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Why do guys go all huffy when you post a meet?

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

Have noticed this a number of times. When I post a meet I notice that guys I have chatting to on the site suddenly go all quiet on me, suddenly stopping all chat. Does.any other female experience this on fab? Bit childish

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By *weeSeekoeieCouple
over a year ago

Richmond


"Have noticed this a number of times. When I post a meet I notice that guys I have chatting to on the site suddenly go all quiet on me, suddenly stopping all chat. Does.any other female experience this on fab? Bit childish"

Um. I think it's the "I want you to be a slut in bed, as long as you're a slut in my bed ONLY" type of thing.

Whatever.

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By *inky-MinxWoman
over a year ago

Grantham

I've not noticed this but then I've not posted a meet very often

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By *anky_PankyWoman
over a year ago

Filthy Fuckeryville

Yup! Sure have OP! I think it's often a case of why not just ask me instead?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

No I cant say I have noticed it .. but ive not been looking for it but you have a point OP come to think of it. You expect the guys you been chatting to would want to meet you but they do seem to disappear when you post a meet. Hmm

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Twee is correct. Us guys can be very Neanderthal and think that because someone is giving us attention they become our property hence the huff when we realise you don't beling to us and are your own person. My advice......anyone behaving like that get that block button finger warmed up, you'll need it lol

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"Have noticed this a number of times. When I post a meet I notice that guys I have chatting to on the site suddenly go all quiet on me, suddenly stopping all chat. Does.any other female experience this on fab? Bit childish

Um. I think it's the "I want you to be a slut in bed, as long as you're a slut in my bed ONLY" type of thing.

Whatever."

Yep, that makes sense!

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By *appily marriedCouple
over a year ago

Norwich

Lol, jealousy.........on this site?!!!!!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Have noticed this a number of times. When I post a meet I notice that guys I have chatting to on the site suddenly go all quiet on me, suddenly stopping all chat. Does.any other female experience this on fab? Bit childish"

Guessing they assume you're busy organising a meet with somone and don't see the point in messaging for it to get buried?

Even close friends on here can be difficult to contact when they have a meet up as you csn be off the front page of Thier inbox before they get a chance to see it.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Have noticed this a number of times. When I post a meet I notice that guys I have chatting to on the site suddenly go all quiet on me, suddenly stopping all chat. Does.any other female experience this on fab? Bit childish

Guessing they assume you're busy organising a meet with somone and don't see the point in messaging for it to get buried?

Even close friends on here can be difficult to contact when they have a meet up as you csn be off the front page of Thier inbox before they get a chance to see it.

"

Seeing as the weight of competition is already stacked against the single male, perhaps the sudden change from "I wanna get with you" to "I wanna get with any man on this site" might be intimidating for some men.

Perhaps you're thinking that blokes don't suffer from self-doubt.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Have noticed this a number of times. When I post a meet I notice that guys I have chatting to on the site suddenly go all quiet on me, suddenly stopping all chat. Does.any other female experience this on fab? Bit childish"

why not ask those guys for a meet?

It may look like you would rather meet some random guy then a guys you were chatting to already

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By *ighland gentlemanMan
over a year ago

Ardgay

I see no point in getting huffy or upset.

You have to accept that folk on here are after different things at different times.

Yes, folk on here might look for a meet when I've been chatting to them. If I could be available I'd let them know otherwise I usually wish them luck.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I can't understand why those fellas that have been chatting don't respond to the meet request.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Yes this happens.

I asked a couple of guys, who I've met before, if they could meet up the following week. Both couldn't make it.

So I put up a 'looking for a meet'.

One of the guys blocked me and the other went quite on me.

My time to meet is limited, I did ask them, but they both became huffy over it.

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By *oghunter33Woman
over a year ago

on the hill NordWest of

I can understand it to an extent. Just try to put yourself into their shoes: Imagine plenty of female competition and men are the rare breed. you're chatting to a man, he seems to have interest, he's smart, good looking and charming, the chatting goes well and you put in an effort hoping to meet him. Bang! suddenly a meet post goes up and he didn't even consider asking you. Would you not be a bit disappointed?

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By *hips n FursMan
over a year ago

Huddersfield


"I can understand it to an extent. Just try to put yourself into their shoes: Imagine plenty of female competition and men are the rare breed. you're chatting to a man, he seems to have interest, he's smart, good looking and charming, the chatting goes well and you put in an effort hoping to meet him. Bang! suddenly a meet post goes up and he didn't even consider asking you. Would you not be a bit disappointed?

"

In some cases I think this hits the nail on the head.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I can understand it to an extent. Just try to put yourself into their shoes: Imagine plenty of female competition and men are the rare breed. you're chatting to a man, he seems to have interest, he's smart, good looking and charming, the chatting goes well and you put in an effort hoping to meet him. Bang! suddenly a meet post goes up and he didn't even consider asking you. Would you not be a bit disappointed?

"

I think a lot of the time it's this, my pride would hurt haha. Sometimes it's just childishness too.... Perhaps men who have been chatting should offer to be the meet, I like to be the one to be propositioned

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Yes this happens.

I asked a couple of guys, who I've met before, if they could meet up the following week. Both couldn't make it.

So I put up a 'looking for a meet'.

One of the guys blocked me and the other went quite on me.

My time to meet is limited, I did ask them, but they both became huffy over it.

"

Fabs is both a place where intimacy with strangers is an object and where rejection is commonplace. Both are somewhat unusual. We either ignore or turn down guys, most of whom are probably lovely people, for the most trite reasons and just because 'we can' or we have to. Can't meet 'em all and wouldn't have the energy! If they aren't naturally confident people (and who likes a guy with a big ego?) Im sure some get hurt. I think it's too easy to take an 'if you cant take the heat...' approach. Cut 'em some slack, I say!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Doesnt bother me. So long as I might get the clean up job lol

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By *andomfodCouple
over a year ago

walsall

You'd think that any guy you're talking to would start paying more attention when you post a meet. Surely if they're wanting to meet you, they can make it happen at that point?

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"Have noticed this a number of times. When I post a meet I notice that guys I have chatting to on the site suddenly go all quiet on me, suddenly stopping all chat. Does.any other female experience this on fab? Bit childish

Guessing they assume you're busy organising a meet with somone and don't see the point in messaging for it to get buried?

Even close friends on here can be difficult to contact when they have a meet up as you csn be off the front page of Thier inbox before they get a chance to see it.

Seeing as the weight of competition is already stacked against the single male, perhaps the sudden change from "I wanna get with you" to "I wanna get with any man on this site" might be intimidating for some men.

Perhaps you're thinking that blokes don't suffer from self-doubt. "

I tend not.to ask guys I am chatting to if they want to meet. Guess I am old fashioned but I want a guy to do the chasing. However saying that if I do want a definite meet I will post one on here and wait for the replies

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By *oiluvfunMan
over a year ago

Penrith


"Have noticed this a number of times. When I post a meet I notice that guys I have chatting to on the site suddenly go all quiet on me, suddenly stopping all chat. Does.any other female experience this on fab? Bit childish"

Childish? If that's what you think, fair enough. But if I'm chatting and getting on great with a woman, and she lists a meet without mentioning it to me, I would think 'she's not that into me then, otherwise she would've asked me to meet'. Put the shoe on the other foot; how would you react?

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"I can understand it to an extent. Just try to put yourself into their shoes: Imagine plenty of female competition and men are the rare breed. you're chatting to a man, he seems to have interest, he's smart, good looking and charming, the chatting goes well and you put in an effort hoping to meet him. Bang! suddenly a meet post goes up and he didn't even consider asking you. Would you not be a bit disappointed?

In some cases I think this hits the nail on the head."

I have been in similar situation. I met a guy 80 miles away for a social when I was working up north but we didnt have time to go and have fun. Although we promised to within next few weeks. Next day he posted a meet seeking sexy fun with a local female. So I was a bit hurt initially I agree but seen where he was coming from. We did eventually have a great time a few.months later!

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By *oiluvfunMan
over a year ago

Penrith


"You'd think that any guy you're talking to would start paying more attention when you post a meet. Surely if they're wanting to meet you, they can make it happen at that point?"

The beauty of the forums; proof that men are from Mars, and women are from Venus lol!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Have noticed this a number of times. When I post a meet I notice that guys I have chatting to on the site suddenly go all quiet on me, suddenly stopping all chat. Does.any other female experience this on fab? Bit childish

Guessing they assume you're busy organising a meet with somone and don't see the point in messaging for it to get buried?

Even close friends on here can be difficult to contact when they have a meet up as you csn be off the front page of Thier inbox before they get a chance to see it.

Seeing as the weight of competition is already stacked against the single male, perhaps the sudden change from "I wanna get with you" to "I wanna get with any man on this site" might be intimidating for some men.

Perhaps you're thinking that blokes don't suffer from self-doubt.

I tend not.to ask guys I am chatting to if they want to meet. Guess I am old fashioned but I want a guy to do the chasing. However saying that if I do want a definite meet I will post one on here and wait for the replies"

I can sort of see your point by for us, fab isn't the sort of place to be old fashioned.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Have noticed this a number of times. When I post a meet I notice that guys I have chatting to on the site suddenly go all quiet on me, suddenly stopping all chat. Does.any other female experience this on fab? Bit childish

Childish? If that's what you think, fair enough. But if I'm chatting and getting on great with a woman, and she lists a meet without mentioning it to me, I would think 'she's not that into me then, otherwise she would've asked me to meet'. Put the shoe on the other foot; how would you react?"

If I was the man I would simply ask.. Wouldn't get my knickers in a twist

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"Have noticed this a number of times. When I post a meet I notice that guys I have chatting to on the site suddenly go all quiet on me, suddenly stopping all chat. Does.any other female experience this on fab? Bit childish

Childish? If that's what you think, fair enough. But if I'm chatting and getting on great with a woman, and she lists a meet without mentioning it to me, I would think 'she's not that into me then, otherwise she would've asked me to meet'. Put the shoe on the other foot; how would you react?"

In my case however the three guys I was chatting to hadn't mentioned meeting me at the stage I posted a meet.

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By *oiluvfunMan
over a year ago

Penrith


"Have noticed this a number of times. When I post a meet I notice that guys I have chatting to on the site suddenly go all quiet on me, suddenly stopping all chat. Does.any other female experience this on fab? Bit childish

Guessing they assume you're busy organising a meet with somone and don't see the point in messaging for it to get buried?

Even close friends on here can be difficult to contact when they have a meet up as you csn be off the front page of Thier inbox before they get a chance to see it.

Seeing as the weight of competition is already stacked against the single male, perhaps the sudden change from "I wanna get with you" to "I wanna get with any man on this site" might be intimidating for some men.

Perhaps you're thinking that blokes don't suffer from self-doubt.

I tend not.to ask guys I am chatting to if they want to meet. Guess I am old fashioned but I want a guy to do the chasing. However saying that if I do want a definite meet I will post one on here and wait for the replies"

And again, a point to note; we guys are chastised for being 'too pushy' and 'always banging on wanting to meet'. We really can't win

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By *oiluvfunMan
over a year ago

Penrith


"Have noticed this a number of times. When I post a meet I notice that guys I have chatting to on the site suddenly go all quiet on me, suddenly stopping all chat. Does.any other female experience this on fab? Bit childish

Childish? If that's what you think, fair enough. But if I'm chatting and getting on great with a woman, and she lists a meet without mentioning it to me, I would think 'she's not that into me then, otherwise she would've asked me to meet'. Put the shoe on the other foot; how would you react?

If I was the man I would simply ask.. Wouldn't get my knickers in a twist "

That's the thing though; men have feelings too, and will wonder where they went wrong; 'oh God, was I too nice again? Need to be more alpha male next time'

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Some valid points made but what.if men going 'huffy' might actually be them thinking your looking else where and they might just then chat up another lady? I never respond to meet requests as i assume theres little point due to single fems being inundated with messages..best to stick to club meets....

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Have noticed this a number of times. When I post a meet I notice that guys I have chatting to on the site suddenly go all quiet on me, suddenly stopping all chat. Does.any other female experience this on fab? Bit childish

Guessing they assume you're busy organising a meet with somone and don't see the point in messaging for it to get buried?

Even close friends on here can be difficult to contact when they have a meet up as you csn be off the front page of Thier inbox before they get a chance to see it.

Seeing as the weight of competition is already stacked against the single male, perhaps the sudden change from "I wanna get with you" to "I wanna get with any man on this site" might be intimidating for some men.

Perhaps you're thinking that blokes don't suffer from self-doubt.

I tend not.to ask guys I am chatting to if they want to meet. Guess I am old fashioned but I want a guy to do the chasing. However saying that if I do want a definite meet I will post one on here and wait for the replies

And again, a point to note; we guys are chastised for being 'too pushy' and 'always banging on wanting to meet'. We really can't win "
so true... take a bow son......

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Good for them keeping the bar high.

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By *oiluvfunMan
over a year ago

Penrith


"Have noticed this a number of times. When I post a meet I notice that guys I have chatting to on the site suddenly go all quiet on me, suddenly stopping all chat. Does.any other female experience this on fab? Bit childish

Guessing they assume you're busy organising a meet with somone and don't see the point in messaging for it to get buried?

Even close friends on here can be difficult to contact when they have a meet up as you csn be off the front page of Thier inbox before they get a chance to see it.

Seeing as the weight of competition is already stacked against the single male, perhaps the sudden change from "I wanna get with you" to "I wanna get with any man on this site" might be intimidating for some men.

Perhaps you're thinking that blokes don't suffer from self-doubt.

I tend not.to ask guys I am chatting to if they want to meet. Guess I am old fashioned but I want a guy to do the chasing. However saying that if I do want a definite meet I will post one on here and wait for the replies

And again, a point to note; we guys are chastised for being 'too pushy' and 'always banging on wanting to meet'. We really can't win so true... take a bow son...... "

Cheers mate

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Have noticed this a number of times. When I post a meet I notice that guys I have chatting to on the site suddenly go all quiet on me, suddenly stopping all chat. Does.any other female experience this on fab? Bit childish

Childish? If that's what you think, fair enough. But if I'm chatting and getting on great with a woman, and she lists a meet without mentioning it to me, I would think 'she's not that into me then, otherwise she would've asked me to meet'. Put the shoe on the other foot; how would you react?

If I was the man I would simply ask.. Wouldn't get my knickers in a twist

That's the thing though; men have feelings too, and will wonder where they went wrong; 'oh God, was I too nice again? Need to be more alpha male next time' "

What are these 'feelings' you speak of?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

One word - ego

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

maybe why do you need to post an ad when you having been talking to them - goes through their mind

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I can understand it to an extent. Just try to put yourself into their shoes: Imagine plenty of female competition and men are the rare breed. you're chatting to a man, he seems to have interest, he's smart, good looking and charming, the chatting goes well and you put in an effort hoping to meet him. Bang! suddenly a meet post goes up and he didn't even consider asking you. Would you not be a bit disappointed?

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Well said!

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By *retend_Shy_GuyMan
over a year ago

Edinburgh

Surely, the point of being here is variety? Also I/we have no claim to others so jealousy shouldn't (but often does) happen.

Personally when my friends post a meet im quick to offer myself for some quality time, if not have fun and I'll catch you next time.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I can understand it to an extent. Just try to put yourself into their shoes: Imagine plenty of female competition and men are the rare breed. you're chatting to a man, he seems to have interest, he's smart, good looking and charming, the chatting goes well and you put in an effort hoping to meet him. Bang! suddenly a meet post goes up and he didn't even consider asking you. Would you not be a bit disappointed?

I think a lot of the time it's this, my pride would hurt haha. Sometimes it's just childishness too.... Perhaps men who have been chatting should offer to be the meet, I like to be the one to be propositioned "

I'm not sure it is pride,more of a consideration. If I were talking with a lady and she posted a meet, I would assume that she did not want to meet with me in particular otherwise she would have just asked me. Therefore I would step aside for a bit, so that she would not be forced to tell me she was not interested. Certainly if I was talking to a woman and was interested in a meet I wouldn't have her find out that I wanted to see her by posting a meet on the site. I would just ask her if she was available.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"One word - ego"

But who's ego?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

It works same way with us women though.

I have the problem that most men I chat with and /or have met once have responsibilities with their children so meets never happen so I post a meet but I can't help it that they are not able to meet me due to having their kids. It happens over and over.

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By *axandbooCouple
over a year ago

Bristol

from our perspective a meet with us is like playing the lottery "you got to be in it to win it"

we dont get as much time as we would like and rather than messaging every bloke we post up. if they go quiet its their loss. I know that sounds harsh but we are not psychic and if they dont say anything we wont know.

if they want to block us, its up to them, no offence to anyone but you can throw a stone and hit 5 other single blokes who will take their place.

move onwards and upwards

Dax

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By *retend_Shy_GuyMan
over a year ago

Edinburgh


"from our perspective a meet with us is like playing the lottery "you got to be in it to win it"

we dont get as much time as we would like and rather than messaging every bloke we post up. if they go quiet its their loss. I know that sounds harsh but we are not psychic and if they dont say anything we wont know.

if they want to block us, its up to them, no offence to anyone but you can throw a stone and hit 5 other single blokes who will take their place.

move onwards and upwards

Dax "

Lmao, got to be in it to win it!

Quote of the day

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By *isaB45Woman
over a year ago

Fabville

Maybe it's because boys don't like sharing their toys?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Have noticed this a number of times. When I post a meet I notice that guys I have chatting to on the site suddenly go all quiet on me, suddenly stopping all chat. Does.any other female experience this on fab? Bit childish"

So why didn't you ask the guys you were chatting with if they want to meet? What a slap in the face for those guys!!

Maybe they didn't ask you because they were trying not to look pushy. I met a couple once. Had a great time and was complimented in a chat room. I asked them 3 times over the following 4 months

if they would like to meet again only to be told I was being pushy. Us guys just cant win!!!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"from our perspective a meet with us is like playing the lottery "you got to be in it to win it"

we dont get as much time as we would like and rather than messaging every bloke we post up. if they go quiet its their loss. I know that sounds harsh but we are not psychic and if they dont say anything we wont know.

if they want to block us, its up to them, no offence to anyone but you can throw a stone and hit 5 other single blokes who will take their place.

move onwards and upwards

Dax "

spot on

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By *oiluvfunMan
over a year ago

Penrith


"Maybe it's because boys don't like sharing their toys? "

Are you thinking this is a guy she's met before, rather than a first meet? Hadn't thought of that angle. Maybe he doesn't want to share, people do get attached. But in the main, this is still a swingers' site, and variety is the spice of life. If they had met previously, I think either of them would have been more forward about asking for another meet wouldn't they?

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By *oodmessMan
over a year ago

yumsville


"Have noticed this a number of times. When I post a meet I notice that guys I have chatting to on the site suddenly go all quiet on me, suddenly stopping all chat. Does.any other female experience this on fab? Bit childish

why not ask those guys for a meet?

It may look like you would rather meet some random guy then a guys you were chatting to already "

Simple question gets asked.

Simple answer gets overlooked.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

If I am chatting to someone and they post for a meet, then i would offer to meet, if i am available at on the day.

If not, have fun.

It could be however that they go quiet to allow you some free time to chat with people that want to meet.

Other than that maybe they have taken the huff, are just busy or whatever

I wouldnt look to deeply into it

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"If I am chatting to someone and they post for a meet, then i would offer to meet, if i am available at on the day.

If not, have fun.

It could be however that they go quiet to allow you some free time to chat with people that want to meet.

Other than that maybe they have taken the huff, are just busy or whatever

I wouldnt look to deeply into it"

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Rude,

If we were talking to anybody about meeting up or flirting we'd ask them first before posting a meet wanted up, common courtesy really, if the roles were reversed and they put a meet up before asking us then we'd move on to people who were keen to meet us, guess these guys moved on in your case OP, sometimes having your cake & eating it doesn't work, we're thry maybe your fallback if you didn't get the meet you wanted? X

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"If I am chatting to someone and they post for a meet, then i would offer to meet, if i am available at on the day.

If not, have fun.

It could be however that they go quiet to allow you some free time to chat with people that want to meet.

Other than that maybe they have taken the huff, are just busy or whatever

I wouldnt look to deeply into it"

Yes, people seem to do a lot of mind reading on here, and add 2 and 2 together and get 5.

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By *inkyChrissy99TV/TS
over a year ago

Bristol


"Have noticed this a number of times. When I post a meet I notice that guys I have chatting to on the site suddenly go all quiet on me, suddenly stopping all chat. Does.any other female experience this on fab? Bit childish

Um. I think it's the "I want you to be a slut in bed, as long as you're a slut in my bed ONLY" type of thing.

Whatever."

Its exactly this... I just tell them I post an event whenever I go out So my friends can see what i'm upto

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By *oiluvfunMan
over a year ago

Penrith


"Rude,

If we were talking to anybody about meeting up or flirting we'd ask them first before posting a meet wanted up, common courtesy really, if the roles were reversed and they put a meet up before asking us then we'd move on to people who were keen to meet us, guess these guys moved on in your case OP, sometimes having your cake & eating it doesn't work, where they're maybe your fallback if you didn't get the meet you wanted? X"

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

It's not jealousy

It's them losing their bottle

They are all chat and actually would not meet

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Have noticed this a number of times. When I post a meet I notice that guys I have chatting to on the site suddenly go all quiet on me, suddenly stopping all chat. Does.any other female experience this on fab? Bit childish"

Yeah I had that recently after I met someone else, from speaking every day they went quiet and started ignoring me & things. I felt like I'd done something wrong, and it bothered me for a bit as I'm the kinda person that hates upsetting or offending anyone. On the other hand when someone I've met sees someone else it doesn't bother me at all as it's not my business what they get upto .

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I can understand it to an extent. Just try to put yourself into their shoes: Imagine plenty of female competition and men are the rare breed. you're chatting to a man, he seems to have interest, he's smart, good looking and charming, the chatting goes well and you put in an effort hoping to meet him. Bang! suddenly a meet post goes up and he didn't even consider asking you. Would you not be a bit disappointed?

I think a lot of the time it's this, my pride would hurt haha. Sometimes it's just childishness too.... Perhaps men who have been chatting should offer to be the meet, I like to be the one to be propositioned

I'm not sure it is pride,more of a consideration. If I were talking with a lady and she posted a meet, I would assume that she did not want to meet with me in particular otherwise she would have just asked me. Therefore I would step aside for a bit, so that she would not be forced to tell me she was not interested. Certainly if I was talking to a woman and was interested in a meet I wouldn't have her find out that I wanted to see her by posting a meet on the site. I would just ask her if she was available."

And I would say yes to you

I usually agree to arrange a meet once I've chatted for a bit and I know we'll have a good time, but I still like to be asked ...if I've got an evening free I will post up a meet which anyone is welcome to message me about, including if we've already spoken - I just presumed if they were free they would message . I quite often speak to males on here who end up not being free at the same times as us, so I would hope it wouldn't offend them?

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over a year ago

We don't get friendly over message to avoid this. We will polite and reply to messages if they are polite. But don't partake in chat. If we want a meet we just post it and message whoever we are interested in that's nearby and good looking and take it from there. Or wait for messages to come in.

~Mia

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"We don't get friendly over message to avoid this. We will polite and reply to messages if they are polite. But don't partake in chat. If we want a meet we just post it and message whoever we are interested in that's nearby and good looking and take it from there. Or wait for messages to come in.

~Mia"

Good strategy

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"We don't get friendly over message to avoid this. We will polite and reply to messages if they are polite. But don't partake in chat. If we want a meet we just post it and message whoever we are interested in that's nearby and good looking and take it from there. Or wait for messages to come in.

~Mia

Good strategy "

We were friendly with folk before but ended up getting abuse from a lot of people for not telling them about it even when they said they weren't available.

Some people are strange

~Mia

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Rude,

If we were talking to anybody about meeting up or flirting we'd ask them first before posting a meet wanted up, common courtesy really, if the roles were reversed and they put a meet up before asking us then we'd move on to people who were keen to meet us, guess these guys moved on in your case OP, sometimes having your cake & eating it doesn't work, we're thry maybe your fallback if you didn't get the meet you wanted? X"

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By *D835Man
over a year ago

London


"Rude,

If we were talking to anybody about meeting up or flirting we'd ask them first before posting a meet wanted up, common courtesy really, if the roles were reversed and they put a meet up before asking us then we'd move on to people who were keen to meet us, guess these guys moved on in your case OP, sometimes having your cake & eating it doesn't work, we're thry maybe your fallback if you didn't get the meet you wanted? X"

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"I can understand it to an extent. Just try to put yourself into their shoes: Imagine plenty of female competition and men are the rare breed. you're chatting to a man, he seems to have interest, he's smart, good looking and charming, the chatting goes well and you put in an effort hoping to meet him. Bang! suddenly a meet post goes up and he didn't even consider asking you. Would you not be a bit disappointed?

I think a lot of the time it's this, my pride would hurt haha. Sometimes it's just childishness too.... Perhaps men who have been chatting should offer to be the meet, I like to be the one to be propositioned

I'm not sure it is pride,more of a consideration. If I were talking with a lady and she posted a meet, I would assume that she did not want to meet with me in particular otherwise she would have just asked me. Therefore I would step aside for a bit, so that she would not be forced to tell me she was not interested. Certainly if I was talking to a woman and was interested in a meet I wouldn't have her find out that I wanted to see her by posting a meet on the site. I would just ask her if she was available."

Yeah but I never ask a guy if he wants to meet me or would he be up for a meet. Never. I always wait on him asking me if I would consider a meet.

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"Rude,

If we were talking to anybody about meeting up or flirting we'd ask them first before posting a meet wanted up, common courtesy really, if the roles were reversed and they put a meet up before asking us then we'd move on to people who were keen to meet us, guess these guys moved on in your case OP, sometimes having your cake & eating it doesn't work, we're thry maybe your fallback if you didn't get the meet you wanted? X"

Ah I stated earlier that these were guys I was simply chatting to only. No meets were ever discussed. We were just exchanging messages. So no I don't think it rude in the slightest. I just noticed that the conversation dried up on their behalf when I posted a meet,which I have every right to do.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Yes, Me thinks, they secretly want you or me or any other female all to themselves! It's that hunter gatherer thing!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I'm as curious as you are too. To me a single female or couple putting up a meet is no reason to feel huffy whatsoever, they're free to meet whoever they want and unless they have made an arrangement or understanding with you to have exclusivity then nobody is in any position to feel slighted about such meets being posted.

To me a swinging profile that puts up meet notices regularly is far more attractive for me to message and see if something gets on between me and them. Because the intent is clear: they want a meet, you talk to them online, if the pieces fall into place voila, go on and have fun. Much better and upfront than just blindly messaging a profile out of the blue with an open-ended ending as to whether or not you two would 1) end up swinging, 2) end up being just friends, or 3) just be ships passing in the dark.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Yup! Sure have OP! I think it's often a case of why not just ask me instead? "
Can I be thick, and just ask what "OP" means?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Lol, jealousy.........on this site?!!!!!"

I don't think we are advanced enough to have rid of that pest we call jealousy

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By *hris 696969Man
over a year ago

Blackpool

True

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Yup! Sure have OP! I think it's often a case of why not just ask me instead? Can I be thick, and just ask what "OP" means? "

Opening poster/post.

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By *hris 696969Man
over a year ago

Blackpool

I agree with you mate

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

They get huffy because they have put a lot of effort in chatting hoping this will achieve their goal of sex, only for you to give it away to some git whose only had to respond to a meet request

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"They get huffy because they have put a lot of effort in chatting hoping this will achieve their goal of sex, only for you to give it away to some git whose only had to respond to a meet request "

I think that's spot on.

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By *herealdeal90Man
over a year ago

Huddersfield


"Have noticed this a number of times. When I post a meet I notice that guys I have chatting to on the site suddenly go all quiet on me, suddenly stopping all chat. Does.any other female experience this on fab? Bit childish"

Yeah cos if you're talking to someone, and you're into him and vice versa. Then why don't you just ask him rather than posting a meet????

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By *eady and Willing 9Man
over a year ago

Wherever the party is @


"Yup! Sure have OP! I think it's often a case of why not just ask me instead? "

But I can understand that..if you've been chatting and getting along then why not meet them?

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