FabSwingers.com forum: Soft swinging

By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

Do many people do this? It's been hard to find anyone who is interested in this.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

No..we dont see the point in it

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By *orum TrollWoman
over a year ago

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i used to, it was really popular when i did.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

We wouldn't arrange a private meet with a man who only wanted soft play, but we have both had soft play in the context of a group of friends all playing at a club or a party. It's probably circumstantial. And I do have a couple of male friends on the scene who I play with at parties but have never had penetrative sex with and I can't see that changing. If the chemistry is intense I don't think I would have the self control for long though.

Mrs

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By *ilthyDebaucheryWoman
over a year ago

Oswestry

I don't see the point personally

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By *icecouple561Couple
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over a year ago

East Sussex

I don't know how many people do this but we do.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I suppose it falls somewhere between voyeurism and full play.

I love foreplay, so I'm pretty sure I would enjoy it.

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By *LUFFER200Man
over a year ago

North Devon

I am happy to soft swing only. Love giving oral. Contact me if interested in soft play only.

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By *mcouple1Couple
over a year ago

nr warrington

Proud softies here. We play soft on all our meets so far.

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By *mcouple1Couple
over a year ago

nr warrington

When go full we will be using protection not like some.

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By *ucky Lucky meMan
over a year ago

Gateshead

I'm all for it as I'm new. Actually in Manchester on Monday so have posted a meet. Hoping some people are interested. Word be grateful to get some people together to give oral as an introduction

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By *reenleavesCouple
over a year ago

North Wales

Soft swing here too!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

We love soft swing. Hoping to find local peps to meet

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Soft swappers.

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By *iscean MaleMan
over a year ago

Darlaston

Enjoys soft swinging myself

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By *inkycouplespainCouple
over a year ago

Malaga Spain but sometimes Manchester and

We do, at least i know Mrs Kinky will get a good seeing to. Happy for others to watch. lol

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Yes. Flirting and touching is the key for a very passionate sex later on..

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By *landfordfabbersCouple
over a year ago

Blandford ish

We soft swap I think it's more popular in couples seeking couples never come across guys or girls who want to meet fit soft

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By *ocbigMan
over a year ago

Birmingham

Do we all have the same definition of 'soft'? Just wondering..

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By *actylsMan
over a year ago

Accrington

Soft swing has been an Integral part of our swinging journey for us over the past 10 yrs or so. Mrs D instigated the pathway, social meets, phone sex, invited watchers, 3- some straight sex and currently orally-bi with her lovers.

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By *reenleavesCouple
over a year ago

North Wales

"Do we all have the same definition of 'soft'? Just wondering.."

For us, it's everything bar penetrative sex and (for the moment) oral.

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By *icecouple561Couple
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over a year ago

East Sussex

"Do we all have the same definition of 'soft'? Just wondering.."

I doubt it. Some people define it as just oral, some as everything but penetration, some has a bdsm element to it and loads of variations in between.

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By *lactontogMan
over a year ago

Clacton on Sea

Never say never guys, me & Kim do full swing most of the time but there are occasions when we meet a couple / single lady for their preferred soft swing meet & it's always bloody good fun.

When fucking is taken out of the equation you actually spend more time exploring the other person's body & what makes them tick, we have always been left fully satisfied from soft swing so it's not as bad as some think.

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By *icecouple561Couple
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over a year ago

East Sussex

"Never say never guys, me & Kim do full swing most of the time but there are occasions when we meet a couple / single lady for their preferred soft swing meet & it's always bloody good fun.

I agree.

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By *exyNixCouple
over a year ago

Preston

In some ways we enjoy soft more than full as it can take away some of the pressure for the man to perform. That said, still enjoy a good full session

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By *reenleavesCouple
over a year ago

North Wales

When fucking is taken out of the equation you actually spend more time exploring the other person's body & what makes them tick.

This exactly!

Plus the sensation of having several mouths and hands exploring your body whilst your partner fucks you is especially intense!

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By *uncan LynnCouple
over a year ago

Kilmarnock

As much as we are extremely open and liberal, having no rules or boundaries. Soft fun is ams can be amazing. It can be the naughtiest or most sensual fun you have had .

Soft when we do it is right up to the point of not fully penetrating. All cumming several times .

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By *ap d agde coupleCouple
over a year ago

Broadstairs

Soft swing can be very good oral touching what's not to like

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By *mokey_KinksMan
over a year ago

Essex

happy with soft swing if thats what they are looking for love the fore play side of fun

any offers message me

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By *objgukMan
over a year ago

Hebden Bridge

I'm a soft swing guy and had lots of fun. Much less pressure all round and very exciting.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

we are soft only we have penetration with own partner so you don't miss out on anything, we love teaseing and foreplay so soft is very erotic

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Love soft swing and keep full sex to just us best of both worlds

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By *orthernguyXXXMan
over a year ago

ashington

Only looking for soft swing but no takers

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By *icecouple561Couple
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over a year ago

East Sussex

"Only looking for soft swing but no takers "

We find that relatively few people enjoy soft swing but it's worth being patient.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

How would a single person soft swing? Just watch and pkay with themselves?

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By *orum TrollWoman
over a year ago

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"How would a single person soft swing? Just watch and pkay with themselves?"

meet other people and not have sex with them, just have foreplay basically.

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By *icecouple561Couple
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over a year ago

East Sussex

"How would a single person soft swing? Just watch and pkay with themselves?"

Go back to the heavy petting days of your youth

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

We like both soft swing and full swap, couples that seem to think there is no point to soft swing have a very different outlook to ourselves, we like imaginative, naughty & filthy fun and this can happen without full swap, just swapping partners can be frankly pretty boring....

BTW we define soft swing as everything & anything apart from penetration x

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By *icecouple561Couple
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over a year ago

East Sussex

We have loads of soft swing ideas. Some of them require the person we're meeting to invest a little time and trust though.

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By *alandNitaCouple
over a year ago

Scunthorpe

I'm surprised, but pleased, to see single men expressing an interest in soft swing.

Sex is so much more than penetration.

We enjoy both soft swing and full swap. For us soft is everything except penetration.

Nita

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

We don't soft swing

- Mrs. J -

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I'm a soft swing guy and had lots of fun. Much less pressure all round and very exciting."

So what do you do? Sit there by yourself and masturbate? Or have I missed something to your soft swing as a single man?

- Mrs. J -

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

We'd happily do it with a female or couple for a first meet. But never only do soft play and wouldn't do it with a male.

~Mia

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

happy with soft here too

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By *ngandnickCouple
over a year ago

Haverhill

I ( mrs) am soft play only but happy for OH to fully play whilst I watch----although not yet fulfilled this fantasy--------yet!!!!!!

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By *icecouple561Couple
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over a year ago

East Sussex

"I'm a soft swing guy and had lots of fun. Much less pressure all round and very exciting.

So what do you do? Sit there by yourself and masturbate? Or have I missed something to your soft swing as a single man?

- Mrs. J -"

I can't speak for this guy obviously but for many people soft swing means everything but penetration. So I'm guessing that if he's straight he would indulge in a lot of sexual activity with the lady possibly including oral, mutual masturbation etc etc. It doesn't necessarily mean no touching.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I'm a soft swing guy and had lots of fun. Much less pressure all round and very exciting.

So what do you do? Sit there by yourself and masturbate? Or have I missed something to your soft swing as a single man?

- Mrs. J -

Oh, I see now

I thought it was all about sitting there and watching each other

- Mrs. J -

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By *lactontogMan
over a year ago

Clacton on Sea

"We like both soft swing and full swap, couples that seem to think there is no point to soft swing have a very different outlook to ourselves, we like imaginative, naughty & filthy fun and this can happen without full swap, just swapping partners can be frankly pretty boring....

BTW we define soft swing as everything & anything apart from penetration x"

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By *lactontogMan
over a year ago

Clacton on Sea

"I'm a soft swing guy and had lots of fun. Much less pressure all round and very exciting.

So what do you do? Sit there by yourself and masturbate? Or have I missed something to your soft swing as a single man?

- Mrs. J -

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By *icecouple561Couple
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over a year ago

East Sussex

"I'm a soft swing guy and had lots of fun. Much less pressure all round and very exciting.

So what do you do? Sit there by yourself and masturbate? Or have I missed something to your soft swing as a single man?

- Mrs. J -

Oh, I see now

I thought it was all about sitting there and watching each other

- Mrs. J -"

No but some guys do enjoy that too.

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By *asques and boxersCouple
over a year ago

Ashford and dept16

Been here just on 5 years we're soft swap (penetration to ourselves) everything else except ppp. Met/played with couples and singles never had any complaints. Those who dont have the same preferences will surely find "birds of a feather".

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By *asques and boxersCouple
over a year ago

Ashford and dept16

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By *asques and boxersCouple
over a year ago

Ashford and dept16

BTW we define soft swing as everything & anything apart from penetration x"

Thats it in a nut shell softswing doesn't need to exclude imagination sensual naughty and the flithy in fact if anything it requires more of it. Our full swap friends have never not been satisfied at least they have never said so...

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By *asques and boxersCouple
over a year ago

Ashford and dept16

"Proud softies here. We play soft on all our meets so far. "

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I'm a soft swing guy and had lots of fun. Much less pressure all round and very exciting.

So what do you do? Sit there by yourself and masturbate? Or have I missed something to your soft swing as a single man?

- Mrs. J -

Oh, I see now

I thought it was all about sitting there and watching each other

- Mrs. J -

No but some guys do enjoy that too."

Each to their own, I guess

We do everything you have described as a soft swing but then penetrative sex is very important too for both of us. So we are a 'soft swing leading to full swap' couple

- Mrs. J -

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

People will have their reasons for soft swing only, and as I said in my earlier post there are people that we have done soft play with, either for specific reasons or circumstantial. And I do understand that sometimes not enough time is spent on foreplay, so soft swing might enocourage that. But I can't except that soft play in itself is a more satisfying experience. If people are prepared to take their time with foreplay, then surely penetrative sex to finish is a great dessert? I personally have not found the experience better with those we do soft play only with, and those we do soft play followed by penetration.

Mrs

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By *imjohnCouple
over a year ago

Clacton on sea, Essex

We don't regard couples meeting & only the ladies play with no touching from the male partners as real swinging because we think everyone should be involved in the fun otherwise it's simply not swinging, people think of that scenario as "soft swinging" which causes confusion with people avoiding quality meets simply because they don't ask people their levels.

Soft swing is non challenging giving you lots of time to get to know the person you play with creating a relaxed atmosphere, because of our day jobs people are chomping at the bit to fuck us as soon as we meet which is nice but it's also refreshing sometimes to have a no pressure softswing meet where we can take our time relax & enjoy ourselves without the usual expectations.

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By *mokey_KinksMan
over a year ago

Essex

i very much enjoy soft swing i love foreplay love to touch and tease just love oral and find more enjoyment from that side of play, very happy to soft play with anyone and find ways to please

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By *ewnmaturesCouple
over a year ago

fife

Yup! Lots of ways to give & receive pleasure why limit it?

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By *icecouple561Couple
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over a year ago

East Sussex

"I'm a soft swing guy and had lots of fun. Much less pressure all round and very exciting.

So what do you do? Sit there by yourself and masturbate? Or have I missed something to your soft swing as a single man?

- Mrs. J -

Oh, I see now

I thought it was all about sitting there and watching each other

- Mrs. J -

No but some guys do enjoy that too.

Each to their own, I guess

We do everything you have described as a soft swing but then penetrative sex is very important too for both of us. So we are a 'soft swing leading to full swap' couple

- Mrs. J -"

I think its great that everyone can play exactly how they want.

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By *jandmcCouple
over a year ago

Lancs

This is a well responded to post. Sadly there can be a level of confusion as to your 'specific' interpretation - mainly from those relatively new to the scene.

So always best to ask for that clarification.

But to those who immediately dismiss the thought... done well it can be as fulfilling as 'penile penetration'. We've been doing this for a long time and have never had any complaints....

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By *ubbles12312Couple
over a year ago

stockport

Love soft play lot of fun

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By *iReyWoman
over a year ago

Cheshire East

Me and my fiance soft swing, we've had many meets and club experiences and never came away feeling unsatisfied

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By *urchoicenowCouple
over a year ago

Ashford

Yes we are soft

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

We would love to try soft. We like to tease and play with each other and find it way more stimulating to explore each other in turn.

We hope to meet a couple with similar interest to play together.

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By *ucy. AlCouple
over a year ago

Newcastle upon Tyne

"Never say never guys, me & Kim do full swing most of the time but there are occasions when we meet a couple / single lady for their preferred soft swing meet & it's always bloody good fun.

exactly, anyone can shove a dick up and cum but does that leave BOTH parties satisfied? No I for one (should clarify male half here) enjoy the exploration and sensual side (with a bit of bondage thrown in

) I feel much more satisfied when I've found those special spots on someone and done the job right, seeing the expressions and reading them correctly is more a part of it for me.

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By *mokey_KinksMan
over a year ago

Essex

very much feel the same softplay can be so much more fun for all involved

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

It seems putting soft play and straight on our profile isn't very enticing, a shame but we're honest lol

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

There is a common theme on this thread that soft play is more fun. Its as though it's 'either or' - soft play being lengthy sensual fun foreplay, penetrative sex being just penetrative sex. How about soft play followed by penetrative sex at the end? Best of both worlds? No reason why adding penetrative sex should reduce the options available in soft play. Not knocking those who choose soft play only for specific reasons, but not sure that removing penetration from the equation automatically makes the experience more sensual or fun.

Mrs

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By *icecouple561Couple
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over a year ago

East Sussex

"There is a common theme on this thread that soft play is more fun. Its as though it's 'either or' - soft play being lengthy sensual fun foreplay, penetrative sex being just penetrative sex. How about soft play followed by penetrative sex at the end? Best of both worlds? No reason why adding penetrative sex should reduce the options available in soft play. Not knocking those who choose soft play only for specific reasons, but not sure that removing penetration from the equation automatically makes the experience more sensual or fun.

Mrs"

I agree.

Everyone should play the way they want but it doesn't make their choice better or mean that they enjoy themselves more than other people.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Mrs"

soft play is very sensual and erotic, but that doesn't mean you cant have penetration aswell with your own partner to finnish if you want to,

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Mrs

soft play is very sensual and erotic, but that doesn't mean you cant have penetration aswell with your own partner to finnish if you want to,"

That's true if my husband and I are playing together, although our playmate would have to go without penetration in that situation. But I was more questioning whether I'd find play with other men more sensual and erotic if I stopped at penetration.

Mrs

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"How would a single person soft swing? Just watch and play with themselves?

Go back to the heavy petting days of your youth

Hmmmm all well and good but foreplay only....and go home alone. Not for me. I want the boab!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

But to those who immediately dismiss the thought... done well it can be as fulfilling as 'penile penetration'. We've been doing this for a long time and have never had any complaints...."

If it is with another couple I get that as they can still have penetrative sex with each other.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

We don't "soft play" and we don't "full swap" we simply play.

We prefer things to develop and happen naturally however they may without expectation or limits.

We find having any kind of expectation when playing with others tends to end with dissapointment or frustration for either party.

The only expectations is that boundaries are observed, we are all respected, and that everyone is happy and comfortable with how the play goes.

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By *lacksausageMan
over a year ago

Birmingham Airport

Where do you draw the line?

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