview one evening.. ( Made me think of the simpsons episode where bart and millhouse do that and charge entry) but that to me is kinda normal ladish behaviour..

He got caught.. we talked about it.. he asked a few bits.. he is ashamed that I know... and hopefully he wont do it again for a bit..

Cali

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Can I just add.. that there is actually no one pregnant at my daughters school...

not bad for a school these days.

The school I went to used to have a none acceptance policy.. ie if you were pregnant at school you were out..

However, when it happened to me.. there little golden child. they allowed me to stay.. and then went on to have a very good mother and baby unit attached to the school.

cali

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By *he_original_poloWoman
over a year ago

a Primark shoebox in Leicester


"My kids dont have mobile phones capable of downloading porn.

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They don't need one either.... as long as one of their mates has one.

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By *urreyfun2008Man
over a year ago

East Grinstead

Remember some 35 years ago giggled conversations about smelly fingers in primary school - well before any sex ed.

Are teenage pregnancies rising? Or are they less hidden? Less abortions?

200 years ago, married at 13 was not unusual, so one has to consider whether things have changed at all. Or just that we know about what is happening Lower Codswallop easier than we know what our neighbours are doing these days.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Ye i agree, we wear all sexually aware, but from things like eurotrash, lol, we knew about sex, but we also knew we shouldnt do it, but once the teachers told us it was a natural, good thing, and that boys rub them selves for pleasure, and that, well thats when we all thought..."right i want sex NOW!!!" so my point is, we was aware of sex, but would never dream of doing it, but once we were told, every1 lost there virginty very quickly....and you say wear you were bought up might of had somthing to do with it, well im onabout one of the biggest council estates in birmingham here, so as you can imagine it wernt as if we didnt no the score, cause we did. thats y there was baerly a virgin amongst us after 14. im just sayin sex education made sex OK for us to do, when before it was naughty, and we shouldnt do it."

I totally disagree. I think sex education teaches kids the rights and wrongs. Without it young boys wouldn't know how to put a condom on or know the facts about STIs etc. Sex Ed didn't make me what to have sex all the chat about diseases and teenage pregnancy put me off. I lost my virgintity at 16 to my bf who I had been with since I was 13. In my school it wasn't promoted as wayyyyy sex is great everyone should be doing it

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

think been open to your kids good thing .i all ways have with my sons .my oldest 17 asked me for some condons .he asked me question growing up all ways tolled him the truth. i asked him why could he talk to his dad ,he said like he couldnt as his dad bit of fuddy duddy when come to sex and things .

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I do like the shocked looks on the parents faces when the show how easy it is to watch live cams......All you need to do is go in any of the chat rooms and someone will be wanking. I think half of them put on the shocked faces

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Remember some 35 years ago giggled conversations about smelly fingers in primary school - well before any sex ed.

Are teenage pregnancies rising? Or are they less hidden? Less abortions?

200 years ago, married at 13 was not unusual, so one has to consider whether things have changed at all. Or just that we know about what is happening Lower Codswallop easier than we know what our neighbours are doing these days."

theres more abortions then ever, there was a documentary on the otehr day that talked about how, young girls are treating abortion as a form of ctraceptive, and that its to easy to get an abortion these days'

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Ye i agree, we wear all sexually aware, but from things like eurotrash, lol, we knew about sex, but we also knew we shouldnt do it, but once the teachers told us it was a natural, good thing, and that boys rub them selves for pleasure, and that, well thats when we all thought..."right i want sex NOW!!!" so my point is, we was aware of sex, but would never dream of doing it, but once we were told, every1 lost there virginty very quickly....and you say wear you were bought up might of had somthing to do with it, well im onabout one of the biggest council estates in birmingham here, so as you can imagine it wernt as if we didnt no the score, cause we did. thats y there was baerly a virgin amongst us after 14. im just sayin sex education made sex OK for us to do, when before it was naughty, and we shouldnt do it.

I totally disagree. I think sex education teaches kids the rights and wrongs. Without it young boys wouldn't know how to put a condom on or know the facts about STIs etc. Sex Ed didn't make me what to have sex all the chat about diseases and teenage pregnancy put me off. I lost my virgintity at 16 to my bf who I had been with since I was 13. In my school it wasn't promoted as wayyyyy sex is great everyone should be doing it "

ye i agree sex education, but just not so early, i had it when i was 10-11, before that i didnt no anything about sex really, like i say eurotrash, but after the teachers told me about it, i could think of nothing else, and its all we talked abotu at school. Im just sayin ye sex ed is gr8, but mayb wait till senior school.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Ye i agree, we wear all sexually aware, but from things like eurotrash, lol, we knew about sex, but we also knew we shouldnt do it, but once the teachers told us it was a natural, good thing, and that boys rub them selves for pleasure, and that, well thats when we all thought..."right i want sex NOW!!!" so my point is, we was aware of sex, but would never dream of doing it, but once we were told, every1 lost there virginty very quickly....and you say wear you were bought up might of had somthing to do with it, well im onabout one of the biggest council estates in birmingham here, so as you can imagine it wernt as if we didnt no the score, cause we did. thats y there was baerly a virgin amongst us after 14. im just sayin sex education made sex OK for us to do, when before it was naughty, and we shouldnt do it.

I totally disagree. I think sex education teaches kids the rights and wrongs. Without it young boys wouldn't know how to put a condom on or know the facts about STIs etc. Sex Ed didn't make me what to have sex all the chat about diseases and teenage pregnancy put me off. I lost my virgintity at 16 to my bf who I had been with since I was 13. In my school it wasn't promoted as wayyyyy sex is great everyone should be doing it

ye i agree sex education, but just not so early, i had it when i was 10-11, before that i didnt no anything about sex really, like i say eurotrash, but after the teachers told me about it, i could think of nothing else, and its all we talked abotu at school. Im just sayin ye sex ed is gr8, but mayb wait till senior school."

I think the basics should be covered early on but the hard facts could be left till later

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By (user no longer on site)
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over a year ago

My childrens sex education was fabulous from their schools,the parents were all involved if they wanted to be, and had access to all the info and could watch the dvds that the children were going to watch and it placed a lot of emphasis on them having control over what is done to their bodies and having the confidence to say no in any situation that they felt uncomfortable with

They also gave information about same sex relationships and 1 to 1 loving relationships which I thought was perfect for their age group

Peer pressure was also raised and the fact that lots of teens do and will big themselves up and maybe don't always tell the truth when it comes to sex,body confidence was another issue that was dealt with really well

This sex education is continuing throughout their high school years adding more and more age relevant information which I think is cool

BUT ive never expected the school to take total control over their knowledge and have been lucky that both mine are very open and have asked many questions about various types of sex,I know they have seen stuff on the internet becasue they have asked me about it and have always got an honest answer,im never going to sugarcoat anything my mum did'nt with me

I think the more knowledge they have the better it can be for them,I love the sex education and the embarrassing teenage body programmes,I think they have done a lot of good in promoting good sexual health and make teens aware that whatever their concerns they won't be the only ones having them

I have friends that work in sexual health and we have sat and had chats about lots of weird and wonderful things that the kids have been happy to be involved with and ask questions about and as far as I can see its all good

Ive rambled on sorry

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"My childrens sex education was fabulous from their schools,the parents were all involved if they wanted to be, and had access to all the info and could watch the dvds that the children were going to watch and it placed a lot of emphasis on them having control over what is done to their bodies and having the confidence to say no in any situation that they felt uncomfortable with

They also gave information about same sex relationships and 1 to 1 loving relationships which I thought was perfect for their age group

Peer pressure was also raised and the fact that lots of teens do and will big themselves up and maybe don't always tell the truth when it comes to sex,body confidence was another issue that was dealt with really well

This sex education is continuing throughout their high school years adding more and more age relevant information which I think is cool

BUT ive never expected the school to take total control over their knowledge and have been lucky that both mine are very open and have asked many questions about various types of sex,I know they have seen stuff on the internet becasue they have asked me about it and have always got an honest answer,im never going to sugarcoat anything my mum did'nt with me

I think the more knowledge they have the better it can be for them,I love the sex education and the embarrassing teenage body programmes,I think they have done a lot of good in promoting good sexual health and make teens aware that whatever their concerns they won't be the only ones having them

I have friends that work in sexual health and we have sat and had chats about lots of weird and wonderful things that the kids have been happy to be involved with and ask questions about and as far as I can see its all good

Ive rambled on sorry "

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"i like ginger cake too "

Battenburg for me haha

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