FabSwingers.com forum: Question for single women on fabs

By *quamarina1964 OP Woman
over a year ago

Bideford

How do you arrange your first meet with people? Do you go to theres or meet casually first for a drink! What wouldnt you do on a first meet? Just curious

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

me too. im looking for my first meet soon

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Ive done it several ways. Some more risque than others ie inviting a stranger to my home and going directly to a strangers home - both turned out fine judgement calls but I had been connecting with them for many months first.

I enjoy meeting up for a social meet in a public place - pub or restaurant as part of the thrill ofr me is getting ready to meet out of my own circle.

A lot of people will tell you of the things you should do to stay safe and its all excellent advice but not something you havent thought of for yourself I just think that the whole concept of meeting strangers for sex is by its nature a bit unsafe on the face of it so I wont bog you down with lectures - you can make your own mind up where your boundaries lie and will just say have fun whatever way you choose xxx oh and report back we love a good success story!!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

We always like to meet on neutral ground

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I would agree with the above,I usually meet socially first or find a good phone chat.

I think also you can usually pick up the genuine people as opposed to the idiots.

Most of all just have fun

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

ALWAYS meet in a public place first, you never really know who it is you're meeting.

You may feel comfortable swapping pictures or caming together, but you may find uncomfortable in their company.

A social meet first always lets you see if you click in each other presence.

It's better to wait an extra few days to playing with them, then to meet up & seriously regret it.

It's better to be safe than sorry, specially regarding your safety.

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By *obbytupperMan
over a year ago

Menston near Ilkley

Theres lots of questionable single women on fab.

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By *edhotminxWoman
over a year ago

Turn left at the Singing Ringing Tree

I have always met men first in a public place, be it at a pub, restaurant or even a service station. The one time I broke my rule I regretted it, as I arrived at a "gentleman's" home to have the door opened by someone who was most definitely d*unk. Needless to say I left fairly quickly.

You have to decide what precautions you wish to take. Bad things can happen in any walk of life, but if your instincts say it isn't right, then walk away.

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By *quamarina1964 OP Woman
over a year ago

Bideford

Thanks folks, i have done a couple of risque things myself which have made me question this whole swinging thing lol. And there are many great tips and advice from your posts thank you very much! Its so hard when you live on your own, i deffo wont have anyone back here, and never give out my home addy, i can drive so i can meet peeps at a waterhing hole lol.Which i think is the most sensible, i always ask for a mobile number from them also, b4 i give mine out! Thanks guys i know which way to go now!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Whether playing alone or as a couple we always have a social meet first in a pub. Ms

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By *LBishCouple
over a year ago

near bury st edmunds

Clubs are also a great way of meeting ppl, and you are safe there if the club is like our local one, who watch out for the single ladys safey xxx

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By *ove bi guysWoman
over a year ago

Birmingham

When I 1st started on the scene 3 yrs ago I was very cautious to only meet in public / socially and have a swing mobile so I didn't mix swing with real life. As time moved on my radar has become more sensitive to those who are not suitable.

Now I only have my real phone but never give my number unless I trust them enough to be meeting and I only text anyway. I choose not to accom for privacy (neighbours are friends with parents lol) so prefer to meet at Chams, that way fun can be had regardless

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Just to add to my earlier post, I find it really off putting when people try to badger us or me into not meeting socially first and wanting to dive straight in as it doesn't respect our preferences.

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By *emima_puddlefuckCouple
over a year ago

hexham

When i have met alone it has been after a long getting to know u period,a social meet wasn't necessary just for a fuck,but i did feel i knew the men or women well enough to be as sure of my safety as i cud be.

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By *ensual temptressWoman
over a year ago

Southampton

if you havent done so already ,id get a cheap mobile to use purely for swinging .that means should there be any issues some keep txting or calling when your not interested you just bin the phone so no harm done .

above all just use your own common sense and listen to your gut feeling as ver good indication when something or someone isnt right for you .

be safe and have fun x

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By *edangel_2013Woman
over a year ago

southend

I always prefer to meet socially first, and tend not to play on a first meet, that said, there have been a few times when the spark has been there, and we've checked into the nearest hotel.

However, I always chat with people I intend to meet first, I rarely answer the first message with an offer to meet straight away.

I don't accommodation, and unless I know someone, I prefer to play in a hotel. When we've checked in, I'll send a text to my safety call, telling them what room we are in.

When I first started swinging, I had several people as safety texts. I'd text them at the beginning of an evening, and half way through, just so they knew I was still alive. I'd always text the same thing. "Having fun, not an axe murderer, see you in the morning." Until a guy I'd met pointed out, that an axe murderer, or someone holding me there against my will, would check the text I was sending out, and make me type I was fine and having fun. So now my text message says "Small cock, having a shit time, total sympathy shag." So if me safety call gets a text saying otherwise, they know I'm in trouble!!!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

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By *yrdwomanWoman
over a year ago

Putting the 'cum' in Eboracum

"Theres lots of questionable single women on fab.

Yyyyyep!

I tend to meet socially first or via a club. Even just a no obligation drink works fine, if they have already got a hotel or something. You should (although not always) get a vibe. Unfortunately I have had a couple of social meets that went fine, but the constant texting afterwards bordered on harrassment.

Always listen to your intuition!!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

had my 1st meet few weeks back, it was socially, which is the best way 2 do it.

meet on there terms not yours

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By *quamarina1964 OP Woman
over a year ago

Bideford

"if you havent done so already ,id get a cheap mobile to use purely for swinging .that means should there be any issues some keep txting or calling when your not interested you just bin the phone so no harm done .

above all just use your own common sense and listen to your gut feeling as ver good indication when something or someone isnt right for you .

be safe and have fun x"

Lol yup i have a spare mobile for fabs lol, and i tend to prefer chatting on msn and swapping photo's i dont cam, i dont like it and it does nowt for me lol. But thanks again guys some great advice xxxxx

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By *inkershoes69Woman
over a year ago

maidstone

always a social meet first, i never give out my address its not fair putting my kids at risk

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By *utumnWoman
over a year ago

leeds

Always a social meet first and even if its only for a cuppa I give details of the profile i'm meeting to a girlfriend on here, likewise if I meet them another time for play I text her the address where I am. She does the same neither of us have had any problems but its best to be safe!!

I prefer an early meet up if the pic and the message are alluring, easy to say then yes or no and saves wasting anyones time ... a sparks either there or it isn't!!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Great advice, wish I'd read this sooner. Thanks by sexy friends. xx

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By *awty_MissDynomiteNo1Woman
over a year ago

No idea, I'm lost. Damn Sat nav!

"How do you arrange your first meet with people? Do you go to theres or meet casually first for a drink! What wouldnt you do on a first meet? Just curious "

Alawys do a social meet first you can tell what someone is like unless its face to face .

When it comes to a play meet always tell a friend from here who your will and where your meeting i know its not very discreet but if its some one you can totaly trust then its safest xxxx

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Funkyfox that is a brilliant idea re the safety text!!! I'm going to change mine now. Ms

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I always met socially first, at a time and place of my choosing. If they wanted to change that I didn't meet! I was looking for submissive men, if they were negotiating from the get go, how submissive would they be: so a good way to sift.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Always on hallow ground with plenty of holy water ,crucifixes and silver bullets

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By *iss fifiWoman
over a year ago

AYR

well i meet for a drink or coffee to keep me safe if i feel something is not right then i wont go to theres and i will not have sex on first meet i like to get to know people fist

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By *iss fifiWoman
over a year ago

AYR

well i meet for a drink or coffee to keep me safe if i feel something is not right then i wont go to theres and i will not have sex on first meet i like to get to know people fist

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By *ethany10Couple
over a year ago

falkirk

Yes, agree social meet is best first so you can see if you 'click'.

Steve

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By *empting Devil.Woman
over a year ago

Sheffield

i always insist on a social meet for coffee or a drink first. that way you can see if theres a spark/lust on neutral ground. i have on occasion left full drinks to go find privacy with my new friend when we've both been certain straight away... i have also had to say to otherwise very pleasant men that i just don't have the urge to rip their clothes off and without that spark i don't play. it feels much more comfortable to do this on neutral territory - especially after i met one guy in his home which was the filthiest home i have ever been in and where i wasn't even prepared to sit down let alone play - and he got very belligerent and aggressive towards me. perhaps i wouldn't have picked up about his home on a social meet, but his lack of social graces would have been very obvious.

i have also discovered that, just like the picture collectors, there are address collectors. they pester for your address or postcode and once they have it vanish like smoke on the wind...

and finally there are the guys who are adamant they will not meet for a drink first and that it will be 'my loss' if i don't agree to go straight for a play meet. they make me wonder why when we are both on a swingers site - and i always expect to see a face pic before a meet - they are not prepared to meet a pleasant, well turned out woman for a coffee... i accept the loss philosophically and move on, they are not worth it if they are not prepared to acknowledge the safety concerns of a single woman. in fact i spent sunday trying to arrange a meet to be thwarted three times by men who would not meet briefly for coffee first and who vanished when i stuck to my guns...

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

My cousin who is also one of my best friends is a security guard, and I work for a security company.

If I am going for a meet, its usually coffee or a pub and then still coffee, I wont drink alchol.

I generally prefer to chose somewhere I know well, and if the 'click' is mutual then I will play from that meet, however I have various security steps in place.

My cousin will always know where I am, at all times, I check in after a pre set time. I leave all the details I have for the person I am meeting, somewhere safe so my cus can access it and I never go without a fully charged mobile.

My mobile also has a ping function in place, so it can be located if needed via gps.

I have a contract phone, and can block a number from contacting me, with a simple click so dont use a 'swinging phone' however I dont give my number out willy nilly.

If I am in doubt I wont meet, If I am unsure I will arrange to go to a club and meet - socialise from there, or I have the option of taking a male or female friend along with me. If the person I am meeting wont respect my safety I wont meet with them.

Even if I am planning on playing at home, unless I have known someone a good while, I will meet them in a local public place.

It all sounds very calculated but its not really. I dont tell my meets, I have my cousin keeping an eye on me :O And I do go to clubs, so network from there

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