FabSwingers.com forum: Guys assuming!

By *reshcpl OP Couple
over a year ago

pembs

Read a lot of things about guys thinking they don't get a decent run on here but we are getting fed up of the way the majority go about things.

We like to meet guys as a couple and trying to find ones that click for Mrs fresh to meet alone, but two messages in we get 'when can I fuck you then?' Then Mr can put a status up but it can only be the Mrs to 95% of people on here.

Guys are really talking themselves out of any meet, and starting to just block as it's become so boring.

Guys give it some effort please!

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By *inaryGuyMan
over a year ago

Near the River

"Read a lot of things about guys thinking they don't get a decent run on here but we are getting fed up of the way the majority go about things.

Guys are really talking themselves out of any meet, and starting to just block as it's become so boring.

Guys give it some effort please! "

That's really crap, etiquette and good manners still matter. Next time say yes....as long as you fuck him with your 12in strap-on!

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By *anKevCouple
over a year ago

Tunbridge wells

The ones that make us laugh and then delete and block are the messages we get of about 5 words long with about 10 dick pics attached.

Does that really work I mean come on a little effort goes a long way.

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By *reshcpl OP Couple
over a year ago

pembs

"Read a lot of things about guys thinking they don't get a decent run on here but we are getting fed up of the way the majority go about things.

Guys are really talking themselves out of any meet, and starting to just block as it's become so boring.

Guys give it some effort please!

That's really crap, etiquette and good manners still matter. Next time say yes....as long as you fuck him with your 12in strap-on!

Haha yea I do say things like that. Some take it ok but others get really funny. Just leads to more blocking.

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By *reshcpl OP Couple
over a year ago

pembs

"The ones that make us laugh and then delete and block are the messages we get of about 5 words long with about 10 dick pics attached.

Does that really work I mean come on a little effort goes a long way. "

Yea snap, their the ones who've been on for years with no meets!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

here we go...cue all the men saying 'there is always someone spoiling it for us genuine ones'

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By *reshcpl OP Couple
over a year ago

pembs

"here we go...cue all the men saying 'there is always someone spoiling it for us genuine ones'

Yea maybe they need to sort them out!

(But hole road

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By *anKevCouple
over a year ago

Tunbridge wells

"The ones that make us laugh and then delete and block are the messages we get of about 5 words long with about 10 dick pics attached.

Does that really work I mean come on a little effort goes a long way.

Yea snap, their the ones who've been on for years with no meets! "

And they wonder why and are always the first to moan about how unfair it is

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By *inaryGuyMan
over a year ago

Near the River

"here we go...cue all the men saying 'there is always someone spoiling it for us genuine ones'

Read my mind....ok I won't say it...but it's true

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By *anKevCouple
over a year ago

Tunbridge wells

"here we go...cue all the men saying 'there is always someone spoiling it for us genuine ones'

Read my mind....ok I won't say it...but it's true

If you are truly a genuine one then surely you will post a message saying a bit about you point out things that they may like about you and maybe even attach some body pics clothed or not and maybe a face pic and then if they are actively seeking men they may reply.

So how exactly is that spoiling it for you?

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By *emini ManMan
over a year ago

There and to the left a bit

Unfortunately there's no way to stop it OP other than what you're doing - the nature of the site will always attract those that think it's as simple as sign up and start shagging!!

As a bi male who is open to meeting single guys, I get it too, generally any single guy I chat to I can guarantee within two or three messages the sex chat will start and they'll want to meet before the end of the week if not sooner, which is just not for me - regardless of the gender I'don't rather get to know someone a little and build a connection before even considering meeting.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Read a lot of things about guys thinking they don't get a decent run on here but we are getting fed up of the way the majority go about things.

Guys are really talking themselves out of any meet, and starting to just block as it's become so boring.

Guys give it some effort please! "

Do you ever send the first message??

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"here we go...cue all the men saying 'there is always someone spoiling it for us genuine ones'

Read my mind....ok I won't say it...but it's true

Completely and utterly disagree.

The good ones stand out more if anything.

This is just some lame excuse guys give when they can't see any other reason why women wouldn't meet them so then lay the blame on someone else.

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By *xploringThisWorldMan
over a year ago

collier row

"here we go...cue all the men saying 'there is always someone spoiling it for us genuine ones'

Read my mind....ok I won't say it...but it's true

Completely and utterly disagree.

The good ones stand out more if anything.

This is just some lame excuse guys give when they can't see any other reason why women wouldn't meet them so then lay the blame on someone else."

Even us bi guys get the same crap from single men.

Short messages from short profiles with just a few cock pics. . Messages like "come blow me now"

Lame.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

The vast majority of fab folk is indeed men. This skews the view somewhat. In my experience there are also pushy ladies and couples that are just as impatient. Some do not even wait until the second message. There are many on here across the genders with a deep seated self entitled attitude.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

It's hard to explain...think they can only go by pictures and location...for every decent one messaging us 10 havent read the profile, coupled with often crude and course messages it's not surprising we block so many....we also get a few from couples although these are often more polite in nature.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I have a very high bar so 95% of the offers i get i turn down down.

Seems some people would rather go with anyone rather then no one on here.

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By *ommando4Man
over a year ago

South Co. Dublin

I assume therefore I am

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By *entileschiWoman
over a year ago

Norwich

It's the I'm in town for a week and bored - fancy a fuck - messages that piss me off.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

There are some good ones on here you just have to accept the bollocks and wait for a good guy to message, they don't put us off because it makes the good ones stand out

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By *ewrocksWoman
over a year ago

button moon

"I have a very high bar so 95% of the offers i get i turn down down.

Seems some people would rather go with anyone rather then no one on here. "

Not like most squaddies then

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"here we go...cue all the men saying 'there is always someone spoiling it for us genuine ones'

Read my mind....ok I won't say it...but it's true

Completely and utterly disagree.

The good ones stand out more if anything.

This is just some lame excuse guys give when they can't see any other reason why women wouldn't meet them so then lay the blame on someone else."

Exactly, the knob heads actually make it easier for rest of us in many ways. I'm glad so many guys haven't got a clue

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Problem women have is they have soooo many messages of guys with dick pics and as you all say'fancy a fuck love' as a message that i probably imagine decent fellas who do take the time to write get deleted anyway due to the shear amount to look through!!! Might be wrong!??????????

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By *he-Dirty-DuoMan
over a year ago

Boston

What annoys me is guys who's first message to us is directed straight at the wife and asking her to meet alone, sure fire way of getting blocked as they clearly haven't read our profile.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Not just guys, women too. I'd say that 95% of women that I've spoken to are just as pushy...

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By *lacksausageMan
over a year ago

Birmingham Airport

Why don't you go after the guys you want? Do that and then you don't have to moan on here all the time.

I'm tired of couples moaning about single guys all the time.

Fact: most single guys want to fuck the wife and the wife only. They have to be nice to the guys as well because it is nice and good manners but we all know what the game plan is.

Nobody is here to make friends. Friendship develops over time. The prime aim on here is to SWING. Originally, swinging was for COUPLES. You fuck my wife, I fuck yours. For others, it's you fuck me, I fuck you.

With the influx of swingle guys who don't " have a clue" it's now I fuck your wife, and bye bye. Let's face it, not a lot of guys in MF cpls like that.

It is what it is. If u like the look of something, go for it.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Not just guys, women too. I'd say that 95% of women that I've spoken to are just as pushy..."

FAF?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Not just guys, women too. I'd say that 95% of women that I've spoken to are just as pushy...

FAF?

You didn't attach 12 cock pictures. Shame.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

We get loads too! so annoying, no I don't want you to show me how you can fill my bitch up with cum, no she's not a slut whore, no mate it's a swinging site ffs

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By *oiluvfunMan
over a year ago

Penrith

"Read a lot of things about guys thinking they don't get a decent run on here but we are getting fed up of the way the majority go about things.

Guys are really talking themselves out of any meet, and starting to just block as it's become so boring.

Guys give it some effort please!

Do you ever send the first message??"

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By *oiluvfunMan
over a year ago

Penrith

"Why don't you go after the guys you want? Do that and then you don't have to moan on here all the time.

I'm tired of couples moaning about single guys all the time.

Fact: most single guys want to fuck the wife and the wife only. They have to be nice to the guys as well because it is nice and good manners but we all know what the game plan is.

With the influx of swingle guys who don't " have a clue" it's now I fuck your wife, and bye bye. Let's face it, not a lot of guys in MF cpls like that.

It is what it is. If u like the look of something, go for it."

And let's not forget, not every guy invited to join a couple relishes the thought of being objectified as 'tonight's cock'

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Not just guys, women too. I'd say that 95% of women that I've spoken to are just as pushy...

FAF?

You didn't attach 12 cock pictures. Shame. "

I don't have 12 cocks

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By *rnortholtMan
over a year ago

Waveney Valley

"It's the I'm in town for a week and bored - fancy a fuck - messages that piss me off."

But I caught the X22 in so wont be here for a week...more like an afternoon?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Not just guys, women too. I'd say that 95% of women that I've spoken to are just as pushy...

????

This is funny.. as a man I can say with conviction this won't be true! as much as pains me to admit!

FAF?

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By *wistedTooCouple
over a year ago

Frimley

We blocked guys I’m afraid for the simple fact that 99% of them were just about wanting to meet and cock pics attached. Honestly single guys, your cock looks like almost every other one on this site and brings literally zero excitement to a message!

So yeah we had to block in the end

Sammi (and Dave)

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By *hocolate007Man
over a year ago

london

"It's the I'm in town for a week and bored - fancy a fuck - messages that piss me off."

il buy the lighter you buy the cigarettes and beers. I must say i only drink 20 cans or more, anything below 20 cans of beer and il fart the whole house down. My fart smells good. Call me soon

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Assumption is the mother of all fuckups, i try to address couples as a couple and only when i know which of the couple im talking to do i address them as such

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By *loswingersCouple
over a year ago

Gloucester

"I have a very high bar so 95% of the offers i get i turn down down.

Seems some people would rather go with anyone rather then no one on here. "

That's cool , and you have every right to be choosy . Why wouldn't you ?

But here's the thing . Every time you suggest that most people will go with anyone , and they have no standards , you are effectively saying there are a lot of people on here who shouldn't get a shag .

So my question is this - what is your criteria when determining those undeserving of a meet for sex on here ?

Is it their size , their looks , their age , how many meets they have had ...... or something else ?

Whatever it may be , it should be said that these would be your reasons , and yours alone . Others may find these undesirables equally as tempting as the 5% you deem worthy of your attention .

It's so rude ,disrespectful , and completely unecessary to keep saying that others will shag anything and should keep their bar raised as you do .

Think about it for a moment , would you like someone saying you should do something because that's what they do ? Especially if their suggestion was demeaning to others ?

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By *hocolate007Man
over a year ago

london

"I have a very high bar so 95% of the offers i get i turn down down.

Seems some people would rather go with anyone rather then no one on here. "

Well, from your profile it makes sense why you havent and probably wont have any meets seeing after 6 weeks of you joining fab you turn down 95 percent of your potential meets.

Get real man

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By *ames1763Man
over a year ago

Aberdeen

Take it easy on the guys, the hammering on the guys is just too much, at the end of the day what else do the ladies want the guys to do? The guys don't ever seem to do anything right , if it was so bad, why didn't all the ladies stay in vanilla? Some ladies cannot swing , don't blame the guys for that.

If you cannot swing you cannot swing, don't blame the guys for that. In a party once, I asked a lady who rejected a very handsome guy, what was wrong with that guy, she said nothing, I just felt like rejecting him. I said to her, if that guy is not good enough then I don't think any guy stands a chance.

Don't blame the guys for not being able to swing, the lifestyle might not be for you.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Read a lot of things about guys thinking they don't get a decent run on here but we are getting fed up of the way the majority go about things.

Guys are really talking themselves out of any meet, and starting to just block as it's become so boring.

Guys give it some effort please! "

So you're saying people are meant to guess the gender from "... Bored"?

Perhaps sign things with Mr or Mrs if you're finding confusion

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Op every single picture on your profile is the female not rhe male.

People will assume she is the one who runs the profile not the mystery man.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

See a lot of people moaning about single guys and lack of effort.

We surely can't be the only ones that have found it's more couples and women that put minimal effort into messages. Most messages we get off guys are actually really good.

In our experience it's single women who come across worst in messages and expect us to jump through hoops just because they're women and we should feel privileged they messaged us.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

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By *ames1763Man
over a year ago

Aberdeen

[Removed by poster at 28/06/17 01:49:59]

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"See a lot of people moaning about single guys and lack of effort.

We surely can't be the only ones that have found it's more couples and women that put minimal effort into messages. Most messages we get off guys are actually really good.

In our experience it's single women who come across worst in messages and expect us to jump through hoops just because they're women and we should feel privileged they messaged us. "

Bet you cant keep up with the messages with a profile like yours

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"[Removed by poster at 28/06/17 01:43:33]"

You just called me babe didn't you

Don't worry mate, I'm not here to judge you

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Lol

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Ouch not even from Liverpool so can't blame it on that

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By *ames1763Man
over a year ago

Aberdeen

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You just called me babe didn't you

Don't worry mate, I'm not here to judge you

Sorry that's why I removed it lol

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By *reshcpl OP Couple
over a year ago

pembs

"Not just guys, women too. I'd say that 95% of women that I've spoken to are just as pushy..."

Yes found this aswel, lots of women and women in couples are only on to explore their bi side. Therefore completely write off the male, and only want to know the female. This also leads to blocking.

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By *reshcpl OP Couple
over a year ago

pembs

"Read a lot of things about guys thinking they don't get a decent run on here but we are getting fed up of the way the majority go about things.

Guys are really talking themselves out of any meet, and starting to just block as it's become so boring.

Guys give it some effort please!

So you're saying people are meant to guess the gender from "... Bored"?

Perhaps sign things with Mr or Mrs if you're finding confusion "

Didn't say that anyone should guess any gender from our status! Also not 'finding any confusion'?

Point is what we've already said, we chat and meet some great guys and this is something we do really enjoy. Just a shame that we need to go through so many idiots to get there! I'd take it more as something to work on than fight against!

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By *ex-a-frolicsCouple
over a year ago

Brizzle

We get a lot of pointless messages & winks from people who clearly haven't read our profile, smokers bi men, people who use text speak the list goes on, that's without inviting single men to the table. We block single males, now that's not tarrring them all with the same brush but we're not looking for them at present. If that changes we are quite happy to do the searching ourselves, the first guys to get a look in would be the ones that Fab our photos.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

In balance, OP, I've hand similar treatment from couples. Explicit messages after the third mail, making demands etc. Or just wanting everything on their terms.

I don't let it worry me - once they set my spider-sense tingling I just politely say thanks but we are not suited.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Read a lot of things about guys thinking they don't get a decent run on here but we are getting fed up of the way the majority go about things.

Guys are really talking themselves out of any meet, and starting to just block as it's become so boring.

Guys give it some effort please!

So you're saying people are meant to guess the gender from "... Bored"?

Perhaps sign things with Mr or Mrs if you're finding confusion

Didn't say that anyone should guess any gender from our status! Also not 'finding any confusion'?

You said

" Then Mr can put a status up but it can only be the Mrs to 95% of people on here."

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By *lacksausageMan
over a year ago

Birmingham Airport

Keep meeting those great guys and leave the not so great ones.

Enough of the single guys this and that. A single guy has to be vetted by both of you in a couple etc. You think that is easy? You think it is easy for a single guy to walk into the house of a "strange" couple and perform without any inhibitions?

A single guy attending a party has to be vetted by the host and some other people etc.

Give single guys a b r e a k!! . Life has always been like this. Go stand in town and look at girls between 13 and 20. This is my own study! While the girls " may look sophisticated and 20 plus", just take another look at the boys they a mucking about with. The " scruffiness" and the general "unrounded" nature of their playmates tells you their real ages; that is NOT OF AGE.

This is my point. Get the guys you think match your taste and level of enlightenment. Leave the rest and all shall REST.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I have a very high bar so 95% of the offers i get i turn down down.

Seems some people would rather go with anyone rather then no one on here.

Well, from your profile it makes sense why you havent and probably wont have any meets seeing after 6 weeks of you joining fab you turn down 95 percent of your potential meets.

Get real man

FYI seeing you obviously don't know how to view a profile i have met 3 beautiful classy women .

Oh and indoors not down the local park.

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By *he-Dirty-DuoMan
over a year ago

Boston

"What annoys me is guys who's first message to us is directed straight at the wife and asking her to meet alone, sure fire way of getting blocked as they clearly haven't read our profile."

Don't get me wrong we do talk regularly to single guys but to the ones who actually think about who they're talking to.

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By *he-Dirty-DuoMan
over a year ago

Boston

"We get loads too! so annoying, no I don't want you to show me how you can fill my bitch up with cum, no she's not a slut whore, no mate it's a swinging site ffs"

Sounds so familiar

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

All good points and fair comments, but it also works the other way. We've had a couple of women contact us recently who have added us as friends after ongoing conversation, then have just gone silent and stopped communicating. Whilst being in complete agreement that some men have no social graces it's also true to say that there are females giving the girls a bad name. Do wonder if it's due to the imbalance of the site and SOME women thinking the fact that the percentages are in their favour males it's acceptable to be rude and offhand? Any thoughts from the ladies?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I must just be the exception I just treat people with respect I isually ask for a social first just to make sure we all get on lol

And I have to say it's worked pretty well for me

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By *reshcpl OP Couple
over a year ago

pembs

"Keep meeting those great guys and leave the not so great ones.

A single guy attending a party has to be vetted by the host and some other people etc.

This is my point. Get the guys you think match your taste and level of enlightenment. Leave the rest and all shall REST. "

Sorry you lost me lol

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By *reshcpl OP Couple
over a year ago

pembs

"I must just be the exception I just treat people with respect I isually ask for a social first just to make sure we all get on lol

And I have to say it's worked pretty well for me"

Fair play, that the way to go about it. Well for us anyway! Keep up the good work...

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By *reshcpl OP Couple
over a year ago

pembs

"Read a lot of things about guys thinking they don't get a decent run on here but we are getting fed up of the way the majority go about things.

Guys are really talking themselves out of any meet, and starting to just block as it's become so boring.

Guys give it some effort please!

So you're saying people are meant to guess the gender from "... Bored"?

Perhaps sign things with Mr or Mrs if you're finding confusion

Didn't say that anyone should guess any gender from our status! Also not 'finding any confusion'?

You said

" Then Mr can put a status up but it can only be the Mrs to 95% of people on here.""

So was that me saying people should guess? The point of the subject is don't assume!

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By *ackDMissMorganCouple
over a year ago

Halifax

"Not just guys, women too. I'd say that 95% of women that I've spoken to are just as pushy...

Yes found this aswel, lots of women and women in couples are only on to explore their bi side. Therefore completely write off the male, and only want to know the female. This also leads to blocking."

I would maybe say you should have some pics of mr on your profile,as not much to interest any straight women.

Miss

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I must just be the exception I just treat people with respect I isually ask for a social first just to make sure we all get on lol

And I have to say it's worked pretty well for me"

Totally the way forward! As a male i (Mark) completely agree. A big part of things is to ensure a lady feels safe, comfortable and entertained just being in your company.

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By *reshcpl OP Couple
over a year ago

pembs

"Not just guys, women too. I'd say that 95% of women that I've spoken to are just as pushy...

Yes found this aswel, lots of women and women in couples are only on to explore their bi side. Therefore completely write off the male, and only want to know the female. This also leads to blocking.

I would maybe say you should have some pics of mr on your profile,as not much to interest any straight women.

Miss"

Thanks, will try and sort this out, there a few but they maybe in private will open them up.

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