FabSwingers.com forum: Can fat men be sexy

By *igmac71 OP Man
over a year ago

Boston

Ive been on fab a while now in boston. Not one reply!!! Whats going on

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

That depends on who your messaging and if they like the look of your profile

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By *igmac71 OP Man
over a year ago

Boston

Ha fair enough i guess. Ive been out of the game a very long time, now keen to jump back in with both feet.

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By *ade_of_StarsCouple
over a year ago

Whitburn

I have a fat sexy guy x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I hope so being fat myself

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

No fat men ain't sexy

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Bald men also not sexy or ginger men

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By *lem-H-FandangoMan
over a year ago

salisbury

"Ive been on fab a while now in boston. Not one reply!!! Whats going on

Unfortunately, until there's a fab shortage of cock, there will be no such thing as a BBM.

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By *SAchickWoman
over a year ago

Hillside desolate

I like bigger men sometimes, I like all that weight bearing down on me

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By *igmac71 OP Man
over a year ago

Boston

And he is a lucky guy!!!!!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"No fat men ain't sexy "

Neither are athletic women.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I think im fat , actually I know I am , but without blowing my own trumpet, if only i could , id have to say i have had alot of positive comments about my fatness , i think in general fat is sexy and feels nice , but like tits ?

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By *lem-H-FandangoMan
over a year ago

salisbury

"No fat men ain't sexy

Neither are athletic women. "

incorrect.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Yes they can. Try smiling OP

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I hope so being fat myself "

You're not fat - you're delicious

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By *inky-MinxWoman
over a year ago

Grantham

From my experiences on here a lot of men look to find a fault that is what's stopping them getting meets.

Their body, age, height, location etc. When it's usually something simple. Like the fact women look at a profile before answering a message

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By *inky-MinxWoman
over a year ago

Grantham

"I hope so being fat myself "

Really?

#fishingforcompliments

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By *ungBlackTopMan
over a year ago

salford

yes of course they can. It's not about the fat it's about how you carry yourself.

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By *issVeryWoman
over a year ago

streatham

Yeah, but being grumpy isn't!

Take some new photos and smile!

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By *rightonsteveMan
over a year ago

Brighton - even Hove!

It isn't the fact that you're fat that is preventing you from getting meets. Think to yourself what else it could possibly be....

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

In real life? Yeah.

On here? No.

And thats not a dig at fat men. But people need to understand that you're on a sex site with a limited number of women and couples and about 10-15 men to every one. In any such lopsided marketplace, someone has gotta lose. And considering, the very layout of this site should make it obvious that visuals play a big part in selection, it would be easy to draw the conclusion that more "mainstream" looks will garner more attention.

If you want to stand out with these, its best to frequent the real life socials and events. Its not rocket science.

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By *gnitemybodyWoman
over a year ago

Onestepoutofthedoor

Smiling may help...

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Try smiling

Send interesting messages ...maybe try to stimulate the mind

Look at your profile content

....ppl like all shapes and sizes so I doubt it's your physique that's going against you

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Hope so or I'm destined for the scrap heap!!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

This fat bloke doesn't do too badly here so I'd venture to suggest that it's not what's holding you back in this instance.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

They can.. if they lose weight and get into some sort of shape.

As someone said above, that's mainly just here though, less so in real life

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By *hubaysiWoman
over a year ago

Leeds

Maybe send more interesting messages and stop being so chuffing miserable which is a turn off!!!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Bald men also not sexy or ginger men "

I am balding fat and ginger, my cock is small and I am 5'8. I am smooth and have small hands. But I can go all night like a rabbit, find all your g-spots, make you squirt and cum over and over. I can accommodate and want more than a one night stand.

Well fuck all else works on here....

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

It's not about being fat ! It's like saying can a tall/short person be sexy. It's subjective.

I think very overweight is visually unattractive yet that person could be an absolute diamond and have other traits which become attractive over time.

It's more about compatibility and personality I know a few athletic/slim people who are twunts and a few that are as beautiful inside as they are visually. And vice versa.

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By *entleman55Man
over a year ago

S’th West Mc/r

"It's not about being fat ! It's like saying can a tall/short person be sexy. It's subjective.

I think very overweight is visually unattractive yet that person could be an absolute diamond and have other traits which become attractive over time.

It's more about compatibility and personality I know a few athletic/slim people who are twunts and a few that are as beautiful inside as they are visually. And vice versa. "

Absolutely

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By *pider-WomanWoman
over a year ago

Exeter, Bristol, Plymouth, Truro

Physical attractiveness is a personal thing for me Im not attracted to overweight or bald.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"No fat men ain't sexy

Neither are athletic women. "

Both are sweeping statements

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Bald men also not sexy or ginger men "

Your a delight aren't you. Any opinions on any other visual trait? Underweight people?

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By *ullswapcouple30Couple
over a year ago

Valleys

"No fat men ain't sexy "

To you maybe. Plenty of people who do

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By *bsinthe_boyMan
over a year ago

Luton

I seem to do ok....

It's down to confidence and a positive attitude as much as anything.

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By *wo-GoodCouple
over a year ago

South London

As above, confidence goes a long way

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By *rueone71Man
over a year ago

Hiding in the Barnes

With me I think is more down to personality... (or i try to hope so...Lol

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"No fat men ain't sexy

Neither are athletic women. "

Not true

- Mrs. J -

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By *rueone71Man
over a year ago

Hiding in the Barnes

"No fat men ain't sexy

Neither are athletic women.

Not true

- Mrs. J -"

Which one

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"No fat men ain't sexy

Neither are athletic women.

Not true

- Mrs. J -

Which one

Neither is true

Some women like large men; some men like athletic women. There are no hard and fast rules where attraction is concerned

- Mrs. J -

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By *rueone71Man
over a year ago

Hiding in the Barnes

"No fat men ain't sexy

Neither are athletic women.

Not true

- Mrs. J -

Which one

Neither is true

Some women like large men; some men like athletic women. There are no hard and fast rules where attraction is concerned

- Mrs. J -"

that's more clear

btw...I totally agree

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"No fat men ain't sexy

Neither are athletic women.

Not true

- Mrs. J -

Which one

Neither is true

Some women like large men; some men like athletic women. There are no hard and fast rules where attraction is concerned

- Mrs. J -

that's more clear

btw...I totally agree

Exactly. Which is why we posted the statement about athletic women. It highlighted the invalid statement about fat men by posting a similar statement about women. Each to his/her own we say. On a site where people are looking for NSA sex then physical attraction surely is a major consideration. But those seeking long term love and suchlike may well consider other personal traights above the looks of a movie star. Imho.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

For Christ's sake man put a bit of effort into writing a decent profile. It's nothing to do with your body size. XXX

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

You caricature yourself reductively into being "a fat man no woman wants", if you don't have confidence in what you are, others won't be attracted to you regardless of whatever your physique is.

Like others have said , invest a bit of effort into the written portion of your profile,

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Ha fair enough i guess. Ive been out of the game a very long time, now keen to jump back in with both feet."

What game is that?

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By *ighland gentlemanMan
over a year ago

Ardgay

"Ha fair enough i guess. Ive been out of the game a very long time, now keen to jump back in with both feet.

What game is that? "

Naked twister?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Hope so or I'm destined for the scrap heap!!"
another pic stealer then because you certainly aint fat in that profile pic bht there again they are the profiles i stay away from the too good to be true ones

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By *reygorCouple
over a year ago

birmingham

"Bald men also not sexy or ginger men "
fucking hell thats all of scotland half of ireland and ed sheran .

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Course they can. Sex appeal is not about size or beauty. It's an aura. It can't be faked, it just is.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Hope so or I'm destined for the scrap heap!!"

Your pictures say otherwise, either their fake or your lying, why do that?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Well I am 6ft 2 17st 11 ish have a fat belly and ladies tell me I am a sexy guy oh and I am bald too , well shaved head

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By *bsinthe_boyMan
over a year ago

Luton

OP you need to use your profile as your shop front. What are you offering the ladies of Fab? What can you offer that the other twenty guys who messaged a lady cannot?

Say more about yourself, likes and dislikes but crucially not a list of demands. Smile in your photos. Have a variety of pics. Get to clubs and socials.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Bald men also not sexy or ginger men "

Still better looking then a blank picture though

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I never judge on photos

I go by messages personality a body shape is prefrence

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I'm not fat but I don't get hardly any replies and those I do get are only because I reeled them in with a baited question about one of their interests or something specific in their profile. It goes nowhere though. The current lot in my area aren't interested in me so I may have another look in the future but I've given up for now.

Forums are still interesting though

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By *bsinthe_boyMan
over a year ago

Luton

"I'm not fat but I don't get hardly any replies and those I do get are only because I reeled them in with a baited question about one of their interests or something specific in their profile. It goes nowhere though. The current lot in my area aren't interested in me so I may have another look in the future but I've given up for now.

Forums are still interesting though

You've been on Fab for all of three weeks. It takes a lot of patience for a guy to get a meet here...I believe the average is 6-9 months. And most ladies do not wish to be "reeled in".

That said, one of the best ways to start a conversation is indeed to ask about something in their profile that might be a common interest or which fired your curiosity.

All guys, whatever our body size, need to remember that there might easily be 25 men for every woman on here. As I am often wont to say....when writing, think "What can I say that will encourage this lady to reply to me rather than the other 20 yellow bars in her inbox?"

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By *amissCouple
over a year ago

chelmsford

I prefer larger men, but they're not all sexy

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By *bsinthe_boyMan
over a year ago

Luton

"I prefer larger men, but they're not all sexy"

This will be true. Just because someone likes a certain body type does not mean they will be attracted to everyone with that body.

Show me 20 fat guys, and they will have differing bodies anyway...in terms of where the fat is distributed, how well they carry it, how flexible and fit they are. What "does it" for one lady will not for another. I've been turned down by a woman who loved my look but actually didn't like that I'm pretty agile for my size. Your mileage may vary, as they say.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I hope so being fat myself

Really?

#fishingforcompliments

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He could stand to lose a stone or so but man knows his camera angles and pulls off a dad bod well.

Muscle under the fat always helps with men.

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By *dam1971Man
over a year ago

Bedford

I just hope we don't need to rely on good personality or I'm in a lot of trouble

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I hope someone thinks so!

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By *lactontogMan
over a year ago

Clacton on Sea

"Ive been on fab a while now in boston. Not one reply!!! Whats going on

I'm 17 & 1/2 st so definitely no lightweight & I'm the wrong side of 50 but I have found if your clean & well presented there are people who will like you enough to meet you, women have the same insecurities as us guys do so we are all in the same boat mate.

Confidence is sexy if it's sincere as no one likes a big head so get stuck in messaging & let your personality bowl them over.

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By *amissCouple
over a year ago

chelmsford

"Ive been on fab a while now in boston. Not one reply!!! Whats going on

Confidence is sexy if it's sincere as no one likes a big head so get stuck in messaging & let your personality bowl them over. "

This.

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By *bsinthe_boyMan
over a year ago

Luton

A shade under 22 stone here and been loving the non-monogamous Life for 14 years. May I suggest it is not simply the OP's weight holding him back?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"A shade under 22 stone here and been loving the non-monogamous Life for 14 years. May I suggest it is not simply the OP's weight holding him back?"

Lots of people have given advice but none seems to have been taken.

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By *enuine GentlemanMan
over a year ago

waterlooville

I bloody hope so beings a bigger person myself. But do find I get almost zero interest here. Still it going to stop me trying plus am working in losing the weight.

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By *bsinthe_boyMan
over a year ago

Luton

"A shade under 22 stone here and been loving the non-monogamous Life for 14 years. May I suggest it is not simply the OP's weight holding him back?

Lots of people have given advice but none seems to have been taken."

*shrugs*

We tried.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I am a big lad will some women rate me on kik will send pics of me I would like your honest opinion

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I am a big lad will some women rate me on kik will send pics of me I would like your honest opinion"

Why not put some one here?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Simple answer...Hell yes!!!

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By *gnitemybodyWoman
over a year ago

Onestepoutofthedoor

"I am a big lad will some women rate me on kik will send pics of me I would like your honest opinion

Why not put some one here?"

Yeah no need to use kik that's what this place is for.

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By *bsinthe_boyMan
over a year ago

Luton

"I am a big lad will some women rate me on kik will send pics of me I would like your honest opinion"

All your pics are of the lady....beautiful but why not show tje gent too?

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By *rueone71Man
over a year ago

Hiding in the Barnes

"I am a big lad will some women rate me on kik will send pics of me I would like your honest opinion

Why not put some one here?

Yeah no need to use kik that's what this place is for."

Never understood why if is a couple profile only the female are on pictures

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By *bsinthe_boyMan
over a year ago

Luton

Flamehaired.....still hoping for a visa to Planet Zog...

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I am a big lad will some women rate me on kik will send pics of me I would like your honest opinion

Why not put some one here?

Yeah no need to use kik that's what this place is for.

Never understood why if is a couple profile only the female are on pictures

Oooooh look, there is a sexy big man

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By *dam1971Man
over a year ago

Bedford

Another one here. As long as your eyesight is poor or your standards are low.

Or maybe both

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By *gnitemybodyWoman
over a year ago

Onestepoutofthedoor

"I am a big lad will some women rate me on kik will send pics of me I would like your honest opinion

Why not put some one here?

Yeah no need to use kik that's what this place is for.

Never understood why if is a couple profile only the female are on pictures

He may be shy

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By *erryhallMan
over a year ago

birmingham

I try to stay in shape this weeks shape is Round

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Threads like this anger me1

My husband (paul) is large but he is highly seed like us all here, his tongue is better than any other mans i have large thin or middle lol

So lets look at the person not the size

If he was multi millioneaire I bet then you would all et contacts and messages so stop being shallow and have sexy fun xxx julie xxx

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"No fat men ain't sexy "

Fat women are not sexy either and thats coming from a fatty. Whoever made the word BBW needs shooting.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Threads like this anger me1

My husband (paul) is large but he is highly seed like us all here, his tongue is better than any other mans i have large thin or middle lol

So lets look at the person not the size

If he was multi millioneaire I bet then you would all et contacts and messages so stop being shallow and have sexy fun xxx julie xxx"

Are millionaires better in bed?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"No fat men ain't sexy

Fat women are not sexy either and thats coming from a fatty. Whoever made the word BBW needs shooting.

To some they are

However, BBW is about as stupid as if someone coined the acronym SBW (slim beautiful woman). Apart from classical beauty, the rest is subjective and whilst some may find a person attractive, some others may not

- Mrs. J -

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

fat bloke here x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Op be yourself man dont worry they will like you or not, let you shine through and stop worrying or overthinking, take a few differant pics, change a few things on your profile.

No one is an expert, but fab is not the be all and end all of life, as many have said people love all shapes and sizes, maybe attend a meet nearby if any, chin up happy fabbing.

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over a year ago

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By *yldstyleWoman
over a year ago

A world of my own

As a big girl, I much prefer bigger men

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By *izzy.Woman
over a year ago

Stoke area

As many have said ..you have only been on here a short time and the ratio of men to ladies is not in your favour.

I suggest you rewrite your profile and consider why people would want to meet you, rather than what YOU are looking for.

Don't think body size is the reason people don't get in touch. Everyone finds different attributes appealing.

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By *omez42Man
over a year ago

gloucester

Bald and fat here.

It can be very difficult to get a meet, but, and I'm sure those I've met will confirm, I'm better in the flesh

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