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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

Hi we're new to swinging, we go to a club on a weekly basis makeing friends but it's not going anywhere, me the wife gets lots of interest but seems the couple doesn't want to play with the hubby, just me on my own with them, as we're new and still finding my feet this makes me not want to play, we end up playing on our own in the couples area or in the fet room,

Any advice would be appropriated

Thanks

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By *iceguymkMan
over a year ago

aylesbury

Is hubby as keen as you ...

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

Yes he is, he thinks it's him that's the issue, and has said a few times to have some fun on my own but I'm too shy and nervous

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By *iceguymkMan
over a year ago

aylesbury

Obviously that will change , does he go off on his own to look for women

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

Seem to have post twice sorry didn't think the first one posted, not really he just stands at the bar while I dance and speak to friends I'm trying to separate a little to see if it helps

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By *iceguymkMan
over a year ago

aylesbury


"Seem to have post twice sorry didn't think the first one posted, not really he just stands at the bar while I dance and speak to friends I'm trying to separate a little to see if it helps "

Maybe he needs to get with a couple first then invite them to you so all then can enjoy each others partners

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

If you're husband seems disinterested and will just stand at the bar, then it's not a real shock why they gravitate towards you. You're the one up dancing having a good time giving off happy vibes.

That's what attracts people

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By *iceguymkMan
over a year ago

aylesbury


"If you're husband seems disinterested and will just stand at the bar, then it's not a real shock why they gravitate towards you. You're the one up dancing having a good time giving off happy vibes.

That's what attracts people

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Or maybe he really wants to see his wife as the centre of attention

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"If you're husband seems disinterested and will just stand at the bar, then it's not a real shock why they gravitate towards you. You're the one up dancing having a good time giving off happy vibes.

That's what attracts people

Or maybe he really wants to see his wife as the centre of attention "

If the object is to play as a couple then him taking a back step is not working.

I'm sure the female half of any couple would like to play with a guy who's friendly and chatty who gets involved rather than taking a backseat relying on his wife to do all the leg work.

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By *iceguymkMan
over a year ago

aylesbury


"If you're husband seems disinterested and will just stand at the bar, then it's not a real shock why they gravitate towards you. You're the one up dancing having a good time giving off happy vibes.

That's what attracts people

Or maybe he really wants to see his wife as the centre of attention

If the object is to play as a couple then him taking a back step is not working.

I'm sure the female half of any couple would like to play with a guy who's friendly and chatty who gets involved rather than taking a backseat relying on his wife to do all the leg work. "

Yeah that is true . Perhaps its a confidence thing

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Yes he is, he thinks it's him that's the issue, and has said a few times to have some fun on my own but I'm too shy and nervous "
i have some friends in london and they go to the club hes bi and yes some go with specific goals to shag the woman only and have no regard for her man... so they stopped going

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

That's what we don't want to happen as we do enjoy going

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By *iceguymkMan
over a year ago

aylesbury


"Yes he is, he thinks it's him that's the issue, and has said a few times to have some fun on my own but I'm too shy and nervous i have some friends in london and they go to the club hes bi and yes some go with specific goals to shag the woman only and have no regard for her man... so they stopped going "

Shame

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By *iceguymkMan
over a year ago

aylesbury


"That's what we don't want to happen as we do enjoy going "

Stay and play as a couple then maybe

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

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By *iceguymkMan
over a year ago

aylesbury


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I'm sure if your a regular at a club the other couples will play as a couple more as they will know both of you , dont do the sad face

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"If you're husband seems disinterested and will just stand at the bar, then it's not a real shock why they gravitate towards you. You're the one up dancing having a good time giving off happy vibes.

That's what attracts people

Or maybe he really wants to see his wife as the centre of attention

If the object is to play as a couple then him taking a back step is not working.

I'm sure the female half of any couple would like to play with a guy who's friendly and chatty who gets involved rather than taking a backseat relying on his wife to do all the leg work.

Yeah that is true . Perhaps its a confidence thing"

Possibly so, but confidence is high up on a woman's list of what she finds attractive.

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By *iceguymkMan
over a year ago

aylesbury


"If you're husband seems disinterested and will just stand at the bar, then it's not a real shock why they gravitate towards you. You're the one up dancing having a good time giving off happy vibes.

That's what attracts people

Or maybe he really wants to see his wife as the centre of attention

If the object is to play as a couple then him taking a back step is not working.

I'm sure the female half of any couple would like to play with a guy who's friendly and chatty who gets involved rather than taking a backseat relying on his wife to do all the leg work.

Yeah that is true . Perhaps its a confidence thing

Possibly so, but confidence is high up on a woman's list of what she finds attractive. "

Exactly what I'm saying .... He needs to push his chest out and show how confident he is , he has a gorgeous wife and is probably very fit himself

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By *inkycouplespainCouple
over a year ago

Malaga Spain but sometimes Manchester and

Have you just thought about doing relaxed couple meets and not clubs where your fella's charm and personality come into play. Often my lady hasn't felt an initial visual attraction to the other man but has been charmed over a few drinks and good stimulating conversation to want to play.

D&K

x

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By *elloIntrigueMan
over a year ago

North West UK


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Keep at it guys, you are doing something right.

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By *iceguymkMan
over a year ago

aylesbury


"Have you just thought about doing relaxed couple meets and not clubs where your fella's charm and personality come into play. Often my lady hasn't felt an initial visual attraction to the other man but has been charmed over a few drinks and good stimulating conversation to want to play.

D&K

x"

Good point ...... Maybe delve into private couples parties rather than clubs

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By *mokey_KinksMan
over a year ago

Essex

i have been to clubs as a sinlge guy and no one spoke to me, went with a lady friend and we played all night

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By *iceguymkMan
over a year ago

aylesbury


"i have been to clubs as a sinlge guy and no one spoke to me, went with a lady friend and we played all night "

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