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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

Why is it most people on here do not reply to your message I would rather just have a reply saying no then getting deleted or just ignored..

Does anybody else have this problem ?

Or am I doing something wrong ?

Just rude a bit rude with no reply.

Like me saying hello and you blank me in street

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By *orum TrollWoman
over a year ago

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i would blank you in the street if you approached me for sex or a blow job.

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

No I mean just a quick hello does not harm anyone I wouldn't send a message asking for a blowjob bit to put there for me that

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By *orkie321bWoman
over a year ago

Nottingham

OP may I suggest you read the site FAQ's. There is a section in there that relates to messages being deleted without reply

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By *orum TrollWoman
over a year ago

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fair enough OP.


"OP may I suggest you read the site FAQ's. There is a section in there that relates to messages being deleted without reply "

also ^^ this is correct and maybe search why don't women reply to messages. you will find lots of reasons why not.

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

We're do I find that sorry new to all this and this site but looks and sounds sexy as hell addictive isn't the word thank you tho x

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

I must be doing something wrong I be nice and genuine and I still don't get a reply hahs thank you tho for replying haha

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By *hat The CuckCouple
over a year ago

South London


"We're do I find that sorry new to all this and this site but looks and sounds sexy as hell addictive isn't the word thank you tho x"

https://m.fabswingers.com/articles/FAQ#noreply

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

Thank you ??

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By *orum TrollWoman
over a year ago

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"I must be doing something wrong I be nice and genuine and I still don't get a reply hahs thank you tho for replying haha "

a lot of people just don't reply, or can't reply, to all their messages.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I must be doing something wrong I be nice and genuine and I still don't get a reply hahs thank you tho for replying haha "

Maybe lose the big screamy "NO GAYS, TRANSGENDERS AND TRANSVISITES" Whatever the hell a transvestite is.

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

Not removing that because I'm straight and I'm sick of getting winks and messages of guys lad sorry staying on lad

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

Could be well thank you for your advice anyway just wanted to no if I was doing something wrong

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By *hat The CuckCouple
over a year ago

South London


"Not removing that because I'm straight and I'm sick of getting winks and messages of guys lad sorry staying on lad "

Turn on your message filters then

https://m.fabswingers.com/my/filters

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

You haven't really asked for profile advice so can't give you any. If you specifically say you're open to critique of your profile, we can have a read and suggest things you could change.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I need profile help too

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

I don't even no what that means I do apologise I'm really new to this site but would be great full for any help thank you.

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By *hat The CuckCouple
over a year ago

South London


"I need profile help too"

You don't really have much of a profile to help with, that could be the problem for you

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

Just done this thank you very much x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Why is it most people on here do not reply to your message I would rather just have a reply saying no then getting deleted or just ignored..

Does anybody else have this problem ?

Or am I doing something wrong ?

Just rude a bit rude with no reply.

Like me saying hello and you blank me in street "

You'll get used to it. Lol

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By *orkie321bWoman
over a year ago

Nottingham

Someone shared the FAQ link for you. To add to what it says try and think about the messages you send in these terms.

Some people receive a very large number of messages. If they spent just 20-30 seconds replying to everyone to say "no thanks" they wouldn't have time to actually chat to the people they are interested in.

Often when you do say no thanks this is followed up by either more messages wanting to know why or abusive messages because the person can't handle rejection.

One analogy I like to use is to compare messages on here to junk mail or takeaway leaflets that we all get through the letterbox. I don't know anyone who sends them a letter thanking them for the junk mail but it's not for me. The same goes for the contents of my spam folder on my email account. I don't reply saying I'm not interested I just delete.

It is often recommended on here to delete your sent mail, then if you get a reply it's a bonus but you are not constantly checking to see if it's been read and getting pissed off about the lack of response.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Not removing that because I'm straight and I'm sick of getting winks and messages of guys lad sorry staying on lad "

So am I but I don't need big capital letters screaming the fact

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

TBH what do you put on this site .. just come out the army and not had a relationship or a encounter with a lady for a year or so maybe less .. but when your in there your only on leave for about 4 weak then back again .. so it's hard to get some contact with woman again wen your a squady

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By *edangel_2013Woman
over a year ago

southend


"I need profile help too"

Try writing one.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Why is it most people on here do not reply to your message I would rather just have a reply saying no then getting deleted or just ignored..

Does anybody else have this problem ?

Or am I doing something wrong ?

Just rude a bit rude with no reply.

Like me saying hello and you blank me in street "

Because your unsolicited message is the equivalent of the junk mail and junk email I receive each day. I only reply to something which would interest me. The remainder goes into the bin or in the trash box without any explanation

- Mrs. J -

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

Well thank you for your opinion on my profile fella but I'm just letting them ni that all rather that then be rude and not reply buddy

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By *edangel_2013Woman
over a year ago

southend


"TBH what do you put on this site .. just come out the army and not had a relationship or a encounter with a lady for a year or so maybe less .. but when your in there your only on leave for about 4 weak then back again .. so it's hard to get some contact with woman again wen your a squady "

The squaddies I knew when I was younger didn't have much of a problem pulling. And they didn't have sites like this.

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

Wouldn't put this in a forum if I didn't

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"you will find lots of reasons why not."

In my case usually because I look like me

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

Well I think I'm just trying to be myself and if people want me to act something I am not then unlucky take me as you find me but thank you for your advice x

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By *ittleAcornMan
over a year ago

visiting the beach


"Not removing that because I'm straight and I'm sick of getting winks and messages of guys lad sorry staying on lad "

So don't you reply to them thanking them for the message?

That seems a bit odd as that's what you are essentially complaining about.

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By *orkie321bWoman
over a year ago

Nottingham


"Well thank you for your opinion on my profile fella but I'm just letting them ni that all rather that then be rude and not reply buddy "

OP you can set filters on your profile that means you can stop them sending messages to you in the first place. It won't stop them looking at your profile but they can't contact you.

You don't need the warning if you use your filters properly.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I don't even no what that means I do apologise I'm really new to this site but would be great full for any help thank you. "

Ok and help with your profile you shall receive...

Right first of all you state you're a non smoker yet have a packet of amber leaf and a clipper in bed with you.

Profile is a long list of things you're asking of women, I read that and think what's in it for me? Yes I could do all those things and make a guy feel like a king but I want something written in his profile that shows that he's someone I want to pursue. For me it's confidence bordering on arrogance and shows an assertive personality who is also selective. Don't use that approach unless you can pull it off with being very very handsome with a big willy.

Briefly mention some things you can offer the women without writing things such as; I'm gonna lick your pussy for hours and make you squirt and tweak on your nipples.

You're only asking for daytime fun so that's pricing yourself out of some of the market and only targeting stay at home women.

Didn't notice if you can accommodate or not, if you can great, that goes in your favour, if you can't, a brief, that's brief I say it again, explanation as to why you can't.

Pictures aren't the best, they just show a white body in pants, maybe mix it up with some penis poking out or some bum cheeks or close up picture of your arse hole.

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By *urvymamaWoman
over a year ago

Doncaster

your profile is all about you and what you want, while that's valid information you may want to balance it out with what you can offer also

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

Don't worry mate we all beautiful made some one in this world will be made for us

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

Read the top of the forum ladni didn't bring it up son

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By *orkie321bWoman
over a year ago

Nottingham


"Read the top of the forum ladni didn't bring it up son "

OP if you are replying to someone try using the reply+quote button. Otherwise nobody has any idea who your reply is for.

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

Wow I didn't realise people was that bad about profiles hahah I shall sort it when I'm back at home thank you very much tho for the comments and help means a lot there a lot of stuff I don't no on here haha thank you my lovely lady for your kind words of wisdom x

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

That's a great point didn't think of that thank you very much for the kind words xx

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By *ophieslutTV/TS
over a year ago

Central

It's standard fab practice that people read your profile after you send them a message - if they're not interested, you get potentially blocked and typically not replied to. It is uncomfortable for some people not to hear but this is how it is. Anyone - especially single men - who can't deal with this is likely to find this is the wrong place for them.

In the magical ideal world, they'll all get replied to and recipients will send you an expensive hand picked birthday gift each year, so that nobody gets to feel their efforts came to nothing, plus they still feel special.

It ain't happening, so alter something

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"Read the top of the forum ladni didn't bring it up son

OP if you are replying to someone try using the reply+quote button. Otherwise nobody has any idea who your reply is for."

thank you I'm lost me on this site had more look on tinder but this is so addictive haha

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"It's standard fab practice that people read your profile after you send them a message - if they're not interested, you get potentially blocked and typically not replied to. It is uncomfortable for some people not to hear but this is how it is. Anyone - especially single men - who can't deal with this is likely to find this is the wrong place for them.

Thank you very much I shall have a change thank you for all the information

In the magical ideal world, they'll all get replied to and recipients will send you an expensive hand picked birthday gift each year, so that nobody gets to feel their efforts came to nothing, plus they still feel special.

It ain't happening, so alter something "

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By *urvymamaWoman
over a year ago

Doncaster


"Wow I didn't realise people was that bad about profiles hahah I shall sort it when I'm back at home thank you very much tho for the comments and help means a lot there a lot of stuff I don't no on here haha thank you my lovely lady for your kind words of wisdom x"

General rule a lot of men don't read profiles but generally women and couples do and it's the profile that ends up being the deciding factor in whether they want to contact you

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Not removing that because I'm straight and I'm sick of getting winks and messages of guys lad sorry staying on lad "

Just put it politely like I have in my bio

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By *ugby 123Couple
Forum Mod

over a year ago

O o O oo

Some people reply, some don't. If you accept that you will probably enjoy your time on the site more

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