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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

Just sent someone a polite Hello message and they then read my profile. The message I got back told me I was extremely offensive and rude for stating in my profile that I like someone who "dresses for sex". The lady then told me that I expected that I should hire a prostitute! Anyway, my question is.... Am I offensive for writing that? Is my profile rude and offensive to anyone else? If so, please let me know and I'll change it. PS. I know that face pics help a lot, but due to being threatened so many times I've hidden my face pics. Thank you in advance.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I see fuck all wrong with your profile, other than that test result crap

When you say dressing for sex, to me that implies you like, basques, stockings, suspenders, heels etc.

No idea what the woman's problem is, I got told once by a woman she didn't like the bright colours in my sleeve

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"I see fuck all wrong with your profile, other than that test result crap

When you say dressing for sex, to me that implies you like, basques, stockings, suspenders, heels etc.

No idea what the woman's problem is, I got told once by a woman she didn't like the bright colours in my sleeve "

Probably get rid of the survey then. Haha. And you're right, I like sexy underwear but also just sexy clothes in general. I just enjoy it! Haha

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Not offensive at all. Anyone can write there likes and dislikes. Find it wierd about the wedding dresses though

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By *lik and PaulCouple
over a year ago

cahoots

I wouldn't call it offensive but a bit of a contradiction....you are dominant but like confident women and want them to dress up for you. Surely a confident woman would do whatever she wants to?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I don't see what's wrong with say that. It's good to let everyone know what you like... which is what I'd prefer anyway.

I agree with losing the test results tho.

Mrs

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I don't see anything wrong with it. Perhaps this woman isn't very erm..confident? And knew she couldn't match your expectations, so got defensive. Only thing I can think of..

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By *orum TrollWoman
over a year ago

•+• Access Denied •+•

if you PM people asking for that i think it's offensive, unless they mention they enjoy dressing.

she went a bit over the top i think. can understand it on here though, men do treat us like prostitutes and offer us selfish things or only go on about themselves and what they want.

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By *lkDomWhtSubBiCpleCouple
over a year ago

Somewhere / Everywhere /Kinksville


"I wouldn't call it offensive but a bit of a contradiction....you are dominant but like confident women and want them to dress up for you. Surely a confident woman would do whatever she wants to?"

I'm a very confident woman and happily sub to my partner.

OP no I don't think it's offensive, it's your preference. As a woman that likes to dress it's nice to be appreciated

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By *ust RachelTV/TS
over a year ago

Horsham

I always dress for sex, if I didn't I would be a bloke in make up and that doesn't look too good

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"if you PM people asking for that i think it's offensive, unless they mention they enjoy dressing.

she went a bit over the top i think. can understand it on here though, men do treat us like prostitutes and offer us selfish things or only go on about themselves and what they want."

That's what I think happened too, the woman overreacted because she's fed up of people requesting sexy outfits. As someone who is not into dressing up AT ALL this used to be a massive pet peeve for me on my singles profile - even though it is perfectly obvious from my pics that I am more of a naturist, people would write in with their requests for lingerie and heels. Because this is so ubiquitous, both men and women enjoy it, men assume it is something that's OK to ask - as opposed to your wedding dress request for example which is unusual. But for someone who doesn't like to dress up, fancy lingerie etc feels at least as weird.

Also there was an interesting post some time ago where the poster said she stopped wearing lingerie cos she found men were into the underwear more than they were into her own body. Lingerie can be highly fetishistic for many people but because it is so common it passes as "normal"

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

All great feedback. Thanks everyone. Might have a tweak of my profile later.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I don't see anything wrong with it I love dressing up wearing something sexy underneath and seeing his face when he undresses me .

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By *lkDomWhtSubBiCpleCouple
over a year ago

Somewhere / Everywhere /Kinksville


"I always dress for sex, if I didn't I would be a bloke in make up and that doesn't look too good"

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I dont think its offensive putting it on your profile as most men like women who dress up for them. However, the woman may have had a reason for being offended by it. Perhaps she had met men who demanded she wear something sexy when they meet her or maybe she feels confident enough to wear what she wants to wear and not be dictated by the guy shes meeting or chatting to.

But there is nothing wrong with adding it to your profile. Women will either pass on by or get it.

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By * and M lookingCouple
over a year ago

Worcester

I love to dress up for sex.

Makes me feel super hot!

There's nothing wrong with that in our book.

Long fur coat, just stockings and suspenders underneath, great feeling.

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"I dont think its offensive putting it on your profile as most men like women who dress up for them. However, the woman may have had a reason for being offended by it. Perhaps she had met men who demanded she wear something sexy when they meet her or maybe she feels confident enough to wear what she wants to wear and not be dictated by the guy shes meeting or chatting to.

But there is nothing wrong with adding it to your profile. Women will either pass on by or get it."

Thing is, it's just a like and it certainly wouldn't be a deal breaker for me if a woman didnt enjoy dressing up.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Just leave it as it is, except delete that test result shite

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"Just leave it as it is, except delete that test result shite "

Deleted now! Thanks.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I dont think its offensive putting it on your profile as most men like women who dress up for them. However, the woman may have had a reason for being offended by it. Perhaps she had met men who demanded she wear something sexy when they meet her or maybe she feels confident enough to wear what she wants to wear and not be dictated by the guy shes meeting or chatting to.

But there is nothing wrong with adding it to your profile. Women will either pass on by or get it.

Thing is, it's just a like and it certainly wouldn't be a deal breaker for me if a woman didnt enjoy dressing up. "

It's hard enough for single guys on here as it is but some might take offence to it, if they happen to be women that aren't arsed about dressing for sex. To increase your already slim chances I wouldn't bother putting it on there but that's me.

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By *gnitemybodyWoman
over a year ago

Onestepoutofthedoor

Ok I have to ask because I can't for the life of me make out what your avatar pic is?!

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By *ot40sCouple
over a year ago

birmingham

Seems fine to me.... you are only stating what you like .... not what's expected !

Ignore them!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Ok I have to ask because I can't for the life of me make out what your avatar pic is?! "

He's in the bath with a somewhat radioactive susbstance

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"Ok I have to ask because I can't for the life of me make out what your avatar pic is?! "

Me in a jacuzzi bath with the red underwater light on. It's just meant to catch the eye and look different. Haha.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Ok I have to ask because I can't for the life of me make out what your avatar pic is?! "

Could be wrong but I thought it was either a space ship landing...or the OP's legs on a sunbed or against some other solar light.

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By *akemetobedeyesWoman
over a year ago

Knaresborough


"Surely a confident woman would do whatever she wants to?"

Submissive women are confident too.

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By *gnitemybodyWoman
over a year ago

Onestepoutofthedoor


"Ok I have to ask because I can't for the life of me make out what your avatar pic is?!

Me in a jacuzzi bath with the red underwater light on. It's just meant to catch the eye and look different. Haha. "

Oh right I've just enlarged it and I see a pair of feet!

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By *gnitemybodyWoman
over a year ago

Onestepoutofthedoor


"Ok I have to ask because I can't for the life of me make out what your avatar pic is?!

Me in a jacuzzi bath with the red underwater light on. It's just meant to catch the eye and look different. Haha.

Oh right I've just enlarged it and I see a pair of feet! "

Well when I say feet I mean toes

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I always dress for sex, if I didn't I would be a bloke in make up and that doesn't look too good"
Me too I always choose my lingerie dress shoes etc carefully for sex. The guy doesn't want me in a washed out grey bra. He can get that at home

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

She has every right to disagree with what you have written (offended? Nah doesn't mean anything anymore) and can tell you that, but It's a sign of insecurity and low self-esteem to blast off at someone with out any real justification.

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By *oodmessMan
over a year ago

yumsville

Take any feedback you can get. It might be an idea to fix it though, especially as you are dressed in jeans and a t-shirt.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"She has every right to disagree with what you have written (offended? Nah doesn't mean anything anymore) and can tell you that, but It's a sign of insecurity and low self-esteem to blast off at someone with out any real justification."

Being blasted with regular requests and expectations that do not take your own desire into account is justification enough to be annoyed and vocal about it. If anything, women/people with insecurities and low self-esteem are more likely to be suggestible and eager to please.

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By *vetteBondTV/TS
over a year ago

English Riviera


"I always dress for sex, if I didn't I would be a bloke in make up and that doesn't look too good"

Lolz on the map with you there sister.

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By *ilthyDebaucheryWoman
over a year ago

Oswestry

I din't get how asking someone t9 dress for sex is offensive?

I love the dressing up Makes me feel sexy All part of the anticipation getting ready too Then the look on their faces when they lay eyes on you

I find it more offensive when people make no effort

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By *alandNitaCouple
over a year ago

Scunthorpe

Saying you like women who dress for sex isn't offensive. At least not to me.

Since it is part of a list, maybe move it further down so if seems less of a priority.

Nita

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I din't get how asking someone t9 dress for sex is offensive?

I love the dressing up Makes me feel sexy All part of the anticipation getting ready too Then the look on their faces when they lay eyes on you

I find it more offensive when people make no effort"

I find it offensive when people imply not dressing for sex is making no effort

Sexy underwear is NOT the official fuck uniform, and we are not in the fuck army. Everyone can wear or not wear what they like.

Sure, list your interest/show off your wardrobe, and when you see someone who does this, approach each other - you've got a common turn-on, that's great! Just don't anticipate it from every woman, and be aware that there are people who don't care for it or even actively dislike it. It's not much to ask really is it.

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By *ikstupp2Man
over a year ago

london


"I din't get how asking someone t9 dress for sex is offensive?

I love the dressing up Makes me feel sexy All part of the anticipation getting ready too Then the look on their faces when they lay eyes on you

I find it more offensive when people make no effort

I find it offensive when people imply not dressing for sex is making no effort

Sexy underwear is NOT the official fuck uniform, and we are not in the fuck army. Everyone can wear or not wear what they like.

Sure, list your interest/show off your wardrobe, and when you see someone who does this, approach each other - you've got a common turn-on, that's great! Just don't anticipate it from every woman, and be aware that there are people who don't care for it or even actively dislike it. It's not much to ask really is it."
well I'd always make sure I'm wearing nice undies for a meet so y shouldn't I expect the same?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I don't think I'd be happy if a meet turned up in a boiler suit and hob nail boots

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Wish some guys would make more effort. Shower for a start and give your cock a proper clean lol

I have met some not so clean /fresh smelling guys from here. If you are meeting just be prepared and just dont take things further if you know you havent showered.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I love to dress up for sex.

Makes me feel super hot!

There's nothing wrong with that in our book.

Long fur coat, just stockings and suspenders underneath, great feeling. "

Great pic that , hot indeed

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

How bout you rewrite it slightly and say you like a sexy dressed confident lady

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By *inkyChrissy99TV/TS
over a year ago

Bristol

I like your profile, maybe it just touched a nerve or she's had a bad day and needed a rant lol

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

End of day op most ladies on here going on a meet or having one at home will wear something sexy underneath if they feel like it

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

There is nothing wrong with you stating your preferences and because this is a sex site you should expect a woman to dress to entice...its all part of the allure and I wouldn't dream of meeting or greeting anyone without being dressed to please

The woman who replied to you shouldn't be on here!

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"There is nothing wrong with you stating your preferences and because this is a sex site you should expect a woman to dress to entice...its all part of the allure and I wouldn't dream of meeting or greeting anyone without being dressed to please

The woman who replied to you shouldn't be on here!"

Thanks for your support. I was in your area a few weeks back.lovely part of the world. Visited "gays " loved it!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"There is nothing wrong with you stating your preferences and because this is a sex site you should expect a woman to dress to entice...its all part of the allure and I wouldn't dream of meeting or greeting anyone without being dressed to please

The woman who replied to you shouldn't be on here!

Thanks for your support. I was in your area a few weeks back.lovely part of the world. Visited "gays " loved it! "

Its a lovely place to live but gets a bit crowded this time of year! Gays is very popular with locals too.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

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By *inky-MinxWoman
over a year ago

Grantham

It's not rude at all but I don't meet men who expect me to dress up for them

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"because this is a sex site you should expect a woman to dress to entice...

The woman who replied to you shouldn't be on here!"

Is it such an impossible stretch of the imagination that not everyone is turned on by lace satin and elastic?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"There is nothing wrong with you stating your preferences and because this is a sex site you should expect a woman to dress to entice...its all part of the allure and I wouldn't dream of meeting or greeting anyone without being dressed to please

The woman who replied to you shouldn't be on here!"

I agree that there's nothing wrong in liking women who dress for sex, but it shouldn't be expected.

I don't dress for sex, and don't meet anyone who expects me to.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Your profile is spot on !!

And baby want do you want me to dress

as

Just don't say Holly Willybooby I'm not dying my hair blonde !!

I'm brunette and staying that colour lol

Oh and I love your taste in women

Holly oh yes I would !!

But seriously for a change a good profile read, I would actually sent you a message if you were a little closer

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By *inky-MinxWoman
over a year ago

Grantham


"because this is a sex site you should expect a woman to dress to entice...its all part of the allure and I wouldn't dream of meeting or greeting anyone without being dressed to please

The woman who replied to you shouldn't be on here!"

First it's a Swingers site an not a sex site and that's a very sexist view of how women should behave.

Women are on here for their own reasons, can wear exactly what they want to and should not meet a man who only wants them because they are dressed up

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By *ilthyDebaucheryWoman
over a year ago

Oswestry


"I din't get how asking someone t9 dress for sex is offensive?

I love the dressing up Makes me feel sexy All part of the anticipation getting ready too Then the look on their faces when they lay eyes on you

I find it more offensive when people make no effort

I find it offensive when people imply not dressing for sex is making no effort

Sexy underwear is NOT the official fuck uniform, and we are not in the fuck army. Everyone can wear or not wear what they like.

Sure, list your interest/show off your wardrobe, and when you see someone who does this, approach each other - you've got a common turn-on, that's great! Just don't anticipate it from every woman, and be aware that there are people who don't care for it or even actively dislike it. It's not much to ask really is it.well I'd always make sure I'm wearing nice undies for a meet so y shouldn't I expect the same?"

Think you get my point exactly If someone cannot even be bothered to make an effort with their appearance, applying nice aftershave etc... and lets face it attraction is about aestetics initially Well if that's too much like hard work it doesn't bode that well in bedroom Lazy people are lazy lovers Ha!

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By *ot40sCouple
over a year ago

birmingham


"I din't get how asking someone t9 dress for sex is offensive?

I love the dressing up Makes me feel sexy All part of the anticipation getting ready too Then the look on their faces when they lay eyes on you

I find it more offensive when people make no effort

I find it offensive when people imply not dressing for sex is making no effort

Sexy underwear is NOT the official fuck uniform, and we are not in the fuck army. Everyone can wear or not wear what they like.

Sure, list your interest/show off your wardrobe, and when you see someone who does this, approach each other - you've got a common turn-on, that's great! Just don't anticipate it from every woman, and be aware that there are people who don't care for it or even actively dislike it. It's not much to ask really is it.well I'd always make sure I'm wearing nice undies for a meet so y shouldn't I expect the same?

Think you get my point exactly If someone cannot even be bothered to make an effort with their appearance, applying nice aftershave etc... and lets face it attraction is about aestetics initially Well if that's too much like hard work it doesn't bode that well in bedroom Lazy people are lazy lovers Ha!"

Totally agree !!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Could be solved by adding one simple two letter word "up" could say you like women who dress 'up' for sex.

Think it's wasted on here though with the ratio of men to women.

Women on here be like, bitch I'm gonna wear what I want and you gonna like it!

It's cute though, shows you have some preferences.

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By *otgirl32Woman
over a year ago

Ashton Under Lyne

Not offensive the woman you spoke to is being a bitch for the sake of it.

That said, I hate the question "what do you like to wear on meets" or some permutation of that. My standard answer is "clothes" and anything more gets a kick in the arse from me. Men here should be confident that the women they meet on Fab will dress up "nice" (define that in whatever way you want) and you shouldn't be telling her what to wear unless she asks what you'd like her to wear. Unless there's something you absolutely hate which would become a deal breaker - in that case best to say upfront you don't like something. Once a bloke told me he hated women wearing heels. Was fine with me, wore flip flops to the meet !

We all understand that when you meet someone you're may not like his/her dressing choices. The good news is that clothes usually come off and then it's all irrelevant.

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By *eavenscentitCouple
over a year ago

barnstaple

I dress for sex, I like to start looking and feeling sexy. I do it for me. I get naked too but, he likes a bit of a tease.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I would rather meet a lady who dresses for sex yes, it always makes me laugh when you see a pic of a lady in her stockings heels etc and the bloke has kept his socks on !!

I dont really like naked bodies, noow naked bodies covered in lingerie YES

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

This is the thing, women are meant to dress for sex for a guy to be turned on .. what to do guys give us back? lol

There are not many men who dress nicely for meets.. i mean smart .. they dress casually yet want us to make an effort, take time on our appearance and wear what is sometimes the most uncomfortable pieces of clothing and they turn up in jeans and tshirt.. right.. i get it lol

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By *ikstupp2Man
over a year ago

london


"This is the thing, women are meant to dress for sex for a guy to be turned on .. what to do guys give us back? lol

There are not many men who dress nicely for meets.. i mean smart .. they dress casually yet want us to make an effort, take time on our appearance and wear what is sometimes the most uncomfortable pieces of clothing and they turn up in jeans and tshirt.. right.. i get it lol

"
i used to always ask how a lady would like me to dress. Iv donned suits before but I found a lot asked me to b in tight white t shirt n jeans......maybe because they knew I worked in a garage (bit of rough look)

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"This is the thing, women are meant to dress for sex for a guy to be turned on .. what to do guys give us back? lol

There are not many men who dress nicely for meets.. i mean smart .. they dress casually yet want us to make an effort, take time on our appearance and wear what is sometimes the most uncomfortable pieces of clothing and they turn up in jeans and tshirt.. right.. i get it lol

i used to always ask how a lady would like me to dress. Iv donned suits before but I found a lot asked me to b in tight white t shirt n jeans......maybe because they knew I worked in a garage (bit of rough look)"

I can see why that would work for some women. Yeah its just nice if guys make an effort. Ive met guys who turned up who havent showered, guys in running gear, football kit, workgear .. it turns me off.

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By *ikstupp2Man
over a year ago

london


"This is the thing, women are meant to dress for sex for a guy to be turned on .. what to do guys give us back? lol

There are not many men who dress nicely for meets.. i mean smart .. they dress casually yet want us to make an effort, take time on our appearance and wear what is sometimes the most uncomfortable pieces of clothing and they turn up in jeans and tshirt.. right.. i get it lol

i used to always ask how a lady would like me to dress. Iv donned suits before but I found a lot asked me to b in tight white t shirt n jeans......maybe because they knew I worked in a garage (bit of rough look)

I can see why that would work for some women. Yeah its just nice if guys make an effort. Ive met guys who turned up who havent showered, guys in running gear, football kit, workgear .. it turns me off."
thats just disrespectful, I like to make a good impression so always ask. If a lady makes the effort then so should the guy. Thing is wer limited on sexy underwear lol

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"Your profile is spot on !!

And baby want do you want me to dress

as

Just don't say Holly Willybooby I'm not dying my hair blonde !!

I'm brunette and staying that colour lol

Oh and I love your taste in women

Holly oh yes I would !!

But seriously for a change a good profile read, I would actually sent you a message if you were a little closer "

Thank you so much, I'm genuinely flattered. X

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I din't get how asking someone t9 dress for sex is offensive?

I love the dressing up Makes me feel sexy All part of the anticipation getting ready too Then the look on their faces when they lay eyes on you

I find it more offensive when people make no effort

I find it offensive when people imply not dressing for sex is making no effort

Sexy underwear is NOT the official fuck uniform, and we are not in the fuck army. Everyone can wear or not wear what they like.

Sure, list your interest/show off your wardrobe, and when you see someone who does this, approach each other - you've got a common turn-on, that's great! Just don't anticipate it from every woman, and be aware that there are people who don't care for it or even actively dislike it. It's not much to ask really is it.well I'd always make sure I'm wearing nice undies for a meet so y shouldn't I expect the same?

Think you get my point exactly If someone cannot even be bothered to make an effort with their appearance, applying nice aftershave etc... and lets face it attraction is about aestetics initially Well if that's too much like hard work it doesn't bode that well in bedroom Lazy people are lazy lovers Ha!"

So many assumptions and illogical conclusions in your post. I've never been called lazy for not wanting to put on a specific style of underwear.

For what it's worth I also find aftershave totally unnecessary, sometimes a put-off depending on the smell; soap and deodorant is plenty enough. As another poster said "nice" is different things to different people, check with your meets and check your assumptions.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"This is the thing, women are meant to dress for sex for a guy to be turned on .. what to do guys give us back? lol

There are not many men who dress nicely for meets.. i mean smart .. they dress casually yet want us to make an effort, take time on our appearance and wear what is sometimes the most uncomfortable pieces of clothing and they turn up in jeans and tshirt.. right.. i get it lol

"

Are we? I wasn't aware of this. I wear what I happen to feel comfortable in and guys tend to get a bit more effort from me when I feel reciprocation is in order. If someone started making demands - and I've had it a couple of times - I either call off the meet or deliberately dress down.

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