FabSwingers.com forum: bondage

By * starr - OP Woman
over a year ago

Burton on Trent.

i would like to know how people first got into bondage and how (if anyone does or is) becomes a master/mistress.i would like to have a master but dont know if i could submit myself to someone like that.any suggestions or tips?

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By *emima_puddlefuckCouple
over a year ago

hexham

"i would like to know how people first got into bondage and how (if anyone does or is) becomes a master/mistress.i would like to have a master but dont know if i could submit myself to someone like that.any suggestions or tips?"

Hi hun...where to start

Many fet events have demoes where you cud give being tied a go ,without having to submit ,just to see if you enjoy the sensaation.

My advice wud be to join the big 2 fet sites(pm me

) and get into the social side.Most areas have monthly socials and muches and it is a very welcoming community.

Of course it needs to be...there are a lot of wasters,nutters and frankly dangerous men out there who must be avoided.

Getting to know the scene will allow u to learn, meet and develop at your own speed.

I am worried by what u think a Master is ,"someone like that". A good Master is someone you willingly give yourself too,body and soul,they care for and nurture their sub.A bully is not a Master.My relatioship is one of absolute trust for a man i respect,and like.If he wasn't my Master he wud still be one of my best friends.

However many people explore their sub side without having a Master, its a broad spectrum...have fun

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I wrote a post on this subject a while back..and the best thing that I can suggest to you is to sign up to one of the bdsm specific places..

But be careful.. its a mindfield.. I found a fantastic site recently... but I cant send it over here.

As for me.. well we found each other by accident. And I laughed at the idea of being submissive.. Now we have total power exchange..

Happy hunting

Cali

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Hi hun...where to start

Many fet events have demoes where you cud give being tied a go ,without having to submit ,just to see if you enjoy the sensaation.

My advice wud be to join the big 2 fet sites(pm me

) and get into the social side.Most areas have monthly socials and muches and it is a very welcoming community.

Of course it needs to be...there are a lot of wasters,nutters and frankly dangerous men out there who must be avoided.

Getting to know the scene will allow u to learn, meet and develop at your own speed.

However many people explore their sub side without having a Master, its a broad spectrum...have fun

awww damn it.. Miss Puddle beat me to it... she does like to beat me to things..

cali

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By *acktilMan
over a year ago

Tewkesbury

I'm very into Shibari (Japanese rope bondage), love tying women up in both restrictive and decorative bondage.

PM me if you want to see pictures or would like more info.

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By * starr - OP Woman
over a year ago

Burton on Trent.

jem

i do like the feeling of being tied up and teased, just not found anyone on here who i can trust to do it with yet.

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By *isub69Man
over a year ago

Epsom

It is difficult to say I have just always had fantasies about restraint and blindfolds. This then developed further with a bit of internet research and a gay website of all places (I have a big fetish for female feet and there are a lot of gay foot lovers out there who introduced me to further aspects of bondage and submission).

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By *emmefataleWoman
over a year ago

dirtybigbadsgirlville

"jem

i do like the feeling of being tied up and teased, just not found anyone on here who i can trust to do it with yet."
In my opinion its not something that you can just go out and get, a friendship that evolves is usually how you find the trust thing, as with the rest of the stuff you are looking for, some guys think of themselves as a dominant male but arent,some just want role play in the bedroom, some like the lifestyle, think carefully about your dos and donts and stick with it , good luck

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I honestly couldn't say when I first got into it...it feels like I have always been aroused by being controlled, restrained &/or switching roles.

I know I was having fantasies about it before I lost my virginity....but when I first thinking about it? I couldn't say.

As for getting into it, I was honest with my partners. I'd tell them bit by bit what turned me on & if I was lucky they'd be into it.

As for Tod, I know he's not really into the scene but he loves to turn me on, so goes with it.

So you don't need to be with someone who sees themselves as a dom/sub to experience the scene with them. Just someone that is willing to give it a go & loves to turn you on. Of course it's not going to be as intense or full on as it would be if they were a dom/sub, but so far I can say it's a pretty good compromise. I can happily live with it

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I for one am very interested in it. Would love to know more about it. I think the last relationship I was in was not dom/sub in the bedroom but more about the other person being in control and what he wanted. Which I assume is totally a different thing

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By *emima_puddlefuckCouple
over a year ago

hexham

"jem

i do like the feeling of being tied up and teased, just not found anyone on here who i can trust to do it with yet."

Trust in any situation takes time, between my Master first making me laugh in a chat room( and be v filthy with various fruit and veg

) and our first meeting to play was about 6 months.

You stick to your guns and wait for the right person!

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