FabSwingers.com forum: Mutual attraction, do you need one to play ?

By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

Hi, just wondering if other people feel the same as us,

do you have to feel some sort of attraction towards the other couple to play or would you just play just for the sake of playing ??

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By *r and Mrs FlintstoneCouple
over a year ago

bridgwater

Def need some attraction on both sides male and female , no taking one for the team here

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

i agree,there has to be some attraction otherwise where's the fun?

i don't think everyone feels the same way tho

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Yeah has to be some sort of spark there before we play with anyone.

Lynn. X

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

There is no way I would play with someone I wasn't attracted to.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

No sparks between me and a potential playmate = no play, simples.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

true there does need to be some kind of spark or its not worth it

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

If we meet another couple we always go for a social meet first, that way we can all go away and think about it. If we meet a single guy though it's totally different as the dynamics change, as long as I'm happy then it's fine. Although even this has never happened and all the single guys we've met we've both got on with. There has to be some sort of attraction if play is to go ahead.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

No 'pity fucks' from me, (pardon the term). I need to feel the 'hot hot hot' spark whether it be in a club or a meet from here

I heard a bloke saying he had played with me!!

in the changing rooms of a club the other weekend. I looked at him but was too tired to even bother correcting the poor bloke he was 'bragging' too.The look I gave him said it all! Still if he approaches me again in a club I will remind him how I felt nothing last time, so wont bother again

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Def need some attraction on both sides male and female , no taking one for the team here

Same here.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

no ill fcuk anything me

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By *andKCouple
over a year ago

Norfolk

Attraction is very important to us and in many respects it has to be a 4-way thing as we usualy play as a couple. K wouldn't want me playing with someone she doesn't like and likewise I wouldn't want a guy shaging her is I couldn't stand him.

Maybe thats why we don't meet very often

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By *opeye-OliveCouple
over a year ago

worcester

Mutual attraction is Esential!

Unfortunately that's why it's so difficult, as a couple, to find other couples that we both fancy

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I tried to play with someone i found unattractive. Didn't work. Never again for me

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By *ENDAROOSCouple
over a year ago

South West London / Surrey

If we aren't attracted to someone then simple, we don't play. But it's important to not only find them attractive but actually like their company.

Which is why finding other couples can be so hard...

When we meet single guys it's still important that Mr feels comfortable with him. If he not keen as much as I may like them....no play!

The same would apply if we met a single lady.

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By *ENDAROOSCouple
over a year ago

South West London / Surrey

Forgot to add:

Also important that the other couple / single is attracted to us too.

Met a couple once where it was obvious that the lady was into us both, but once play started could tell that the male wasn't into me....not somethig I would like to repeat.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

i think there shud be sum sort of attraction there. it might not be physical but it does help x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

i need a connection of some sort x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Def has to be an attraction, it all adds to the fun

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

if i cant get along with them out of bed - i wont in! simple x

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By *TUNNAWoman
over a year ago

glasgow

there's gotta be some attraction

or there'll be no fun

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By *emima_puddlefuckCouple
over a year ago

hexham

Couples yes, kev aint a slut

On my own...if i am in cock hungry mood, no...i want to fuck, not make friends.

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By *havenangel1Couple
over a year ago

Worcester

We both have to have some form of attraction other wise it's really not fun. We would like to think the couple couple we are playing with feel the same

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

Thanks to all for the replys......

we`re no oil painting but i think u do need some physical attraction to play ..

thanks again

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

your right for me i have to atleast have a little bit of attraction to the other person otherwise its just not going to work im afraid x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Depends what mood I'm in but personality is more important to me than looks. However, if I am just in a horny mood then I just go for it mostly lol!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Attraction is very important to us and in many respects it has to be a 4-way thing as we usualy play as a couple. K wouldn't want me playing with someone she doesn't like and likewise I wouldn't want a guy shaging her is I couldn't stand him.

Maybe thats why we don't meet very often

Same for us too A

We've turned opportunities away because I didn't like the guy and didn't want him near Kate. Likewise Kate has said "No" after meeting the other woman. It's nothing to do with looks, but loads to do with personality and demeanor.

We are a lot more selective now we've been here a little while.

I'm not saying that the "gloss has gone off it", lol, far from it, but unless we are totally happy, we don't play

We were invited to join a "party group" but when we were told we would be expected to "experience" each of the opposite sex of the group, I quickly told them where to go.

The only one who is going to say whether I can have a shag or not, besides myself, is my wife

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Hi, just wondering if other people feel the same as us,

do you have to feel some sort of attraction towards the other couple to play or would you just play just for the sake of playing ??"

For one on one then yes... but for groups.. then I dont even bother with names... and most times could walk past the guy an hour later and no recognise him

Katie. x

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By *ushroom7Man
over a year ago

Bradford

There is always the "doggy" option if they're not that attractive.

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By *adcowWoman
over a year ago

kirkcaldy

most definitely

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

We'd find it physically impossible to have sex with someone we weren't attracted to.

We just couldn't bring ourselves to do it.

Nor can we understand why anyone would force themselves to do it either.

XXXX

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I cant play or kiss a person i am not attracted too ....I am sure some get so d*unk thay dont care at times , I do care i have to like them as people too .

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By *andKCouple
over a year ago

Norfolk

" I cant play or kiss a person i am not attracted too ....I am sure some get so d*unk thay dont care at times , I do care i have to like them as people too ."

Damn it now I know why we haven't met other than in passing

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I think there has to be a certain amount of attraction to play with someone else although it has to be said we are not looking to marry the couples we intend to meet so usual standards that would normally attract either of us to a partner don't really apply.

You can put up with some things for a short while that would perhaps drive you mad if you were in a long term relationship with them

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

" I cant play or kiss a person i am not attracted too ....I am sure some get so d*unk thay dont care at times , I do care i have to like them as people too .

Damn it now I know why we haven't met other than in passing

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stop that , lol your both lovely people . xx

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

We both Definately need a Mutual attraction to play with another couple or lady. Thats why we may come across as fussy of picky at times.Together all the way, No doubts if like or not. Defo none of this "mmm, the fem or man, (whoever) is hottttt and 100% ticks the boxes in my crotch" so, take one for the cause this wk and make a munter smile.

This aint no charity of cock/fadge handouts for the attractively challenged or 1 of the 2 are ok so shall we?? Red bellend day is later in the year,xmas when we pissed to be exact wen the beer goggs on and ya may get a sniff.lol

Joking asside, so we say attraction is a must,just like another 2 of our main reasons of if we meet or not. Manners, and attitude. Cost nowt and gain all we got to give. A good, healthy balance is needed we say,we dnt want a stunner with its an all about me me me, selfcentred, head up there jacksy persona either. Sexy, sassy, friendly, polite and with some looks will do it.

We all got standards, why would anyone drop from what they have in there partner/wife etc to fuck a lesser model.

Our shallow thoughts on the post there for ya, agree or not were ok with that.

All opinions will vary on this one......

mwah.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Absoulutely there has to be an attraction,else whats the point..you might as well just go play with yourself !!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I think it depends what sort of play.. if I were to be kissing them then yes.. I need to fancy them..

If its just a fuck or oral, then its less important..

I think it is partly why Master and I dont play with other couples.. As my taste in women and Masters differ so completely. The women I find sexy, my Master wouldnt...

Katie.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Mutual attraction is Esential!

Unfortunately that's why it's so difficult, as a couple, to find other couples that we both fancy

yep

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

There is always the "doggy" option if they're not that attractive. "

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Forgot to add:

Also important that the other couple / single is attracted to us too.

Met a couple once where it was obvious that the lady was into us both, but once play started could tell that the male wasn't into me....not somethig I would like to repeat."

he must have been completely cuckoo

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