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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

How many is too many.

From the female to male prescriptive?

I know that is I was to see the summary over "joined over a year ago, verified by 60 men" in all honesty I would be turned off the person but having been a memeber years my I know some people have been on this site 10 years, so then 60 doesn't seem that much. I know there's ridiculous profile with hundres out there though.

Just if you saw a male profile ladies and he had whatever you deemed " a lot" of verifications would you be the same as most men and be turned off or would you been slightly more inclined. Just becuase we all know fab is full or rude people, ill mannered people, timewasters etc so would a lot of verifications maybe do the opposite and entice you more. Think oh he must be good in bed, he'lol show up, he can tell and joke and hold a conversation... etc etc.

Cos there's a reason my summary isn't on display haha.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

It doesn't make any difference to me and not all my meets have verified me anyway.

If I was meeting someone for sex away from fab, I would never ask about their previous sex history and all the naughty details.

I like to see a least one verification so I know they are who they say they are.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Plenty Verifications doesn't bother me. Many could be social so not a problem

I'm a social butterfly myself

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By *loswingersCouple
over a year ago

Gloucester

As long as it isn't a list as long as your arm of social only verifications , we would be happy with any number .

It means they meet and have fun , which is exactly why we are here

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I'd be concerned if they had a lot of veris and an interest in bare back, though an interest in bare back alone would probably put me off.

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

Can't believe I'm doing this but I'll put the numbers out there... 52 woman from 65 meets.... I've actually yet to see a higher male meet only verification list lol.

Am I bad? Oh for the record, NEVER bareback and I can't ride bikes.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

You lot do realise this is a swingers site?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Doesn't bother me and as someone else said if it's all safe play what's the issue. We're all here to have fun, some have more fun than others.

If someone looks at my veris and doesn't want to meet me because I've been with a lady who 100+ veris then jog on.

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By *loswingersCouple
over a year ago

Gloucester


"You lot do realise this is a swingers site? "

Thing is there are lots on here who judge ....

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By *oney4uCouple
over a year ago

Glasgow

We think it's more important what the verifications say than the number. We have about 40, but most of those are actually from people we've only chatted to on club nights

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By *iffaWoman
over a year ago

wherever

Doesn't bother me I'd be just be jealous there havin way more fun then me

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By *anky_PankyWoman
over a year ago

Filthy Fuckeryville

I've been on here ten years.

I've social and not so social meet veris. I also work in a swinging club these days.

If I have too many for you then it's tough titties - if I don't then Ello! Pull up a seat I'll pop the kettle on

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"You lot do realise this is a swingers site?

Thing is there are lots on here who judge .... "

This is a swinger site if people judge over how many verifications you have then their the ones that need to realise their on a swingers site and join a dating website this is a pet hate of mine lol

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By *ilthyDebaucheryWoman
over a year ago

Oswestry

It's more down to the quality of the people they have met rather than the numbers for me

If they meet anything with a pulse it's an immediate turn off

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"You lot do realise this is a swingers site?

Thing is there are lots on here who judge ....

This is a swinger site if people judge over how many verifications you have then their the ones that need to realise their on a swingers site and join a dating website this is a pet hate of mine lol"

I met someone for a social who claimed he wouldn't meet anyone showing more than six veris, mind you he was so conflicted about his use of Fab it was painful. I've also been told by a guy I met that he'd been told he had 'too many' veris when showing c.5. There are a lot of judges, especially men about women. The whore/virgin dichotomy holds strong, even on here.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"You lot do realise this is a swingers site?

Thing is there are lots on here who judge ....

This is a swinger site if people judge over how many verifications you have then their the ones that need to realise their on a swingers site and join a dating website this is a pet hate of mine lol

I met someone for a social who claimed he wouldn't meet anyone showing more than six veris, mind you he was so conflicted about his use of Fab it was painful. I've also been told by a guy I met that he'd been told he had 'too many' veris when showing c.5. There are a lot of judges, especially men about women. The whore/virgin dichotomy holds strong, even on here."

what happens in a swingers club or regular club do people take there veri's with them? The basis of swinging is socialising and having sex with different people. Certain members need to think if this site is for them

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By *eady and Willing 9Man
over a year ago

Wherever the party is @


"You lot do realise this is a swingers site?

Thing is there are lots on here who judge .... "

But that's their right,isn't it?..all they have to do is just move on. We all are different and will except different things based on our personalities and opinions. I am very really been attracted to any profile to find out they'd slept with over 50 people. But I think would be slightly concerned if it was in the 100's. Spread over a number of years does make a difference but I would sift through them to find out and I'd just move on

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"It's more down to the quality of the people they have met rather than the numbers for me

If they meet anything with a pulse it's an immediate turn off"

Ye I totally get that lol some people will meet everyone on here I mean like men's, women and tv's. I'm not one to judge but that's there choice however I can see why that would be a turn off for some women

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By *MaleMan
over a year ago

Fuk me, Landing on 'swinging scene/site' with concerns, worry and dilemma how many times someone's met others.

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By *eady and Willing 9Man
over a year ago

Wherever the party is @


"Fuk me, Landing on 'swinging scene/site' with concerns, worry and dilemma how many times someone's met others.

"

Think it's more of who they've met more so than numbers,but aren't people allowed to not want to meet others. Nobody misses out so...

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"You lot do realise this is a swingers site?

Thing is there are lots on here who judge ....

But that's their right,isn't it?..all they have to do is just move on. We all are different and will except different things based on our personalities and opinions. I am very really been attracted to any profile to find out they'd slept with over 50 people. But I think would be slightly concerned if it was in the 100's. Spread over a number of years does make a difference but I would sift through them to find out and I'd just move on"

Ye it is but this is a swinging site no a dating site thing your forgetting is swingers go to clubs with many people who are not on fab and they have been swingers for years so the number of veri's u see on here probably don't reflect there real numbers anyway

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By *ilthyDebaucheryWoman
over a year ago

Oswestry


"It's more down to the quality of the people they have met rather than the numbers for me

If they meet anything with a pulse it's an immediate turn off

Ye I totally get that lol some people will meet everyone on here I mean like men's, women and tv's. I'm not one to judge but that's there choice however I can see why that would be a turn off for some women "

I prefer a guy who's brain is in his head not his trousers and who won't fuck anyone just for the sake of getting fucked

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"It's more down to the quality of the people they have met rather than the numbers for me

If they meet anything with a pulse it's an immediate turn off

Ye I totally get that lol some people will meet everyone on here I mean like men's, women and tv's. I'm not one to judge but that's there choice however I can see why that would be a turn off for some women

I prefer a guy who's brain is in his head not his trousers and who won't fuck anyone just for the sake of getting fucked "

It's all about the banter for me I love a girl who can take a joke and deliver one back! Also looking amazing in underwear a big plus too

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By *ilthyDebaucheryWoman
over a year ago

Oswestry


"You lot do realise this is a swingers site?

Thing is there are lots on here who judge ....

But that's their right,isn't it?..all they have to do is just move on. We all are different and will except different things based on our personalities and opinions. I am very really been attracted to any profile to find out they'd slept with over 50 people. But I think would be slightly concerned if it was in the 100's. Spread over a number of years does make a difference but I would sift through them to find out and I'd just move on

Ye it is but this is a swinging site no a dating site thing your forgetting is swingers go to clubs with many people who are not on fab and they have been swingers for years so the number of veri's u see on here probably don't reflect there real numbers anyway "

Agreed the number of veris probably doesn't reflect the real number cause of clubs but I'd imagine someone with 200+ veris probably has way meets without veris than someone who has 20, for instance, in the majority of cases so I always avoid people with loads of veris We all use this site in different ways

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By *eady and Willing 9Man
over a year ago

Wherever the party is @


"You lot do realise this is a swingers site?

Thing is there are lots on here who judge ....

But that's their right,isn't it?..all they have to do is just move on. We all are different and will except different things based on our personalities and opinions. I am very really been attracted to any profile to find out they'd slept with over 50 people. But I think would be slightly concerned if it was in the 100's. Spread over a number of years does make a difference but I would sift through them to find out and I'd just move on

Ye it is but this is a swinging site no a dating site thing your forgetting is swingers go to clubs with many people who are not on fab and they have been swingers for years so the number of veri's u see on here probably don't reflect there real numbers anyway "

So you're agreeing with me then,as you said many meet with others who aren't in fab,therefore the number can be more and as I said in a previous post,it's also down to who you've sleptwith and not necessarily numbers

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"You lot do realise this is a swingers site?

Thing is there are lots on here who judge ....

But that's their right,isn't it?..all they have to do is just move on. We all are different and will except different things based on our personalities and opinions. I am very really been attracted to any profile to find out they'd slept with over 50 people. But I think would be slightly concerned if it was in the 100's. Spread over a number of years does make a difference but I would sift through them to find out and I'd just move on

Ye it is but this is a swinging site no a dating site thing your forgetting is swingers go to clubs with many people who are not on fab and they have been swingers for years so the number of veri's u see on here probably don't reflect there real numbers anyway

Agreed the number of veris probably doesn't reflect the real number cause of clubs but I'd imagine someone with 200+ veris probably has way meets without veris than someone who has 20, for instance, in the majority of cases so I always avoid people with loads of veris We all use this site in different ways"

I say fare enough everyone has their own thoughts but it's stupid if people get picky about just a few veri's for me I don't mind as long as it's fun lol

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"You lot do realise this is a swingers site?

Thing is there are lots on here who judge ....

But that's their right,isn't it?..all they have to do is just move on. We all are different and will except different things based on our personalities and opinions. I am very really been attracted to any profile to find out they'd slept with over 50 people. But I think would be slightly concerned if it was in the 100's. Spread over a number of years does make a difference but I would sift through them to find out and I'd just move on

Ye it is but this is a swinging site no a dating site thing your forgetting is swingers go to clubs with many people who are not on fab and they have been swingers for years so the number of veri's u see on here probably don't reflect there real numbers anyway

So you're agreeing with me then,as you said many meet with others who aren't in fab,therefore the number can be more and as I said in a previous post,it's also down to who you've sleptwith and not necessarily numbers "

Ye sort off but I added more depth in how I ment it

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Doesn't make any difference to us

We only have four. One from a woman we met in a club, one from a club owner and two from couples we met. It doesn't matter to us If someone doesn't think that these are enough or these are not enough

- Mrs. J -

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Got to say it would not bothere.how many... I my self.have been here a few months and have a couple of verifacations... so to me no number makes.a.difference

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

The number itself wouldn't put me off, but there might be other factors which might, such as who they meet, the content of the veri's etc.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Got to say it would not bothere.how many... I my self.have been here a few months and have a couple of verifacations... so to me no number makes.a.difference"

A couple?

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By *inkyChrissy99TV/TS
over a year ago

Bristol

I look at verifications to get an idea of who they like to meet and what kinda comments they have.

Having lots hasn't put me off yet, it's possible to gain lots of verifications very quickly if you attend clubs and get in a big group for example.

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By *icoleAndLisaTransTV/TS
over a year ago

Ellesmere Port

"Verified by 30 people, newest 21 hours ago

1 fem. 14 men. 1 cpl. 14 tv/ts. By 42 meet."

That's what mine says at the moment. I have 35 verifications in total, all of them displayed, some of them from the same people.

The bit that's confusing me is "42 meet." Does that include verifications I've lost from people who've gone UNLOS?

As for too many? I'd rather be with someone who has 200 verifications, 190 of them before their last clear STI screening, than with someone who has 20 and never gets tested.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Can't believe I'm doing this but I'll put the numbers out there... 52 woman from 65 meets.... I've actually yet to see a higher male meet only verification list lol.

Am I bad? Oh for the record, NEVER bareback and I can't ride bikes. "

You've never seen a guy with higher ? Ive seen wayyyyyyy higher

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By *ungBlackTopMan
over a year ago

salford

anything more than 10 and over explicit knocks me sick and immediately it's a no, no matter if they're gods or goddesses. Sorry standards over horniness every time for me.

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By *appy squirrelWoman
over a year ago

Norwich

I don't care about the amount of verifications but what they say! is it more a fuck-and -go -I -don't -care- who -you -are person or is it someone who might meet on a very regular basis but still enjoys the other person as a person with a personality and all of that...

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By *SAchickWoman
over a year ago

Hillside desolate

I've met more people than my verifications suggest. I wouldn't place too much faith in the numbers, they could be fucking one or two off here and 100 on another site

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Having tons of verifications works as a great filter for us, we don't seem to bet bothered much by timewasters, dreamers fakes or non players, so all good

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By *loswingersCouple
over a year ago

Gloucester


"Having tons of verifications works as a great filter for us, we don't seem to bet bothered much by timewasters, dreamers fakes or non players, so all good "

Absolutely spot on

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

The annoying one is when you get verified by men as a way to try and get in touch with you. I have 8 men on my summary. Only 5 of them I have actually met. Blocking removes the verification, but not the summary. I hate when they do this. It just makes us seem like we are on more than we genuinely are. Surely I am not the only one this has happened to?

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By *ieman300Man
over a year ago

Best Greggs in Cheshire East

I will never have this problem lol

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

id say 350+ is too many for me

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By *ieman300Man
over a year ago

Best Greggs in Cheshire East


"id say 350+ is too many for me"

A very reasonable allowance too!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

im really not overly bothered

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By *anky_PankyWoman
over a year ago

Filthy Fuckeryville


"I've been on here ten years.

I've social and not so social meet veris. I also work in a swinging club these days.

If I have too many for you then it's tough titties - if I don't then Ello! Pull up a seat I'll pop the kettle on "

Since I've said this I've actually hidden my summary as sick of being judged for the moment!!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I've been on here ten years.

I've social and not so social meet veris. I also work in a swinging club these days.

If I have too many for you then it's tough titties - if I don't then Ello! Pull up a seat I'll pop the kettle on

Since I've said this I've actually hidden my summary as sick of being judged for the moment!! "

Maybe look at it this way

Those that judge you because of the amount of veris you have are not worth meeting are they? We show the main proportion of our veris for that reason and it actually works as a great filter, so f@ck em eh? X

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By *loswingersCouple
over a year ago

Gloucester

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By *loswingersCouple
over a year ago

Gloucester


"I've been on here ten years.

I've social and not so social meet veris. I also work in a swinging club these days.

If I have too many for you then it's tough titties - if I don't then Ello! Pull up a seat I'll pop the kettle on

Since I've said this I've actually hidden my summary as sick of being judged for the moment!! "

Well on previous profiles we always hid our summary . In a year we would rack up over 350 veris , and when we spent a couple of years attending clubs we would get over 500 in a year .

The judging was rife , and like yourself we got sick of it .

It's just as bad now and we are on our fourth profile in six years . We close our account now and again to free up space on the site

On a serious note , as I have become bi curious and we meet TVs , bi guys too , the judgement is worse . But like another poster just said , the ones who judge we don't want to meet anyway .

We are proud to have met and played with so many wonderful people , and if anyone doesn't like it they can do one .

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