FabSwingers.com forum: Something missing

By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

After being diagnosed with testicular cancer. I had to have one removed. And as a consequence Iam self conscious, shy and not very confident. I feel that having a bit missing and not being a heavy cummer will put the ladies off. You're thoughts would be appreciated.

Thanks x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Sex is so much more than your genitals!

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

Initially that's what I thought. But I had a meet about a year ago, and as soon as she felt down below the meet went downhill from that point on. That didn't exactly help my confidence and have not met since

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I have met and played with a man who only had one ball...

He wasn’t at all selfconscious about it

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

you can have a false one inserted - did the lady know beforehand - might have just been the shock

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By *appy squirrelWoman
over a year ago

Norwich

wouldn't put me off in the slightest... I might take a closer look because I am curious. but that's all. I don't think there is any need to be shy about it. maybe let your meets know in advance so they don't get too distracted

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

be strong and proud - youre a survivor

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By *gnitemybodyWoman
over a year ago

Onestepoutofthedoor

"Initially that's what I thought. But I had a meet about a year ago, and as soon as she felt down below the meet went downhill from that point on. That didn't exactly help my confidence and have not met since "

That's just one person,it's easy for me to say but seriously don't let it worry you. I've been with a guy who had one removed and to be honest I only noticed when he told me,it didn't affect my enjoyment one bit!

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By *uxom redCouple
over a year ago

Shrewsbury

"After being diagnosed with testicular cancer. I had to have one removed. And as a consequence Iam self conscious, shy and not very confident. I feel that having a bit missing and not being a heavy cummer will put the ladies off. You're thoughts would be appreciated.

Thanks x"

Firstly congratulations on beating the cancer.

You should be proud of that.

Secondly I'm sure if you were to mention it to meets they would be fully accepting of it.

I'm fully aware of having body parts removed from having cancer knocks your self esteem and that takes a long time to build back up, we'll in my case it did.

But you beat it and that's all that matters.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I've played with a guy who had a ball removed when he was a child.

Didn't bother me in the slightest.

As for not being a heavy cummer, that wouldn't bother me either, in fact I prefer it!!!

Good luck op. Remember it's just a bollock you've lost and not your life. It should have no bearing on meets. Let them know before hand and all should be good. If they won't meet you just because of that then they aren't worth yours or anyone else's time.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Would not bother me one bit .. being as daft as I am probably wouldn't even register ...

Get out there ! Women don't bother about stuff like that.. get meeting xx

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

I'm a shy guy due to what's happened in the past. Hoping to go to Decadence when I get some bottle. Have added a note to my profile. Thanks everyone maybe now I won't feel so odd xx

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

Thanks Buxom not proud just relieved. As mentioned below have become more shy due to the treatment by peeps in the past. I hope one day to go to a club.

Thanks once again Sweetheart xxx

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"wouldn't put me off in the slightest... I might take a closer look because I am curious. but that's all. I don't think there is any need to be shy about it. maybe let your meets know in advance so they don't get too distracted

I'm a nosy mare too, I'd be intrigued.

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By *uxom redCouple
over a year ago

Shrewsbury

"Thanks Buxom not proud just relieved. As mentioned below have become more shy due to the treatment by peeps in the past. I hope one day to go to a club.

Thanks once again Sweetheart xxx"

Yes I fully understand the relief bit but in time you will become proud, well I have.

Proud that you beat it

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"be strong and proud - youre a survivor"

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By *uietlyBohemianCouple
over a year ago

Newcastle-under-Lyme

According to two different friends who are sporting just the one nowadays; No long term change whatsoever to libido, no noticeable change to volume of ejaculate, and no reduction in fertility. One had a prosthetic, one did not.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

It wouldn't bother me at all, might be curious but wouldn't ask about it. And not being a heavy cummer is fine by me, possibly even a bonus. T x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

You should be proud of yourself!

To be honest the bit you've added to your profile sounds a little defeatist ! Don't apologies if it's a problem for anyone - if it is it's their problem not yours!

Also - as far as I'm aware it's not your balls that determine how much you cum - that's all down to your prostate! So don't think you're ball reduction is affecting your performance

I completely get how body issues could affect your confidence though - and despite all of us telling you not to worry it's not as easy as that. If it really is affecting you why don't you speak to your GP about having a prosthetic one put back in - then no one would even know?

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

Thanks for all your good wishes It means a lot, To be fair, I'm not bothered that I have one missing even though I do feel the odd one out ( Excuse the bad attempt at a pun ), I asked the question to gauge whether females or couples would find it a turn off. I'm chuffed that it does not bother anyone, but now, as I don't have "the gift of the gab" need the confidence to chat on the rooms without feeling myself going red, and struggling for something to say, That is my next problem

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By *reenleavesCouple
over a year ago

North Wales

I've been a Womble since my teens. It did used to bother me at first but now I don't give it a second thought. If anyone's noticed then they haven't mentioned it.

Obviously having lost one during adulthood will take some time to adjust to and you'll feel like everyone's staring at you. But they're really not. If your partners do have an issue with it then that probably says more about them than you.

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

I have never regarded myself as a womble lol, I must be Great Uncle Bulgaria, cos I'm so old. Looking for a Madame

Cholet lol. But I agree it ain't my problem it is their's

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