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Politeness, what's the point?

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By *sGivesWood OP   Woman
over a year ago

ST. AUSTELL, CORNWALL

I'm actually now at the point where I've decided to find my own meets, everyone apart from single females are blocked from messaging and profile is hidden for a while, it's a shame I've been made to feel I have to take these steps as I've always had a lot of fun on here. However, it does seem to be getting a lot worse if late. Any ideas as to why?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

There is no point really. To many stuck up people on this site

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By *opsy RogersWoman
over a year ago

London


"There is no point really. To many stuck up people on this site"

What does that actually mean?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Everyone is in charge of their perception - no one can tell you how to feel x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"There is no point really. To many stuck up people on this site"
I agree

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By *sGivesWood OP   Woman
over a year ago

ST. AUSTELL, CORNWALL


"There is no point really. To many stuck up people on this site"

I've never been stuck up and always replied to messages even if it's no thanks but people on here lately aren't being nice back

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By *sGivesWood OP   Woman
over a year ago

ST. AUSTELL, CORNWALL


"There is no point really. To many stuck up people on this site I agree "

I think stuck up is perhaps not the right phrase

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"There is no point really. To many stuck up people on this site

What does that actually mean?"

It means what it's says. To many people on here Think There gods gift an all that bollocks

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By *roud_RedheadWoman
over a year ago

Reedham


"There is no point really. To many stuck up people on this site

What does that actually mean?

It means what it's says. To many people on here Think There gods gift an all that bollocks"

Absolutely agree.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"There is no point really. To many stuck up people on this site

What does that actually mean?

It means what it's says. To many people on here Think There gods gift an all that bollocks

Absolutely agree. "

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By *orum TrollWoman
over a year ago

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i've had men blocked for most of the past year now.

quite a lot are polite when i open my filters but even then i just think they only wanna accessmy vagina anyway and probably want sucking off but won't give ma any oral so i'm meh about polite guys also.

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By *orum TrollWoman
over a year ago

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can't even type properly,that is how meh i am about polite guys.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I've been very lucky and the majority of people who I have spoken to by private message have been lovely and polite.

I've even had an apology off someone once for their rather crude first message.

I don't think not wanting to meet someone makes them stuck up and having that attitude makes me think you see women here as just unpaid prostitutes who should have sex with anyone.

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By *eek12Man
over a year ago

lakenheath

It's frustrating but understood by those of us who actually are nice and will do what it takes to make a woman feel cherished and exhausted when all is done.

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By *ilthyDebaucheryWoman
over a year ago

Oswestry


"I'm actually now at the point where I've decided to find my own meets, everyone apart from single females are blocked from messaging and profile is hidden for a while, it's a shame I've been made to feel I have to take these steps as I've always had a lot of fun on here. However, it does seem to be getting a lot worse if late. Any ideas as to why? "

Yes I've blocked everyone from messaging me mere months after joining the site so only people I message can message me The site is being diluted by people who just don't get swinging either here to collect pics, waste peoples' time, after one night stands (imho)

Only allowed couples to message me now cause I'm looking for couples swaps and still I get numerous messages about 3sums despite my profile clearly stating in CAPS not interested in 3sums

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"There is no point really. To many stuck up people on this site

What does that actually mean?

It means what it's says. To many people on here Think There gods gift an all that bollocks"

or maybe they just aint interested in you

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I'm actually now at the point where I've decided to find my own meets, everyone apart from single females are blocked from messaging and profile is hidden for a while, it's a shame I've been made to feel I have to take these steps as I've always had a lot of fun on here. However, it does seem to be getting a lot worse if late. Any ideas as to why?

Yes I've blocked everyone from messaging me mere months after joining the site so only people I message can message me The site is being diluted by people who just don't get swinging either here to collect pics, waste peoples' time, after one night stands (imho)

Only allowed couples to message me now cause I'm looking for couples swaps and still I get numerous messages about 3sums despite my profile clearly stating in CAPS not interested in 3sums"

Wouldn't you be better off with a couples profile then?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"There is no point really. To many stuck up people on this site

What does that actually mean?

It means what it's says. To many people on here Think There gods gift an all that bollocks

or maybe they just aint interested in you"
would u ignore someone if they come up to u and asked you a question?

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By *ilthyDebaucheryWoman
over a year ago

Oswestry


"I'm actually now at the point where I've decided to find my own meets, everyone apart from single females are blocked from messaging and profile is hidden for a while, it's a shame I've been made to feel I have to take these steps as I've always had a lot of fun on here. However, it does seem to be getting a lot worse if late. Any ideas as to why?

Yes I've blocked everyone from messaging me mere months after joining the site so only people I message can message me The site is being diluted by people who just don't get swinging either here to collect pics, waste peoples' time, after one night stands (imho)

Only allowed couples to message me now cause I'm looking for couples swaps and still I get numerous messages about 3sums despite my profile clearly stating in CAPS not interested in 3sums

Wouldn't you be better off with a couples profile then?"

Nope then we'd both have pur singles profiles and a couples profile to log into

Besides which it seems to be working well the majority of the time Just a side observation regards people not reading profiles not the main pount I was making

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I'm actually now at the point where I've decided to find my own meets, everyone apart from single females are blocked from messaging and profile is hidden for a while, it's a shame I've been made to feel I have to take these steps as I've always had a lot of fun on here. However, it does seem to be getting a lot worse if late. Any ideas as to why?

Yes I've blocked everyone from messaging me mere months after joining the site so only people I message can message me The site is being diluted by people who just don't get swinging either here to collect pics, waste peoples' time, after one night stands (imho)

Only allowed couples to message me now cause I'm looking for couples swaps and still I get numerous messages about 3sums despite my profile clearly stating in CAPS not interested in 3sums

Wouldn't you be better off with a couples profile then?

Nope then we'd both have pur singles profiles and a couples profile to log into

Besides which it seems to be working well the majority of the time Just a side observation regards people not reading profiles not the main pount I was making"

If you're meeting with someone else then you should have a couples profile on here.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"There is no point really. To many stuck up people on this site"

Can't agree more.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"There is no point really. To many stuck up people on this site

What does that actually mean?

It means what it's says. To many people on here Think There gods gift an all that bollocks

or maybe they just aint interested in youwould u ignore someone if they come up to u and asked you a question?"

no,,but online,,frequently, cos often the question is stupid.

if only I could do that in real life

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By *orum TrollWoman
over a year ago

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"There is no point really. To many stuck up people on this site

What does that actually mean?

It means what it's says. To many people on here Think There gods gift an all that bollocks

or maybe they just aint interested in youwould u ignore someone if they come up to u and asked you a question?"

i ignore people irl if i can't stand them, or just if i don't wanna interact with them.

one time some ugly guy in a van asked me if i was on fab and i said no then ran away from his van. idc.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Everyone is in charge of their perception - no one can tell you how to feel x"

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By *oghunter33Woman
over a year ago

on the hill NordWest of

I not have single lads blocked but I prefer to do the first approach because I know best what I want and what I'm looking for.

As for being polite, I always try to keep a standard and it works well for me.

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By *ames1763Man
over a year ago

Aberdeen

I don't agree, I think the site is actually getting better, "pretty is, what pretty does", you cannot give up on yourself.

Get your hair done, get your nails done and get into that beautiful dress with or without knickers and hit the swingers club , there are amazing guys there waiting to meet you, don't sit behind the computer, people want to meet the person behind the profile.

Don't result to looking for a couple swap, don't accept defeat, only you knows best what you want , so go for it.You cannot accept defeat or be defeated by defeat.

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By *ilthyDebaucheryWoman
over a year ago

Oswestry


"I'm actually now at the point where I've decided to find my own meets, everyone apart from single females are blocked from messaging and profile is hidden for a while, it's a shame I've been made to feel I have to take these steps as I've always had a lot of fun on here. However, it does seem to be getting a lot worse if late. Any ideas as to why?

Yes I've blocked everyone from messaging me mere months after joining the site so only people I message can message me The site is being diluted by people who just don't get swinging either here to collect pics, waste peoples' time, after one night stands (imho)

Only allowed couples to message me now cause I'm looking for couples swaps and still I get numerous messages about 3sums despite my profile clearly stating in CAPS not interested in 3sums

Wouldn't you be better off with a couples profile then?

Nope then we'd both have pur singles profiles and a couples profile to log into

Besides which it seems to be working well the majority of the time Just a side observation regards people not reading profiles not the main pount I was making

If you're meeting with someone else then you should have a couples profile on here."

I think that's up to us! We both have profiles on here so it's not as if he's unknown random guy not on fab

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By *orum TrollWoman
over a year ago

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"I'm actually now at the point where I've decided to find my own meets, everyone apart from single females are blocked from messaging and profile is hidden for a while, it's a shame I've been made to feel I have to take these steps as I've always had a lot of fun on here. However, it does seem to be getting a lot worse if late. Any ideas as to why?

Yes I've blocked everyone from messaging me mere months after joining the site so only people I message can message me The site is being diluted by people who just don't get swinging either here to collect pics, waste peoples' time, after one night stands (imho)

Only allowed couples to message me now cause I'm looking for couples swaps and still I get numerous messages about 3sums despite my profile clearly stating in CAPS not interested in 3sums

Wouldn't you be better off with a couples profile then?

Nope then we'd both have pur singles profiles and a couples profile to log into

Besides which it seems to be working well the majority of the time Just a side observation regards people not reading profiles not the main pount I was making

If you're meeting with someone else then you should have a couples profile on here.

I think that's up to us! We both have profiles on here so it's not as if he's unknown random guy not on fab"

site rules say that. and you can be reported for it and the site mods will change your status.

not sure when you are meeting as a couple or a single though? like if you meet on your own then you are classed as a single, if meeting with another person then you're a couple.just how it is on here and so that people can search for what they want on here without getting pissed off.

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By *ohnnybadman666Man
over a year ago

Warrington


"I'm actually now at the point where I've decided to find my own meets, everyone apart from single females are blocked from messaging and profile is hidden for a while, it's a shame I've been made to feel I have to take these steps as I've always had a lot of fun on here. However, it does seem to be getting a lot worse if late. Any ideas as to why? "

The reason that politeness is in short supply is that most people are just in a rush to tap off a message or reply and not put much effort into it, it's a lack of social awareness but also a signifier in lots of cases that their previous politeness was shoved right back in their faces so when that happens repeatedly then it becomes a vicious circle and civility goes out the window.

Just a theory,

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By *ilthyDebaucheryWoman
over a year ago

Oswestry


"I'm actually now at the point where I've decided to find my own meets, everyone apart from single females are blocked from messaging and profile is hidden for a while, it's a shame I've been made to feel I have to take these steps as I've always had a lot of fun on here. However, it does seem to be getting a lot worse if late. Any ideas as to why?

Yes I've blocked everyone from messaging me mere months after joining the site so only people I message can message me The site is being diluted by people who just don't get swinging either here to collect pics, waste peoples' time, after one night stands (imho)

Only allowed couples to message me now cause I'm looking for couples swaps and still I get numerous messages about 3sums despite my profile clearly stating in CAPS not interested in 3sums

Wouldn't you be better off with a couples profile then?

Nope then we'd both have pur singles profiles and a couples profile to log into

Besides which it seems to be working well the majority of the time Just a side observation regards people not reading profiles not the main pount I was making

If you're meeting with someone else then you should have a couples profile on here.

I think that's up to us! We both have profiles on here so it's not as if he's unknown random guy not on fab

site rules say that. and you can be reported for it and the site mods will change your status.

not sure when you are meeting as a couple or a single though? like if you meet on your own then you are classed as a single, if meeting with another person then you're a couple.just how it is on here and so that people can search for what they want on here without getting pissed off."

Oh ok makes sense but I'd imagine fab should be more concerned about all the men pretending to be women or couples on here

Meeting in clubs is what we do

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"There is no point really. To many stuck up people on this site

What does that actually mean?

It means what it's says. To many people on here Think There gods gift an all that bollocks

or maybe they just aint interested in youwould u ignore someone if they come up to u and asked you a question?"

Possibly, if I thought someone was just after a shag, like most on here.

Putting it to you, do you take the time to reply to all the junk mail you receive through the post and do you click on every marketing banner you see advertised online, just because it's put in front of you?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"There is no point really. To many stuck up people on this site

Can't agree more."

Perhaps define 'stuck up'?

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By *ilthyDebaucheryWoman
over a year ago

Oswestry


"I'm actually now at the point where I've decided to find my own meets, everyone apart from single females are blocked from messaging and profile is hidden for a while, it's a shame I've been made to feel I have to take these steps as I've always had a lot of fun on here. However, it does seem to be getting a lot worse if late. Any ideas as to why?

The reason that politeness is in short supply is that most people are just in a rush to tap off a message or reply and not put much effort into it, it's a lack of social awareness but also a signifier in lots of cases that their previous politeness was shoved right back in their faces so when that happens repeatedly then it becomes a vicious circle and civility goes out the window.

Just a theory,"

Sounds like a perfectly reasonable theory to me but then there's some people who just plain rude from the get go too

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By *avrick15Man
over a year ago

glasgow


"I'm actually now at the point where I've decided to find my own meets, everyone apart from single females are blocked from messaging and profile is hidden for a while, it's a shame I've been made to feel I have to take these steps as I've always had a lot of fun on here. However, it does seem to be getting a lot worse if late. Any ideas as to why?

The reason that politeness is in short supply is that most people are just in a rush to tap off a message or reply and not put much effort into it, it's a lack of social awareness but also a signifier in lots of cases that their previous politeness was shoved right back in their faces so when that happens repeatedly then it becomes a vicious circle and civility goes out the window.

Just a theory,

Sounds like a perfectly reasonable theory to me but then there's some people who just plain rude from the get go too"

Indeed we have just discussed this... being out the fish

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By *avrick15Man
over a year ago

glasgow

Bring*

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

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By *avrick15Man
over a year ago

glasgow


"There are a lot of deluded egotistical people on here but u guess it gives them the attention they don't get in there real life's

But

There's also a few diamonds amongst the lumps of coal.So don't let the idiots ruin the fun for you as I doubt you.Just find the ones that are down to earth and that will make it all worth while."

Indeed this is how I look at fab life

You meet some arseholes but the good folk outweigh the bad more than enough

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

There are a lot of deluded egotistical people on here but I guess it gives them the attention they don't get in there real life's.Like a ago trip.

But

There's also a few diamonds amongst the lumps of coal.So don't let the idiots ruin the fun for you.Just find the ones that are down to earth and that will make it all worth while.

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By *ilthyDebaucheryWoman
over a year ago

Oswestry


"There are a lot of deluded egotistical people on here but u guess it gives them the attention they don't get in there real life's

But

There's also a few diamonds amongst the lumps of coal.So don't let the idiots ruin the fun for you as I doubt you.Just find the ones that are down to earth and that will make it all worth while.

Indeed this is how I look at fab life

You meet some arseholes but the good folk outweigh the bad more than enough "

And that's exactly why we keep coming back to fab

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By *avrick15Man
over a year ago

glasgow


"There are a lot of deluded egotistical people on here but u guess it gives them the attention they don't get in there real life's

But

There's also a few diamonds amongst the lumps of coal.So don't let the idiots ruin the fun for you as I doubt you.Just find the ones that are down to earth and that will make it all worth while.

Indeed this is how I look at fab life

You meet some arseholes but the good folk outweigh the bad more than enough

And that's exactly why we keep coming back to fab "

Ditto now where's my motorbike special bag and riding crop

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By *orum TrollWoman
over a year ago

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"I'm actually now at the point where I've decided to find my own meets, everyone apart from single females are blocked from messaging and profile is hidden for a while, it's a shame I've been made to feel I have to take these steps as I've always had a lot of fun on here. However, it does seem to be getting a lot worse if late. Any ideas as to why?

Yes I've blocked everyone from messaging me mere months after joining the site so only people I message can message me The site is being diluted by people who just don't get swinging either here to collect pics, waste peoples' time, after one night stands (imho)

Only allowed couples to message me now cause I'm looking for couples swaps and still I get numerous messages about 3sums despite my profile clearly stating in CAPS not interested in 3sums

Wouldn't you be better off with a couples profile then?

Nope then we'd both have pur singles profiles and a couples profile to log into

Besides which it seems to be working well the majority of the time Just a side observation regards people not reading profiles not the main pount I was making

If you're meeting with someone else then you should have a couples profile on here.

I think that's up to us! We both have profiles on here so it's not as if he's unknown random guy not on fab

site rules say that. and you can be reported for it and the site mods will change your status.

not sure when you are meeting as a couple or a single though? like if you meet on your own then you are classed as a single, if meeting with another person then you're a couple.just how it is on here and so that people can search for what they want on here without getting pissed off.

Oh ok makes sense but I'd imagine fab should be more concerned about all the men pretending to be women or couples on here

Meeting in clubs is what we do "

yeah i don't mind. think it is just coz people kept complaining about looking for singles or couples and then end up chatting to someone with the wrong status (and felt like they'd wasted their time).

it is confusing though coz off fab your status would be what your relationship is, on here it's not.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

So choosing who you don't want to fuck or not fuck is impolite, stuck up and deluded?

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By *icecouple561Couple
Forum Mod
over a year ago

East Sussex


"I'm actually now at the point where I've decided to find my own meets, everyone apart from single females are blocked from messaging and profile is hidden for a while, it's a shame I've been made to feel I have to take these steps as I've always had a lot of fun on here. However, it does seem to be getting a lot worse if late. Any ideas as to why? "

It seems eminently sensible to me that you would choose your own meets rather than endure what you perceive as rudeness. Women are often advised to do this when they're fed up with receiving messages they don't like.

Taking charge and empowering yourself is never a bad thing.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

The whole premise of the site is to be rude. It says if you don't get an answer its because people are not interested but it's polite to say no thanks . Rudeness rules!!

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By *lkDomWhtSubBiCpleCouple
over a year ago

Somewhere / Everywhere /Kinksville


"There is no point really. To many stuck up people on this site

What does that actually mean?

It means what it's says. To many people on here Think There gods gift an all that bollocks"

I suspect you mean choosy rather than stuck up. Thanks for the wink 3 weeks ago, by the way, but our preference is bi guys 100% and openly bi at that. Does that make us stuck up and that we think we are gods gift. No, it means we want to meet bi guys. Simple really, you increase your chance of success by approaching profiles you match what they are looking for.

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By *lkDomWhtSubBiCpleCouple
over a year ago

Somewhere / Everywhere /Kinksville


"The whole premise of the site is to be rude. It says if you don't get an answer its because people are not interested but it's polite to say no thanks . Rudeness rules!!"

And if you don't have time and get inundated with messages? Every reply you give, you will get another message back. Fab is for enjoyment, not an admin job!! With a few new pics, a status update and a meet today, I can get over 600 messages. You think it's rude not to reply to all of them

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I'm actually now at the point where I've decided to find my own meets, everyone apart from single females are blocked from messaging and profile is hidden for a while, it's a shame I've been made to feel I have to take these steps as I've always had a lot of fun on here. However, it does seem to be getting a lot worse if late. Any ideas as to why?

Yes I've blocked everyone from messaging me mere months after joining the site so only people I message can message me The site is being diluted by people who just don't get swinging either here to collect pics, waste peoples' time, after one night stands (imho)

Only allowed couples to message me now cause I'm looking for couples swaps and still I get numerous messages about 3sums despite my profile clearly stating in CAPS not interested in 3sums"

You should have a couple profile then, not a single x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"The whole premise of the site is to be rude. It says if you don't get an answer its because people are not interested but it's polite to say no thanks . Rudeness rules!!"

If you sent out 100 messages, and got a 100 replies saying 'no thanks', would that make you feel better?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I like being rude

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

There are a lot of men on Fab who bang on about how 'manners cost nothing' and generally have a bee in their bonnet about couples and women not replying. There have been numerous threads explaining the abuse women sometimes get after sending polite rejections, and explaining the sheer unmanageable volume of messages that some get. Surely a truly polite man would put himself in someone else's shoes for a moment and understand what it's like for someone else? All you self proclaimed polite guys, how would you go about this daily admin chore if you were a woman? Btw we do answer most mail, but I would quite like advise from one of the polite guys on as to how we should politely deal with a random message say 'saying how you?'. Obviously if we say 'fine thanks', we'll get another question and before we know it we're sucked into a meaningless conversation we never wanted. Is this something that we should just have to suck up with because 'manners cost nothing'? Does this make us stuck up because we would rather be out there having fun (which we do as often as time allows), and don't really enjoy having to answer emails we never wanted in the first place.

Mrs

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"The whole premise of the site is to be rude. It says if you don't get an answer its because people are not interested but it's polite to say no thanks . Rudeness rules!!

If you sent out 100 messages, and got a 100 replies saying 'no thanks', would that make you feel better? "

It would make me feel that at least I wasn't alone

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"The whole premise of the site is to be rude. It says if you don't get an answer its because people are not interested but it's polite to say no thanks . Rudeness rules!!

If you sent out 100 messages, and got a 100 replies saying 'no thanks', would that make you feel better?

It would make me feel that at least I wasn't alone"

Would you reply to 100 messages a day every day year after year?

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By *layfullsamMan
over a year ago

Solihull

I've had a hundred no thank you's or no replies to polite messages and only a couple have come across as stuck up and tbh I'm pretty convinced these have been guys pretending to be a couple/woman.

If I messaged a supermodel in Scotland who asked for a local guy,5ft tall, 20yo with a 6 pack and small cock I wouldn't expect a reply and if I did I'd understand if she was rude

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By *lkDomWhtSubBiCpleCouple
over a year ago

Somewhere / Everywhere /Kinksville


"The whole premise of the site is to be rude. It says if you don't get an answer its because people are not interested but it's polite to say no thanks . Rudeness rules!!

If you sent out 100 messages, and got a 100 replies saying 'no thanks', would that make you feel better?

It would make me feel that at least I wasn't alone"

Personally, we are on here for sexual gratification and a giggle with similar kindred souls. It would scare the bejesus out of me, if I thought any of our meets were wanting companionship.

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By *ANDA2Couple
over a year ago

Henley Arden


"There is no point really. To many stuck up people on this site

What does that actually mean?

It means what it's says. To many people on here Think There gods gift an all that bollocks

or maybe they just aint interested in youwould u ignore someone if they come up to u and asked you a question?"

It depends on the question and how it's asked doesn't it.

If some came up to us in public and asked

" can I fuck your wife hard and fast?' Or

"You still shaggin ?"

We would just walked away or if we did reply it certainly wouldn't be polite.

If someone asked you if they could dry fuck your arse. What would you say ?

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By *iss_tressWoman
over a year ago

London


"The whole premise of the site is to be rude. It says if you don't get an answer its because people are not interested but it's polite to say no thanks . Rudeness rules!!

If you sent out 100 messages, and got a 100 replies saying 'no thanks', would that make you feel better?

It would make me feel that at least I wasn't alone"

Sorry, can't follow your logic. 100 "no thanks", outright confirmation you're not wanted is better than 100 silences which could be caused by your message being missed, not got round to replying, life priorities etc?

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By *iss_tressWoman
over a year ago

London


"The whole premise of the site is to be rude. It says if you don't get an answer its because people are not interested but it's polite to say no thanks . Rudeness rules!!

If you sent out 100 messages, and got a 100 replies saying 'no thanks', would that make you feel better?

It would make me feel that at least I wasn't alone

Personally, we are on here for sexual gratification and a giggle with similar kindred souls. It would scare the bejesus out of me, if I thought any of our meets were wanting companionship. "

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By *opsy RogersWoman
over a year ago

London


"There is no point really. To many stuck up people on this site

What does that actually mean?

It means what it's says. To many people on here Think There gods gift an all that bollocks"

Do you mean you've not had a meet yet because people don't want to meet you?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"There is no point really. To many stuck up people on this site

What does that actually mean?

It means what it's says. To many people on here Think There gods gift an all that bollocks"

Well according to some religions, I am God gifts....

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By *imetoexplore69Couple
over a year ago

Aberdeen


"There is no point really. To many stuck up people on this site

What does that actually mean?

It means what it's says. To many people on here Think There gods gift an all that bollocks

or maybe they just aint interested in youwould u ignore someone if they come up to u and asked you a question?"
if it was some random with his dick out looking for a fuck that we felt no attraction too then yea we would .

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"There is no point really. To many stuck up people on this site

What does that actually mean?

It means what it's says. To many people on here Think There gods gift an all that bollocks

or maybe they just aint interested in youwould u ignore someone if they come up to u and asked you a question?if it was some random with his dick out looking for a fuck that we felt no attraction too then yea we would ."

Haha and who wouldn't!

I must be the epitome of the 'rude God's gift' person as I either ignore mail or respond with bad manners, when the person clearly hasn't read my profile.

I don't know about God's gifts, but there are lot of self-entitled demanding people on here nowadays...

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By *est Wales WifeCouple
over a year ago

Near Carmarthen


"would u ignore someone if they come up to u and asked you a question?"

Do you reply to every bit of junk mail that comes through your door?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I'm polite and friendly, each out of my messages is basically a customer service email. I still had to report 3 people for abuse yesterday because of the messages I got after nicely telling people no thank you. People are assholes :/.

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By *inaryGuyMan
over a year ago

Near the River

It's sad to see but possibly foreseeable given that guys outnumber gals by a million to 1 and the site is free so is not valued -it's now a free for all and open to abuse

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

The amount of abuse I get, when I reply no thanks!! I'm starting to think about just deleting all of them now

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"The amount of abuse I get, when I reply no thanks!! I'm starting to think about just deleting all of them now "

Ah don't bother, unless you don't value your time. You give an inch and most want a mile. Not worth it.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I'm actually now at the point where I've decided to find my own meets, everyone apart from single females are blocked from messaging and profile is hidden for a while, it's a shame I've been made to feel I have to take these steps as I've always had a lot of fun on here. However, it does seem to be getting a lot worse if late. Any ideas as to why? "

'Find your own meets' how terrible for you that you actually have to search and send messsges

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

us men are not all rude or abusive ,i for one an never......

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I am a happy go lucky kind of man who is always respectful, and very polite, but I'm wondering if I should change my approach. I never get any replies to any message that I send. May be women like the "Treat them mean and keep them keen" approach. Maybe I should be obnoxious and nasty, as being nice, pleasant and homourous is getting me nowhere atm

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I am a happy go lucky kind of man who is always respectful, and very polite, but I'm wondering if I should change my approach. I never get any replies to any message that I send. May be women like the "Treat them mean and keep them keen" approach. Maybe I should be obnoxious and nasty, as being nice, pleasant and homourous is getting me nowhere atm"

It depends on who you are messaging, avoid the Ranty type profiles with lists and demands, they are usual written by deluded overweight munters who have no intention of meeting anyone .

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"The amount of abuse I get, when I reply no thanks!! I'm starting to think about just deleting all of them now

Ah don't bother, unless you don't value your time. You give an inch and most want a mile. Not worth it.

How would you know?? "

I'd hazard a guess at 'experience'.

I also avoid those people who go round the forums trolling the threads and generally disrespecting women.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I am a happy go lucky kind of man who is always respectful, and very polite, but I'm wondering if I should change my approach. I never get any replies to any message that I send. May be women like the "Treat them mean and keep them keen" approach. Maybe I should be obnoxious and nasty, as being nice, pleasant and homourous is getting me nowhere atm"

Not one woman on here will respond to an obnoxious nasty twat.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I am a happy go lucky kind of man who is always respectful, and very polite, but I'm wondering if I should change my approach. I never get any replies to any message that I send. May be women like the "Treat them mean and keep them keen" approach. Maybe I should be obnoxious and nasty, as being nice, pleasant and homourous is getting me nowhere atm"

We reply to messages if the sender seems well mannered. Rightly or wrongly we take the view that if the first image we see of that man (or even worse the only image) is his cock, then that man probably not a well-mannered man. The reason for this thinking is that only an extremely obnoxious nasty man would slap his cock on the table when chatting a woman up in a bar. But of course internet etiquette is different.

Mrs

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By *lanemikeMan
over a year ago

Bolton

I always endeavour to be polite, just the way I am...

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I am a happy go lucky kind of man who is always respectful, and very polite, but I'm wondering if I should change my approach. I never get any replies to any message that I send. May be women like the "Treat them mean and keep them keen" approach. Maybe I should be obnoxious and nasty, as being nice, pleasant and homourous is getting me nowhere atm

We reply to messages if the sender seems well mannered. Rightly or wrongly we take the view that if the first image we see of that man (or even worse the only image) is his cock, then that man probably not a well-mannered man. The reason for this thinking is that only an extremely obnoxious nasty man would slap his cock on the table when chatting a woman up in a bar. But of course internet etiquette is different.

Mrs"

Exactly this. I'd delete a messsge instantly from anyone who is sporting a cock avatar.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Sites and forums have a dynamic. People come, people go, people flounce, people return.

Sometimes the ones you want to go stick around like a fart in a jar. And sometimes you lose people you cared about and they're never coming back.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I'm polite, and nothing on here will make me act any different.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Sites and forums have a dynamic. People come, people go, people flounce, people return.

Sometimes the ones you want to go stick around like a fart in a jar. And sometimes you lose people you cared about and they're never coming back."

'Fart in a jar' - PMSL!

I couldn't describe it better myself.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I am a happy go lucky kind of man who is always respectful, and very polite, but I'm wondering if I should change my approach. I never get any replies to any message that I send. May be women like the "Treat them mean and keep them keen" approach. Maybe I should be obnoxious and nasty, as being nice, pleasant and homourous is getting me nowhere atm

We reply to messages if the sender seems well mannered. Rightly or wrongly we take the view that if the first image we see of that man (or even worse the only image) is his cock, then that man probably not a well-mannered man. The reason for this thinking is that only an extremely obnoxious nasty man would slap his cock on the table when chatting a woman up in a bar. But of course internet etiquette is different.

Mrs

Exactly this. I'd delete a messsge instantly from anyone who is sporting a cock avatar."

When we first started looking for men to join us we advertised on Craig's List. We specifically said we were looking for a well mannered man. We usually had about 50 replies and about 40 would send us a picture of their dick. I was naiive at the time, because this had never happened to me on dating sites, nor had men shown me their dicks when chatting me up on a night out. So I thought these men who sent us pictures of their cocks when replying to our ads must have been the rudest men on earth! I've learnt a lot since then. But I do find it a bit incongruous when a man, who has nothing to show for himself but his cock, claims to be a polite man.

Mrs

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"There is no point really. To many stuck up people on this site

What does that actually mean?

It means what it's says. To many people on here Think There gods gift an all that bollocks"

Too many on here heads up their own arses you mean..

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By *ire_thornMan
over a year ago

no comment

I'm polite and respectful. I get passed over a lot. But there is no point in getting nasty with people. And honestly I think that's why some of the people who have said not interested still talk to me... Who knows

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Sites and forums have a dynamic. People come, people go, people flounce, people return.

Sometimes the ones you want to go stick around like a fart in a jar. And sometimes you lose people you cared about and they're never coming back."

It's true. There are guys around who continually message me even though I didn't reply first time round! I don't like blocking if they are 'nice' guys

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I'm polite.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I am a happy go lucky kind of man who is always respectful, and very polite, but I'm wondering if I should change my approach. I never get any replies to any message that I send. May be women like the "Treat them mean and keep them keen" approach. Maybe I should be obnoxious and nasty, as being nice, pleasant and homourous is getting me nowhere atm

We reply to messages if the sender seems well mannered. Rightly or wrongly we take the view that if the first image we see of that man (or even worse the only image) is his cock, then that man probably not a well-mannered man. The reason for this thinking is that only an extremely obnoxious nasty man would slap his cock on the table when chatting a woman up in a bar. But of course internet etiquette is different.

Mrs

Exactly this. I'd delete a messsge instantly from anyone who is sporting a cock avatar.

When we first started looking for men to join us we advertised on Craig's List. We specifically said we were looking for a well mannered man. We usually had about 50 replies and about 40 would send us a picture of their dick. I was naiive at the time, because this had never happened to me on dating sites, nor had men shown me their dicks when chatting me up on a night out. So I thought these men who sent us pictures of their cocks when replying to our ads must have been the rudest men on earth! I've learnt a lot since then. But I do find it a bit incongruous when a man, who has nothing to show for himself but his cock, claims to be a polite man.

Mrs"

Yes, it doesn't sit right with me either.

If I think about it, not one of the men I've met over the two years of being on here, sent me their dick prior to meeting, unless I asked for it. One had it public but had enough face and clothing shots for me to make an informed decision.

I generally don't go for men who sell themselves on penis.

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By *londieddWoman
over a year ago

fife


"The whole premise of the site is to be rude. It says if you don't get an answer its because people are not interested but it's polite to say no thanks . Rudeness rules!!

If you sent out 100 messages, and got a 100 replies saying 'no thanks', would that make you feel better?

It would make me feel that at least I wasn't alone"

Seriously?

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By *imply_SensualMan
over a year ago

warrington

I am always polite, and never had any adverse responses to acting that way.

I guess it can be a pain for women and maybe couples getting shed loads of messages because amongst them will be a lot of garbage that often you have at least start reading before you realise how bad it is.

For me though, I have standards, and wont drop them regardless of what interaction I have on here.

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By *oxy_minxWoman
over a year ago

Scotland - Aberdeen


"So choosing who you don't want to fuck or not fuck is impolite, stuck up and deluded? "

It appears that way doesn't it

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By *ilthyDebaucheryWoman
over a year ago

Oswestry


"I'm actually now at the point where I've decided to find my own meets, everyone apart from single females are blocked from messaging and profile is hidden for a while, it's a shame I've been made to feel I have to take these steps as I've always had a lot of fun on here. However, it does seem to be getting a lot worse if late. Any ideas as to why?

Yes I've blocked everyone from messaging me mere months after joining the site so only people I message can message me The site is being diluted by people who just don't get swinging either here to collect pics, waste peoples' time, after one night stands (imho)

Only allowed couples to message me now cause I'm looking for couples swaps and still I get numerous messages about 3sums despite my profile clearly stating in CAPS not interested in 3sums

Wouldn't you be better off with a couples profile then?

Nope then we'd both have pur singles profiles and a couples profile to log into

Besides which it seems to be working well the majority of the time Just a side observation regards people not reading profiles not the main pount I was making

If you're meeting with someone else then you should have a couples profile on here.

I think that's up to us! We both have profiles on here so it's not as if he's unknown random guy not on fab

site rules say that. and you can be reported for it and the site mods will change your status.

not sure when you are meeting as a couple or a single though? like if you meet on your own then you are classed as a single, if meeting with another person then you're a couple.just how it is on here and so that people can search for what they want on here without getting pissed off.

Oh ok makes sense but I'd imagine fab should be more concerned about all the men pretending to be women or couples on here

Meeting in clubs is what we do

yeah i don't mind. think it is just coz people kept complaining about looking for singles or couples and then end up chatting to someone with the wrong status (and felt like they'd wasted their time).

it is confusing though coz off fab your status would be what your relationship is, on here it's not."

That's just it though we're not a couple we're FWB who occasionally meet couples together So in the real world we're both single so same as our current status as on here

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I'm polite because that is the way I was brought up. No point being a dick when needn't be necessary IMO

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By *sGivesWood OP   Woman
over a year ago

ST. AUSTELL, CORNWALL


"So choosing who you don't want to fuck or not fuck is impolite, stuck up and deluded? "
apparently so...

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By *sGivesWood OP   Woman
over a year ago

ST. AUSTELL, CORNWALL


"I'm actually now at the point where I've decided to find my own meets, everyone apart from single females are blocked from messaging and profile is hidden for a while, it's a shame I've been made to feel I have to take these steps as I've always had a lot of fun on here. However, it does seem to be getting a lot worse if late. Any ideas as to why?

'Find your own meets' how terrible for you that you actually have to search and send messsges "
at least I won't have an inbox full of cr@p to politely reply no thanks to so it doesn't appear that I'm being rude!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"The whole premise of the site is to be rude. It says if you don't get an answer its because people are not interested but it's polite to say no thanks . Rudeness rules!!

If you sent out 100 messages, and got a 100 replies saying 'no thanks', would that make you feel better? "
I've send more than 100 without a reply so what the point in sending lol

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By *ozziebear55Man
over a year ago

Sheffield

Feisty!!...

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By *opsy RogersWoman
over a year ago

London


"The whole premise of the site is to be rude. It says if you don't get an answer its because people are not interested but it's polite to say no thanks . Rudeness rules!!

If you sent out 100 messages, and got a 100 replies saying 'no thanks', would that make you feel better? I've send more than 100 without a reply so what the point in sending lol"

That means 100 people aren't interested in meeting you. If they sent a no thanks reply, they still don't want to meet you. It's the same thing.

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By *illypMan
over a year ago

bristol

People don't understand no thanks means no

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By *layfullsamMan
over a year ago

Solihull

The point of being polite on fab or in real life is that 9 times out of 10 the other person appreciates it and more importantly it makes me feel happy

life's short, be happy

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By *sGivesWood OP   Woman
over a year ago

ST. AUSTELL, CORNWALL


"People don't understand no thanks means no"
exactly this

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