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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

Is it just me or have others find that when you suggest this some guys just disappear! I NEVER meet up at a house or a hotel! Are you guys bonkers?!! I'm not stupid! Or desperate! Thoughts please?

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By *icecouple561Couple
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over a year ago

East Sussex

No we don't. Our profile makes it clear we only meet socially at first.

If you want one thing and they want another it just means you're not compatible.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Yep, social first for me. Ideally need to get on!!

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By *orkieboy 99Man
over a year ago

york


"Is it just me or have others find that when you suggest this some guys just disappear! I NEVER meet up at a house or a hotel! Are you guys bonkers?!! I'm not stupid! Or desperate! Thoughts please?"
social meets and drinks

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By *esicupidsCouple
over a year ago

Manchester

Its happened more times than we care to mention. Its on our profile but it's clear many guys simply don't read it.

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By *ustthe2ofusXXXCouple
over a year ago

coventry

We always have a social first and also make it clear on our profile and when we chat to others

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Every meet I post is for a social meet to start with. I'd never expect to go straight to someone's house or back to a hotel etc. I need a connection

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Is it just me or have others find that when you suggest this some guys just disappear! I NEVER meet up at a house or a hotel! Are you guys bonkers?!! I'm not stupid! Or desperate! Thoughts please?"

So. ..I don't meet for socials and will happily meet at a hotel. Does that make me stupid and/or desperate? ?

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By *iamondsmiles.Woman
over a year ago

little house on the praire

No. My profile says social first if they dont want a social they dont contact me

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By *SAchickWoman
over a year ago

Hillside desolate


"Is it just me or have others find that when you suggest this some guys just disappear! I NEVER meet up at a house or a hotel! Are you guys bonkers?!! I'm not stupid! Or desperate! Thoughts please?

So. ..I don't meet for socials and will happily meet at a hotel. Does that make me stupid and/or desperate? ? "

Was just thinking the same thing

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By *orum TrollWoman
over a year ago

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mostly i get offered socials, but the guy is clear he expects sex after the social so it's not really a social imo, more he's offering a safe public place to meet with the expectation that we will have sex after.

a lot of men use the excuse that a social is dating, like people are after a relationship with them. it's some cop out excuse really for them having to treat you as something more than a service.

i've had a good amount of socials with sex after, and one date off here. i was clear i was after dating with that guy only coz that's what i was looking for. so men, no we don't wanna date you unless we say so. a social is not dating, it's putting some effort in to woo a lady so she might enjoy sex with you at some point. seduction is lost on most men i feel.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

maybe stress that social meet first on your profile rather than the type orange if youve read - i know which people would take more seriously

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By *hubaysiWoman
over a year ago

Leeds


"mostly i get offered socials, but the guy is clear he expects sex after the social so it's not really a social imo, more he's offering a safe public place to meet with the expectation that we will have sex after.

a lot of men use the excuse that a social is dating, like people are after a relationship with them. it's some cop out excuse really for them having to treat you as something more than a service.

i've had a good amount of socials with sex after, and one date off here. i was clear i was after dating with that guy only coz that's what i was looking for. so men, no we don't wanna date you unless we say so. a social is not dating, it's putting some effort in to woo a lady so she might enjoy sex with you at some point. seduction is lost on most men i feel."

The guy 'expects sex' you say? How can a man 'expect' sex straight up like that? It's not his decision!!!!!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

No social only meets for us, bores us, if you meet and don't want to rip off each other clothes on that meet, you won't in a weeks time when you've analysed all there faults etc, social with a view to play is perfect i.e. A nice evening in the company of other people, drinks, food, chatting & flirting followed by some naughty play, perfect.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Is it just me or have others find that when you suggest this some guys just disappear! I NEVER meet up at a house or a hotel! Are you guys bonkers?!! I'm not stupid! Or desperate! Thoughts please?

So. ..I don't meet for socials and will happily meet at a hotel. Does that make me stupid and/or desperate? ? "

No it just makes you confident, upfront and doing what you want, which is to play xx

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By *orum TrollWoman
over a year ago

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"mostly i get offered socials, but the guy is clear he expects sex after the social so it's not really a social imo, more he's offering a safe public place to meet with the expectation that we will have sex after.

a lot of men use the excuse that a social is dating, like people are after a relationship with them. it's some cop out excuse really for them having to treat you as something more than a service.

i've had a good amount of socials with sex after, and one date off here. i was clear i was after dating with that guy only coz that's what i was looking for. so men, no we don't wanna date you unless we say so. a social is not dating, it's putting some effort in to woo a lady so she might enjoy sex with you at some point. seduction is lost on most men i feel.

The guy 'expects sex' you say? How can a man 'expect' sex straight up like that? It's not his decision!!!!! "

well gotta admit i only talked to guys i want sex with but they think a social is something more than meeting socially, they think it's a precursor to sex only.

they give it away easy enough when they start going on about sex once the social is arranged.

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By *lan157Man
over a year ago

a village near Haywards Heath in East Sussex

Social meets are a good way of establishing a connection if that's important to you . It's not important to many which is fine - they do it their way. However it's important to me .

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Each to their own some like a social first and some like to play I'm happy to do both

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

You can have a social connection and no connection sexually so why over analyse? We prefer to chat, flirt then play without over analysing, then if we click sexually, great then we can socialise more and play again x

Seems like many have to jump through hoops by keeping the attention of someone on here for ages whilst trying to arrange a meet, then attending the interview, sorry I mean social, then awaiting to see if they've got the gig, then if they are lucky getting to play.......

Oh and what about if you don't click sexually? Tedious and a total waste of time

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By *hubaysiWoman
over a year ago

Leeds


"You can have a social connection and no connection sexually so why over analyse? We prefer to chat, flirt then play without over analysing, then if we click sexually, great then we can socialise more and play again x

Seems like many have to jump through hoops by keeping the attention of someone on here for ages whilst trying to arrange a meet, then attending the interview, sorry I mean social, then awaiting to see if they've got the gig, then if they are lucky getting to play.......

Oh and what about if you don't click sexually? Tedious and a total waste of time "

We all have our opinions on socials, I personally think they are important but others don't. It's up to the individuals.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"You can have a social connection and no connection sexually so why over analyse? We prefer to chat, flirt then play without over analysing, then if we click sexually, great then we can socialise more and play again x

Seems like many have to jump through hoops by keeping the attention of attending the interview, sorry I mean social, then awaiting to see if they've got the gig, then if they are lucky getting to play.......

Oh and what about if you don't click sexually? Tedious and a total waste of time

We all have our opinions on socials, I personally think they are important but others don't. It's up to the individuals. "
wow this is all boring

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"mostly i get offered socials, but the guy is clear he expects sex after the social so it's not really a social imo, more he's offering a safe public place to meet with the expectation that we will have sex after.

a lot of men use the excuse that a social is dating, like people are after a relationship with them. it's some cop out excuse really for them having to treat you as something more than a service.

i've had a good amount of socials with sex after, and one date off here. i was clear i was after dating with that guy only coz that's what i was looking for. so men, no we don't wanna date you unless we say so. a social is not dating, it's putting some effort in to woo a lady so she might enjoy sex with you at some point. seduction is lost on most men i feel."

Once again, you hit the nail on the head! Are you coming to the Manchester social?

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By *orum TrollWoman
over a year ago

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"mostly i get offered socials, but the guy is clear he expects sex after the social so it's not really a social imo, more he's offering a safe public place to meet with the expectation that we will have sex after.

a lot of men use the excuse that a social is dating, like people are after a relationship with them. it's some cop out excuse really for them having to treat you as something more than a service.

i've had a good amount of socials with sex after, and one date off here. i was clear i was after dating with that guy only coz that's what i was looking for. so men, no we don't wanna date you unless we say so. a social is not dating, it's putting some effort in to woo a lady so she might enjoy sex with you at some point. seduction is lost on most men i feel.

Once again, you hit the nail on the head! Are you coming to the Manchester social?"

when is it? me and a friend were discussing going but i thought i'd missed it already.

also depends where it is and if i can get to the location coz i'm reliant on public transport.

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By *Devil77Man
over a year ago

West Midlands

Love a good social.

It's great to sit and chat and see if you click.

I've done 2 or 3 with the same person just because it's nice to sit and chat.

Always happy to do a social and I'm going for 2nd this week hopefully friday

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"mostly i get offered socials, but the guy is clear he expects sex after the social so it's not really a social imo, more he's offering a safe public place to meet with the expectation that we will have sex after.

a lot of men use the excuse that a social is dating, like people are after a relationship with them. it's some cop out excuse really for them having to treat you as something more than a service.

i've had a good amount of socials with sex after, and one date off here. i was clear i was after dating with that guy only coz that's what i was looking for. so men, no we don't wanna date you unless we say so. a social is not dating, it's putting some effort in to woo a lady so she might enjoy sex with you at some point. seduction is lost on most men i feel.

Once again, you hit the nail on the head! Are you coming to the Manchester social?

when is it? me and a friend were discussing going but i thought i'd missed it already.

also depends where it is and if i can get to the location coz i'm reliant on public transport."

Sat July 15th near Castlefield, from 2-6pm

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By *orum TrollWoman
over a year ago

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"mostly i get offered socials, but the guy is clear he expects sex after the social so it's not really a social imo, more he's offering a safe public place to meet with the expectation that we will have sex after.

a lot of men use the excuse that a social is dating, like people are after a relationship with them. it's some cop out excuse really for them having to treat you as something more than a service.

i've had a good amount of socials with sex after, and one date off here. i was clear i was after dating with that guy only coz that's what i was looking for. so men, no we don't wanna date you unless we say so. a social is not dating, it's putting some effort in to woo a lady so she might enjoy sex with you at some point. seduction is lost on most men i feel.

Once again, you hit the nail on the head! Are you coming to the Manchester social?

when is it? me and a friend were discussing going but i thought i'd missed it already.

also depends where it is and if i can get to the location coz i'm reliant on public transport.

Sat July 15th near Castlefield, from 2-6pm"

thanks. only an hour away, i'll see what i can do and post in the next topic about it.

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By *ames1763Man
over a year ago

Aberdeen


"mostly i get offered socials, but the guy is clear he expects sex after the social so it's not really a social imo, more he's offering a safe public place to meet with the expectation that we will have sex after.

a lot of men use the excuse that a social is dating, like people are after a relationship with them. it's some cop out excuse really for them having to treat you as something more than a service.

i've had a good amount of socials with sex after, and one date off here. i was clear i was after dating with that guy only coz that's what i was looking for. so men, no we don't wanna date you unless we say so. a social is not dating, it's putting some effort in to woo a lady so she might enjoy sex with you at some point. seduction is lost on most men i feel.

Once again, you hit the nail on the head! Are you coming to the Manchester social?

when is it? me and a friend were discussing going but i thought i'd missed it already.

also depends where it is and if i can get to the location coz i'm reliant on public transport.

Sat July 15th near Castlefield, from 2-6pm"

Mrs R, will you like to meet x

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By *ames1763Man
over a year ago

Aberdeen

Now back to the question, I think it's better to have the social meets at the clubs so there is no need for hoops, if you like each other fine if not fine.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"You can have a social connection and no connection sexually so why over analyse? We prefer to chat, flirt then play without over analysing, then if we click sexually, great then we can socialise more and play again x

Seems like many have to jump through hoops by keeping the attention of someone on here for ages whilst trying to arrange a meet, then attending the interview, sorry I mean social, then awaiting to see if they've got the gig, then if they are lucky getting to play.......

Oh and what about if you don't click sexually? Tedious and a total waste of time "

My kinda couple, straight to it no back and forth messing about! Lets swing!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Is it just me or have others find that when you suggest this some guys just disappear! I NEVER meet up at a house or a hotel! Are you guys bonkers?!! I'm not stupid! Or desperate! Thoughts please?"

You realise you're no safer meeting anywhere else.

People can act or they can simply "no show" then follow you home.

Personally I'd not bother with a purely social meet.

But that doesn't mean can't do social things with the plan to move on to other things.

Dinner, drinks, clubbing, cooking dinner, cinema, zoo, a good walk etc

Are all things I've done on non social meets. The thought of sitting in a coffee shop being interviewed for review at a later date just seems so tediously awkward

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By *eek12Man
over a year ago

lakenheath

Meeting new people is excellent, if nothing else you can hear about their life and experiences. Cheaper than a movie and easier to look at

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Meeting new people is excellent, if nothing else you can hear about their life and experiences. Cheaper than a movie and easier to look at "

Yeah but I'd rather do it in bed.

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By *eek12Man
over a year ago

lakenheath


"Meeting new people is excellent, if nothing else you can hear about their life and experiences. Cheaper than a movie and easier to look at

Yeah but I'd rather do it in bed."

The end game can be much sweeter if a little work is put into it. Everybody wants hand outs these days....

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

lets not knock anyone for how they want to meet ?? each to their own after all we are all adults and agree nothing is ever 100% safe socials or not private or public ....

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Meeting new people is excellent, if nothing else you can hear about their life and experiences. Cheaper than a movie and easier to look at

Yeah but I'd rather do it in bed.

The end game can be much sweeter if a little work is put into it. Everybody wants hand outs these days...."

It's not the sex it's just Starbucks chairs suck :p

In bed, something decent on in the background and some ice cream/treats to hand = best situation to get to know somone.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I prefer a social first and to get to know someone first and to see if we get along. I'm shy initially and would prefer a social to "break the ice" as it were

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