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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

We continually hear this excuse for so many things on the forums. But, when you think about it, it makes the fatal error of treating all men as equals. There are lots of animals in the Amazonian wilderness. But if you're looking for a French Poodle you're unlikely to find one.

So yes... there are a large crowd of men on here to choose from. But what percentage of them offer anything of any quality? Are you women literally overflowing with wonderful options? Or is it still a bit of an arid desert of anything decent? Just curious to take a peek behind the cliche

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By *unandbuckCouple
over a year ago

Sheffield

This why we often bang on about clubs. When we and friends have looked for guys at clubs there are often a lack of decent ones. We aren't snobby or over picky, but we know many people have said an average looking guy who can hold a conversation and understands swinging goes, he does well.

But I do have sympathy for the decent guys who limit themselves to fab only, as they will struggle, it is hard to see the wood for the trees.

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By *ittleAcornMan
over a year ago

visiting the beach

Ok, I'll dress as a French Poodle if you want...

(I think that's what I got from your post)

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By *inaryGuyMan
over a year ago

Near the River

I agree. There are lots of male posts complaining about not getting any responses, I recommend guys go and meet people at clubs/gatherings....it's an extension of what we all do socially?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Some very desperate men on here to after seeing what they chase.

Seriously keep the bar high guys.

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By *ieman300Man
over a year ago

Best Greggs in Cheshire East

The go to clubs and socials thing has been done to death. Its not everyones cup of earl grey. Its not nearly as doom and gloom as people make out on here in my experience.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I'd say the women have way more choice than the men. Not being unkind to my fellow women but I'd say 6 out of every 10 women on here will be either overweight or some other reason where they'd normally get a swerve if they were in the real world.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

i find a mixture of guys message me expecting a meet instantly with only a cock pic and nothing more, thats why my block list is long

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"Ok, I'll dress as a French Poodle if you want...

(I think that's what I got from your post)"

Nice

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By *xploringThisWorldMan
over a year ago

collier row


"I'd say the women have way more choice than the men. Not being unkind to my fellow women but I'd say 6 out of every 10 women on here will be either overweight or some other reason where they'd normally get a swerve if they were in the real world. "

Very true !

Fab is the great equalizer it would appear.

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By *unandbuckCouple
over a year ago

Sheffield


"I'd say the women have way more choice than the men. Not being unkind to my fellow women but I'd say 6 out of every 10 women on here will be either overweight or some other reason where they'd normally get a swerve if they were in the real world. "

They might get a swerve from the 'big I am' dickhead in the local pub, but people with a little bit more about them might like those women in the real world and on here.

MrB

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

OK... So are people seriously saying they can tell good guys from bad at a club but on Fab all male profiles seem equally good so it's difficult to tell the wheat from the chaff? Is this women's experience? Is there a bewildering crowd of equally good profiles of guys on here to choose from? Or is the reality that most guy's profiles are awful and there are only really a very few that seem worth bothering with?

I don't know... that's why I'm asking

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I've never been to a (swing) club and don't think I would but I've been on here over 6 years and always find what I want on here.

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By *inaryGuyMan
over a year ago

Near the River


"OK... So are people seriously saying they can tell good guys from bad at a club but on Fab all male profiles seem equally good so it's difficult to tell the wheat from the chaff? Is this women's experience? Is there a bewildering crowd of equally good profiles of guys on here to choose from? Or is the reality that most guy's profiles are awful and there are only really a very few that seem worth bothering with?

I don't know... that's why I'm asking "

Sounds harsh. Surely the meeting (2nd round) has to happen anycase to decide if you're right irrespective of whether the profile is good?

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By *unandbuckCouple
over a year ago

Sheffield


"OK... So are people seriously saying they can tell good guys from bad at a club but on Fab all male profiles seem equally good so it's difficult to tell the wheat from the chaff? Is this women's experience? Is there a bewildering crowd of equally good profiles of guys on here to choose from? Or is the reality that most guy's profiles are awful and there are only really a very few that seem worth bothering with?

I don't know... that's why I'm asking "

I mentioned clubs, but think you've misunderstood. I meant there are thousands of crap male profiles on fab and trawling it to find good ones is hard. At a club, decent guys are easy to spot and you can engage in a conversation with them there and then.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Clubs or socials are possibly far easier for people to meet genuine guys they like the look of!! The veris help on this site to a point I suppose!! But you can't rely on a pic as I have found out many times when meeting some women on here. Some People can magically gain wait and age when you meet them in real life compared to their pictures!!

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"OK... So are people seriously saying they can tell good guys from bad at a club but on Fab all male profiles seem equally good so it's difficult to tell the wheat from the chaff? Is this women's experience? Is there a bewildering crowd of equally good profiles of guys on here to choose from? Or is the reality that most guy's profiles are awful and there are only really a very few that seem worth bothering with?

I don't know... that's why I'm asking

I mentioned clubs, but think you've misunderstood. I meant there are thousands of crap male profiles on fab and trawling it to find good ones is hard. At a club, decent guys are easy to spot and you can engage in a conversation with them there and then."

Ah! So the real issue is just scale. It's not that a decent guy on here has a lot of competition... But rather he's likely to get lost in a sea of crud. Is that right?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Where are the overflowing women?

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"OK... So are people seriously saying they can tell good guys from bad at a club but on Fab all male profiles seem equally good so it's difficult to tell the wheat from the chaff? Is this women's experience? Is there a bewildering crowd of equally good profiles of guys on here to choose from? Or is the reality that most guy's profiles are awful and there are only really a very few that seem worth bothering with?

I don't know... that's why I'm asking

Sounds harsh. Surely the meeting (2nd round) has to happen anycase to decide if you're right irrespective of whether the profile is good? "

For us personally... If a couple or woman can't put together a half decent looking profile then it's a good first indicator they're probably not worth the effort. It seemed, from people's responses, that people looking at guys weren't making the same deduction. But now it seems they are... the only difference is that the vast majority of guys have awful profiles so they get tired trawling through them. Again, I don't know this myself, I'm just paraphrasing what seems to be being suggested

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By *icentiousCouple
over a year ago

Up on them there hills


"OK... So are people seriously saying they can tell good guys from bad at a club but on Fab all male profiles seem equally good so it's difficult to tell the wheat from the chaff? Is this women's experience? Is there a bewildering crowd of equally good profiles of guys on here to choose from? Or is the reality that most guy's profiles are awful and there are only really a very few that seem worth bothering with?

I don't know... that's why I'm asking

I mentioned clubs, but think you've misunderstood. I meant there are thousands of crap male profiles on fab and trawling it to find good ones is hard. At a club, decent guys are easy to spot and you can engage in a conversation with them there and then.

Ah! So the real issue is just scale. It's not that a decent guy on here has a lot of competition... But rather he's likely to get lost in a sea of crud. Is that right? "

Think the sea of crud makes the good ones stand out further...

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By *unandbuckCouple
over a year ago

Sheffield


"

I mentioned clubs, but think you've misunderstood. I meant there are thousands of crap male profiles on fab and trawling it to find good ones is hard. At a club, decent guys are easy to spot and you can engage in a conversation with them there and then.

Ah! So the real issue is just scale. It's not that a decent guy on here has a lot of competition... But rather he's likely to get lost in a sea of crud. Is that right? "

There's different difficulties. There are tens of thousands of single guy profiles, ranging from great to awful. Lots are in the awful category.

In a club, it is quick and easy to distinguish.

I don't really know if you are trying to make a point or argue, it's difficult to know the tone of the post.

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By *ieman300Man
over a year ago

Best Greggs in Cheshire East


"OK... So are people seriously saying they can tell good guys from bad at a club but on Fab all male profiles seem equally good so it's difficult to tell the wheat from the chaff? Is this women's experience? Is there a bewildering crowd of equally good profiles of guys on here to choose from? Or is the reality that most guy's profiles are awful and there are only really a very few that seem worth bothering with?

I don't know... that's why I'm asking

I mentioned clubs, but think you've misunderstood. I meant there are thousands of crap male profiles on fab and trawling it to find good ones is hard. At a club, decent guys are easy to spot and you can engage in a conversation with them there and then."

How can you tell if a guy is decent from looking at him? Going off you saying you spot them and then have a convo?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

i think the good ones get to stand out over time. same goes for the women and couples.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

The more mind bending but relevant question is why there is suck a large disparity between the male and female population on sites like this. This is also true of vanilla dating sites.

the answer most likely lies on social conditioning and peer pressure in childhood etc but still in this day and age i find it all quite odd that the numbers are skewed so heavily.

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By *unandbuckCouple
over a year ago

Sheffield


"

I mentioned clubs, but think you've misunderstood. I meant there are thousands of crap male profiles on fab and trawling it to find good ones is hard. At a club, decent guys are easy to spot and you can engage in a conversation with them there and then.

How can you tell if a guy is decent from looking at him? Going off you saying you spot them and then have a convo?"

You can't by looking at someone. You can tell by how they are engaging with other people, body language and how they interact in general and with us. There are also guys who sit in a corner, avoid eye contact with anyone or wander round wanking, they wouldn't be successful in general.

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By *ieman300Man
over a year ago

Best Greggs in Cheshire East


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I mentioned clubs, but think you've misunderstood. I meant there are thousands of crap male profiles on fab and trawling it to find good ones is hard. At a club, decent guys are easy to spot and you can engage in a conversation with them there and then.

How can you tell if a guy is decent from looking at him? Going off you saying you spot them and then have a convo?

You can't by looking at someone. You can tell by how they are engaging with other people, body language and how they interact in general and with us. There are also guys who sit in a corner, avoid eye contact with anyone or wander round wanking, they wouldn't be successful in general."

Yeah that makes mire sense. But wait some walk round wanking???

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By *unandbuckCouple
over a year ago

Sheffield


"

I mentioned clubs, but think you've misunderstood. I meant there are thousands of crap male profiles on fab and trawling it to find good ones is hard. At a club, decent guys are easy to spot and you can engage in a conversation with them there and then.

How can you tell if a guy is decent from looking at him? Going off you saying you spot them and then have a convo?

You can't by looking at someone. You can tell by how they are engaging with other people, body language and how they interact in general and with us. There are also guys who sit in a corner, avoid eye contact with anyone or wander round wanking, they wouldn't be successful in general.

Yeah that makes mire sense. But wait some walk round wanking??? "

or sit wanking, or stand wanking looking at porn.

Here's an example. we were in Quest last weekend, I (mr) chatted to a single guy in the changing rooms at the end of the night and asked how his night had been. He said it had gone well, he had played three times in the night - once in the glory hole and twice in playrooms. He was an 'average' 40 something guy, reasonable looking, friendly bloke type. I would say he would struggle to stand out in the thousands of fab profiles, but in a club where he could be seen and chat, he had a great time.

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"

I mentioned clubs, but think you've misunderstood. I meant there are thousands of crap male profiles on fab and trawling it to find good ones is hard. At a club, decent guys are easy to spot and you can engage in a conversation with them there and then.

Ah! So the real issue is just scale. It's not that a decent guy on here has a lot of competition... But rather he's likely to get lost in a sea of crud. Is that right?

There's different difficulties. There are tens of thousands of single guy profiles, ranging from great to awful. Lots are in the awful category.

In a club, it is quick and easy to distinguish.

I don't really know if you are trying to make a point or argue, it's difficult to know the tone of the post."

Not making a point or arguing... just interested in what's really going on. It seems there's two stories here. In response to various issues guys have people often say its because there are so many men on here. Yet it seems, although there may be many guys on here, there may not really be all that much choice. One can die of thirst floating out at sea on a raft.

We've never gone searching for guys on here. It seems some women find it very easy to find good guys. Mrs Freespirit has met a few at clubs too. A lot of guys get deflated by the scale of the competition. But it may be that there really aren't that many good ones out there. From your post and others, though, it seems there is still a sizeable amount of good guys out there, even if they are lost a little in the crowd

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By *r GaltMan
over a year ago

worcester

Now overweight is a tricky expression isn't it?Personally I prefer a girl with curves. My ex had body confidence issues due to being mentally abused by her ex husband Although on the cuddly side she was/is very pretty and I was always proud to be seen out with her! There is such a thing as slim ugly girls. So much of it is in the attitude I think? Anyone else know what I'm getting at? Or is everyone so body obsessed?

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By *inaryGuyMan
over a year ago

Near the River


"

I mentioned clubs, but think you've misunderstood. I meant there are thousands of crap male profiles on fab and trawling it to find good ones is hard. At a club, decent guys are easy to spot and you can engage in a conversation with them there and then.

How can you tell if a guy is decent from looking at him? Going off you saying you spot them and then have a convo?

You can't by looking at someone. You can tell by how they are engaging with other people, body language and how they interact in general and with us. There are also guys who sit in a corner, avoid eye contact with anyone or wander round wanking, they wouldn't be successful in general.

Yeah that makes mire sense. But wait some walk round wanking???

or sit wanking, or stand wanking looking at porn.

Here's an example. we were in Quest last weekend, I (mr) chatted to a single guy in the changing rooms at the end of the night and asked how his night had been. He said it had gone well, he had played three times in the night - once in the glory hole and twice in playrooms. He was an 'average' 40 something guy, reasonable looking, friendly bloke type. I would say he would struggle to stand out in the thousands of fab profiles, but in a club where he could be seen and chat, he had a great time."

Totally agree, actually I like the conversation with guys as well as gals

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Now overweight is a tricky expression isn't it?Personally I prefer a girl with curves. My ex had body confidence issues due to being mentally abused by her ex husband Although on the cuddly side she was/is very pretty and I was always proud to be seen out with her! There is such a thing as slim ugly girls. So much of it is in the attitude I think? Anyone else know what I'm getting at? Or is everyone so body obsessed? "
very well put

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By *lixir of lifeMan
over a year ago

knob Creek


"I'd say the women have way more choice than the men. Not being unkind to my fellow women but I'd say 6 out of every 10 women on here will be either overweight or some other reason where they'd normally get a swerve if they were in the real world. "

This is so true ...

Some of the states u see with numerous verifications..

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By *loswingersCouple
over a year ago

Gloucester


"This why we often bang on about clubs. When we and friends have looked for guys at clubs there are often a lack of decent ones. We aren't snobby or over picky, but we know many people have said an average looking guy who can hold a conversation and understands swinging goes, he does well.

But I do have sympathy for the decent guys who limit themselves to fab only, as they will struggle, it is hard to see the wood for the trees."

We find plenty of very decent guys to meet and play with .

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

You will never hear of me complain as I have met some amazing women. Maybe I'm a rare breed of male that is selective, and maybe not desperate to meet as other males. I also enjoy a social meet which I feel is essential. I'm not a fan of clubs as I can't see what I'm after in them.

But saying that each to their own which is invaluable in finding a match either on fab or in clubs

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By *unandbuckCouple
over a year ago

Sheffield


"This why we often bang on about clubs. When we and friends have looked for guys at clubs there are often a lack of decent ones. We aren't snobby or over picky, but we know many people have said an average looking guy who can hold a conversation and understands swinging goes, he does well.

But I do have sympathy for the decent guys who limit themselves to fab only, as they will struggle, it is hard to see the wood for the trees.

We find plenty of very decent guys to meet and play with .

"

You've done ok Do you initially message guys or invite those who've messaged you?

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"Here's an example. we were in Quest last weekend, I (mr) chatted to a single guy in the changing rooms at the end of the night and asked how his night had been. He said it had gone well, he had played three times in the night - once in the glory hole and twice in playrooms. He was an 'average' 40 something guy, reasonable looking, friendly bloke type. I would say he would struggle to stand out in the thousands of fab profiles, but in a club where he could be seen and chat, he had a great time."

See... This makes me think you're making a different point; that guys are, in general, the brown feathered ducks... so even good ones wouldn't stand out because there's not really all that much difference between good and bad. I'm not making a point... you may well be right

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By *unandbuckCouple
over a year ago

Sheffield


"I'd say the women have way more choice than the men. Not being unkind to my fellow women but I'd say 6 out of every 10 women on here will be either overweight or some other reason where they'd normally get a swerve if they were in the real world.

This is so true ...

Some of the states u see with numerous verifications.."

Jeez, nobody should be even thinking of touching those women

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

not into clubs, had bad expeirneces at several in the past. happy to wait for those people with whom i have mutual kinks and desires on here.

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By *loswingersCouple
over a year ago

Gloucester


"This why we often bang on about clubs. When we and friends have looked for guys at clubs there are often a lack of decent ones. We aren't snobby or over picky, but we know many people have said an average looking guy who can hold a conversation and understands swinging goes, he does well.

But I do have sympathy for the decent guys who limit themselves to fab only, as they will struggle, it is hard to see the wood for the trees.

We find plenty of very decent guys to meet and play with .

You've done ok Do you initially message guys or invite those who've messaged you?"

A bit of both to be honest .

We truly don't see ourselves as being any better than anyone else on here , and when we seek a meet we will put it on our status bar . If no one suitable messages we look at local updates and message those we like the look of .

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By *loswingersCouple
over a year ago

Gloucester


"I'd say the women have way more choice than the men. Not being unkind to my fellow women but I'd say 6 out of every 10 women on here will be either overweight or some other reason where they'd normally get a swerve if they were in the real world.

This is so true ...

Some of the states u see with numerous verifications.."

So glad we don't have a high horse to sit on .

It must be a fine place to be in up there

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Here's an example. we were in Quest last weekend, I (mr) chatted to a single guy in the changing rooms at the end of the night and asked how his night had been. He said it had gone well, he had played three times in the night - once in the glory hole and twice in playrooms. He was an 'average' 40 something guy, reasonable looking, friendly bloke type. I would say he would struggle to stand out in the thousands of fab profiles, but in a club where he could be seen and chat, he had a great time.

See... This makes me think you're making a different point; that guys are, in general, the brown feathered ducks... so even good ones wouldn't stand out because there's not really all that much difference between good and bad. I'm not making a point... you may well be right "

i dunno, i think that it takes less than 3 messages before you can tell if someone is going to be a good un or a bad un...

usually by message number 2 the filth has started to pour out of their brain and into the keyboard. Or you get an opener like 'cum fuk wife now'...

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I'd say the women have way more choice than the men. Not being unkind to my fellow women but I'd say 6 out of every 10 women on here will be either overweight or some other reason where they'd normally get a swerve if they were in the real world.

This is so true ...

Some of the states u see with numerous verifications..

Jeez, nobody should be even thinking of touching those women "
yes that is true no touching, heaven for bid you did a hot poker and a bitch slap awaits you from those that deem someone too fat too ugly etc to meet in the real world, i did not know fab was a world, heres to intergalactic sex swaps

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I have had lots more luck in real life and I'm average I guess. Need to make the plunge for a club.

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By *bovethekneeCouple
over a year ago

Hampshire / Herefordshire

We think you are pretty much spot on with the arid desert analogy.

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By *ofia2014Woman
over a year ago

Galashiels


"Now overweight is a tricky expression isn't it?Personally I prefer a girl with curves. My ex had body confidence issues due to being mentally abused by her ex husband Although on the cuddly side she was/is very pretty and I was always proud to be seen out with her! There is such a thing as slim ugly girls. So much of it is in the attitude I think? Anyone else know what I'm getting at? Or is everyone so body obsessed? very well put "

A lot of men like a curvy girl..... and for other girls to make derogatory comments about people's weight is bullying and dangerous just because it doesn't fit with them

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By *unandbuckCouple
over a year ago

Sheffield


"Here's an example. we were in Quest last weekend, I (mr) chatted to a single guy in the changing rooms at the end of the night and asked how his night had been. He said it had gone well, he had played three times in the night - once in the glory hole and twice in playrooms. He was an 'average' 40 something guy, reasonable looking, friendly bloke type. I would say he would struggle to stand out in the thousands of fab profiles, but in a club where he could be seen and chat, he had a great time.

See... This makes me think you're making a different point; that guys are, in general, the brown feathered ducks... so even good ones wouldn't stand out because there's not really all that much difference between good and bad. I'm not making a point... you may well be right "

I think that's because there is more than one reason, and I remember different things at different times

Lots of timewaster or dreamer profiles. Good looking profiles from people who might not actually meet but crap profiles from people who are actually great and do meet... Deciding which is which and planning a meet that might end up a no-show when you only have the one night free isn't easy. The man in the club, who is decent looking and is actually there when you are, has a lot going for him.

We've nothing against searching on fab and that's what we do for couples and single ladies.

Oh, plus for a single guy meet, we would arrange it in a club anyway, so in some ways it can be just easier to do it all there...

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

how come no one on here seems to complain about meeting with people from other dimensions or different planets, or even the blow up dolls seemto avoid any for of bullying and slander via the forums, yet earthlings love to degrade and bully each others

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By *unandbuckCouple
over a year ago

Sheffield


"This why we often bang on about clubs. When we and friends have looked for guys at clubs there are often a lack of decent ones. We aren't snobby or over picky, but we know many people have said an average looking guy who can hold a conversation and understands swinging goes, he does well.

But I do have sympathy for the decent guys who limit themselves to fab only, as they will struggle, it is hard to see the wood for the trees.

We find plenty of very decent guys to meet and play with .

You've done ok Do you initially message guys or invite those who've messaged you?

A bit of both to be honest .

We truly don't see ourselves as being any better than anyone else on here , and when we seek a meet we will put it on our status bar . If no one suitable messages we look at local updates and message those we like the look of ."

I know you weren't being superior Of those who message you, what proportion would you say actually come good?

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By *ebedee2009Man
over a year ago

South Croydon

I think i'm pretty average in the looks and physique stakes, but I've been told that my sense of humour tends to capture some degree of interest.

Being laid back and non pushy seems to help a bit too...and the filth never gets typed until at least the 5th message...

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

i honestly do think when people join fab for the first time, their eyes are wide open to the array of different profiles and opportunities, then reality sets in and you become hardened in some way even biased ,,, like no profiles to message me/us .. yet you where once unverified

maybe i could be completely arsed wrong but hey ho

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I'd say the women have way more choice than the men. Not being unkind to my fellow women but I'd say 6 out of every 10 women on here will be either overweight or some other reason where they'd normally get a swerve if they were in the real world. "

Blimey! Is that what you think?? What a shallow and ignorant thing to say! Get real! Most men love bigger women. Grow up

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By *loswingersCouple
over a year ago

Gloucester


"This why we often bang on about clubs. When we and friends have looked for guys at clubs there are often a lack of decent ones. We aren't snobby or over picky, but we know many people have said an average looking guy who can hold a conversation and understands swinging goes, he does well.

But I do have sympathy for the decent guys who limit themselves to fab only, as they will struggle, it is hard to see the wood for the trees.

We find plenty of very decent guys to meet and play with .

You've done ok Do you initially message guys or invite those who've messaged you?

A bit of both to be honest .

We truly don't see ourselves as being any better than anyone else on here , and when we seek a meet we will put it on our status bar . If no one suitable messages we look at local updates and message those we like the look of .

I know you weren't being superior Of those who message you, what proportion would you say actually come good?"

One in five

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I've met many men who I class as being quality. Others may have a different opinion of them though.

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"We think you are pretty much spot on with the arid desert analogy."

Out of curiosity... what is it you're looking for that you're not finding? There seems to be plenty of guys with good physiques on here. Are they just not very good looking? Not very charming? Not genuine? Haven't got the balls to actually meet? Or just not very intelligent? Lol

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"I've met many men who I class as being quality. Others may have a different opinion of them though."

Out of 100 profiles how many would catch your eye? Out of 100 guys you've encountered in real life in the scene how many would you say were quality?

I know they're out there as Mrs has found them too. I just wonder how common they are, if they actually stand out, or they're just brown ducks that turned out to be quality geezers

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By *ed wineMan
over a year ago

Where the streets have no name


"We continually hear this excuse for so many things on the forums. But, when you think about it, it makes the fatal error of treating all men as equals. There are lots of animals in the Amazonian wilderness. But if you're looking for a French Poodle you're unlikely to find one.

So yes... there are a large crowd of men on here to choose from. But what percentage of them offer anything of any quality? Are you women literally overflowing with wonderful options? Or is it still a bit of an arid desert of anything decent? Just curious to take a peek behind the cliche "

Thank you. Finally a comment that doesn't generalize all men as dickheads with cock pictures that don't read profiles

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By *eliWoman
over a year ago

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I've never struggled to find a decent man on here. I wouldn't say I was overflowing with options as I'm not for everyone but yes. I've met a fair few 'quality' men but what I find quality others may not.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"This why we often bang on about clubs. When we and friends have looked for guys at clubs there are often a lack of decent ones. We aren't snobby or over picky, but we know many people have said an average looking guy who can hold a conversation and understands swinging goes, he does well.

But I do have sympathy for the decent guys who limit themselves to fab only, as they will struggle, it is hard to see the wood for the trees."

What about the decent guys who understand swinging, can be articulate but are uncomfortable with going to a club on your own, this is my dilemma....... not because I'm shy or unconfident, just uncomfortable

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Fab works for me and I'm very fussy, I only meet the kind of women I would date as that's the kind of person I enjoy spending time with as well as having sex with.

Clubs are ok but I have enjoyed them far more when going with a lady rather than going alone to try and meet one there.

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By *unandbuckCouple
over a year ago

Sheffield


"This why we often bang on about clubs. When we and friends have looked for guys at clubs there are often a lack of decent ones. We aren't snobby or over picky, but we know many people have said an average looking guy who can hold a conversation and understands swinging goes, he does well.

But I do have sympathy for the decent guys who limit themselves to fab only, as they will struggle, it is hard to see the wood for the trees.

What about the decent guys who understand swinging, can be articulate but are uncomfortable with going to a club on your own, this is my dilemma....... not because I'm shy or unconfident, just uncomfortable "

Not everybody thinks what we do, we meet single guys at clubs, so we will miss out on the ones who don't go there, we know that will be a detriment to us in some cases.

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By *ilthyDebaucheryWoman
over a year ago

Oswestry


"Some very desperate men on here to after seeing what they chase.

Seriously keep the bar high guys. "

a guy that has no standards is a total turn off for me no matter how fit he looks

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Some very desperate men on here to after seeing what they chase.

Seriously keep the bar high guys.

a guy that has no standards is a total turn off for me no matter how fit he looks"

Makes me feel better as i just turned someone down for a good reason.. bit shit feeling though

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"This why we often bang on about clubs. When we and friends have looked for guys at clubs there are often a lack of decent ones. We aren't snobby or over picky, but we know many people have said an average looking guy who can hold a conversation and understands swinging goes, he does well.

But I do have sympathy for the decent guys who limit themselves to fab only, as they will struggle, it is hard to see the wood for the trees.

What about the decent guys who understand swinging, can be articulate but are uncomfortable with going to a club on your own, this is my dilemma....... not because I'm shy or unconfident, just uncomfortable

Not everybody thinks what we do, we meet single guys at clubs, so we will miss out on the ones who don't go there, we know that will be a detriment to us in some cases."

Understand that, 2 sides to every coin

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"This why we often bang on about clubs. When we and friends have looked for guys at clubs there are often a lack of decent ones. We aren't snobby or over picky, but we know many people have said an average looking guy who can hold a conversation and understands swinging goes, he does well.

But I do have sympathy for the decent guys who limit themselves to fab only, as they will struggle, it is hard to see the wood for the trees.

What about the decent guys who understand swinging, can be articulate but are uncomfortable with going to a club on your own, this is my dilemma....... not because I'm shy or unconfident, just uncomfortable "

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By *r GaltMan
over a year ago

worcester

Now overweight is a tricky expression isn't it?Personally I prefer a girl with curves. My ex had body confidence issues due to being mentally abused by her ex husband Although on the cuddly side she was/is very pretty and I was always proud to be seen out with her! There is such a thing as slim ugly girls. So much of it is in the attitude I think? Anyone else know what I'm getting at? Or is everyone so body obsessed?

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By *eavenscentitCouple
over a year ago

barnstaple


"I'd say the women have way more choice than the men. Not being unkind to my fellow women but I'd say 6 out of every 10 women on here will be either overweight or some other reason where they'd normally get a swerve if they were in the real world. "

Never had any problems attracting men whether I am thin or fat, on fab or in real life.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I'd say the women have way more choice than the men. Not being unkind to my fellow women but I'd say 6 out of every 10 women on here will be either overweight or some other reason where they'd normally get a swerve if they were in the real world.

Never had any problems attracting men whether I am thin or fat, on fab or in real life."
sorry not meeting we do not match, good luck in life, instead its too fat too thin to ugly not my type, in these forums , your too fat and would not stand a chance in the real world.. wtf.. why are you on here if life is so so good..

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

6 out of 10 another quote gee the ones who complain dish others are always full of quotes and statistics

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By *rightonsteveMan
over a year ago

Brighton - even Hove!

I quite like the biosphere analogy.....tropical rain forest or desert....I'm just temperate deciduous woodland.

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By *eavenscentitCouple
over a year ago

barnstaple


"I'd say the women have way more choice than the men. Not being unkind to my fellow women but I'd say 6 out of every 10 women on here will be either overweight or some other reason where they'd normally get a swerve if they were in the real world.

Never had any problems attracting men whether I am thin or fat, on fab or in real life.sorry not meeting we do not match, good luck in life, instead its too fat too thin to ugly not my type, in these forums , your too fat and would not stand a chance in the real world.. wtf.. why are you on here if life is so so good.. "

I am here to meet lovely men for 3sums or moresums with me and Mr

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By *ilthyDebaucheryWoman
over a year ago

Oswestry


"This why we often bang on about clubs. When we and friends have looked for guys at clubs there are often a lack of decent ones. We aren't snobby or over picky, but we know many people have said an average looking guy who can hold a conversation and understands swinging goes, he does well.

But I do have sympathy for the decent guys who limit themselves to fab only, as they will struggle, it is hard to see the wood for the trees.

What about the decent guys who understand swinging, can be articulate but are uncomfortable with going to a club on your own, this is my dilemma....... not because I'm shy or unconfident, just uncomfortable

"

I can totally understand this Have you thought of making some single male friends on here and going together so you're not alone? After a few visits you get to know the regulars and develop a social circle and can go alone

I know guys off here who have done this and it works

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By *loswingersCouple
over a year ago

Gloucester


"Some very desperate men on here to after seeing what they chase.

Seriously keep the bar high guys.

a guy that has no standards is a total turn off for me no matter how fit he looks"

Hang on ....

Who are these women who guys with no standards go with ?

Keep the bar up ?

Could we have a list of those people who shouldn't really be getting meets please .

I'd hate to think that we may have ever lowered our bar ..... or worse still that guys who meet us are letting the team down by lowering theirs .

The arrogance of some people is truly unbelievable sometimes . How wonderful it must be to be perfect , and to sit in judgement of those you consider below you .

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By *oxy_minxWoman
over a year ago

Scotland - Aberdeen


"We continually hear this excuse for so many things on the forums. But, when you think about it, it makes the fatal error of treating all men as equals. There are lots of animals in the Amazonian wilderness. But if you're looking for a French Poodle you're unlikely to find one.

So yes... there are a large crowd of men on here to choose from. But what percentage of them offer anything of any quality? Are you women literally overflowing with wonderful options? Or is it still a bit of an arid desert of anything decent? Just curious to take a peek behind the cliche "

I really struggle on here, so I am used to going without any sex

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By *yrdwomanWoman
over a year ago

Putting the 'cum' in Eboracum

Flippin' tumbles in York men-wise. Its a shame as the ones I do meet at socials are lovely, but not interested in me at all. I just get messages from the ones trying it on with every woman they see, regardless of distance or compatibility.

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By *oxy_minxWoman
over a year ago

Scotland - Aberdeen


"Flippin' tumbles in York men-wise. Its a shame as the ones I do meet at socials are lovely, but not interested in me at all. I just get messages from the ones trying it on with every woman they see, regardless of distance or compatibility."

Should we try and start some sort of club? Not sure what type to be honest, but I have just been sell and totally catfished

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By *yrdwomanWoman
over a year ago

Putting the 'cum' in Eboracum


"Flippin' tumbles in York men-wise. Its a shame as the ones I do meet at socials are lovely, but not interested in me at all. I just get messages from the ones trying it on with every woman they see, regardless of distance or compatibility.

Should we try and start some sort of club? Not sure what type to be honest, but I have just been sell and totally catfished "

I don't get catfished, just stood up. I'm good with any club as long as there's booze.

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By *oxy_minxWoman
over a year ago

Scotland - Aberdeen


"Flippin' tumbles in York men-wise. Its a shame as the ones I do meet at socials are lovely, but not interested in me at all. I just get messages from the ones trying it on with every woman they see, regardless of distance or compatibility.

Should we try and start some sort of club? Not sure what type to be honest, but I have just been sell and totally catfished

I don't get catfished, just stood up. I'm good with any club as long as there's booze."

It was only on here lol as I thought that doesn't match the profile lol (once sent the face)

Booze definitely just where do we find single good looking honest males? I have no bloody idea

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By *yrdwomanWoman
over a year ago

Putting the 'cum' in Eboracum


"Flippin' tumbles in York men-wise. Its a shame as the ones I do meet at socials are lovely, but not interested in me at all. I just get messages from the ones trying it on with every woman they see, regardless of distance or compatibility.

Should we try and start some sort of club? Not sure what type to be honest, but I have just been sell and totally catfished

I don't get catfished, just stood up. I'm good with any club as long as there's booze.

It was only on here lol as I thought that doesn't match the profile lol (once sent the face)

Booze definitely just where do we find single good looking honest males? I have no bloody idea "

Me neither. The booze is so we don't care.

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By *ittlewinkerMan
over a year ago

Llandudno


"I agree. There are lots of male posts complaining about not getting any responses, I recommend guys go and meet people at clubs/gatherings....it's an extension of what we all do socially? "

I want to go to clubs/gathering but chicken out. I message singles and couples to try to get to know them, we chat for a whiles then they go cold and most times block me when i ask if they want to meet. Where am i going wrong??

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By *olliPineCouple
over a year ago

swingers clubs


"This why we often bang on about clubs. When we and friends have looked for guys at clubs there are often a lack of decent ones. We aren't snobby or over picky, but we know many people have said an average looking guy who can hold a conversation and understands swinging goes, he does well.

But I do have sympathy for the decent guys who limit themselves to fab only, as they will struggle, it is hard to see the wood for the trees."

This. All day long.

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By *oxy_minxWoman
over a year ago

Scotland - Aberdeen


"Flippin' tumbles in York men-wise. Its a shame as the ones I do meet at socials are lovely, but not interested in me at all. I just get messages from the ones trying it on with every woman they see, regardless of distance or compatibility.

Should we try and start some sort of club? Not sure what type to be honest, but I have just been sell and totally catfished

I don't get catfished, just stood up. I'm good with any club as long as there's booze.

It was only on here lol as I thought that doesn't match the profile lol (once sent the face)

Booze definitely just where do we find single good looking honest males? I have no bloody idea

Me neither. The booze is so we don't care."

Speak for yourself

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By *ames1763Man
over a year ago

Aberdeen

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By *ames1763Man
over a year ago

Aberdeen


"We continually hear this excuse for so many things on the forums. But, when you think about it, it makes the fatal error of treating all men as equals. There are lots of animals in the Amazonian wilderness. But if you're looking for a French Poodle you're unlikely to find one.

So yes... there are a large crowd of men on here to choose from. But what percentage of them offer anything of any quality? Are you women literally overflowing with wonderful options? Or is it still a bit of an arid desert of anything decent? Just curious to take a peek behind the cliche "

I like the Op, I think she is very sweet, will be in Xstasia on the 14 of July if you will like to meet up but I digress, op what is your idea of a quality guy that makes you go wet, what are you looking at on face value

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By *ilthyDebaucheryWoman
over a year ago

Oswestry


"Some very desperate men on here to after seeing what they chase.

Seriously keep the bar high guys.

a guy that has no standards is a total turn off for me no matter how fit he looks

Hang on ....

Who are these women who guys with no standards go with ?

Keep the bar up ?

Could we have a list of those people who shouldn't really be getting meets please .

I'd hate to think that we may have ever lowered our bar ..... or worse still that guys who meet us are letting the team down by lowering theirs .

The arrogance of some people is truly unbelievable sometimes . How wonderful it must be to be perfect , and to sit in judgement of those you consider below you .

"

Jeez... chill

We all have preferences Just so happens some of us on this thread don't want to fuck people who've fucked anything with a pulse!

Nobody said they were perfect that's just our choice

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I'd say the women have way more choice than the men. Not being unkind to my fellow women but I'd say 6 out of every 10 women on here will be either overweight or some other reason where they'd normally get a swerve if they were in the real world. "

I used to be in the RAF (10 males to every female) ....most females in the RAF are in the 'swerve' category, but they all feel like Fairy Pricesses in the RAF (I was a swerver)

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By *ilthyDebaucheryWoman
over a year ago

Oswestry


"I'd say the women have way more choice than the men. Not being unkind to my fellow women but I'd say 6 out of every 10 women on here will be either overweight or some other reason where they'd normally get a swerve if they were in the real world.

I used to be in the RAF (10 males to every female) ....most females in the RAF are in the 'swerve' category, but they all feel like Fairy Pricesses in the RAF (I was a swerver) "

They were "fab curvy"?

I clearly chose the wrong profession

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By *loswingersCouple
over a year ago

Gloucester

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By *loswingersCouple
over a year ago

Gloucester


"Some very desperate men on here to after seeing what they chase.

Seriously keep the bar high guys.

a guy that has no standards is a total turn off for me no matter how fit he looks

Hang on ....

Who are these women who guys with no standards go with ?

Keep the bar up ?

Could we have a list of those people who shouldn't really be getting meets please .

I'd hate to think that we may have ever lowered our bar ..... or worse still that guys who meet us are letting the team down by lowering theirs .

The arrogance of some people is truly unbelievable sometimes . How wonderful it must be to be perfect , and to sit in judgement of those you consider below you .

Jeez... chill

We all have preferences Just so happens some of us on this thread don't want to fuck people who've fucked anything with a pulse!

Nobody said they were perfect that's just our choice"

Anything with a pulse , nice .

i have no issue at all with anyone's preference , I just don't get why some people love to put others down . It's unnecessary , and if you can't see that the post you quoted was arrogant , then read it again .

Hey ho , choices you say ?

By all means stick to your choices but is it really necessary to suggest that the women some guys go with mean he has no standards ?

Think about it from their perspective .

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By *loswingersCouple
over a year ago

Gloucester


"I'd say the women have way more choice than the men. Not being unkind to my fellow women but I'd say 6 out of every 10 women on here will be either overweight or some other reason where they'd normally get a swerve if they were in the real world.

I used to be in the RAF (10 males to every female) ....most females in the RAF are in the 'swerve' category, but they all feel like Fairy Pricesses in the RAF (I was a swerver) "

And how are you finding things on here ?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I'd say the women have way more choice than the men. Not being unkind to my fellow women but I'd say 6 out of every 10 women on here will be either overweight or some other reason where they'd normally get a swerve if they were in the real world.

I used to be in the RAF (10 males to every female) ....most females in the RAF are in the 'swerve' category, but they all feel like Fairy Pricesses in the RAF (I was a swerver)

And how are you finding things on here ?"

Not good, but then again, I've not put in the effort...being frank, I've always hated competing (especially if the prize isn't worth having!)....& being on here is like being in the RAF all over again!

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By *lay 4 uMan
over a year ago

bolton

And what have you to offer?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"And what have you to offer? "

A photo or two (which is more than you have ) & a 'can I really be arsed with this' type profile.

To give you an example...I'm on POF (a dating website)...I get 2-3 emails per days from women....the POF system tells me that 303 women say they want to meet me (since I joined a few months ago).

Today I received two emails on here - both from single men!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"

So yes... there are a large crowd of men on here to choose from. But what percentage of them offer anything of any quality? Are you women literally overflowing with wonderful options? Or is it still a bit of an arid desert of anything decent? Just curious to take a peek behind the cliche "

It's hard to say what percentage would be worthwhile to us. Our time is very restricted, and I'm sure we have passed by many quality guys because we are unable to get out for a meet. However, we find we only need 2 or 3 guys, so once that is achieved we don't need to look for any more. It would be hard starting again though with no contacts.

Mrs

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By *auldutcliffeMan
over a year ago

Blackpool

Evening guys bun and buck

Hopefully I you don't mind me commenting in the forum, I an what's called a newbie in I suppose, I have met some great ppl in club infusion in Blackpool,my 1st swing couple were amazing ppl, but I and so on easy to talk to, I was a little shy being new, we chatted had some fun upstairs in the club, went for dinner, drinks and shots at a local pub, we came to the decision to book a hotel room for the might, I really appreciated their help time rules and boundaries, it was respectful, I think most fellas are looked at the same as they just want to get their dick wet, not me I loved my 1st swing experience and couldn't of wanted a nicer couple, I feel like I am a decent, respectful person who just wants to get involved, but ppl seem to judge after just one messege of sometimes, no trust and I do understand why this is the case, no one knows me and I could be a creep extension, but I'm not??, I do like the clubs because you can meet face to face with a ppl sorry if I ranted have a hood night ??????

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By *eavenscentitCouple
over a year ago

barnstaple


"And what have you to offer?

A photo or two (which is more than you have ) & a 'can I really be arsed with this' type profile.

To give you an example...I'm on POF (a dating website)...I get 2-3 emails per days from women....the POF system tells me that 303 women say they want to meet me (since I joined a few months ago).

Today I received two emails on here - both from single men!"

For dating though

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By *ilthyDebaucheryWoman
over a year ago

Oswestry


"Some very desperate men on here to after seeing what they chase.

Seriously keep the bar high guys.

a guy that has no standards is a total turn off for me no matter how fit he looks

Hang on ....

Who are these women who guys with no standards go with ?

Keep the bar up ?

Could we have a list of those people who shouldn't really be getting meets please .

I'd hate to think that we may have ever lowered our bar ..... or worse still that guys who meet us are letting the team down by lowering theirs .

The arrogance of some people is truly unbelievable sometimes . How wonderful it must be to be perfect , and to sit in judgement of those you consider below you .

Jeez... chill

We all have preferences Just so happens some of us on this thread don't want to fuck people who've fucked anything with a pulse!

Nobody said they were perfect that's just our choice

Anything with a pulse , nice .

i have no issue at all with anyone's preference , I just don't get why some people love to put others down . It's unnecessary , and if you can't see that the post you quoted was arrogant , then read it again .

Hey ho , choices you say ?

By all means stick to your choices but is it really necessary to suggest that the women some guys go with mean he has no standards ?

Think about it from their perspective ."

I'm on here to meet people with similar tastes to my own If I've touched a nerve that says more about you than me

Not judging anyone or putting them down Preferences... I like gym fit, intelligent people Others like BBWs That's their choice the same as mine is mine

How is not wanting to fuck fat people judging people? Some people find muscles a total turn off

I just think you're mistaking an opinion for being judgemental purely cause I don't have the same views as you

Not going to waste my breath justifying myself any further you're clearly just determined to be argumentative whatever is said

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

It's basic supply & demand & therefore 'market forces' dictate that you need to have George Clooney's looks, have Chris Hemsworth's physique, the wit of Stephen Fry, a vocabulary to rival Rachel Riley ....& a massive cock.

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By *auldutcliffeMan
over a year ago

Blackpool

Hi guys hope you can get don't mind me butting in ??, can't tell a good guy from a bad guy, I feel like I I am a decent bloke, respectful if bounded and rules etc, honest a bit shy and I'm not a creep,I feel like sometimes you can I get judged by ppl getting to now me, I have verifications on my profile that are from genuine nice ppl, treat others as you want to be treated yourself to and that's not coming from the a newbie, not quite new now though as I have a face some verifications, sorry if I ranted have a good night x

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By *eavenscentitCouple
over a year ago

barnstaple


"It's basic supply & demand & therefore 'market forces' dictate that you need to have George Clooney's looks, have Chris Hemsworth's physique, the wit of Stephen Fry, a vocabulary to rival Rachel Riley ....& a massive cock."

I have the same standards on here and on dating sites. Fun, sexy and open minded.

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By *loswingersCouple
over a year ago

Gloucester


"Some very desperate men on here to after seeing what they chase.

Seriously keep the bar high guys.

a guy that has no standards is a total turn off for me no matter how fit he looks

Hang on ....

Who are these women who guys with no standards go with ?

Keep the bar up ?

Could we have a list of those people who shouldn't really be getting meets please .

I'd hate to think that we may have ever lowered our bar ..... or worse still that guys who meet us are letting the team down by lowering theirs .

The arrogance of some people is truly unbelievable sometimes . How wonderful it must be to be perfect , and to sit in judgement of those you consider below you .

Jeez... chill

We all have preferences Just so happens some of us on this thread don't want to fuck people who've fucked anything with a pulse!

Nobody said they were perfect that's just our choice

Anything with a pulse , nice .

i have no issue at all with anyone's preference , I just don't get why some people love to put others down . It's unnecessary , and if you can't see that the post you quoted was arrogant , then read it again .

Hey ho , choices you say ?

By all means stick to your choices but is it really necessary to suggest that the women some guys go with mean he has no standards ?

Think about it from their perspective .

I'm on here to meet people with similar tastes to my own If I've touched a nerve that says more about you than me

Not judging anyone or putting them down Preferences... I like gym fit, intelligent people Others like BBWs That's their choice the same as mine is mine

How is not wanting to fuck fat people judging people? Some people find muscles a total turn off

I just think you're mistaking an opinion for being judgemental purely cause I don't have the same views as you

Not going to waste my breath justifying myself any further you're clearly just determined to be argumentative whatever is said "

Not once did I suggest you should change your preferences .

Nor did I say you should shag fat people .

My inference was that there's no need to slate anyone on here for their preferences by suggesting that they would go with anything with a pulse . That's judgemental however you choose to look at it .

Anyway , enough said , and yes you may say you've touched a nerve which you think says more about me than you .

But if you care to read read the post you originally quoted , I think I am happy to have that nerve touched .

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"It's basic supply & demand & therefore 'market forces' dictate that you need to have George Clooney's looks, have Chris Hemsworth's physique, the wit of Stephen Fry, a vocabulary to rival Rachel Riley ....& a massive cock.

I have the same standards on here and on dating sites. Fun, sexy and open minded. "

Well like I say...on my dating website profile I get a fair amount of emails (not wanting that to sound braggy but simply use it as a comparison)...on here I get squat - than heavens for POF, else I'd be propping up a bar somewhere lamenting "wimmen' schwimmin...gimme another whishky"

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By *eavenscentitCouple
over a year ago

barnstaple


"It's basic supply & demand & therefore 'market forces' dictate that you need to have George Clooney's looks, have Chris Hemsworth's physique, the wit of Stephen Fry, a vocabulary to rival Rachel Riley ....& a massive cock.

I have the same standards on here and on dating sites. Fun, sexy and open minded.

Well like I say...on my dating website profile I get a fair amount of emails (not wanting that to sound braggy but simply use it as a comparison)...on here I get squat - than heavens for POF, else I'd be propping up a bar somewhere lamenting "wimmen' schwimmin...gimme another whishky""

Stick to that site then surely ....I get great sec here with no complications

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By *eavenscentitCouple
over a year ago

barnstaple

Sex sex sex

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"It's basic supply & demand & therefore 'market forces' dictate that you need to have George Clooney's looks, have Chris Hemsworth's physique, the wit of Stephen Fry, a vocabulary to rival Rachel Riley ....& a massive cock.

I have the same standards on here and on dating sites. Fun, sexy and open minded.

Well like I say...on my dating website profile I get a fair amount of emails (not wanting that to sound braggy but simply use it as a comparison)...on here I get squat - than heavens for POF, else I'd be propping up a bar somewhere lamenting "wimmen' schwimmin...gimme another whishky"

Stick to that site then surely ....I get great sec here with no complications"

Can you predict the result when in a fledgling relationship you ask "So what are your opinions on swinging?" [door slams shut] .. & there's the dilemna ...a vanilla dating website might generate a lot of interest, but personally, it's a bit of dealbreaker for me if they're not open minded (most dating website's don't have 'swinging' as a selectable interest). But come to an openminded website like fabswingers & the ratio of men to women is astronomical....and you end up as a needle in a sexual haystack.

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"How is not wanting to fuck fat people judging people? Some people find muscles a total turn off"

Surely you weren't saying you wouldn't "fuck fat people" but that you wouldn't even have sex with people who do "fuck fat people"? Those "fat people" being, in your words, "anything with a pulse"... and those who have sex with such borderline humans presumably having something wrong with them either going into it or coming out. Wasn't that the thought process?

Wow I think that's just about up there as the most offensive paragraph I've ever written. That's what Fab brings you to

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By *eavenscentitCouple
over a year ago

barnstaple


"It's basic supply & demand & therefore 'market forces' dictate that you need to have George Clooney's looks, have Chris Hemsworth's physique, the wit of Stephen Fry, a vocabulary to rival Rachel Riley ....& a massive cock.

I have the same standards on here and on dating sites. Fun, sexy and open minded.

Well like I say...on my dating website profile I get a fair amount of emails (not wanting that to sound braggy but simply use it as a comparison)...on here I get squat - than heavens for POF, else I'd be propping up a bar somewhere lamenting "wimmen' schwimmin...gimme another whishky"

Stick to that site then surely ....I get great sec here with no complications

Can you predict the result when in a fledgling relationship you ask "So what are your opinions on swinging?" [door slams shut] .. & there's the dilemna ...a vanilla dating website might generate a lot of interest, but personally, it's a bit of dealbreaker for me if they're not open minded (most dating website's don't have 'swinging' as a selectable interest). But come to an openminded website like fabswingers & the ratio of men to women is astronomical....and you end up as a needle in a sexual haystack."

Yes I can Neil asked me, we met on a dating website. I was so relieved to find a man who was good fun and sexy. We have been here ever since enjoying ourselves and each other

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"It's basic supply & demand & therefore 'market forces' dictate that you need to have George Clooney's looks, have Chris Hemsworth's physique, the wit of Stephen Fry, a vocabulary to rival Rachel Riley ....& a massive cock.

I have the same standards on here and on dating sites. Fun, sexy and open minded.

Well like I say...on my dating website profile I get a fair amount of emails (not wanting that to sound braggy but simply use it as a comparison)...on here I get squat - than heavens for POF, else I'd be propping up a bar somewhere lamenting "wimmen' schwimmin...gimme another whishky"

Stick to that site then surely ....I get great sec here with no complications

Can you predict the result when in a fledgling relationship you ask "So what are your opinions on swinging?" [door slams shut] .. & there's the dilemna ...a vanilla dating website might generate a lot of interest, but personally, it's a bit of dealbreaker for me if they're not open minded (most dating website's don't have 'swinging' as a selectable interest). But come to an openminded website like fabswingers & the ratio of men to women is astronomical....and you end up as a needle in a sexual haystack.

Yes I can Neil asked me, we met on a dating website. I was so relieved to find a man who was good fun and sexy. We have been here ever since enjoying ourselves and each other "

Believe me, you're the exception ...theres a dating website called OKCupid - you can answer a sex questionaire (they then try & match you using this as one of the compatinbility factirs)...once of the questions is "Threesomes/Group sex?" .....I'd say 49 out of 50 womens' response to that question is "it is of no interest to me" ...& that's the sad truth, to most women a Vanilla lifestyle is livin' the dream.

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By *eavenscentitCouple
over a year ago

barnstaple


"It's basic supply & demand & therefore 'market forces' dictate that you need to have George Clooney's looks, have Chris Hemsworth's physique, the wit of Stephen Fry, a vocabulary to rival Rachel Riley ....& a massive cock.

I have the same standards on here and on dating sites. Fun, sexy and open minded.

Well like I say...on my dating website profile I get a fair amount of emails (not wanting that to sound braggy but simply use it as a comparison)...on here I get squat - than heavens for POF, else I'd be propping up a bar somewhere lamenting "wimmen' schwimmin...gimme another whishky"

Stick to that site then surely ....I get great sec here with no complications

Can you predict the result when in a fledgling relationship you ask "So what are your opinions on swinging?" [door slams shut] .. & there's the dilemna ...a vanilla dating website might generate a lot of interest, but personally, it's a bit of dealbreaker for me if they're not open minded (most dating website's don't have 'swinging' as a selectable interest). But come to an openminded website like fabswingers & the ratio of men to women is astronomical....and you end up as a needle in a sexual haystack.

Yes I can Neil asked me, we met on a dating website. I was so relieved to find a man who was good fun and sexy. We have been here ever since enjoying ourselves and each other

Believe me, you're the exception ...theres a dating website called OKCupid - you can answer a sex questionaire (they then try & match you using this as one of the compatinbility factirs)...once of the questions is "Threesomes/Group sex?" .....I'd say 49 out of 50 womens' response to that question is "it is of no interest to me" ...& that's the sad truth, to most women a Vanilla lifestyle is livin' the dream."

Sadly that dream was my nightmare, my swinging relationship suits me just fine and him

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"It's basic supply & demand & therefore 'market forces' dictate that you need to have George Clooney's looks, have Chris Hemsworth's physique, the wit of Stephen Fry, a vocabulary to rival Rachel Riley ....& a massive cock.

I have the same standards on here and on dating sites. Fun, sexy and open minded.

Well like I say...on my dating website profile I get a fair amount of emails (not wanting that to sound braggy but simply use it as a comparison)...on here I get squat - than heavens for POF, else I'd be propping up a bar somewhere lamenting "wimmen' schwimmin...gimme another whishky"

Stick to that site then surely ....I get great sec here with no complications

Can you predict the result when in a fledgling relationship you ask "So what are your opinions on swinging?" [door slams shut] .. & there's the dilemna ...a vanilla dating website might generate a lot of interest, but personally, it's a bit of dealbreaker for me if they're not open minded (most dating website's don't have 'swinging' as a selectable interest). But come to an openminded website like fabswingers & the ratio of men to women is astronomical....and you end up as a needle in a sexual haystack."

Interesting responses. I really think men are just more naturally inclined towards polyamory than women. In most stories of affairs it always seems the guy is quite happy having a primary family relationship and a secondary sexual relationship. Women seem to prefer more monogamous situations.

This seems to be the dividing line between the dating sites and Fab. On here it's more tuned into sex the way guys want it, passionate and hot but without any baggage. On dating sites it's more tuned to sex the way women want it, passionate and hot, but only after you've finished loading all my heavy baggage, warts and all, onto it. They're both right of course. Sex with a connection is the best... and relationships are often best started with a no baggage mindset. This is why women and men work well together when they click

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By *antsguy007Man
over a year ago

Whiteley


"I've never been to a (swing) club and don't think I would but I've been on here over 6 years and always find what I want on here. "

I would say that fab is definetly a Ladies market - just don't think we are all cock shot happy cum n goers

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By *entleman and SassyPussCouple
over a year ago

.

A thread that turns into fat shaming, yet again.

#NotCool

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By *loswingersCouple
over a year ago

Gloucester


"How is not wanting to fuck fat people judging people? Some people find muscles a total turn off

Surely you weren't saying you wouldn't "fuck fat people" but that you wouldn't even have sex with people who do "fuck fat people"? Those "fat people" being, in your words, "anything with a pulse"... and those who have sex with such borderline humans presumably having something wrong with them either going into it or coming out. Wasn't that the thought process?

Wow I think that's just about up there as the most offensive paragraph I've ever written. That's what Fab brings you to "

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Some very desperate men on here to after seeing what they chase.

Seriously keep the bar high guys.

a guy that has no standards is a total turn off for me no matter how fit he looks

Hang on ....

Who are these women who guys with no standards go with ?

Keep the bar up ?

Could we have a list of those people who shouldn't really be getting meets please .

I'd hate to think that we may have ever lowered our bar ..... or worse still that guys who meet us are letting the team down by lowering theirs .

The arrogance of some people is truly unbelievable sometimes . How wonderful it must be to be perfect , and to sit in judgement of those you consider below you .

Jeez... chill

We all have preferences Just so happens some of us on this thread don't want to fuck people who've fucked anything with a pulse!

Nobody said they were perfect that's just our choice"

Don't worry you'll meet someone you like if you keep looking. Not everyone is put off by women with loads of verifications.

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By *loswingersCouple
over a year ago

Gloucester


"Some very desperate men on here to after seeing what they chase.

Seriously keep the bar high guys. "

Care to elaborate on this ?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Some very desperate men on here to after seeing what they chase.

Seriously keep the bar high guys.

"

i dont know about keeping it high, but ill gladly prop it up!

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By *orum TrollWoman
over a year ago

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0 amount of men. i'd say maybe 1% offer better sex and less selfish sex than the rest but even then there's a high amount of men offering that overall.

the whole package though? even less than 1%. looks, intelligence, company, aftercare, nice thick dick.

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