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Dirty talk and making noises

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

How much of a turn on is being vocal during fore play and sex. The other night a female decided to stop playing with me because I wasn't being vocal and didn't know if I was enjoying it and the fact I wasn't saying anything or making any noises. Her others half was playing with gem and talking dirty and she was playing along with it. We don't talk dirty with each other so I find it hard to do it with others. Advice please.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Expressive groaning? I find it difficult to judge when a person is enjoying themselves if they don't give feedback in some way. I find myself then checking 'Is that good?' 'Do you like that?' Etc, which can ruin the flow.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I personally like to hear a lady moan and talk dirty during sex, I'll call her names too if she likes that, as for a BJ? I moan like hell when that's going on

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

Should I be talking more during sex ? Instead of staying silent. I also struggle to think what to say during sex and fore play

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Should I be talking more during sex ? Instead of staying silent. I also struggle to think what to say during sex and fore play "

Moans are a sign you are enjoying it.

I would worry that you weren't enjoying it if there was nothing. Turns me on more if the guy is vocal

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"Should I be talking more during sex ? Instead of staying silent. I also struggle to think what to say during sex and fore play

Moans are a sign you are enjoying it.

I would worry that you weren't enjoying it if there was nothing. Turns me on more if the guy is vocal "

I also struggle with dirty talk which is what was happening that night

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Should I be talking more during sex ? Instead of staying silent. I also struggle to think what to say during sex and fore play

Moans are a sign you are enjoying it.

I would worry that you weren't enjoying it if there was nothing. Turns me on more if the guy is vocal

I also struggle with dirty talk which is what was happening that night "

Not everyone can get into that. It has to come naturally. But some noise helps. Sometimes eye contact is enough

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By *opman1111Man
over a year ago

belfast

The wife loves dirty talk during sex gets her really wet

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Love to hold erotic conversation before sex, during and after!

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By *reenleavesCouple
over a year ago

North Wales

Being silent is ok when you're with a partner who knows what you like and what your positive signs look like. With a new partner, having some feedback that you're having the desired effect is pretty handy. Also if it's in front of an audience then it can knock their confidence if they think they're not being any good.

This doesn't have to be a porn film style soundtrack of 'ooh baby yeah do me there!' Just emphasising your natural reactions of taking sharper breaths or breathing harder will do it. You could also use touch to get the message across. A pulling of the hair or digging in of nails sends the right message.

We can find dirty talk to be a bit false and have the opposite effect. But if you find it comes out naturally in the moment then go with it.

Overall, don't feel like you have to perform for someone and not be yourself. Maybe mention to them before hand that you're not usually noisy in bed and to tell them what you like?

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By *orkie321bWoman
over a year ago

Nottingham

I have to say I would consider stopping play if the other person was silent. I need to know that whatever I'm doing they are enjoying it. I take my cues from their responses and if they don't respond then I assume I'm just not doing anything right.

I don't need dirty talk and I'm not particularly talkative myself during sex but the other person always knows when they hit the right spot

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Love dirty talk, the dirtier the better

Always good to ask the question up front though

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By *eneral_NoStringsMan
over a year ago

Northampton

Silent sex is the worst and I'm sure that's the case for both men and women. In my opinion, its important to express pleasure with some sort of vocal cue.

Moaning, dirty talk, heavy breathing, any sort of noise is ideal for me. I get extremely turned on and am likly to cum harder because of it.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

You have over 130 positive verifications so you must be doing something right. I wouldn't stress over it not everyone is the same that's just life.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Not everyone makes noise during sex i'm one of them. If someone stops playing because of that I think its bloody stupid.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

To hear the other person's pleasure is a massive turn on for me. And I'm quite vocal myself.

I also struggle with dirty talk though, so plan on practicing with my fb so we can learn to do it together, can't wait!

Maybe if you try moaning and dirty talk with your partner eventually it will become second nature? That's what I'm going for anyway. Best wishes

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"To hear the other person's pleasure is a massive turn on for me. And I'm quite vocal myself.

I also struggle with dirty talk though, so plan on practicing with my fb so we can learn to do it together, can't wait!

Maybe if you try moaning and dirty talk with your partner eventually it will become second nature? That's what I'm going for anyway. Best wishes "

I think talking dirty varies from person to person, I can see myself being really dirty with one person but not quite so dirty with another

If a regular partner I think there is more of a connection

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Silent sex is a bit creepy ...

I find that I need some guidance - nothing fake but a few moans to let me know I'm going in the right direction is enough.

Depending on mood I like dirty talk during sex - being fucked hard being called a .. dirty ... fucking ... slut ..

with each thrust it's nice sometimes

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By *xotic indianCouple
over a year ago

leicester

Yes taking obout your darkest fantasies and dirty during sex can be a real turn on

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