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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

Of late we have had a few messages from single guys, most have been polite, but there are some that are far from it...."nice cunt", "i want to bite your pussy lips" to mention a couple.....i do wonder if these actually work for them. Today there are status updates like "looking for a woman to swallow my cum", "woman wanted to empty my sack". Its almost like they aren't bothered with the woman at all, only themselves. I am sure that goes both ways and there are womens and couples profiles that say the same, but its just weird.

Anyway, sunday moan over with

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

'cause they think there proper lads lol ruins it from.decant blokes x

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By *xploringThisWorldMan
over a year ago

collier row


"Of late we have had a few messages from single guys, most have been polite, but there are some that are far from it...."nice cunt", "i want to bite your pussy lips" to mention a couple.....i do wonder if these actually work for them. Today there are status updates like "looking for a woman to swallow my cum", "woman wanted to empty my sack". Its almost like they aren't bothered with the woman at all, only themselves. I am sure that goes both ways and there are womens and couples profiles that say the same, but its just weird.

Anyway, sunday moan over with "

I assume ladies get far worse, but even for a bi man like myself I get a message from a guy with a close up of his penis saying 'come blow me now bitch'

Like WTF? These people never have meet verification mostly cam which I don't think are very good or reliable.

Most guys are just fantasist porn watching Idiots on here. . I met a lovely couple yesterday, I'm just going to sick to couples I think!

Best of both worlds haha

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Of late we have had a few messages from single guys, most have been polite, but there are some that are far from it...."nice cunt", "i want to bite your pussy lips" to mention a couple.....i do wonder if these actually work for them. Today there are status updates like "looking for a woman to swallow my cum", "woman wanted to empty my sack". Its almost like they aren't bothered with the woman at all, only themselves. I am sure that goes both ways and there are womens and couples profiles that say the same, but its just weird.

Anyway, sunday moan over with

I assume ladies get far worse, but even for a bi man like myself I get a message from a guy with a close up of his penis saying 'come blow me now bitch'

Like WTF? These people never have meet verification mostly cam which I don't think are very good or reliable.

Most guys are just fantasist porn watching Idiots on here. . I met a lovely couple yesterday, I'm just going to sick to couples I think!

Best of both worlds haha

"

It even got to the point with being a straight single male I had to block the single guys because daily I'd get messages like "I want you to gape a ass" or "I want you to empty your balls in my mouth"

And it's these sort of guys who ruin it for genuine guys

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By *ungBlackTopMan
over a year ago

salford

yawn

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By *ikstupp2Man
over a year ago

london

I'm usually always polite but iv learnt that some fabbers do like to talk like that,male and female. Suppose it depends on what has worked before that determines the type of messages that are sent???

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

No one ruins it for anyone else, some guys are just rude, arrogant and silly with the "suck my cock bitch" etc lines, doesn't make them all bad

Some couples/ladies put status' up like "want large cock" "fill me up" etc etc, no one ever complains and says they are ruining it for other couples/ladies x

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By *ancscleanguyMan
over a year ago

Preston

They are the sort that wouldn't turn up for a meet in a month of Sunday's.

They're probably just wanking while sending rude messages.

Nowt wrong with dirty talk in the right circumstances. But definitely not to someone you've never met.

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"No one ruins it for anyone else, some guys are just rude, arrogant and silly with the "suck my cock bitch" etc lines, doesn't make them all bad

Some couples/ladies put status' up like "want large cock" "fill me up" etc etc, no one ever complains and says they are ruining it for other couples/ladies x"

If you read what i said, you will find i mentioned women and couples as well?

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By *xploringThisWorldMan
over a year ago

collier row


"yawn"

A yawn no doubt because you send messages like that lol

Laaaaaaame

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"'cause they think there proper lads lol ruins it from.decant blokes x"

no, they do not!!....take a minute to think about it....if women were so put off by asshole-type messages, they would delete their accounts within hours of starting them!..there would be no women on here! each person is only responsible for their own messages! too easy to blame a lack of success on 'all those nasty mean men that make it too difficult for the rest of us!'..sorry but thats bollocks!

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By *xploringThisWorldMan
over a year ago

collier row


"'cause they think there proper lads lol ruins it from.decant blokes x

no, they do not!!....take a minute to think about it....if women were so put off by asshole-type messages, they would delete their accounts within hours of starting them!..there would be no women on here! each person is only responsible for their own messages! too easy to blame a lack of success on 'all those nasty mean men that make it too difficult for the rest of us!'..sorry but thats bollocks!"

Logically speaking, the awful guys will never get a meet. Normal down to earth guys therefore are benefitted by looking better than the average on here.

Anyone blaming guys for their lack of meets is hilarious and very telling about them as a person and their personality.

I'm not a 'good looking' person yet I have no issues meeting couples on either my profiles.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"'cause they think there proper lads lol ruins it from.decant blokes x

no, they do not!!....take a minute to think about it....if women were so put off by asshole-type messages, they would delete their accounts within hours of starting them!..there would be no women on here! each person is only responsible for their own messages! too easy to blame a lack of success on 'all those nasty mean men that make it too difficult for the rest of us!'..sorry but thats bollocks!

Logically speaking, the awful guys will never get a meet. Normal down to earth guys therefore are benefitted by looking better than the average on here.

Anyone blaming guys for their lack of meets is hilarious and very telling about them as a person and their personality.

I'm not a 'good looking' person yet I have no issues meeting couples on either my profiles."

exactly! and the moany 'oh those other nasty men..blah blah blah' ones are usually the ones with fuck all profile...we are apparently supposed to have a psychic ability to tell that they are 'decent'!!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Has profile picture of full frontal cunt photo

Complains of messages saying nice cunt

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By *lkDomWhtSubBiCpleCouple
over a year ago

Somewhere / Everywhere /Kinksville


"Has profile picture of full frontal cunt photo

Complains of messages saying nice cunt

"

I wouldn't have put it so blunt, but we don't get messages like that

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By *uchess39Woman
over a year ago

london

I don't know what people expect with some of the pics they put up. I don't receive anything like that either.

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By *abioMan
over a year ago

Newcastle and Gateshead


"Has profile picture of full frontal cunt photo

Complains of messages saying nice cunt

"

I was just about to write the same thing.......

if you don't want something in a pic being commented on.... don't put up that kind of pic....

isn't that like common sense 101

plus easy solution to a non existant problem....

you do wonder if people like to complain for the sake of complaining at times....

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Of late we have had a few messages from single guys, most have been polite, but there are some that are far from it...."nice cunt", "i want to bite your pussy lips" to mention a couple.....i do wonder if these actually work for them. Today there are status updates like "looking for a woman to swallow my cum", "woman wanted to empty my sack". Its almost like they aren't bothered with the woman at all, only themselves. I am sure that goes both ways and there are womens and couples profiles that say the same, but its just weird.

Anyway, sunday moan over with "

can I suggest then, that you turn your filters off to stop men from messaging you? it does say on your profile that you will find them, after all, so maybe practice what you preach and you wont get the hassle....simples

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By *ucyfur77Woman
over a year ago

Pleasuretown


"Has profile picture of full frontal cunt photo

Complains of messages saying nice cunt

"

Meow

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I agree OP...

Id prefer not to see crude updates, receive crude messages or see explicit pictures.

What people do in private is no ones business its when its made public and unsolicited its taking away peoples choice to not see it.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I find a lot of "women " insist on BBC only, which if was the other way round would be rightly condemned as racist.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I agree OP...

Id prefer not to see crude updates, receive crude messages or see explicit pictures.

What people do in private is no ones business its when its made public and unsolicited its taking away peoples choice to not see it.

"

we would all prefer not to see them...

its how we choose to go about it that makes the difference...

if you don't wish to get unsolicited messages from men, then block them from messaging you in your filters, and just message the ones you are interested in instead...

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By *SAchickWoman
over a year ago

Hillside desolate


"Has profile picture of full frontal cunt photo

Complains of messages saying nice cunt

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By *SAchickWoman
over a year ago

Hillside desolate


"I find a lot of "women " insist on BBC only, which if was the other way round would be rightly condemned as racist."

Actually lots of profiles do have it "the other way round" as well

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By *eerobCouple
over a year ago

solihull

When single men are like that it works as an effective filter for us.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Has profile picture of full frontal cunt photo

Complains of messages saying nice cunt

"

This ahaha

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"'cause they think there proper lads lol ruins it from.decant blokes x

no, they do not!!....take a minute to think about it....if women were so put off by asshole-type messages, they would delete their accounts within hours of starting them!..there would be no women on here! each person is only responsible for their own messages! too easy to blame a lack of success on 'all those nasty mean men that make it too difficult for the rest of us!'..sorry but thats bollocks!"

What she said....

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Has profile picture of full frontal cunt photo

Complains of messages saying nice cunt

"

The mind boggles.....

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By *oxy_minxWoman
over a year ago

Scotland - Aberdeen


"Has profile picture of full frontal cunt photo

Complains of messages saying nice cunt

I was just about to write the same thing.......

if you don't want something in a pic being commented on.... don't put up that kind of pic....

isn't that like common sense 101

plus easy solution to a non existant problem....

you do wonder if people like to complain for the sake of complaining at times...."

Common sense on here? Are you joking? But your right, expect people to comment on the pictures you have.....don't like them, then change it

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By *earboynottinghamMan
over a year ago

Nottingham


"Of late we have had a few messages from single guys, most have been polite, but there are some that are far from it...."nice cunt", "i want to bite your pussy lips" to mention a couple.....i do wonder if these actually work for them. Today there are status updates like "looking for a woman to swallow my cum", "woman wanted to empty my sack". Its almost like they aren't bothered with the woman at all, only themselves. I am sure that goes both ways and there are womens and couples profiles that say the same, but its just weird.

Anyway, sunday moan over with "

A bit sensitive for a person with genitalia as an avatar surely?

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By *orum TrollWoman
over a year ago

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"I agree OP...

Id prefer not to see crude updates, receive crude messages or see explicit pictures.

What people do in private is no ones business its when its made public and unsolicited its taking away peoples choice to not see it.

we would all prefer not to see them...

its how we choose to go about it that makes the difference...

if you don't wish to get unsolicited messages from men, then block them from messaging you in your filters, and just message the ones you are interested in instead... "

i've had men filtered out most of the time i've been on here and do agree it's good to get rid of anything annoying you.

had couples blocked and women at various times too, just coz of the messages i got from them. i unblock when the messages are ok and i enjoy them.

i don't think men get that bad a rep, yeah we tend to generalise when slagging off the shit men coz it is mostly men doing this. but i still chat to a few now and enjoy that.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Of late we have had a few messages from single guys, most have been polite, but there are some that are far from it...."nice cunt", "i want to bite your pussy lips" to mention a couple.....i do wonder if these actually work for them. Today there are status updates like "looking for a woman to swallow my cum", "woman wanted to empty my sack". Its almost like they aren't bothered with the woman at all, only themselves. I am sure that goes both ways and there are womens and couples profiles that say the same, but its just weird.

Anyway, sunday moan over with

I assume ladies get far worse, but even for a bi man like myself I get a message from a guy with a close up of his penis saying 'come blow me now bitch'

Like WTF? These people never have meet verification mostly cam which I don't think are very good or reliable.

Most guys are just fantasist porn watching Idiots on here. . I met a lovely couple yesterday, I'm just going to sick to couples I think!

Best of both worlds haha

"

Sun readers. Following up from the exposes on swinging events and the site being named prominently, hundreds of Neanderthal Sun readers have joined up.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

And thats why its tough for some decent blokes on Fab

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By *avrick15Man
over a year ago

glasgow

Spoke to a few women that need manners lessons too

It's not good to generalise

But to be fair, a few delinquent little lads on here acting like it's the locker room talking to their pals

Just ignore the little boys and play with the men

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

People only get a bad rep based on the behaviour of others by those not intelligent enough to work out they aren't all the same.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I agree OP...

Id prefer not to see crude updates, receive crude messages or see explicit pictures.

What people do in private is no ones business its when its made public and unsolicited its taking away peoples choice to not see it.

we would all prefer not to see them...

its how we choose to go about it that makes the difference...

if you don't wish to get unsolicited messages from men, then block them from messaging you in your filters, and just message the ones you are interested in instead... "

I meant unsolicited messages that are crude, no filter for that just needs people to rein it in and not assume its ok to speak to people like that.

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By *luebell888Woman
over a year ago

Glasgowish

Yep. Get it all the time and find it a complete turn off.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I agree OP...

Id prefer not to see crude updates, receive crude messages or see explicit pictures.

What people do in private is no ones business its when its made public and unsolicited its taking away peoples choice to not see it.

we would all prefer not to see them...

its how we choose to go about it that makes the difference...

if you don't wish to get unsolicited messages from men, then block them from messaging you in your filters, and just message the ones you are interested in instead...

I meant unsolicited messages that are crude, no filter for that just needs people to rein it in and not assume its ok to speak to people like that."

fortunately the unsolicited messages I get are neither rude or crude so that's why I don't filter them out...

but as most men on here prefer the scattergun approach it is generally easier to block them first then there is nothing to complain about

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By *emplarWarriorMan
over a year ago

Nottingham

I think in general the good guys still shine through,

These idiots only make my messages sound more interesting I guess

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Without sounding to rude I think the type of pics people put on there profile will dictate the type of message they get . True we see lots of crude status but we rarely get crude messages

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By *londieddWoman
over a year ago

fife


"And thats why its tough for some decent blokes on Fab"

not true actually, as the idiots all get blocked so that improves your chances!

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By *ucyfur77Woman
over a year ago

Pleasuretown


"And thats why its tough for some decent blokes on Fab"

No, it just makes the good ones shine brighter

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By *ebedee2009Man
over a year ago

South Croydon

Thankfully the crude messages make my drivel positively Shakespearean...

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Without sounding to rude I think the type of pics people put on there profile will dictate the type of message they get . True we see lots of crude status but we rarely get crude messages "

Ive a very tame profile pic and no other pics, and still get crude messages.

I think they see it as dirty talk and think its being sexy!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I get more than my share of these "lads" too ... I can't imagine that sort of line works too often though

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Of late we have had a few messages from single guys, most have been polite, but there are some that are far from it...."nice cunt", "i want to bite your pussy lips" to mention a couple.....i do wonder if these actually work for them. Today there are status updates like "looking for a woman to swallow my cum", "woman wanted to empty my sack". Its almost like they aren't bothered with the woman at all, only themselves. I am sure that goes both ways and there are womens and couples profiles that say the same, but its just weird.

Anyway, sunday moan over with "
this is an everyday almost every minute thing on sites of this ilk and I'm sure you actually know that ,unfortunately ignorance is bliss ,some guys think just because they've got a hard on or are horny that a woman on these sites should be available to dampen their ardour ,I am not of that same train of thought but understand where you are coming from

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I find a lot of "women " insist on BBC only, which if was the other way round would be rightly condemned as racist.

Actually lots of profiles do have it "the other way round" as well "

And they are often called racist..

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By *iss_Samantha_LovecockTV/TS
over a year ago

bmth /poole sometimes blandford

well if they actually got someone to meet them they'd run a mile anyway .. just immature idiots that cant say anything intelligent ..theres bound to be a few

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By *eepDiversCouple
over a year ago

Over here

Have to say that while we do get some idiots, the ones we have engaged with have been absolutely lush and respectful but then again we have barely dipped our toe in the water!

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By *ngelface1Man
over a year ago

cloud 9

For me there has to me some connections or similar mind for it to venture to a play. Socials can be just as fun

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Idiots are idiots regardless of sexual proclivity !!!!!

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By *hostwolfMan
over a year ago

Scarborough


"Has profile picture of full frontal cunt photo

Complains of messages saying nice cunt

"

Hahahaha

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By *andemanMan
over a year ago

bedforshire

I agree with the OP some of the messages I get are well really?!? You think thats going to get me to get your rocks off!?!? Really?

The only cosolation is that with assholes like this about it makes normal guys stand out. Well at least i hope.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"And thats why its tough for some decent blokes on Fab"

and me !!!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"For me there has to me some connections or similar mind for it to venture to a play. Socials can be just as fun "

agreed

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I'm bit confused on these type of threads.... how do those people ruin it for others? Surely they just ruin it for themselves and maybe the ones they message and who respond in such a way that they then treat all guys the same.

I fail to see how it's ruined anything for myself or other genuine single guys who treat others with respect. If anything it helps us. I'm open to other points of view on this though.

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By *iceguymkMan
over a year ago

aylesbury

At the end if the day if they wanna chat to women and couples like that leave them too it I'm sure they are on a lot of blocked lists , I treat who ever I'm chatting to , female , wife or hubby with the respect they deserve and hopefully they treat me with the same respect back

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

In addition to the vulgar messages

The ones who message our COUPLE profile yet neglect to notice we are A COUPLE and only address message to snow white ..only refer to her in the message ..basically they act like they are messaging a single female profile.

Quickest ways to find our block list

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I'm bit confused on these type of threads.... how do those people ruin it for others? Surely they just ruin it for themselves and maybe the ones they message and who respond in such a way that they then treat all guys the same.

I fail to see how it's ruined anything for myself or other genuine single guys who treat others with respect. If anything it helps us. I'm open to other points of view on this though."

The messages from rude disrespectful people get us down. We put on filters and search ourselves but the majority are the same. The cycle continues...

Eventually we get fed up looking and go right off sex.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

The wife has a single profile and recieves lots of meet me now and let's fuck type messages which she'll just ignore but the ones I find most amusing is when they send her long messages about how and what there going to do to everyone of her holes etc when she's going to meet them and at the top it say user no longer on site

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By *orum TrollWoman
over a year ago

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"I'm bit confused on these type of threads.... how do those people ruin it for others? Surely they just ruin it for themselves and maybe the ones they message and who respond in such a way that they then treat all guys the same.

I fail to see how it's ruined anything for myself or other genuine single guys who treat others with respect. If anything it helps us. I'm open to other points of view on this though.

The messages from rude disrespectful people get us down. We put on filters and search ourselves but the majority are the same. The cycle continues...

Eventually we get fed up looking and go right off sex. "

i really don't think any guys deserve me.

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By *ngel n tedCouple
over a year ago

maidstone

After reading many a thread on the contents of messages, i have come to the conclusion that there are some absolute cunts on here.

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By *ingAlMan
over a year ago

hereford

I find that well written, correctly spelled, respectful and non crude message get best responses. [anyone fancy a fuck?]

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By *sGivesWoodWoman
over a year ago

ST. AUSTELL, CORNWALL


"I find a lot of "women " insist on BBC only, which if was the other way round would be rightly condemned as racist."
its all down to preferences, at the end of the day people are going to meet the ones they are looking for

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By *andemanMan
over a year ago

bedforshire


"I find that well written, correctly spelled, respectful and non crude message get best responses. [anyone fancy a fuck?]"

Well being Dyslexic i find the replies that dont judge my spelling much more sexy.

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By *avrick15Man
over a year ago

glasgow

To be honest I think it's a combination of things, idiots that don't read profiles and therefore they project what they are loooking for from the other person; i.e talking filthy, when they haven't even bothered to check if that person is into it or offering something that clearly isn't suitable (in my case receiving a half dozen male bj offers a day despite straight on profile)

Also in some cases ignorance and laziness thinking that as it's a swingers site, everyone must be a minimum effort dial-a-fuck.

Add to that an unhealthy dash of arseholes (both genders) and et voila, cunt city

However......

Those lovely folk that reside here with good banter and who get the concept of interacting respectfully and the thrill of the chase have plenty of fun.

Just dial out the background noise

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

If I get messages like that either ignore and block or if I'm in the mood to tell someone off I will tell them that they are being a cunt and that will never get them a meet and try talking to ppl like they was trying to pull in a night club/pub and ffs at least say hi before tell people u want to shove your cock in places lol

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