FabSwingers.com forum: Hosting parties pros and cons

By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

We've met a good few people up to now and are toying with the idea of hosting a party in our home. Particularly as it's our one year anniversary and we met on fab! What better way to celebrate??

Just wondering if people who have hosted parties could tell me their experiences? The good and the bad so we kind of know what to expect, what people enjoy the most and if your guests had a good time?

Thanks in advance.

Hungryeyes. Xx

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By *uck.Squeeze.Bang.BlowCouple
over a year ago

nottingham

Hope it all goes well and happy anniversary, just posting to follow this thread as it is something we are looking to do in the future

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Good luck and happy anniversary

Parties are great a lot of work

Just remember you will be lucky if 25% of your invites show up

But nil desperandum

There are lots of good people on fab

Have a good one

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

We very much enjoy hosting parties and smaller group gatherings. Our recommendation would be to start small and initially only invite people you've actually met or people another guest has actually met.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

We used to host many parties.

Our experience is this:

If you want 20 people to attend, then invite at least 30!

Half of those that attend just sit and chat and drink and eat.

Loads of people want to go to some one elses party but wont host one.

It depends upon what you are wanting from a party. A social or 'fun'?

What we did in the end was to hold parties where we only invited people that we knew would turn up or came recommended.

We said that anyone who attended came to 'join in' That didn't mean they did things they were unhappy with, just we didn't want (as we have seen at so many parties) where a small few play and 80% just go from room to room watching.

You need to decide what type f party you want and invite people that match.

Hosting parties is great fun but can be a lot of work and the cost can mount up.

Food/drinks/ Decorations for themed parties etc.

After we changed the way we did parties we got 95% attendance and a lot more fun.

Choose what you want out of it.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Our recommendation would be to start small and initially only invite people you've actually met or people another guest has actually met. "

QFT

Start small, 3-4 couples and maybe 1-2 singles; people don't want to commit without knowing who else is going so be sure to ask attendees if they are OK with you giving their name out etc.

Book a nice hotel, only invite people you'd be happy to spend time with assuming no-one else but them turned up.

Get some games or ice-breakers prepared, don't get too d*unk/high, establish boundaries EARLY!

Parties are ace, my fave way to play outside mff stuff - relax and have fun!

xxx

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"We very much enjoy hosting parties and smaller group gatherings. Our recommendation would be to start small and initially only invite people you've actually met or people another guest has actually met. "

that would be our recommendation too...if it's in your own home, you want to have people who you know and trust in there. You'll have an idea of who will get on with who and less no shows.

We have held some great parties with 10-12 couples and an attendance rate of around 90%.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Also live a good house party, and held on last year at our home.

We only invited couples we had met before so knew we wouldn't get let down..and a single guy to add some "options"..

Only trouble is..we have had no free time to repeat the experience, and when word got round we were having one, everyone we knew wanted to come!! But keep numbers sensible so noise/ neighbours can be kept under control.

Have fun!

The naked's.

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By *atdancerCouple
over a year ago

Edinburgh

We've hosted a few. Some individual scattered points:

* It's quite a lot of work doing the coordination. That includes quite a lot of communication on the night, which can get in the way of your own play.

* We usually find and rent an apartment in the city. You might be surprised how close it is to the cost of a hotel room if you've never rented one before. If it's expensive that month we might ask for a small contribution towards the cost.

* We usually start with a core of people we've met before and know, then put out the call to others to get a mix of reliable people and potential new friends.

* As others have mentioned, not everyone will turn up. Expect about half of those you don't know quite well not to show.

* As soon as you get a group of people together, you have a bunch of different thresholds for play, unless you know everyone and have carefully selected them to be the same on that front. Expect some to end up treating it pretty much as a normal party and mostly chat while others are off boffing in the bedroom(s) every ten minutes

* It can be a *lot* of fun and we've met some very nice and very sexy people, and had some pretty damned hot experiences

Enjoy your party if you decide to host one and congratulations on your anniversary

Hat

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

Thank you everyone! That is so helpful. We're getting a good idea of what hosting might entail and will have a good think about all of your ideas. Xx

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