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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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I've just read the first thread on this, interesting. I thought for the purposes of debate I'd put up an alternative _iewpoint. Not saying ones right or wrong, you decide, it's just good to see alternate _iews..........
It amazes me how some guys still underestimate women. Even more surprising is the women who seem comfortable underestimating themselves.
I personally don't believe in the concept of 'good girl, bad girl'.
For me the idea is based on judging someones past or attempting to judge someones future. It ignores the most important time window 'the NOW'. What do you choose to be right now.
I believe everybody has a choice of what they choose to do and how they portray themselves at that specific moment.
Are we to believe that if a man finds a women very attractive and likes her then she cannot be 'bad' for want of a better term? I think it is secondary what a guys preconcieved ideas are, he may think he's just met the virgin Mary with looks right out of his league, but if she chooses to immediately act or portray a very naughty attitude, most men would take their lead from that. Given the chance, hard naughty sex will probably be the order of the day. Does this mean he doesn't like her?
Equally if the same women opts for a 'butter doesn't melt' approach, he's probably gonna treat her like a princess.
My point is SHE sets the agenda in her first moments with him, and if she is skilled, she can adapt that agenda to suit her needs (goddess in the living room, Emmanuel in the bedroom). Her agenda is the key and where her head is in the moment.
There is a suggestion that hard naughty sex is easier when you don't like someone, if you don't like someone you probably have negative thoughts about them, does that mean everytime someone has hard naughty sex they have negative thoughts about the women? How does that make women feel? Question to women, the next time a guy is having that type of sex with you would it bother you to think his thoughts about you are negative and that's the only reason he can treat you that way? Do you believe the more negative his thoughts the more.......er, of a 'sorting' your gonna get?
I understand the argument, I just choose not to fully accept it. This is because I know I have had crazy passionate wild hard sex with women I have loved as well as tender, sensuous, mellow intimate sex with a one night stand.
I believe women are well past being fixed with a label of 'good girl, bad girl' unless they play to that label. They can opt in the specific moment to be good or bad, just like guys.
I think that guys who label women as only being one or the other maybe should question their sexual maturity.
Sorry it's a bit of a read but I've been on the red wine!
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To some, I would be considered as promiscuous for the number of gents I have played with since Aug 2009 (less than 20).
However, to others, I would be considered as having a liberated _iew on sex with not a lot of hang ups.
I am not hurting anyone in my pursuit for sexual gratifications, and am a woman of a certain age with no ties and fancy free.
Therefore, I shall continue to have fun the way I see fit.
