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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

Hi all,

Just wanted opinion on socials...

I would always insist on a social meeting first as I like to get to know someone, have a laugh etc. but have had a few instances of people saying that it is boring...

What's your stance on socials? Am I just being old-fashioned? x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Hi all,

Just wanted opinion on socials...

I would always insist on a social meeting first as I like to get to know someone, have a laugh etc. but have had a few instances of people saying that it is boring...

What's your stance on socials? Am I just being old-fashioned? x"

no, stick to your guns OP..

and why should you care what others think?

always be true to yourself

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Always a social with a snog first. You need to make sure there is sexual attraction, and you kiss well together!!!!

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


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no, stick to your guns OP..

and why should you care what others think?

always be true to yourself"

Thanks, that's reassuring to me, I live in hope haha! x

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"Always a social with a snog first. You need to make sure there is sexual attraction, and you kiss well together!!!!"

Kiss is what makes it for me

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By *icecouple561Couple
Forum Mod
over a year ago

East Sussex

We always have a social first. If people don't want to do that we respect the fact that we're not for them.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Always a social with a snog first. You need to make sure there is sexual attraction, and you kiss well together!!!!

Kiss is what makes it for me "

Exactly!! If you can't snog well what's the shagging going to be like?

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By *hubaysiWoman
over a year ago

Leeds

Social is a definite to see if there is attraction.

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


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Exactly!! If you can't snog well what's the shagging going to be like? "

...Err, not great? x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Love socials - laughing .. glances.... touch .... verbal jousting .... beat him at crazy golf .... makes for super fun in the bedroom ..... and sifts through the not optimum chaps....

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

We always want a social before any playing, gives us a chance to make sure we are attracted the the other couple and get to know them first, and if there's any rules or boundaries then it's better to get them out the way in a casual chat then while everyone's trying to play x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Hi all,

Just wanted opinion on socials...

I would always insist on a social meeting first as I like to get to know someone, have a laugh etc. but have had a few instances of people saying that it is boring...

What's your stance on socials? Am I just being old-fashioned? x"

God no!! You just have standards! Social first always, if there is no physical or mental connection walk away. Always xx

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Hi all,

Just wanted opinion on socials...

I would always insist on a social meeting first as I like to get to know someone, have a laugh etc. but have had a few instances of people saying that it is boring...

What's your stance on socials? Am I just being old-fashioned? x

no, stick to your guns OP..

and why should you care what others think?

always be true to yourself"

Exactly this !!

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By *arry247Couple
over a year ago

Wakefield


"Hi all,

Just wanted opinion on socials...

I would always insist on a social meeting first as I like to get to know someone, have a laugh etc. but have had a few instances of people saying that it is boring...

What's your stance on socials? Am I just being old-fashioned? x"

We would not say old fashioned, in the old days there were very few (if any) socials, swingers met and played.

But if you mean old fashioned in the vanilla sense that a girl does not have sex on the first date yes, very.

We would suggest the reason socials are so popular on Fab is down to the internet, people are losing the ability to make rational opinions about others as so much is/has to be kept secret.

People today do not seem to have the same social skills as in the past

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

Thanks for the replies everyone! Definitely going to stay true to myself with insisting on socials first. What's the point of having 'fun' with someone if you have no bond together whatsoever? (*just my opinion, I'm sure others disagree haha*)

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

We take socials a step further, in that we have a social on the first meet, but ideally we like one on every meet. I dislike the culture in Fab where socials are just to check there is attraction and the person is who they say they are. That's important, but that implies that once that's achieved there's no need for any more socials.

Mrs

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"We take socials a step further, in that we have a social on the first meet, but ideally we like one on every meet. I dislike the culture in Fab where socials are just to check there is attraction and the person is who they say they are. That's important, but that implies that once that's achieved there's no need for any more socials.

Mrs"

Yes, totally agree with where you are coming from. Obviously you can use socials as a form validation of the person you are meeting (I will put my hands up on yet) but hopefully it can act as a springboard to future fun social meets and more like you say

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By *orkie321bWoman
over a year ago

Nottingham

I love socials and wouldn't be comfortable going straight into a play meet unless we were meeting at a club. Even then there is a social element and we don't head straight to the play rooms.

The best meet I've had so far was a social. A regular meet was heading home from a meeting and was nearby so messaged me to see if I was free. We went for a lovely stroll in a local park and an ice cream. Had a jolly good snog on a park bench like teenagers too .

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By *wo-GoodCouple
over a year ago

South London


"Hi all,

Just wanted opinion on socials...

I would always insist on a social meeting first as I like to get to know someone, have a laugh etc. but have had a few instances of people saying that it is boring...

What's your stance on socials? Am I just being old-fashioned? x"

Not at all! We always want a social for exactly the same reasons

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Always have a social first! You could be walking into anything if you just arrange a meet!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Always a social for me first as you can chat and get to know someone on here but once you meet them there maybe not that same chemistry or attraction. I've also had socials that the chemistry has been there straight away and things move on in the same meet lol xx

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By *ngel n tedCouple
over a year ago

maidstone

Yes have socials, insist upon them, avoid the awkwardness! Now i'm not saying folk turn up to a meet looking like they've been pulled backwards through a hedge, but when someone arrives at your door looking like they got dressed by running through their washing line, it is an eye opener.

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By *loswingersCouple
over a year ago

Gloucester


"Hi all,

Just wanted opinion on socials...

I would always insist on a social meeting first as I like to get to know someone, have a laugh etc. but have had a few instances of people saying that it is boring...

What's your stance on socials? Am I just being old-fashioned? x"

We think a social only meet is boring .

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

Thanks for all of the responses everyone!

Next question... Where would you suggest a suitable place for a social would be? Go safe and just go for a drink or does anyone have any weird and wacky tales of where they have been on a social? :P

(Oh, and I know there is no 'right' answer on where to go on a social as everyone is different )

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Hi all,

Just wanted opinion on socials...

I would always insist on a social meeting first as I like to get to know someone, have a laugh etc. but have had a few instances of people saying that it is boring...

What's your stance on socials? Am I just being old-fashioned? x

We think a social only meet is boring .

"

you are as always, right xx

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Always social first. No chance of play and unlikely I'll even kiss them. Works great for me.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Thanks for all of the responses everyone!

Next question... Where would you suggest a suitable place for a social would be? Go safe and just go for a drink or does anyone have any weird and wacky tales of where they have been on a social? :P

(Oh, and I know there is no 'right' answer on where to go on a social as everyone is different )"

Local cafe for a coffee. Public place where they have nice cake.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Never had a social and don't intend to have one. Not for me thanks x

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"

Local cafe for a coffee. Public place where they have nice cake. "

..... carrot cake by any chance?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Love a social, cheeky kiss is always great too

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"

Local cafe for a coffee. Public place where they have nice cake.

..... carrot cake by any chance? "

I'm not a cannibal!

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By *ackDMissMorganCouple
over a year ago

Halifax

We always meet socially first to see if there is an attraction and if there is we arrange a play date. Jack.

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By *gnitemybodyWoman
over a year ago

Onestepoutofthedoor

No you're not being old fashioned you're just being wise! Just because you feel attraction through your phone doesn't mean to say that attraction is going to be there face to face.

Beside's if the attraction is there prolonging it til the next proper meet can be intense,or frustrating of course

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"We always meet socially first to see if there is an attraction and if there is we arrange a play date. Jack."

Agreed, especially with couples as there more than a two way dynamic.

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By *ackDMissMorganCouple
over a year ago

Halifax


"We always meet socially first to see if there is an attraction and if there is we arrange a play date. Jack.

Agreed, especially with couples as there more than a two way dynamic.

"

Absolutely. Very hard to find 4 way attraction even when meeting socially lol.

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